A Fathered Home

Marlize Marais

A Fathered Home is your weekly dose of real-life mom chaos meets faith, hope, and a sprinkle of magic. Join me as we laugh, cry, and navigate the messy middle of motherhood while discovering the miracles hiding in everyday moments. From parenting wins (and fails!) to mindset hacks, practical tips, and heart-to-heart chats, this podcast is for moms who want to thrive, not just survive. Grab your coffee, embrace the mess, and let’s uncover the miracles together!

  1. 10 AVR.

    Emotions Are Contagious | The Science of Frequency and How It Affects You and Your Child

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we take a deeper look at emotions—not just as feelings, but as something far more powerful. Emotions carry frequency, and that frequency doesn’t stay contained within you. It moves outward, influencing your environment and the people around you, especially your children. I break this down in a simple, clear way so you can understand the science behind it, and why your emotional state matters more than you may realize. Emotions are not neutral. They are active, contagious, and constantly being “felt” by those around you, even when nothing is being said. This episode invites you to become more aware of what you are consistently feeling and practicing each day. Because the emotions you return to most often become the atmosphere your children grow up in. When you begin to shift your internal state—even slightly—you begin to change what you are transmitting. And that has a direct impact on your home, your relationships, and your child’s emotional world. This is not about perfection. It is about awareness, intention, and choosing what you cultivate within yourself, knowing it doesn’t stay with you—it spreads.

    10 min
  2. 8 AVR.

    How to Build Instant Confidence (For You and Your Child) | Simple Mindset Techniques That Work

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we explore confidence in a way that feels safe, empowering, and deeply practical—for both you and your child. Confidence is often seen as something you either have or don’t, but in truth, it is something you can gently build and strengthen from within. I share two simple techniques that you can implement immediately. The first helps you understand that there are different parts within you—one that feels confident and one that prefers safety and comfort. Instead of trying to get rid of the “non-confident” part, we bring both parts together, allowing the confident part to lead while the other feels safe and protected. This creates inner stability instead of inner conflict. The second technique uses visualization and emotion to help you step into a more confident version of yourself. By imagining a specific moment and repeatedly stepping into it with confidence—each time making the image clearer, brighter, and stronger—you begin to embody that version of yourself naturally. These tools are gentle enough for children to use, yet powerful enough to create real internal shifts. Confidence doesn’t have to be forced. It can be built, step by step, from the inside out.

    12 min
  3. 7 AVR.

    Break Limiting Beliefs Fast | The Table Top Technique for Fear and Mindset Shifts

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, I share a simple but powerful technique you can use to break down limiting beliefs and fear almost immediately. It is called the Table Top Technique, and it works by helping you see that your beliefs are only standing because they are supported by reasons you have accepted as true. Imagine your belief as a table. The belief itself is the tabletop, and the reasons you believe it are the legs holding it up. In this exercise, you place one limiting belief on the table and then identify three strong reasons why you believe it to be true. Once you have those reasons, you begin to challenge and disprove each one. As you remove the “legs” by questioning and dismantling these reasons, the belief can no longer stand. Just like a table cannot stay upright without its support, your belief begins to collapse. This technique is especially powerful when dealing with fear, because fear is often built on assumptions that have never been properly questioned. This episode gives you a practical tool you can use anytime you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or held back by your own thoughts. When you learn to challenge what you believe, you create space for new, more empowering thoughts to take their place.

    10 min
  4. 20 MARS

    The Golden Rule of Life | Teaching Kids Respect, Conflict Skills, and Emotional Control

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we talk about the Golden Rule of life and how powerful it can be when you truly make it part of your daily behavior. The simple principle of treating others the way you would like to be treated can change the way we handle conflict, especially in the home. This lesson is not only important for us as adults, but also something we need to teach our children from a young age. We look at how conflict often happens when emotions take over and we react without thinking. When we are upset, the nervous system moves into survival mode, and instead of understanding the other person, we focus only on our own frustration. Learning to calm yourself first makes it possible to pause, think, and respond in a way that creates peace instead of more conflict. This episode also focuses on how to teach the Golden Rule to children, especially when dealing with sibling rivalry. When kids learn to stop, regulate their emotions, and consider how the other person feels, they develop skills that will help them in friendships, relationships, and everyday life. The Golden Rule may sound simple, but when practiced consistently, it becomes one of the strongest foundations for emotional maturity and healthy relationships.

