Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur

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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achieving women who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

  1. vor 8 Std.

    The Real Reason You're Stuck Starting Over (5 Steps That Work)

    Why do you feel so stuck, tired, and behind when you try to start over? Because the problem usually is not that you are behind, and it is not that you are not working hard enough. It is that your nervous system is stuck in survival, and you cannot design a new life from there. In this episode, Dr Amen Kaur walks through five steps to get unstuck and start over, whether that means a career change, a higher-paid job, or finally starting a business, grounded in the neuroscience of stress and a grounded, tradition-based approach to spirituality. This is not motivation or magical thinking. It is what actually moves you from surviving to creating. In this episode you will learn: Why you are not behind, you are early, and how AI is levelling the field for people starting overWhy fear and fatigue, not laziness, are what really hold you back, and the brain science behind itHow to get unstuck so your ideas finally turn into actionThe one question that designs a life: not what you could or should do, but what you want to doWhy your experience is your expertise, and how to turn it into real value using AI Studies and ideas mentioned: Amy Arnsten (Yale) on how stress takes the prefrontal cortex offline, the thinking and creating part of the brainInteroception research on how the body's signals get read as tiredness or fearFestinger's 1954 work on social comparison and how it lowers self-evaluationDeci and Ryan's Self-Determination Theory on autonomy and intrinsic motivationResearch on how belief and expectation from others can shape outcomesNamed traditions on releasing the grip on outcome: the Bhagavad Gita (2:47), Taoist wu wei, and trust in Sufism FAQ: Why do I feel so tired and stuck when I try to start over? Often it is not true tiredness, it is a nervous system in survival mode, driven by fear and self-doubt. In that state the part of your brain you plan and create with is less available, so effort alone does not move you. The fix is to regulate first, then design. Am I behind if I am starting over later in life? No. Because AI is changing what work looks like for everyone, the old map is dissolving. If you are already learning to navigate uncertainty, you are early to the shift, not behind it. How do I get unstuck? Get your nervous system out of survival before you try to plan. Daily, gentle regulation, done consistently, is what lets your ideas turn into action. Borrowed motivation fades because it does not change your underlying state. What is the first step to changing careers when you feel behind? Ask what you want to do, not what you could or should do. Look back at what already comes easily to you, because the thing you undervalue most is often your real strength. Will AI take my job? AI is automating routine, repeatable tasks, and shifting value toward human judgment, creativity, and connection. That makes your experience more valuable, not less, if you learn to use the tools and create from what only you can offer. Listen and subscribe: Follow Starting Over, Being You on Apple Podcasts so you do not miss an episode. keywords: starting over, five steps to start over, overcoming self doubt, designing your life, creating your own path, AI and career change, value of personal experience, regulating nervous system, moving out of survival mode, finding your worth, creating a business from scratch, mindset for success, intrinsic motivation, personal development tips, leadership in uncertain times, emotional regulation techniques, building personal brand, enhancing self evaluation, finding purpose in work, embracing change

    21 Min.

  2. 1. Juli

    Consciousness: The Level of Awareness That Makes Everything Feel Effortless (The 4 Levels of Consciousness and Your Nervous System)

