An Evolving Man Podcast Piers Cross

In today's video I talk about how important it was for us to be liked at boarding school.If we weren't liked, we were often sent to coventry. We were banished.Richard Beard in his book Sad Little Men, talks about how on any given year group there was alway one 'custos' - the outcast.If you couldn't see the 'custos' then it was you.I talk about compliers and people pleasers.And how dangerous it was not to be liked at boarding school.We couldn't just go home at the end of the day. If we weren't...

In today's episode I talk about fear and boarding school.I talk about some of my own experiences of school and how I felt that I was in fear a lot of my time.I talk about some of the fear-based beliefs I left boarding school with:- Fear of making mistakes- Fear of getting close to others- Fear of being ostacized- Fear of failureI share some of Bear Gryll's experiences of fear at boarding school.#trauma #hypervigilance #fear #beargryllsTake care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a me...

Today's fascinating episode is with Keith Day exploring trauma and how trauma can impact us physically. Keith struggled with trauma as a child and got a diagnosis of neuropathy as an adult after suffering painful symptoms. In this podcast Keith explores some of his journey through these physical illnesses and how he started to recover. We also talk about mental resilience and how to cultivate mental strength. ---Keith Day is a dedicated thought leader with two decades of p...

I have felt pretty shocked listening to reports about the Blood Scandal.I was horrified to hear what had happened at the boarding school, Treloar's where many people died.It is another cover up.Grenfell Tower, Windrush, Post Office Enquiry, Hillsborough...Repeated calls for justice and recognition were ignored for years.In today's podcast I talk about cover ups and the psychology of where many of our leaders learned to cover up, to hide, to mask the truth.I draw upon the briliant work of Caro...

What is the government doing regarding mandatory sexual reporting? After £200 million spent on IICSA, Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse, what has been the outcome?Today's conversation is with two of the leading voices campaigning against child sexual abuse.Lawyer and partner, Dino Nocivelli and author, Alex Renton. What does this new amendment mean? And what can you do? To find out more about Voices Unbound please visit: https://voicesunbound.org.uk/ And Man...

What does a trauma-informed healthcare system look like? Do we currently have that in the UK? And if not what can we do to start to implement this?Today I am speaking with award winning clinical psychologist, Dr Karen Treisman about becoming trauma-informed not just in healthcare but also in the education system.We talk candidly about her work with looked after children in care and fostering and the cross over to boarding school.And how do we heal?A fascinating and inspiring conversation.---D...