    10 min
  5. 19 MARS

    Belief Systems Explained | How Your Subconscious Beliefs Shape Your Life

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we talk about belief systems and how they quietly shape the way we think, feel, and act every day. Most of our beliefs are not formed by logical decisions, but through repetition over time or through strong emotional experiences. A thought repeated often enough becomes a belief, and a single intense moment can also create a belief that stays with us for years. We explore limiting beliefs and how they influence our reactions, confidence, relationships, and even the way we see ourselves as mothers. One of the challenges with belief systems is that most of them live in the subconscious mind, which means we are not always aware of what we believe or why we react the way we do. In this episode, I explain a simple exercise called the “I am” exercise to help you discover the beliefs that may be running in the background. You say a sentence like “I am…”, “Money is…”, “My children are…”, or “Life is…” and then you pause and listen to what your mind fills in. This can reveal hidden beliefs that you didn’t even know were there. We also talk about three surprising truths about belief systems: most of them are formed before the age of seven, many come from external influences rather than your own choices, and a large percentage of them operate without you ever noticing. When you become aware of your beliefs, you finally have the power to change them.

    10 min
  6. 18 MARS

    The 3 Pillars of Life: Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions Explained

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we talk about the three pillars that shape our daily lives: thoughts, emotions, and actions. Everything we do starts with a thought, which creates a feeling, and that feeling then leads to an action. When we understand this simple pattern, we begin to see that our actions and reactions are not random, but the result of what is happening in our minds. We look at how this works in everyday situations. A thought can create excitement, which leads to motivation and action, but a negative thought can just as easily create a heavy emotion that makes you avoid something you planned to do. For example, the thought “I’m too tired” can create the feeling of exhaustion, which leads to the action of not doing what needs to be done. This episode is a reminder that if we want to change our actions or understand our emotions, we have to go back to the first pillar, our thoughts. When you become aware of what you are thinking, you gain the ability to guide your emotions and choose your actions more intentionally. These three pillars are always working together, and learning to notice them can change the way you experience your whole day.

    10 min
  7. 16 MARS

    The Power of the Present Moment | Stop Living in the Past and Future

    Harmony After Heartbreak is a faith-based program designed for single moms who want to find peace, emotional clarity, and stability after divorce. The program is available for only R175 (approximately $11). To learn more or to join, email me at afatheredhome@gmail.com. In this episode, we talk about the power of the present moment and how easily our thoughts pull us into the past or the future without us even noticing. Many feelings of overwhelm come from thinking about things we cannot change anymore or worrying about things that have not even happened yet. The mind starts replaying old events or imagining future problems, and the body reacts as if everything is happening right now. This episode is a gentle reminder to come back to the question that can bring instant calm: Is there anything I can do about this right now? Whether it is something from the past that still hurts or something in the future that feels stressful, the only moment where you can think, plan, heal, or act is the present moment. We talk about how thoughts like “I should have,” “What if,” “I can’t wait,” or “I’m afraid of what will happen” pull your nervous system out of balance. When you bring your attention back to what you can do right now, your mind becomes clearer, your body relaxes, and overwhelm starts to fade. This is a simple but powerful habit that helps you live with more peace, more focus, and more control over your thoughts.

    11 min

À propos

A Fathered Home is your weekly dose of real-life mom chaos meets faith, hope, and a sprinkle of magic. Join me as we laugh, cry, and navigate the messy middle of motherhood while discovering the miracles hiding in everyday moments. From parenting wins (and fails!) to mindset hacks, practical tips, and heart-to-heart chats, this podcast is for moms who want to thrive, not just survive. Grab your coffee, embrace the mess, and let’s uncover the miracles together!