That Twin Mama Podcast

Lauren Berty

That Twin Mama Podcast features topics, concerns, and questions that touch on all things motherhood and beyond, with a special added lens for moms of multiples. Lauren interviews experts, celebrities, and influencers tackling topics that make you feel seen, uplifted, and of course laugh as a mama trying to survive.

  1. vor 3 Tagen

    Why Aren't We Having Sex Anymore? Sex Therapist Marissa Nelson on Getting Intimacy Back After Kids.

    "Why aren’t we having sex anymore?" It’s the question so many parents think but never say out loud. In this episode, Lauren gets brutally honest about pretending to be asleep rather than let the possibility of sex enter the room — and brings in award-winning sex therapist Marissa Nelson (Intimacy Moons) to unpack what’s actually happening underneath. They talk about the invisible mental load that kills desire, why "sexual ecology" matters more than just being "in the mood," the real difference between low desire and asexuality, why vacation sex feels effortless while date-night sex can feel like pressure, and how couples quietly drift from lovers into "besties but not lovers." The takeaway: you are not broken — you’re buried. And there’s a way back. Topics covered: The mental load: why it’s the real intimacy killer Sexual ecology: why desire isn’t a switch you flip Postpartum, perimenopause, and what hormones actually do to desire "Am I asexual now?" — how to tell the difference Don’t reject, redirect: a better way to say no The vacation-sex paradox: why time away feels easier than date night Spectatoring: the "oscillating fan" in your head during sex The desire model: discovery, embodiment, safety, repair, eroticism Besties but not lovers: how couples drift into the roommate zone Scheduling intimacy without it feeling like a meeting Why anticipation matters more than people think Marissa Nelson, LMFT, is an award-winning licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and the founder of Intimacy Moons. She works privately with couples, leads luxury couples retreats, and hosts The Lover’s Society podcast. Tired Mom's Guide to Good Intimacy: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1hLAkqv5fzexP6Gj2pIn89L8r9vc76Qw6/view?usp=sharing Intimacy Moons (Marissa’s site): https://www.intimacymoons.com/ Marissa on Instagram: @xomarissanelson https://www.instagram.com/xomarissanelson The Lover’s Society podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theloverssocietypodcast/ Roommates to Lovers course: https://www.intimacymoons.com/post/couples-intimacy-workshops-roommates-to-lovers Marissa’s TEDx talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BStyDbtqAJY 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThatTwinMama/videos 🎧 Podcast Website: www.thattwinmama.com/podcast 📲 Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thattwinmamapodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/thattwinmama_/ Credits: Production: Berty Enterprises Editing: Nomadic Orca Music: Far Eye House Photo: Birch Thomas Design: Erin Fox Creative Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  2. 14. Juli

    My Birth Stories: Consent, Advocacy, and Being Heard with Dr. Wendy Goodall McDonald

    A healthy baby does not always mean a mother felt heard, supported, or included in her birth experience. In this episode, Lauren shares the very different stories of giving birth to her son at 23 and later delivering her twin daughters during the pandemic. She reflects on being dismissed during her first labor, experiencing procedures without meaningful explanation or consent, and later discovering how different birth can feel when a provider treats you as an active participant in your care. Lauren is joined by board-certified OBGYN, author, educator, and founder of Every Body, Dr. Wendy Goodall McDonald, also known as Dr. Every Woman. Together, they discuss medical consent, provider bias, birth advocacy, episiotomies, C-sections, breech twin deliveries, home birth risks, postpartum care, and what it looks like to find a provider who truly listens. They also explore why advocacy does not have to mean entering the room ready for a fight. It can start with asking informed questions, expecting clear explanations, and building a relationship based on mutual respect. In This EpisodeThe difference between a healthy outcome and a supported birth experienceWhy consent matters throughout labor, delivery, and routine careQuestions to ask when choosing an OBGYNEpisiotomies, C-sections, and breech twin deliveriesHow to speak up when something feels wrong postpartumThe role of doulas and midwivesHome birth risks and the importance of understanding complicationsPerimenopause, irregular periods, and knowing when to seek careKey TakeawayYour provider may have medical expertise, but you still have agency. You deserve to understand what is happening to your body, ask questions, and participate in every decision. About Dr. WendyDr. Wendy Goodall McDonald is a board-certified OBGYN, author, educator, and founder of Every Body. Known online as Dr. Every Woman, she makes women’s health approachable, informative, and easier to talk about. Follow her on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube at @DrEveryWoman. Shop Every Bodi products at https://everybodibrand.com, and visit her website at https://dreverywoman.com/. This episode includes detailed discussions of childbirth, birth trauma, postpartum injury, pregnancy loss, and maternal health complications. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  3. 30. Juni

