Divorcing Strong

Becky Sampson
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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

  1. 2 GÜN ÖNCE

    Cost of Divorce: Family Law Attorney Scott Levin on Peaceful Divorce, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce

    What if fighting harder in your divorce isn't protecting you — it's bankrupting you? What if the legal system designed to resolve your conflict is actually engineered to escalate it? And what if choosing peace isn't weakness — it's the most powerful financial move you can make? Becky Sampson sits down with Scott Levin, widely known as the Chief Peacekeeper — a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has spent 16 years watching couples hand over six figures to a court system that gives them outcomes their families can barely survive. In 2013, after one final case that broke what was left of his belief in litigation, Scott switched overnight — walking away from a full litigation practice to commit entirely to mediation. He hasn't been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His wife joined the practice as a certified co-parenting specialist and co-mediator, making theirs one of the few husband-and-wife teams in family law that brings both the numbers and the heart to every session. Today, Scott's practice is built on a single conviction: divorce is fundamentally a math problem — assets, debts, division — and it's not nearly as complicated as the court system needs you to believe it is. If you're staring at a legal bill and wondering whether there's another way — this is the episode that changes how you see every decision ahead of you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The $100K mistake most divorcing couples make — why choosing the courtroom over the conference room is the most expensive financial decision of your entire divorce, and the specific cost dynamics that Scott walks every new client through before they hire anyone Why "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but costs you everything — the gap between what the internet tells you to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works, and why the peaceful path is both cheaper and more sustainable The litigator-who-mediates trap — why hiring a family law attorney who litigates cases AND mediates on the side is one of the most common and expensive mistakes divorcing couples make; what happens to your 2 pm mediation appointment when opposing counsel files an emergency hearing How divorce is really just a math problem — Scott's finance-first approach to asset division: cataloging the full pie, assigning values, identifying hidden transfers, and finding the five to seven creative ways to divide everything — without unnecessary taxes, penalties, or fees Creative solutions the court system will never offer you — the settlement Scott achieves almost every week that makes his litigating colleagues say "that's insane" — and why 16 years of zero disasters says they're wrong Can you mediate with a narcissist? — Scott's direct answer, why it's not the automatic "no" most people expect, and the critical distinction between a narcissist who wants the case resolved and one who doesn't — and how your strategy changes completely depending on which one you're dealing with Why antagonizing a narcissist in court is the single worst move you can make — what Scott has watched happen case after case when attorneys take an adversarial posture with a high-conflict spouse, and why the narcissist will "fight to the death" the moment they feel cornered The "problem perpetuator" attorney — Scott's honest taxonomy of family law attorneys: those who are genuinely passionate, those who have no other options, and those who have zero intention of resolving anything — and the red flags that tell you which one you're sitting across from in the consultation Don't marry the first divorce attorney you meet — why Becky's signature phrase and Scott's 16 years of watching families get derailed by the wrong advisor are two sides of the same warning, and the specific questions to ask before you sign anything Why 90% of Scott's mediations have no attorneys in the room — and what that says about how much you can actually accomplish when two adults and two skilled mediators are working toward the same goal without outside counsel taking all the oxygen His wife as co-mediator and certified co-parenting specialist — how the husband-and-wife dynamic in Scott's practice covers both the financial architecture of the divorce AND the emotional scaffolding of what comes after, particularly for families with children Scott's personal story — a child of a bitter court fight who went into family law as his therapy, and the one final case that convinced him, overnight, that litigation was never the answer he thought it was 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Scott Levin: Scott Levin is a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) known professionally as the Chief Peacekeeper. After spending years in family law litigation and watching families pay exorbitant legal fees for outcomes they could barely live with, Scott made a deliberate and permanent pivot — switching entirely to mediation in 2013 after one case he could not shake. He has not been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His practice operates on a foundational belief: divorce is a solvable math problem, and the adversarial court system is not only unnecessary for most families — it actively makes the math worse. Scott's wife co-mediates alongside him as a certified co-parenting specialist, giving their practice a rare dual capability: the financial architecture of the settlement and the emotional intelligence of the co-parenting relationship are handled together, in the same room, by the same team. Scott works with divorcing couples across the country — including high-conflict cases and situations involving narcissistic spouses — helping them find the creative, durable outcomes that courtrooms almost never deliver. 🔗Connect with SCOTT LEVIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandiegodivorcemediation Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChiefPeaceKeeper LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/levinscott/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sandiegodivorcemediation Website: https://sandiegofamilylawyer.net/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice cost of divorce, family law attorney, divorce mediation, divorce mediator, peaceful divorce, divorcing a narcissist, high conflict divorce, divorce financial planning, divorce settlement, divorce advice, healing after divorce, divorce tips for women, how to get divorced, divorce lawyer vs mediator, mediation vs litigation, how to save money in divorce, co parenting, co-parenting after divorce, property division divorce, divorce attorney fees, hidden assets in divorce, asset division in divorce, CDFA, certified divorce financial analyst, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Scott Levin, Chief Peacekeeper, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  2. 4 GÜN ÖNCE

