Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

  1. Stop Shrinking Yourself: Why Women Downplay Their Power & How to Expand Anyway | Mid Week Tease

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    Stop Shrinking Yourself: Why Women Downplay Their Power & How to Expand Anyway | Mid Week Tease

    Are you shrinking yourself to feel safer, more lovable, less intimidating? In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on the quiet ways women, especially African women, make themselves smaller in their careers, relationships, and ambitions. Inspired by her recent conversation with Ruth Tanui on Difference She Makes, this episode explores: The psychology behind the confidence gapWhy women hesitate to apply even when qualifiedThe social conditioning that teaches girls to be excellent but not intimidatingThe myth of “scaring men away” with successHow to build confidence by acting before you feel readyPractical mindset shifts to stop downplaying your powerDrawing on research from Albert Bandura on self-efficacy, social psychology studies on the backlash effect, and insights from thinkers like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and Warsan Shire, this episode invites you to examine where you may be shrinking and what expansion could look like instead. If you have ever: Downplayed your titleSoftened your ambitionHidden your successHesitated to applyMade yourself smaller to feel saferThis conversation is for you. You do not have to shrink to be chosen. You do not have to dim to be loved. You are allowed to expand. Watch Difference She Makes featuring Ruth Tanui here: https://youtu.be/1DBpamU6VXQ  Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    14 min
  2. From Grief To Laughter PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 364

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    From Grief To Laughter PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 364

    In Episode 364 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Kenyan stand-up comedian Rahab Kihuha shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful continuation that explores sobriety, motherhood, womanhood in male-dominated spaces, and what it truly means to heal holistically. In this episode, Rahab reflects on navigating the comedy industry as a woman, performing while pregnant, confronting patriarchy on and off stage, and choosing sobriety as an act of self-preservation. She opens up about becoming a mother, finding community, re-learning how to feed her mind and spirit, and arriving at a place of deep self-acceptance. This conversation dives into: Sobriety and recovery as a daily practiceThe connection between addiction and disconnectionMotherhood as a grounding and transformative experiencePatriarchy and gendered expectations in comedyHealing through community, creativity, and presenceChoosing a life you no longer want to escape fromThis is a story about freedom, freedom of expression, freedom from self-abandonment, and the quiet power of liking your own life. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 of Rahab’s story, we recommend starting there before this episode. 🔗 Connect With Legally Clueless Africa 💌 Sign up for our newsletter: 👉 www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📸 Follow us on Instagram: 👉 www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎵 Follow us on TikTok: 👉 www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: 👉 www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 📝 Share your story with us: 👉 forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 About Legally Clueless Legally Clueless is a podcast and community amplifying African women’s stories around healing, identity, mental wellness, creativity, relationships, and self-discovery, one honest conversation at a time.

    37 min
  3. She Built Her Own Law Firm After a Toxic System Tried to Break Her | Difference She Makes

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    She Built Her Own Law Firm After a Toxic System Tried to Break Her | Difference She Makes

    In this episode of Difference She Makes, we explore how professional excellence becomes a quiet but powerful form of resistance inside deeply gendered institutions. Our guest, Ruth Tanui, is an Advocate of the High Court of Kenya and the Founder and Managing Partner of Tanui & Company Advocates. Through her journey, from navigating hostile work environments to building her own law firm, Ruth shows us how competence, credibility, and consistency can reshape institutional culture from the inside. This conversation goes beyond representation. It asks harder questions about pay inequity, toxic leadership, confidence gaps, and the invisible rules women are expected to follow at work and what it takes to unlearn them. In this episode, we explore: • Why excellence, not just access, determines who is trusted and promoted • How toxic law firm cultures push women to shrink, self-doubt, or exit • The unspoken ways gender bias shows up in hiring, pay, and client trust • What it looks like to build a fair, human-centered law firm culture • Why culture often shifts faster in corridors than in courtrooms Ruth also reflects on the traditions she had to unlearn, the confidence she had to reclaim, and how mentorship and community sustain women navigating male-dominated professions. Before you watch, we want to hear from you: Where do you think culture shifts faster in the courtroom, in the corridors of institutions, or in everyday conversations? Share your thoughts in the comments. Difference She Makes is a six-part series exploring how African women are transforming justice, leadership, and power not just through policy, but through lived experience. Subscribe to the channel to catch the next episode, where we widen the lens to explore how mentorship, sponsorship, and solidarity sustain progress across generations of women.

    26 min
  4. Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease

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    Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease

    What if “treating yourself” isn’t indulgence but a psychological necessity? In this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on how she’s learned to intentionally place joy into her life, especially around birthdays. From solo stays by the pool with poetry and silence, to beach days and bicycle tours, this episode explores why joy deserves to be planned, not postponed. Drawing from personal ritual and psychology-backed research, Adelle unpacks why joy plays a critical role in emotional regulation, resilience, and healing, particularly for women who have been conditioned to survive instead of savor. You’ll also hear insights inspired by the work of Barbara Fredrickson, whose research shows that positive emotions don’t just feel good they broaden our thinking and build long-term emotional strength. This episode is an invitation to stop waiting for permission to enjoy your life, and to start treating joy as maintenance not a reward. In this episode, we explore: Why treating yourself isn’t about luxury, but nervous system regulationHow intentional joy builds emotional resilience over timeThe difference between escapism and self-attunementWhy small, repeated pleasures matter more than big, rare onesHow to identify what actually brings you joy (not what looks good online)Simple, accessible ways to begin treating yourself without guiltGentle reflection questions from the episode: When was the last time I did something purely because it brought me joy?What environments help my body soften and expand?What small joy have I been postponing and why?Listen if you’re: Emotionally exhausted but still “functioning”Learning how to stop abandoning yourselfTrying to build a softer, more intentional lifeCurious about the psychology behind joy and wellbeingReady to treat yourself without justificationAbout Mid Week Tease Mid Week Tease is a reflective audio series by Legally Clueless Africa offering grounding conversations about healing, self-awareness, relationships, and becoming more emotionally honest with ourselves. 🔗 Useful links: Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    15 min
  5. From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363