    Want to go deeper: For Free Masterclass Click Here What are the four levels of consciousness, and why do you feel stuck between hustle and ease? This episode of Starting Over, Being You maps Michael Beckwith's four levels of consciousness, to me, by me, through me and as me, onto the science of your nervous system, for anyone starting over after a redundancy, a career change, or the end of a relationship. If you have lost something you poured years into, a job, a career, a relationship, and you are facing the strange and lonely work of starting over, this episode is for you. Here is the reframe at the heart of it. You did not fail. You outgrew the way you used to succeed. The pure hustle does not fit you anymore, but you are still capable and still ambitious, and it is so easy to get stuck in the gap between the two. In this episode we walk through the four levels of consciousness, a framework from the teacher Michael Beckwith, and do something you will not hear anywhere else. We lay the exact nervous-system state underneath each level, so you can feel where you actually are and what your next chapter needs from you. The science leads, and every spiritual idea comes from a real, named tradition. You will learn why achieving more never quite makes you feel like enough, what is really happening in your body when life feels like a constant fight, and the one shift that starts moving you out of survival and into a state where life feels less forced and far more effortless. IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARNWhat "levels of consciousness" actually means, and why rising through them changes how you see life rather than adding more to your to-do listThe single biggest reason people stay stuck, and why most of us cannot see it in ourselvesThe nervous-system state hiding underneath each of the four levels, in plain languageWhy hustle and achievement keep you in survival, and why burnout is that state working exactly as designedThe quiet loop that keeps capable people swinging between feeling like a victim and forcing everything themselves, sometimes for yearsWhy success never delivers the "enough" you are chasing, and what doesThe one question to change the next time life is not matching the picture in your headWhat flow and ease really are, and why you cannot force themThe direction all of this is pointing toward, and the first practical step to get there MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEMichael Beckwith, the four levels of consciousness (to me, by me, through me, as me)Lisa Feldman Barrett, the brain as a predictive organ managing your "body budget"The research on allostatic load, the wear that builds when the stress response never switches offJennifer Crocker, contingencies of self-worthThe research on rumination and why replaying the story prolongs the painResearch on victim signallingMihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the flow stateThe neuroscience of the default mode network quieting in long-term meditatorsRichard Lazarus and James Gross, how appraisal shapes your response and your outcomesNamed traditions referenced: Stoicism, Buddhism (tanha, craving), and the wisdom traditions that point toward oneness and unconditional love FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONSWhat are the four levels of consciousness? A framework from the teacher Michael Beckwith describing four ways of relating to life: "to me" (life happens to me, the victim position), "by me" (I make it happen through effort and hustle), "through me" (I stop forcing and let life move with more ease), and "as me" (a sense of oneness). This episode lays the nervous-system state underneath each one. Why do I feel stuck after being laid off or starting over? Often you have outgrown pure hustle but have not yet settled into a more allowing way of working, so you are caught in the gap between the "by me" and "through me" levels. Your nervous system reads the loss as a threat and keeps you in survival, which makes forcing feel like the only option even though it no longer works. What does the nervous system have to do with feeling stuck? Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett describes the brain as constantly predicting and running your body to match, always reading whether you are safe enough to grow or under threat and need to defend. Each level of consciousness sits on a different answer to that question, and staying in threat keeps you in defence rather than creation. Why doesn't achievement ever make me feel like enough? Jennifer Crocker's research on contingent self-worth shows that when your worth depends on results, it lifts the day you succeed and drops the day you do not, so the feeling never lasts. The target keeps moving, which is why more success rarely delivers lasting fulfilment. How do I move from hustle to flow? You cannot force flow, because forcing is the hustle state itself. Flow becomes possible when your nervous system comes off threat and feels safe, so the work is building that safety and changing the question you ask yourself, rather than pushing harder. GO DEEPER: THE FREE MASTERCLASSIf you know you are ready to move from "by me" to "through me," to stop forcing and start allowing life to work through you so you can create what you are actually here to create, come to the free masterclass. I take you through the spiritual side and the science behind it: your nervous-system intelligence, emotional intelligence, intuitive intelligence, cognitive intelligence, and energetic intelligence, so you can operate from that "through me" state. https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass CONNECTIf this resonated, please subscribe to Starting Over, Being You so you do not miss the next one. I would love to hear from you, send me a message and tell me which level you recognised yourself in. Remember: we are moving from fear to love. Keep being loving and understanding toward yourself, because that is what helps you see that you are living in a friendly universe. Sending you so much love. Until next time.

