You can do everything right. You can love someone with everything in you. But if you don't understand that the adhesive holding your relationship together is not your love for each other but your individual pursuit of God, if you don't realize that a soulmate is not one person but an ideal that many can embody, and if you're not intentional about understanding that the unit of any relationship is the individual, you'll miss the foundation that makes everything else work. In this deeply personal, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Kojo Nganue, curator at One Man Thousand, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a relationship that lasts, why she's not your soulmate but rather embodies an ideal, and the uncomfortable truth that the problem with most relationships is not the institution of marriage but the individuals who come together in that institution. Kojo holds nothing back. He breaks down why the soulmate framework is flawed because a soulmate is not a person but an ideal, why when you're looking for a soulmate you're looking for somebody who embodies this ideal and that's how come a soulmate will not look a certain way, and the one thing most people refuse to accept: different people can embody that same ideal. He reveals why the anima animus complex is a feminine part of every man that draws him to do things like his intuition and how he can conquer somewhere and cultivate it, how what draws you to another woman is that you see that part of you inside of her, and the moment you realize that wisdom was with God when he was creating the world and wisdom is personified as lady wisdom so instead of a person it's rather an ideal. He also explains why the word ezer which we describe as a helper is actually somebody who's indispensable and capable of things that you are not, how the only other time that word is used in scripture is describing God, and the one thing every man needs to understand: a help meet is God giving you himself. This isn't just relationship advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why the unit of any relationship is the individual, why even your relationship with God depends on you, and how once the individual is aware and can control themselves everything else will fall in line. Kojo dives into why if one egg is good and the other one is bad it will stink but if both eggs are good you have a good omelet, how the thing that secures this is that person A and person B are pursuing God, and the uncomfortable reality that it's not necessarily in terms of morality or a good or bad person but because both people are pursuing God you are assured that whatever comes out of that relationship will be great. He also tackles why it's like a triangle where both of you are the sides of the triangle and God is on top, how the closer you get to God the closer you get to each other, and the one thing every couple needs to accept: without this pursuit and you find each other there's no adhesive that holds you together. If you're in a relationship, wondering whether love is enough to hold you together, or asking yourself why your past relationships didn't work even though the person seemed perfect, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop chasing one person as your soulmate and start pursuing God first so that when you find each other in that pursuit you have the adhesive that keeps you together. Guest: Kojo Nganue ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this
