Note to Self

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From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!

1 DAY AGO

Leaving a Good Relationship for the Right Reasons (a Lesson in Choosing Yourself), with Margot Lee

#216. Margot Lee is an OG YouTube creator and founder of No Particular Order. After moving to London for her longtime boyfriend, she faced one of life’s hardest truths: sometimes two people can love each other deeply and want completely different futures. In this conversation, we talk about how wanting different things isn’t a failure, and why coming home to yourself is the bravest decision one could make. This one’s for anyone who’s ever wondered if choosing yourself over a good relationship makes you selfish— note to you: it doesn't. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episode Sponsors: Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Canopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase. Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELF Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 hr
9 OCT

Building Community, Navigating New Eras, & General Girl Talk with Eli Rallo

#215. I’m sitting down with creator & best-selling author, Eli Rallo, to talk about navigating a new era of life, building community through change, & more. Eli’s new book, Does Anyone Feel This Way?, is out Oct. 14! PROMO LINK: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/does-anyone-else-feel-this-way-eli-rallo?variant=43671983816738 FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episode Sponsors: Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Hormone Harmony: For a limited time, you can get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com just use the code NOTETOSELF at checkout Canopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

47 min
2 OCT

Hot Girl Fall Favorites 2025: Beauty, Style, People to Follow, & My Fall Themes

#214. I’m sharing all my fall favorites for 2025 in this episode. We’re covering beauty products, shopping destinations, tech and apps, must-follow accounts, and my personal fall themes for the season. Everything you need to curate your best hot girl fall yet. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episoded Sponsors: Peleton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Hormone Harmony: For a limited time, you can get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com just use the code NOTETOSELF at checkout See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1h 8m
25 SEPT

The Sex Talk You Never Got: Working Through Shame, Sex in Long-Term Relationships, Orgasms, & more with Dr. Tara

#213. Dr. Tara brings her PhD expertise in human sexuality to tackle the conversations most of us are still too uncomfortable to have—from unlearning sexual shame to talking about what you actually want with a long-term partner. She addresses realities like foreplay that no one discusses openly, and offers concrete guidance for women who have never experienced orgasm. With frank expertise, Dr. Tara explains why good sex education starts with unlearning the shame we've all absorbed and provides strategies for having the conversations that could transform your intimate life. This isn't typical "spice things up" advice—it's about fundamentally changing how we think and talk about pleasure, desire, and sexual communication. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

48 min
18 SEPT

Wedding “Rules” Are Dead, with Jaleigh Friend of The Friend Club

#212. Forget everything you think you know about wedding planning. Jaleigh Friend, founder of The Friend Club and veteran of 1,500+ couple consultations, is here to demolish the outdated rules keeping your wedding from feeling authentic. We’re talking about which traditions you can toss, how to handle family pushback when you go rogue, and why the “rules” might actually be costing you money. Whether you’re planning your own wedding or just love hearing about creative celebrations, this episode will change how you think about saying “I do.” FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episode Sponsors: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Head on over to Rula.com/notetoself to get started today. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

48 min
11 SEPT

I’m in My Early 30s– Here are a Few Things I’m Still Learning

#211. I'm opening up about five things I'm actively learning rather than pretending to have figured out. From adopting patience as a daily practice to learning that disappointment is a fact of life, we’re discussing what I’m currently working through. This isn't about having all the answers—it's about staying curious, staying human, and finding freedom in the messiness of still figuring it out. Join me for an honest conversation about growth, vulnerability, and the beauty of being a work in progress. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episode Sponsors: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

50 min
4 SEPT

Rich Girl Rituals: Money as Self-Care, with Ariel LaFond

#210. What if your financial plan received the same amount of care as your skincare routine? In this episode, fractional CFO and "dumb rich" newsletter creator Ariel LaFond joins me to reframe money as wellness. We're breaking down the HENRY trap (High Earner, Not Rich Yet), sharing financial rituals that actually work, and building budgets that include joy—not just survival. Because money isn't just about security, it's about creating a life that feels abundant and free. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

58 min
28 AUG

ASK P: finding peace when you feel out of place, navigating online hate, choosing yourself, & more

#209. Breakups, boundaries, and brutal honesty. In this Ask P, I answer your questions on handling hate comments, moving on from long-term relationships, opening up to friends after heartbreak, navigating toxic family dynamics, and finding peace when you feel out of place. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7 → Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8 → Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9 → Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5 Episode Sponsors: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Payton Sartain

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From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!