    30 Min.

  3. 24. Juni

    Everyone Likes You. That's the Problem. (6 Disguises of Your Nervous System)

    For free masterclass : Click here People-pleasing isn't a habit you can simply decide to quit. It's your nervous system running a survival program that was wired in long before you ever had a say in it. And the moment you understand that, everything starts to shift, because you finally stop fighting the wrong thing. In this episode I walk you through the six faces this survival response wears, the disguises your nervous system learned to put on to keep you safe. You'll almost certainly recognise yourself in more than one, and maybe in all of them. Then I show you what's actually happening in your brain when you live this way, why every wisdom tradition on earth points to the same way back, and the one small practice that starts to bring you home to yourself. The six faces: The Perfectionist. The Peacekeeper. The Caretaker. The Performer. The Chameleon. And the Lone Wolf, the one almost nobody even calls people-pleasing. In this episode: Why "set boundaries, stop caring, just love yourself" never actually worksWhat people-pleasing really is, the fawn response, and why these patterns are blends, not boxesWhat chronic people-pleasing does to your brain, and how safety brings your thinking back onlineWhy losing connection to yourself quietly costs you in every area of your lifeHow presence brings you home, and the simple daily practice that starts it Key takeaways: People-pleasing is not a character flaw or a willpower problem. It's the fawn response, a survival reaction named by therapist Pete Walker.It shows up in six forms: the Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. Most people are a blend of several.Chronic people-pleasing keeps the brain in a low-grade threat state, which reduces access to the prefrontal cortex, the part you think and decide with.Reconnecting to yourself is a trainable act of attention called interoception, not a vibe or a mood.Losing touch with your own needs measurably lowers self-esteem and wellbeing, shown in Jennifer Campbell's research on self-concept clarity.The way back is presence, the same answer every major wisdom tradition arrived at independently. FAQ: Q: What is the fawn response? A: The fawn response is a survival reaction in which you keep yourself safe by keeping other people happy. Therapist Pete Walker named it as a fourth response alongside fight, flight, and freeze, and it's the pattern underneath chronic people-pleasing. Q: What are the six types of people-pleaser? A: The Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. They're not rigid boxes. Most people are a blend, and they all share one root, a lost connection to yourself. Q: Is people-pleasing a trauma response? A: Often, yes. People-pleasing frequently develops early as a way to stay safe in an unpredictable or high-conflict environment, which is why willpower alone rarely changes it. Q: How do you actually stop people-pleasing? A: Not by forcing more boundaries, but by rebuilding your connection to yourself through presence. A simple start is to pause three times a day and ask your body one question, what is true for me here, before you answer for anyone else. Mentioned in this episode: Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (the fawn response)Meg Josephson, LCSW, Are You Mad at Me? (the six types)Amy Arnsten, Yale (stress and the prefrontal cortex)Bud Craig (interoception and the insula)Jennifer Campbell (self-concept clarity)The wisdom traditions: the Upanishads, Buddhist buddha-nature, Marcus Aurelius, Psalm 46, the Qur'an, Rumi, and Emerson Further reading on interoception: Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley (interoceptive accuracy and emotion)Lisa Feldman Barrett (interoception and the constructed sense of self) Ready to come home to yourself? I've created a free masterclass that walks you through the steps. Watch it here: https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass Starting Over, Being You with Dr Amen Kaur bridges neuroscience and grounded spirituality for women rebuilding their sense of self. New episodes weekly. people pleasing, people pleaser, how to stop people pleasing, fawn response, fawn trauma response, nervous system, nervous system regulation, survival mode, boundaries, self-abandonment, perfectionism, caretaker, codependency, presence, self-connection, interoception, anxiety, self-worth, Meg Josephson, Pete Walker

    29 Min.

  4. 17. Juni

    Your Identity Is Keeping You Stuck (Here's How to Change It)

