Week 132: No more fake self-care

In this episode, I talk about how there are actually 3 components of real self-care, not just pedicures and baths. 1) solitary self-care (like pedicures and baths) but keeping in mind what actually helps YOU personally, not what you think you "should" be doing. 2) Social activities and volunteering (even in your own job) and keeping in mind that people generally like us more than we think they do (from the Happiness Lab by Dr. Laurie Santos) 3) setting boundaries and not doing things unless they are something you have to do, you want to do or you want to do to help someone you love. (This third one relates to capitalism and hustle culture, see We Can Do Hard Things for details) and 4) Coming up with a reasonable to do's list each week and where relevant, discussing it with a partner, roommate, your parents, etc. And remembering that your value is not determined by how much you do/check off your list each week! I forgot to mention the action item but it is: Write down 1 thing from parts 1, 2 and 3 that you can (or cannot) do this week, and work on your 2 do's list with a partner, roommate, or just your own list for yourself, keeping in mind what is possible and appreciating that you will never (ever) get "everything" done!