    Welcome Back! That Twin Mama Podcast Season 3

    After taking a much-needed break, Lauren is back for Season 3 of That Twin Mama—and this season gets even deeper. Motherhood has changed. Our kids are growing. Life has shifted. And with those changes came a simple but powerful question: What do I actually want? In this season premiere, Lauren opens up about why she stepped away from the podcast, what motherhood has taught her over the last few years, and why she's returning with a renewed commitment to creating a space where moms feel seen, supported, and a little less alone. This isn't another parenting podcast filled with impossible standards or picture-perfect advice. It's honest conversations about the messy, funny, overwhelming, beautiful reality of raising kids while trying to hold onto yourself. Season 3 is all about building the village many of us thought we'd have—but often have to create ourselves. In this episode, we discuss:Why Lauren stepped away from podcastingHow motherhood changes as our children growThe pressure of trying to "do it all"Finding your identity beyond being a momWhy support matters more than perfectionWhat listeners can expect from Season 3Creating a judgment-free village for momsComing This Season:We'll be diving into conversations about: Birth and advocating for yourselfFriendships and lonelinessRelationships, intimacy, and life after kidsBreaking parenting cyclesFinding your identity in motherhoodBuilding your support systemHonest conversations with experts—and plenty of laughs along the wayIf you've ever wondered whether you're doing enough, felt overwhelmed by parenting advice online, or simply wished someone would say the quiet part out loud, this season is for you. Connect with That Twin Mama📱 Instagram: @ThatTwinMamaPodcast ⭐ If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who could use a reminder that they're not doing this alone. Because motherhood was never meant to be a solo journey. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  4. 22. Jan.

    Black Excellence on a Disney Cruise: How Black Joy & Representation Are Built Into the Disney Destiny Experience

    In this episode of That Twin Mama Podcast, Lauren Berty reflects on her time aboard the Disney Destiny — a sailing that became a powerful reminder of what it feels like when representation is intentional, authentic, and fully woven into the experience from the very beginning. This isn’t a traditional Disney cruise review. It’s an honest conversation about Black joy, identity, motherhood, and how thoughtful storytelling can create spaces where Black families feel deeply seen — while also inviting everyone into richer, more meaningful experiences. Through conversations with Yolanda Cade, Vice President of Communications & Public Affairs for Disney Signature Experiences, and Corey J. Bradford, the actor portraying Hercules aboard Disney Destiny, Lauren explores how Black voices, culture, and excellence were intentionally embedded across entertainment, music, design, and service — not as a theme night or spotlight moment, but as an integral part of the ship’s soul. This episode is for parents raising children who deserve to see themselves reflected with power and pride, families navigating multiple generations together, moms rediscovering themselves beyond survival mode, and anyone who believes that inclusive storytelling doesn’t divide — it deepens the magic for everyone. In this episode, we explore:• How Black storytelling aboard Disney Destiny was intentionally designed, not added on • Why representation feels different when it’s authentic and deeply integrated • Seeing Black excellence reflected in Disney stories — from Pride Lands to Hercules • What it means for children to see themselves as heroes on the biggest stages • How inclusive design creates joy across generations • Why Disney Destiny felt like rest, healing, and affirmation — not just entertainment • The role storytelling plays in helping moms and families reconnect with themselves • Why spaces that honor culture make experiences richer for all guests Tags / Keywords#ThatTwinMama #DisneyDestiny #BlackExcellence Disney Destiny, Disney Cruise Line, Black representation, inclusive storytelling, Disney Hercules, Pride Lands Disney, Disney cruise with kids, Black motherhood, family travel with kids, parenting podcast, motherhood podcast, generational travel, mom mental load, healing for moms, inclusive family experiences, Disney storytelling, That Twin Mama Podcast Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  5. 16. Jan.

    Why This Disney Destiny Cruise Was More Than a Vacation | Parenting, Joy, & Family Connection