    Free Masterclass : Click here You've been told that to change your life, you have to change your identity: decide who you want to be, affirm it every morning, and visualise your way into the new you. So why does changing your identity so rarely work? In this episode of Starting Over, Being You, Dr. Amen Kaur explains why the identity keeping you stuck is not a flaw to fix. It is a protection your brain actively defends, long after it has stopped serving you. And why trading it for a "better," more empowered identity is just a nicer cage. Bridging neuroscience and the contemplative traditions, she walks through what actually loosens identity's grip, and the one practical lever that has nothing to do with believing in yourself. What this episode covers: Why a stuck identity behaves like scar tissue, and the one question that begins to loosen itHow identity works as a perceptual lens, so your beliefs shape the evidence rather than the other way aroundThe expectancy-value science of motivation, and why losing your motivation is rarely a motivation problemWhy the "I have to" identity of high achievers leads to burnout and contingent self-worthThe counterintuitive truth about imposter syndrome: it is created by success, not cured by itWhat the Yoga Sutras, the Buddhist teaching of non-self, and the Bhagavad Gita reveal about the self that does the perceivingThe single lever that actually moves identity: how you respond to a thought, not the thought itselfA 30-second awareness practice you can do right where you are Questions this episode answersWhy does trying to change your identity rarely work? Because a limiting identity functions like scar tissue. It protects you from something painful, so willpower alone bounces off it. Until you understand what the identity is protecting you from, it keeps reasserting itself no matter how hard you push. Can you actually control your thoughts? No. The mind generates thoughts automatically, the way the body generates a heartbeat. What you can control is how you respond to a thought once it arrives. That skill is called cognitive defusion, from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, developed by the psychologist Steven Hayes. Is imposter syndrome cured by success? No. Imposter syndrome is created by success. It appears in the gap between what you have achieved and who you still believe you are, which means the more you accomplish while clinging to an old self-image, the stronger it gets. Why do I feel like I have no motivation? You are almost certainly not unmotivated. Expectancy-value theory, from John Atkinson and later Jacquelynne Eccles and Allan Wigfield, describes how the brain weighs how likely success feels against how much the outcome matters. When an identity says "I can't," predicted success drops, the effort registers as wasted, and you stay exactly where you are. What does the Bhagavad Gita say about effort and results? In chapter 2, verse 47, the Bhagavad Gita teaches that you have a right to your actions but never to the fruits of your actions. The invitation is to unhook your sense of self from outcomes you cannot control and return it to the action itself. Why do high achievers burn out on a "positive" identity? Self-determination theory, from Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, calls it introjected regulation: acting from internalised pressure rather than genuine value. Combined with contingent self-worth, researched by Jennifer Crocker, it means each achievement only rents a brief sense of being okay before the bar moves again. How do you stop a negative thought from running you? You do not stop the thought. You change how you respond to it. Drawing on Hebbian learning ("neurons that fire together, wire together," Donald Hebb, 1949), responding differently over time weakens the old mental pathway and strengthens a new one. Think of the mind as a garden: you cannot control which seeds blow in, but you control what you water and what you pull. Sources and traditions referencedExpectancy-value theory of motivation: John Atkinson; Jacquelynne Eccles and Allan WigfieldSelf-determination theory and introjected regulation: Edward Deci and Richard RyanContingent self-worth: Jennifer CrockerAcceptance and Commitment Therapy and cognitive defusion: Steven HayesHebbian learning, "neurons that fire together, wire together": Donald Hebb, 1949The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali (vritti, the fluctuations of the mind)The Buddhist teaching of anatta (non-self)The Bhagavad Gita, chapter 2, verse 47 The takeaway: You are not your identity. You are the one watching it arrive. The freedom was never in becoming someone solid. It was in realising you were never only one thing, and you do not have to defend a self that was always going to keep changing. Free masterclass: If you are in the middle of starting over and want to step beyond the labels holding you back, Dr. Amen Kaur has created a free masterclass to help you do exactly that. https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Starting Over, Being You so the next episode finds you, and share this one with someone quietly outgrowing an old version of themselves. About the host: Dr. Amen Kaur is a coach and the host of Starting Over, Being You, where she brings together neuroscience and grounded spirituality for high-achieving professionals navigating identity, reinvention, and starting over. change your identity, personal transformation, affirmations, visualization techniques, identity protection, limiting beliefs, motivation and identity, self-image, identity and success, overcoming imposter syndrome, cognitive diffusion, awareness in psychology, self-worth, internalized pressure, spiritual identity, freedom from labels, neuropsychology of identity, emotional resilience, identity evolution, mindfulness practices