    Sell Your Home in Divorce: Amy Slate "The Breakup Broker" on Marital Home Mistakes, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    The house isn't just brick and mortar. It's 20 years of Christmases, your kids' height marks on the door frame, and the biggest financial asset you own. And in a divorce, it's also the decision that can quietly define the next two decades of your financial life — if you let fear, urgency, or the wrong realtor rush you into the wrong choice. Becky Sampson sits down with Amy Slate, realtor and creator of The Breakup Broker, to deliver the divorce real estate playbook every woman needs before she touches anything. A former educator with nearly two decades in the classroom who pivoted to a thriving nine-year real estate career — and then navigated her own divorce involving multiple properties across the country and internationally — Amy brings something no ordinary realtor can: she has lived the confusion, the pressure, and the emotional weight of this exact decision from the inside. Her specialty is helping women slow down when everything around them is screaming "decide now," and walk away from the process feeling informed, empowered, and in control of one of the biggest turning points of their lives. If you're staring at your house wondering whether to keep it, sell it, or fight for it — this is the conversation to have before you decide anything. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The 3-bucket framework that changes everything — Amy's signature approach to every divorce real estate conversation: Logistics (is this house near your kids' school, your work, your support system?), Finances (do the numbers actually work?), and Emotions (do you even want to stay here?) — and why skipping even one bucket leads women into decisions they regret Why "I know I have to sell" is almost never true — the most common assumption Amy hears from women who've been stay-at-home moms, and the conversation that changes their minds before they give up something they could have kept The emotional home trap — the difference between a woman who says "we've had every Christmas here for 20 years, I can't imagine leaving" and the woman who says "I want to burn it to the ground" — and why both deserve the same careful, numbers-first conversation before they commit The ambulance-chasing realtor problem — why "oh, you're getting divorced? Someone must need to sell a house" is not a divorce real estate strategy, and the very specific questions to ask any realtor before you trust them with this transaction What happens when your spouse refuses to cooperate on the sale — how court orders, motions, and judicial timelines can force an uncooperative spouse into the transaction, and why most women don't know this tool exists until it's too late The cookie-cutting approach to agent selection — why Amy always insists both spouses pick the realtor together (I'll cut it in half — but you pick which half), and how this single step removes one of the biggest sources of conflict in the entire sale process Whose name is on the deed — and why it matters more than you think — Amy's direct advice to every woman who is contributing to a home but hasn't secured her name on the legal paperwork Moving out of the marital home — does it cost you your share? — what the deed actually says versus what fear tells most women, and Amy's practical answer to one of the most anxiety-producing questions in divorce International and multi-property divorce — the added layer of complexity when the marital estate includes rental properties, investment properties, or real estate held across state lines or internationally, and how Amy navigated this in her own case Panic selling vs. strategic timing — why the impulse to "just get it done" during the emotional chaos of divorce is one of the most expensive instincts a woman can follow, and how Amy helps clients find the window between rushing and waiting too long The shoulder-drop moment — what Amy says happens on almost every consultation call when a woman who has been drowning in lingo, numbers, and pressure finally gets someone to calmly walk her through it — and why that exhale is the beginning of every good decision 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amy Slate: Amy Slate is a realtor and the creator of The Breakup Broker, a platform and practice dedicated to helping women navigate buying or selling a home during or after divorce — when emotions are high, the stakes are deeply personal, and the decisions being made will echo for decades. A former educator with nearly 20 years in the classroom and at the university level, Amy brought her core belief in education and empowerment into a nine-year real estate career built on listening first and selling second. When her own unexpected divorce forced her to navigate multiple properties across the country and internationally while simultaneously helping her clients through the same process, she recognized the gap: women going through divorce desperately needed a neutral, knowledgeable resource who could walk them through the real estate piece without rushing them toward a transaction. The Breakup Broker was built to be that resource. Amy is also pursuing a real estate mediation designation to deepen her ability to serve as a neutral communicator between divorcing spouses — because the house doesn't just need to be sold; both parties need to feel heard in the process. 🔗Connect with AMY SLATE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamyslate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theamyslate LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyslate/ Website: https://thebreakupbroker.com/ 🎧 About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice sell your home, selling a house, selling your home, marital home divorce, divorce real estate, divorce financial planning, keeping house in divorce, sell house in divorce, home equity divorce, property division divorce, home selling tips, divorce advice, healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, divorce tips, first time home buyer, first time home buyer after divorce, real estate tips, divorce settlement, financial planning for women, divorce support for women, divorce over 50, midlife reinvention, divorcing a narcissist, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce attorney, family law, Amy Slate, The Breakup Broker, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  3. 14 MAY

