This Delicious Life™ - Self-Kindness, Less Servitude & Permission to Re-invent

Kim O'Hara

If you are driving kids or managing the launch of adult children, fielding calls about aging parents' health, running a business or working over 40 hours, and don't seem to be able to find moments to self-honor and relish in the beauty of life, you get to re-boot with the little delicious moments. So many women 30-60 in the "sandwich generation" have become inundated with tasks and forgotten to do random acts of self-kindness. In This Delicious Life™ podcast, female guests from all professions share how they find these small spaces to bask in their self-love. Host Kim O'Hara also shares about her delicious life and the development of her mindset that is the genesis of her upcoming book, Live Your Delicious Life.

  1. 14. Juli

    Anchor Your Menopause Care with a Certified Coach

    Nothing sounds more delicious to me than having someone in my corner, who only cares about my physical well being so I can live the best existence in mid-life. That person understands the weird changes going on in our bodies after 40, through perimenopause, and menopause. Judy Wnuk became a coach certified to walk you through all the moving parts of your body in mid-life so you don't have to feel like a victim to the you that is no longer recognizable.  With menopause and nutrition as we age, media, friends, doctors will throw all the solutions at us. We can get overwhelmed by this juice cleanse, or rising cholesterol, and then add in the aching muscles and osteopenia. We go from bloating and digestive issues, right into brain fog alternating on a daily basis. So it's no wonder trying to manage our health when this is an area still so misunderstood by modern medicine is enough to put our head in the sand. The truth is, this time in our life, as the wise crones, can be very rebvealing and rewarding. We get to be strong and able-bodied to live our life finally free of some of the hardest times on our bodies and mindes - raising little kids, or starting our careers. Why not, after decades of taking care of other people, take care of your health by working with someone who can be your health and wellness advocate? Judy also understands the sandwich generation because she is right smack in it. She was caring for her mom and her grandmother, and her father until he passed, while raising her kids and working full time. She says you can't be a caregiver if you don't care for you. What people come to Judy typically for is they don't like how they look. Their bodies are changing, and she urges them to not try and be a younger version of their bodies but love the bodies they now have and care for them. A wonderful opportunity to look at worthiness and self-trust.  This is your season of life and your body, and you get to be in charge. Don't let those voices in your head that are saying, 'Boy, it's, it's all downhill from here, win.  Judy gives us some tips on how she has Delicious fun. If you want more tips and tools on how to live a delicious life, sign up for my Live Your Delicious Life newsletter at liveyourdeliciouslife.com You can reach Judy at https://www.vitalher.coach

  2. 14. Juli

    Overcoming Emotional Discomfort as Working Moms

    There is no perfect mom, and no reason to strive to be one. Rather, taking care of your mental health, desires and needs is the best way to create a balance in your life while knowing that working and raising kids is hectic. And time, ah elusive time. How we wish we had so much more of it! The problem there lies in the fact that many of us would take that expanded time and just do more, instead of be. Yeah, you will take that one holiday, but back you go to overacheiving and thinking you have to do all at home and all at work all in 40-60 hours a week. That leaves little bandwidth for happy carefree fun. What's that, asked every working mom?! Myself and my guest Rebecca Olson, a coach for working moms, are right there alongside with you as moms running our own businesses. As someone who did DVD workouts while my little ones played in their bouncy seat, and took calls on the side of the road at soccer matches, I can tell you that I never got farther in my career by making myself frantic or nuts. If I could have known that back then, I would have let more happen naturally in my career versus running and gunning all the time. But we can only know what we know when we know it. Which is why I thought an episode where we talk about moms, and work and time, was critical for Delicious Life. We do have sage advice about what we are putting ourselves through as working moms, and how we can relax and have more fun.  We can teach ourselves to feel new and exciting in the delicious without zero to 100 in some challenge that then is not sustainable. We do that when the motivation feels stronger than the discomfort of going after the dream. Then we can have our naggy kid make their own brownies when we get on that Zoom, and our partner watch the kids while we go Zumba. Overcoming emotional discomfort is so much more the win than trying to make sense of time. There will never be enough so why try and make yourself crazy packing it in? We wrap every episode with the guest sharing how they have fun, and it's solid advice if you don't have a fun list! Check out more tools and tips on how to have a Delicious Life on my web site at liveyourdeliciouslife.com where you can sign up for the newsletter and also check out my events and zooms! You can find Rebecca Olson and all her programs at www.rebeccaolsoncoaching.com/

  3. 26. Juni

    Why Writing Your Obituary Before You Die Could Be Delicious

    I have to admit it was hard to title this interview with Mary McGreevy, creator and host of Tips From Dead People, because we covered everything from the act of writing an obit to the depth and weight of thinking through what you want to leave in this world long after you are gone as your signature of self. Mary started reading obituaries decades ago for fun, and when she started to read them on Tik Tok and Instagram, hundreds of thousands of followers agreed with her belief - reading about the lives of people after they are gone is fascinating, deep, sad and hysterical. As our talk unfolds, the alignment with delicious life is clear, - you are rarely remembered for your bank account or the awards on your mantle. It's the fact that you wore two different colored socks, or you always gave chocolates to the post man at holiday time. As women, we struggle to give ourselves permission, and yet, Mary reads obits about women who have lived wild and unapologetic lives (many involve running from the law, but that is another story!) We think if we do anything out of the box, we are going to be slighted or disliked, but when you realize one day you are going to be dead, and all you have left is your story, you may want to reconsider what you give bandwidth to in your life. What Mary has given us in her public reading of people's obituaries is that our lives are not what we have achieved by the length of our resume or our professional status, but rather our humanity and how we have interacted with and touched others. What has been our unique impact on those we get the privilege to know and love in this lifetime. Mary highlights the layered and textured aspects of humanity by reading these obituaries which we forget is what connects us all. I am intrigued to go and make a list of all the quirky stuff I know about myself, and even ask my partner to do it as well. Or you can ask your adult children to do it. It's not dark. We are all going to pass at some point, and in the process of living life, we can think about what mark we want to leave behind in a spiritual way once our body is no longer here. Mary gives tips on how to write your own obit and she is currently working on her book! You can follow her at https://www.instagram.com/tipsfromdeadpeople/

