It Starts with YOU

Vic O'Farrell

What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.

  1. vor 18 Std.

    Why People Remember You (And It's Probably Not For The Reason You Think)

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell asks a simple question with a powerful answer: Who made the biggest impact on your life… and was it because of what they taught you, or who they were? Drawing on conversations from recent work in schools and leadership development, Vic explains why every one of us creates a ripple effect through our behaviour. Whether you're leading a team, raising children, teaching others or influencing people online, your personality, your energy and the way you make people feel will always outlast the words you say. This short but thought-provoking episode is a reminder that influence isn't about having a title. It's about the impact your behaviour has on the people around you. Because behaviour drives behaviour… and it all starts with you.    . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  2. 7. Juli

    63. The Leadership Skill Most Managers Are Missing - Jackie Handy

    In this episode of It Starts With You, Vicky O'Farrell is joined by leadership and workplace culture specialist Jackie Handy to explore one of the most overlooked drivers of engagement, performance, and wellbeing: the human need to matter. Together, Vicki and Jackie unpack why feeling valued often matters more than salary, how belonging and purpose shape workplace culture, and why emotional intelligence remains one of the most important leadership skills in today's increasingly complex world of work. They also explore how leaders can recognise when someone is struggling, the role of psychological safety in building trust, and the small "million-dollar moments" that can transform relationships and team performance.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Jackie is an engaging speaker, consultant, author and leading voice on workplace connection and culture. With a background in leadership development, she's seen first-hand how the quality of relationships shapes team success. She's the creator of The Matter Model, a powerful framework that helps leaders build cultures where people feel valued and deeply connected, both to their work and one another. Jackie supports organisations globally to build belonging, strengthen purpose and drive human engagement in an increasingly digital world.   Social Media LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiehandy/ Website: http://www.jackiehandy.com/ FlowFinder Quiz: https://quiz.jackiehandy.com/flow-finder Contact Email: hello@jackiehandy.com

  3. 23. Juni

    How Workplace Jargon Damages Trust

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores the surprising connection between trust and communication. We often think trust is built through big actions and broken by major events, but what if it can also be damaged by something much smaller? The words we don't use. From workplace jargon and acronyms to assumptions about what people already know, Vic explains how language can unintentionally exclude, confuse and alienate others. Whether you're leading a team, presenting to an audience or simply having everyday conversations, the way you communicate can either build trust or slowly erode it. Using relatable examples from business and everyday life, this short but thought-provoking episode is a reminder that clarity creates confidence, inclusion creates connection and trust grows when everyone feels part of the conversation.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  4. 9. Juni

    Introvert vs Extrovert: The Difference Most People Get Wrong

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of personality: the difference between introverts and extroverts. Drawing on the work of Carl Jung, Vic explains that being introverted or extroverted isn't about confidence, shyness or how much you enjoy people. It's about where you get your energy from and how you process your thoughts. Using simple, relatable examples, Vic unpacks why extroverts often think out loud while introverts prefer to reflect before they respond, and how misunderstanding these differences can create frustration in conversations, meetings and everyday life. Whether you're an introvert, an extrovert or somewhere in between, this episode will help you better understand yourself and the people around you. Because when we understand behaviour, we communicate better, build stronger relationships and create more positive outcomes for everyone.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  5. 26. Mai

    Becoming a Trusted Authority: Influence Without Drama with Julie Masters

    In Episode 60 of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Julie Masters for a powerful conversation on what it really means to have influence in today's world. With social media blurring the lines between popularity and authority, this episode cuts through the noise and brings the focus back to what actually drives behaviour. From fear-based influence to trusted authority, Julie shares the difference between getting attention and creating real impact. They explore the rise of the human brand, the power of intention, and how easily our behaviour is shaped by where we place our attention. This episode is a reminder that influence doesn't start with others; it starts with you, how you show up, the state you're in, and the intention you bring into every interaction.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Julie Masters has spent a career decoding influence. As a leading authority in the speaking world she has earned a reputation for launching and advising some of the worlds most respected speakers and thought leaders. Co-founder of ODE Management, the world's largest dedicated speaker management agency across the USA and Australia, she is now the Founder and CEO of Influence Nation, working with business leaders and organisations to become the voice of authority in their space. Clients include industry leading CEO's, entrepreneurs, speakers, best-selling authors and media personalities – the voices of which have reached millions of people globally through speaking, publishing and digital channels. Julie also hosts the iTunes Top 50 podcast Inside Influence, interviewing global thought leaders on the tools and mindsets to own your voice and then use it to drive an industry, a conversation, a movement or a nation. Having won numerous communications industry awards across the USA, Australia and Europe, as well as guest lecturing at universities including Oxford Brookes. Julie now regularly advises CEO's, entrepreneurs and executive teams on how to stand out in their marketplace by turning their expertise into influence. https://juliemasters.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jules.masters/ https://www.youtube.com/@juliemasterstv https://www.linkedin.com/in/julesmasters/ https://www.facebook.com/juliemastersofficial/