    24 Min.

  5. 10. Juni

    The Science of Luck: Why You Have to Become the Black Sheep

    → Want to go further? Join: the free masterclass Why are some people so much luckier than others? The science of luck says it's not chance, it's behavior, and it starts with your nervous system. Some people seem to have all the luck: opportunity finds them, the right people show up, doors open. Underneath the admiration is the quiet question, why them, and why not me? In this episode of Starting Over, Being You, we break down the real, measurable science of luck and why becoming a luckier person asks more of you than raising your vibration ever could. In this episode: Why luck is a set of behaviors, not a trait (Richard Wiseman's research)How your nervous system decides whether you see opportunities or miss themWhy "luck has an address": how the people around you set your baseline through co-regulationThe black sheep effect: why outgrowing your old life genuinely hurts (social rejection lights up the same brain regions as physical pain)Achieving vs. awakened relationships, and why wanting new people as you grow isn't betrayalA 5-step practice to start behaving your way toward luck You're allowed to outgrow a room. And you can still love the people in it. → Go deeper: join the free masterclass: click here Topics: science of luck, how to be luckier, why some people are luckier than others, nervous system regulation, black sheep effect, outgrowing friends, personal growth, awakened relationships

    23 Min.

  6. 3. Juni

    The Neuroscience of Manifestation: You Attract What You're Wired For

    Send us Fan Mail The Neuroscience of Manifestation: Why Manifestation Stops Working (And What To Do Next) You've done the inner work. You've manifested before and it actually worked. But the deeper you've gone into your spiritual practice, the more you've run into a strange wall. The techniques that used to deliver just don't anymore. You feel like you can't move forward the way you used to, even though you're more capable and more aware than you've ever been. If that's where you are, I want you to know you're not failing and you're not broken. You've hit a stage that almost nobody talks about, and there's real science behind it as well as a spiritual side that's been described for thousands of years. The short version is this. You don't attract what you want. You attract what your brain is wired for. The old techniques stopped working because they were built on old conditioning. So the answer isn't to try harder. It's to change what you're actually able to perceive. In this episode I walk through the whole thing: Why manifestation tends to stop working the deeper you go, and why that plateau is usually a sign you're growing rather than a sign something's wrong.The two-kitten experiment, a piece of neuroscience that explains why smart, capable people can stay completely blind to opportunities sitting right in front of them.How your brain builds the reality you experience out of your past conditioning, and what quantum physics adds to that picture.Where the science lines up with spirituality. Maya, the veil, the dark night of the soul, awakening. Not as poetry, but as a fairly literal description of how perception works.And a simple four-part practice you can start now. Regulate, reconnect, decide, and become present, so you can release the old conditioning, shift your state, and start manifesting with ease again.This one's for you if you've built something real, you can feel there's more, and you're ready to stop forcing things and start seeing what's already there. A few questions this episode answers: Why has manifestation stopped working for me?Why do I feel stuck even though I'm capable and self-aware?Is feeling lost a normal part of spiritual growth?What is the dark night of the soul, and what comes after it?How do I move forward when my old tools no longer work? Go deeper with the free masterclass This episode names the wall. The masterclass takes you through it. If you're a driven person who knows there's more but keeps hitting the edge of your old programming, this is the exact process I use with clients. We calm the nervous system, release the conditioning sitting underneath the plateau, and rewire how you see what's possible, so opportunities start flowing again. You can reserve your spot at the link below. If this resonated, please share it, subscribe, and leave a comment. And send it to someone who feels stuck, who's lost their old world and thinks they're going backwards. Tell them it's a door. Keywords: why manifestation stops working, manifestation not working anymore, spiritual plateau, feeling stuck despite being successful, neuroscience of manifestation, rewire your brain, law of attraction stopped working, dark night of the soul, spiritual awakening stages, high achiever feeling stuck, how to move forward when you feel stuck, two-kitten experiment, nervous system regulation, raise your vibration Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    20 Min.