    What happens when a family vacation becomes something much deeper? In this episode of That Twin Mama, Lauren reflects on a Disney Destiny cruise experience that unexpectedly became a moment of rest, gratitude, and reconnection after a challenging year. Rather than a traditional travel recap, this conversation explores parenting, mental load, generational joy, and what it feels like to finally be supported as a mom. Through candid conversations with her husband, her mother-in-law, and Disney hospitality and culinary leaders, Lauren shares how intentional design, thoughtful service, and family-first spaces allowed both parents and kids to truly enjoy the experience without rushing, apologizing, or managing every detail. This episode is for parents who feel tired, overwhelmed, or unsure whether real rest is even possible while traveling with kids, and for anyone navigating a season where joy feels hard to access. In this episode, we explore: • Why this Disney cruise felt like rest instead of “parenting in a different location” • How Disney Destiny is intentionally designed for families • Parenting, partnership, and reconnecting as a couple • The power of shared experiences across generations • Why reducing the mental load for moms matters • Practical Disney cruise tips for families • How food, service, and storytelling shape the experience • Choosing joy after a hard year, even when life isn’t perfect Chapters / Timestamps 00:00 Choosing Joy After a Hard Year 02:40 Why This Cruise Felt Different 07:50 Experiencing Disney Across Generations 14:00 Traveling With Kids Without Burnout 18:45 Food, Allergies & Family-Friendly Dining 22:30 When Parents Finally Feel Supported This episode isn’t a travel guide - it’s a reflection on parenting, presence, and choosing joy when life feels heavy. If this episode resonated with you, please let us know your favorite part - we’d love to hear what stood out! Credits: Production: Berty + KRF Enterprises Direction: Shantie Midnight Editing: Nomadic Orca  Music: Far Eye House Photo: Birch Thomas Design: Erin Fox Creative Key words: Disney cruise, Disney Destiny, family travel, parenting podcast, motherhood, traveling with kids, Disney with kids, family vacation tips, generational travel, mom mental load, choosing joy, gratitude, rest for parents, Disney cruise food, Disney cruise tips Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  6. 19.08.2025

    #92 2,500 Twins, 1 Festival: What Twins Want You to Know About Birth Order, Comparisons, & Connection

    In this season 2 finale, Lauren takes you to Twinsburg, Ohio — home of the largest twins festival in the world. With over 2,500 twins in attendance for its 50th anniversary, Twins Days Fest is a celebration of connection, individuality, and the unique dynamics only twins (and twin parents) truly understand. From laugh-out-loud twin telepathy myths to deeply moving personal stories, Lauren chats with identical, fraternal, boy/girl twins, and even a pair navigating a gender transition — uncovering what they love about being twins, what they wish others knew, and the advice they have for parents raising multiples. In This Episode, You’ll Hear: The wildest (and weirdest) questions twins get from strangers.Birth stories told from the twins’ own perspective — including one you’ll never forget.Whether birth order really matters… and why some parents keep it a secret.Heartfelt debates on school separation: when it helps, when it hurts, and why it sticks with twins for life.The heavy weight of constant comparisons — and how gender plays into it.Boy/girl twin dynamics vs. identical twin bonds.A powerful conversation with twins navigating a gender transition together.Dating as a twin: why your relationship with your twin sibling is a non-negotiable.The top advice seasoned twins wish parents of multiples would follow. Why You’ll Love It: This episode is equal parts hilarious, emotional, and eye-opening — whether you’re raising twins, are a twin yourself, or just love people-watching at big family-style events. Lauren wraps Season 2 with a full-circle moment, starting the season with her own twin birth story and ending surrounded by a sea of twins who feel like extended family. Resources & Links Mentioned: 🛍 Shop That Twin Mama merch (the “Mom of Twins” jersey featured in the video will be coming soon!): https://thattwinmama.store/ Follow That Twin Mama Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thattwinmamapodcast/Follow Lauren on socials https://www.instagram.com/thattwinmama_/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thattwinmama_ Learn more about Twins Days Fest: https://twinsdays.org/Thanks to our new twin friends:Hafsteinn & Kristjan https://www.instagram.com/hafsteinnvaldimarsson/ https://www.instagram.com/kristjanvald/?hl=en  Cassidy & Caitlyn (and Renly & Evelyn, too!) https://www.instagram.com/cassidycherry/?hl=en  Mike & Michelle https://www.instagram.com/prettydimples_32/ https://www.instagram.com/michaeladdison1/ Renee & Deshay https://www.instagram.com/renee_cottrell/ https://www.instagram.com/ebonyshay99/ Fallon & Farrell https://www.facebook.com/beingfandf https://www.tiktok.com/@beingfandf https://www.youtube.com/@BeingFFPodcast  Tawanna & Tonya https://www.instagram.com/them_damn_twinz/  Brooke & Beth Tony & Adrienne Monica & Gita Keith & Kevin Dina & Gina Season Note: That’s a wrap on Season 2! Thank you for listening, reviewing, sharing, and being part of this community. Please continue to follow, share, & leave 5 star reviews as we gear up for Season 3 of That Twin Mama Podcast.  Credits: Production: Berty Enterprises Editing: Nomadic Orca  Music: Far Eye House Photo: Birch Thomas Design: Erin Fox Creative Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  7. 05.08.2025