    1 FÉVR.

    From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363

    In Episode 363 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Kenyan stand-up comedian Rahab Kihuha shares Part 1 of her powerful story, a deeply honest journey through grief, addiction, mental health struggles, and the unexpected role comedy played in her survival. Rahab opens up about losing her father, using alcohol to cope with pain, feeling emotionally unseen, and how stepping onto a comedy stage for the first time helped her transform shame into laughter. What began as a way to numb pain slowly became a form of healing and a path toward purpose. This episode explores: Grief and how it shows up in the bodyAddiction as a coping mechanism, not a moral failureUsing humour as armour and medicineMental health struggles among African womenHow creativity can become a lifeline before it becomes a careerConnect With Legally Clueless Africa 💌 Join our newsletter: 👉 https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📸 Follow us on Instagram: 👉 https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎵 Follow us on TikTok: 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 📝 Share your story with us: 👉 https://forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Legally Clueless is a podcast and community amplifying African women’s stories around healing, identity, mental wellness, relationships, and self-discovery, one honest conversation at a time.

    38 min
  6. Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes

    31 JANV.

    Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes

    In this episode of Difference She Makes, we turn our focus to policies, the internal rules that determine whether institutions protect people in practice or only on paper. Adelle Onyango is joined by Zikhona Ndlebe, a South Africa–based judicial governance expert who has worked at the heart of policy reform within the legal system. Zikhona helps us understand why policies are not just administrative tools, but powerful mechanisms that shape culture, accountability, and safety, especially for women. This conversation unpacks how sexual misconduct has long existed in legal institutions even when it was never formally named, why denial protects systems more than people, and how policy gaps leave survivors without recourse. Zikhona also explains why timing matters: when harm occurs before a policy exists, justice becomes far more difficult to achieve. We explore: Why internal workplace policies matter as much as laws and constitutionsHow power, silence, and denial operate inside legal institutionsThe real-world consequences of policy gaps for women in lawWhy implementation matters more than intentionWhat other African countries can learn from South Africa’s experienceThis episode is a reminder that justice is not only written in legislation, it is lived through policy, practice, and accountability. Listener question: What’s one workplace policy you wish existed and was actually enforced? Listen now and subscribe to Difference She Makes to follow the full series exploring how African women are reshaping justice and leadership across the continent.

    29 min
  7. Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women

    29 JANV.

    Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women

    Pregnancy and postpartum don’t just change a woman’s body they change her mind, her strength, and her sense of self. In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Winnie Okoth, elite CrossFit and Olympic weightlifting athlete and coach, for an honest conversation about postpartum realities we rarely prepare women for. Winnie shares her personal experience navigating: Postpartum panic attacks and mental health strugglesGrieving the body and strength she once hadTraining, coaching, and showing up while feeling disconnected from her bodyPostpartum injuries women are told are “normal” including pelvic pain, back pain, and core separationThe pressure to “bounce back” and how it quietly harms womenLearning to start again from ground zeroWhy breathwork is foundational for healing the nervous system, core, and pelvic floorThe power of community in postpartum recovery and motherhoodThis episode is for women who are pregnant, postpartum, supporting new mothers or unlearning the idea that healing should be rushed. You don’t bounce back. You build forward. 🔗 Listen, Watch & Connect Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    36 min
  8. Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    28 JANV.

    Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    Many women don’t struggle because they’re “too emotional.” They struggle because they’ve learned to abandon their emotional needs to keep connection. In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we explore the quiet, often invisible ways women self-silence in romantic relationships, friendships, and family not because they lack needs, but because expressing them once felt unsafe. This conversation unpacks emotional self-abandonment, where it comes from, how it shows up across relationships, and the psychological cost of constantly choosing harmony over honesty. Drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed psychology, and family systems theory, this episode offers both language and tools for women who are tired of disappearing to be loved. In this episode, we explore: What emotional self-abandonment actually looks likeWhy many women minimise, over-give, or stay silent in relationshipsHow early attachment patterns shape emotional self-silencingEmotional labour and the pressure to be “low maintenance”The role family systems play in teaching women to shrinkThe long-term effects of abandoning your emotional needsPractical tools to begin expressing needs without shamePsychology-backed frameworks referenced: Attachment theory (John Bowlby)Trauma-informed understanding of emotional suppression (Gabor Maté)Family systems & differentiation (Murray Bowen)The True Self vs False Self (Donald Winnicott)Gentle reflection prompts from the episode: Where do I silence myself to preserve connection?Whose comfort do I prioritise over my emotional truth?What do I need not what will keep the peace?Subscribe to the Legally Clueless podcast 📝 Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📲 Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 🎵 Find us on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica 💬 Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    19 min
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Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

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  • Création
    Legally Clueless
  • Années d’activité
    2019 - 2026
  • Épisodes
    485
  • Classification
    Contenu explicite
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