  7. 27. Mai

    How to Finally Do the Thing That Matters Most (Starting Today)

    Send us Fan Mail How to Finally Do the Thing That Matters Most (Starting Today) Why are you stuck? Why can't you do the thing you know you're meant to do? It's not fear of failure, lack of strategy, or discipline, it's something much quieter, and it lives in your body, not your head. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur reveals what neuroscience, psychology, and the oldest spiritual traditions all agree on, from completely different starting points. You'll hear how Neville Goddard's "feeling is the secret," Carl Rogers' work on acceptance and congruence, Paul Gilbert's research on self-compassion, and Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory point to the same mechanism the Bible, Buddha, Rumi, Guru Nanak, and the Quran have been teaching for centuries. In this episode: The real reason high-achieving women stay stuck for yearsWhy your nervous system has to feel safe before your brain can do its best workThe hidden block underneath procrastination, overthinking, and self-sabotage (hint: it's not what you fear, it's what you can't receive)How self-criticism activates the same threat response as an external attackThe one shift you can make this week to come back to yourself Perfect for you if: you're a capable, driven woman who has done all the inner work, therapy, mindset, manifestation, strategy and still feels stuck, overwhelmed, or like you're performing a life instead of living it. This isn't a 10-step plan. It's a return to yourself. 🎧 Free masterclass: amenkaur/masterclass a felt experience, not a theory. If this lands in your body, send it to the woman you're already thinking of. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    32 Min.

  8. 20. Mai

    It's not your mind that's stuck. It's your body.

    Send us Fan Mail You've done the work. You know it's over. So why can't you let go? If you're capable, accomplished, and still stuck in an old identity, a career, a relationship, a version of you that no longer fits, this episode names the one thing no one talks about. It isn't fear. It isn't lack of clarity. It isn't that you're not ready. It's judgment, and it's held in your body, not your mind. In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur names why high-achieving women stay glued to the old life even when they know it's hurting them, and why "thinking your way out" doesn't work. Drawing on the neuroscience of Stephen Porges (polyvagal theory and neuroception), Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), and Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion, she shows why your nervous system runs the old programme until it gets a new experience, and how compassion (not positive thinking) is the actual release. In this episode: Why "I know but I can't move" is a body problem, not a mindset problemThe two layers of judgment keeping you stuck (and which one is louder)Why affirmations don't land when your body is in survivalThe marathon analogy: why your body refuses to start a race it hasn't trained forThe handbrake metaphor: there's nothing wrong with your engineHow self-compassion lowers cortisol and brings the thinking brain back onlineOne question to ask the next time you feel that grip in your body Free masterclass: learn how to retrain your body to move forward. Link in the show notes below. If this episode landed, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs to hear it. Dr. Amen Kaur Key quotes "Your mind wants to do it, but your body is stuck. And they run on two completely different systems.""Judgment is the glue to the old identity.""The opposite of judgment is not positive thinking. It's compassion.""You can press the accelerator all you want. If the handbrake's on, you're not going anywhere." Mentioned in this episode Stephen Porges — Polyvagal Theory and neuroceptionBessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreKristin Neff — Self-compassion research (University of Texas) Free Masterclass Retrain your body to move forward, even when your mind has been ready for a long time. amenkaur.com/masterclass Connect with Dr. Amen Kaur Instagram: @dramenkaurYoutube: @dramenkaurNew on Substack: https://dramenkaur.substack.com/  If this episode helped you: Subscribe so you don't miss the next oneLeave a review: it helps other women find the showShare this with the friend who's been "doing all the work" Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    18 Min.
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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achieving women who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

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