    #91 The Momference Minis: Marissa Nelson on Sex After Kids and Keeping Play Alive

    This spring, That Twin Mama took her mic to The Momference® — the premier, three-day gathering for Black and Brown millennial moms, powered by District Motherhued®. In a weekend built to nourish, uplift, and celebrate #BlackMomMagic, Lauren sat down with powerhouse moms, thought leaders, and healers to bring you these bite-sized, heart-full episodes straight from the DC mom squad that’s rewriting what community care looks like. In this mini episode, Lauren cozies up with the brilliant Marissa Nelson — award-winning sex therapist and founder of IntimacyMoons Couples Retreats — for a real talk about sex after the babies arrive. From scheduling sex (yes, we’re doing it!) to non-sexual touch, awkward butt grabs, and why “playing” isn’t just for kids, they break down how modern couples can keep closeness, pleasure, and that delicious sense of anticipation alive — even when the house is chaotic and you’re all touched out. In this episode you’ll hear: Why scheduling sex isn’t unsexy — it’s survivalHow couples lose the “play” and how to get it backThe power of non-sexual touch and staying close when you’re exhaustedMarissa’s wisdom on making pleasure a priority, not a perk 💛 Marissa Nelson — Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), Certified Sex Therapist (CST), Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE), and the genius behind IntimacyMoons Couples Retreats (as seen in The New York Times, Women’s Health, Fodor's Travel and more!). Find her work and book your escape at intimacymoons.com and follow her on IG https://www.instagram.com/xomarissanelson/?hl=en  If this one made you feel a little seen (or a little spicy), share it with your best mom friend who needs the reminder that pleasure matters — and perfect isn’t the point. And don’t forget to leave your girl a 5-star review — it keeps this village growing. Subscribe so you don’t miss the rest of The Momference minis! 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: That Twin Mama Podcast 🎧 Podcast Website: www.thattwinmama.com/podcast 📲 Follow on Instagram: @thattwinmamapodcast Credits: Production: Berty Enterprises Editing: Nomadic Orca Music: Far Eye House Photo: Birch Thomas Design: Erin Fox Creative Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  8. 29.07.2025

    #90 The Momference Minis: Noémie Gaines on Harmony Over Balance, Soft Notes, & Finding Your Mom Tribe

    This spring, That Twin Mama took her mic to The Momference® — the premier, three-day gathering for Black and Brown millennial moms, powered by District Motherhued®. In a weekend built to nourish, uplift, and celebrate #BlackMomMagic, Lauren sat down with powerhouse moms, thought leaders, and healers to bring you these bite-sized, heart-full episodes straight from the DC mom squad that’s rewriting what community care looks like. In this mini episode, Lauren connects with longtime Momference attendee and digital storyteller Noémie Gaines — a former entertainment lawyer turned content creator and motherhood muse — for a conversation that gently challenges the myth of balance and embraces the freedom of harmony. Noémie shares how her family’s vlogging journey led to full-time work in the digital space, how she processes identity shifts in motherhood, and why she centers each day around how she wants to feel, not what she needs to do. They also talk about how The Momference helped Noémie build her DC village (even as a transplant!), what it’s like to show up authentically online, and how her “Soft Notes” series on YouTube and Substack models daily self-compassion in real time. In this episode you’ll hear: Why balance is a myth — and how Noémie uses harmony as a compassThe real talk behind identity shifts in motherhoodHow Momference became her chosen village (and Black mom Disney World!)Why daily rituals — like Soft Notes — are a form of nourishment too 💛 Noémie Gaines — wife, mama, content creator, and the voice behind Soft Notes on YouTube and Substack. Find her online: 📲 Instagram: @noemgaines 📺 YouTube: Noémie Gaines 📝 Substack: Soft Notes by Noémie 🎵 TikTok: @noemgaines If this one made you exhale or rethink your own definition of “balance,” share it with a mama friend who needs the reminder that how we feel matters more than how much we do. And don’t forget to leave your girl a 5-star review — it keeps this village growing. Subscribe so you don’t miss the rest of The Momference minis! 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: That Twin Mama Podcast 🎧 Podcast Website: www.thattwinmama.com/podcast 📲 Follow on Instagram: @thattwinmamapodcast Credits: Production: Berty Enterprises Editing: Nomadic Orca Music: Far Eye House Photo: Birch Thomas Design: Erin Fox Creative Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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That Twin Mama Podcast features topics, concerns, and questions that touch on all things motherhood and beyond, with a special added lens for moms of multiples. Lauren interviews experts, celebrities, and influencers tackling topics that make you feel seen, uplifted, and of course laugh as a mama trying to survive.