  6. 12. Mai

    What's Really Driving You with Vic O'Farrell

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell builds on the "layers of the onion" and gets to the heart of what really drives your behaviour, your core values. Vic breaks down how what you think matters, like money or success, is often just the surface, and how digging deeper reveals the real drivers like freedom, security, or safety.  She also explores boundaries, the ones you know you have and the ones you don't, and how rigid boundaries around your values can be the real reason you feel triggered in certain situations. This episode is a simple but powerful invitation to pause, reflect, and build self awareness, because when you understand what's really driving you, you can respond differently, and that changes everything.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website -  www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  7. 28. Apr.

    Breaking the Wine O'Clock Habit with Rebecca Thompson

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Rebecca Thompson, also known as the "One O'clock Woman," for a refreshingly honest conversation about our relationship with alcohol and the behaviours that sit behind it. Together, they explore the cultural norms around drinking, the pressure to "fit in," and why choosing not to drink can feel so uncomfortable in social situations. From wine o'clock habits to the deeper emotional drivers behind drinking, Rebecca shares powerful insights into how alcohol becomes a coping mechanism, a reward, and even a bridge between our busy lives and downtime. This episode invites you to pause, reflect, and start noticing your own patterns, because real change begins with awareness.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist | Speaker | Host of The Wine O'clock Woman Podcast Rebecca Thomson is a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist who works with women in midlife and beyond who feel stuck in a drinking cycle. A former teacher who once used alcohol to cope with work stress, she now helps women understand why the wine-o'clock cycle develops and how to interrupt it. Rebecca supports women to take a 90-day break from alcohol so they can make a clear decision about the role it will play in their lives. She is also the host of The Wine O'clock Woman podcast, where she explores the pressures and habits that quietly lead many capable women to drink more than they intend. Rebecca's philosophy is that alcohol, like many coping habits, is often a signal rather than the real problem. Speaking & Media Rebecca is a regular guest on BBC Radio Gloucestershire and has also appeared on Forest of Dean Radio, Teacher Talk Radio, and the It Starts With YOU podcast, sharing practical insight into patterns many women recognise but rarely speak about openly. She has spoken at Lakefest Festival and Thrive Women's Festival, bringing straight-talking, evidence-based insight to conversations many women are ready to have. Credentials Level 5 Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy (BPS-accredited) PGCE – Qualified Teacher (QTS) CPD in CBT for addiction, insomnia & counselling Enhanced DBS Contact 🌐 rebeccathomson.co.uk ✉️ info@rebeccathomson.co.uk 📷 Instagram: @thewineoclockwoman

  8. 14. Apr.

    57. How Self-Awareness Shapes Your Behaviour and Your Impact with Simone Fenton-Jarvis

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Simone Fenton Jarvis for a straight-talking conversation about what it really means to be a "good human" at work and in life. Together, they unpack the two things that shape how we show up every day, intent and self-awareness. Because while most of us believe we're doing the right thing, without self-awareness we often miss the true impact of our behaviour on others. From workplace frustrations to difficult conversations with colleagues and leaders, this episode dives into the real moments where behaviour shifts, emotions take over, and misunderstandings happen. Vic and Simone explore how to recognise when you're being triggered, how to handle situations where someone else's behaviour is affecting you, and how to speak up in a way that creates change rather than conflict. It's an honest look at how hard this work can be, from managing your own reactions to navigating egos and pressure in the workplace. This episode is a powerful reminder that behaviour drives behaviour, and whether you realise it or not, the way you show up creates a ripple effect in every room you walk into. So the question is, what kind of ripple are you creating?   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Simone is Co-Founder of The Human-Centric Workplace Ltd, a 2x published author and multi-award-winning workplace thought leader dedicated to making work better, and more human. With 20 years' experience across Facilities Management and workplace strategy, including a decade operating at Board level, Simone works with organisations to strengthen leadership capability, design high-performing cultures, and turn people strategy into commercial performance. Her work spans workplace strategy, leadership development, change leadership and coaching. You may also come across her at industry events as a speaker or emcee - do say hello!   simone@thehuman-centricworkplace.com  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonefj/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehumancentricworkplace/ Substack: https://substack.com/@thcw

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What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.