  4. 11. Juni

    How to Make Divorce Delicious with an Intuitive Approach

    Kristen Noel knows about divorce. She, like so many of us, has experienced it twice. But she took it to the next level by becoming a certified intuitive divorce coach. As women tend to slog through, and beat themselves up while pushing to get to the other side of something as painful as divorce, help is available and deserved. It's not your fault you want to move on. You are not selfish or self-centered. You are not burning down the castle of dreams. You have decided you are complete with this marital scenario and want different. Our society makes it hard for women to move on. There has to be a host of reasons, and for some of us, there are. But for others, it's no longer a fit. But what about the kid? Oh my God, how could you? The guilt, the shame, all the stuff. That's what Kristen works through in a gentle but firm way in helping women navigate a "smart divorce" with an "evidence bank" of wins. Her evidence bank concept was so aligned to my Delicious Life (and I adore her as a friend) I had to bring her on to the show to share with my "sandwich generation" listeners that there is a path through divorce that makes it a bit easier. Like life has its ebbs and flows, so does divorce, and it's in the waiting periods, after the dust settles that the doubts and feelings come in. Join us as we talk about how women may give the marriage a second chance (but usually change their mind and are back for coaching round 2...)and also, what Kristen does for fun and her self care. I want anyone listening here to understand, through divorce, one still can have self-kindness and love, even when it seems like the world is shifting off its access. Dinners with friends, and beach days, and walks in the park, all teach you that random self-kindness that you find when its all said and done is now a part of who you are. How we treat ourselves in the trenches, is how we can treat ourselves outside of them. Kristen has a process to bridge the gap between strategy and self-care with the women she coaches and that couldn't be more delicious. You can find her at https://intuitivedivorce.com My Live Your Delicious Life newsletter is on fire these days - dropping the mad self-kindness tips and tools for all areas of your life. Highly recommend a join so you don't miss my live Exhale events, as well as more podcast guests!

  5. 12. Mai

    Stop over-Performing to prove your worth to others

    Take a minute, like give yourself a second to pause, and you may realize you don't want to do something. What? The idea of that is wild to so many of us. Choices? WTF? You have the right to take some space in between shit before making a decision or a move. You can say to yourself and others, let me think on this. That is gutsy and this is what Laura Aura, my guest this week, is all about. What makes her a Delicious guest is she stands for the understanding that what we have and need could be so easily right before us, if we pivot with desire. Ask, what do I want? Again, a big mind blow. Within the desire to have a more peaceful life where we are not running around constantly over performing, there are miracles of uniqueness and acheivements that we didn't even see on our landscape. Those gentle surprises where we say, "I want a peaceful home. I like being home. I like living in this country, or this city." And we don't have to explain why. Laura shares about her book writing journey (something I know quite a bit about as a former book coach) and we talk about the humbling permission to write a book. You will leave this interview on fire, and with a new agency to create deliciously in your life. You can find my newsletter - Live Your Delicious Life - here.  I also am having The Exhale events in June and July which can be accessed through the newsletter. You can learn more about Laura here. As always, rate and review so more women can find us. Thank you!

  6. 30. Apr.

    Disenfranchised Grief: The Less Obvious Losses Society Pushes Away

    Sure, you may have divorced your ex, but you raised kids with him co-parenting for twenty years and then unexpectedly, he dies. A hole is left in your life, but mourning can be complicated, and perhaps your current partner doesn't understand. Or your job doesn't see that as an immediate family member and expects you to show up for your job. What about the grief when you child gets a diagnosis of Autism or OCD and you realize that they will have to work harder than other kids to get through life. Or that it will be more on your plate as a mom, juggling two other kids. Or someone you knew in recovery commits suicide due to addiction, and it hits you square in the heart, but feels bigger than it should? As women, we are navigating so many complex seemingly (to society mourning standards) minor losses and griefs every day, but we are expected to just take them on in our bodies and shoulder forward to all our responsibilities. To even stop for a moment and breathe can seem like too much time in our busy schedules but if we don't face the trauma and pain, we can get derailed in other emotional ways. Speaking today with Krista Hellman, a social worker and founder of the Trauma and Grief Institute in Ottawa, Ontario, I learned a lot about how we need to process attachment and mourning in our bodies. Krista wrote a book about the loss of her dog called Over ther Rainbow: The Love, Loss & Legacy of Your Dog, but it is about more than pet loss. She speaks of how connection can be continued beyond loss. Please rate and review this episode if you enjoyed it.  I have a newsletter, Live Your Delicious Life, where you can learn more about my events, The Exhale: Put Yourself First where we discover ways to bring more Delicious into your life.

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If you are driving kids or managing the launch of adult children, fielding calls about aging parents' health, running a business or working over 40 hours, and don't seem to be able to find moments to self-honor and relish in the beauty of life, you get to re-boot with the little delicious moments. So many women 30-60 in the "sandwich generation" have become inundated with tasks and forgotten to do random acts of self-kindness. In This Delicious Life™ podcast, female guests from all professions share how they find these small spaces to bask in their self-love. Host Kim O'Hara also shares about her delicious life and the development of her mindset that is the genesis of her upcoming book, Live Your Delicious Life.