    Family Court Is Broken: Former Divorce Lawyer Amanda Mason on Attorney Red Flags, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    What if the system designed to resolve your divorce is actually the thing making it worse? And what if your own attorney — no matter how good they are — is hardwired by that system to turn your family into a battlefield? Becky Sampson sits down with Amanda Mason, former family court litigator and co-founder of Solagree, to deliver one of the most honest conversations about the divorce legal system you will ever hear from someone who spent years thriving inside it. Amanda graduated from the University of Arizona College of Law in 2003, built a career as a divorce litigator fighting hard and winning cases — and then watched, case after case, as her clients walked out of court victorious and completely destroyed. Six years ago, she did something almost unheard of in her profession: she stopped. She stepped back, studied every alternative to the adversarial model, and built something entirely new. Solagree is a nationwide non-adversarial divorce model — a three-phase process designed to resolve even the most complex family conflicts with integrity, clarity, and dramatically less collateral damage. Amanda still practices traditional litigation. She knows both worlds. And what she has to say about the one most women are currently in will change how you look at every decision in your divorce process. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why winning in family court doesn't mean winning — the case Amanda couldn't shake, where her client walked out victorious and still lost everything that mattered, and the moment she realized the adversarial system is structurally incapable of protecting families How the family court system is broken by design — not because judges and attorneys are bad people, but because an overworked government bureaucracy processing people on their absolute worst day produces predictable, devastating results The litigator brain problem — why even the most compassionate divorce attorney is hardwired by litigation training to get into "somebody versus somebody, I have to win" mode, and what that does to your family's chances of a reasonable outcome How your attorney can make your divorce more expensive without meaning to — the dynamic where opposing counsel fight each other more than they fight for you, and Amanda's account of couples who walked away after a high-conflict court battle saying "that was completely unnecessary" The two biggest threats in any divorce negotiation — and why as long as either party can blow up the process and run to court, everyone stays in fight-or-flight mode and rational decisions become almost impossible What Solagree does differently — a three-phase non-adversarial process that removes the courtroom threat, brings in a neutral guide, and gives attorneys a way to practice family law that is better for their clients, better for their mental health, and better for the profession Why Amanda created Solagree as a gift to other attorneys — the mental health strain, the substance abuse, the burnout, and even the suicides that have plagued family law litigators — and why giving good people a better process was as important to her as helping the families The obstructionist attorney problem — when opposing counsel adopts their client's emotional position instead of giving objective legal advice, and how to spot the difference between an attorney fighting FOR you versus an attorney fighting because of you Amanda's personal divorce experience — a practicing attorney who went through her own 21-hearing, three-and-a-half-year court battle, representing herself for most of it, and what she learned about the difference between advocating and fighting Becky's own family court journey — a rare personal disclosure about her own 21 hearings, and why both women agree that the adversarial system is the last place families should be resolving conflict How to choose your divorce path wisely — what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for in a prospective attorney, and when the non-adversarial model is the right choice — even in high-conflict situations 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amanda Mason: Amanda Mason is a co-founder and CEO of Solagree, a nationwide non-adversarial divorce resolution model that gives families a way to resolve conflict with integrity, clarity, and far less collateral damage than the traditional court system. A graduate of the University of Arizona College of Law (2003), Amanda spent years as a highly effective family court litigator — winning cases and watching families lose anyway. That contradiction drove her to study every alternative dispute resolution method available, identify what was working, identify the gaps, and design something new from the ground up. Solagree is that design — a three-phase process that removes the courtroom threat, reduces fight-or-flight dynamics, and allows both attorneys and clients to bring their best selves to one of the hardest moments of their lives. Amanda also remains a partner at Mason, Mason & Smith, giving her a rare and credible dual perspective: she knows exactly what the old system costs families, and she knows exactly what's possible beyond it. 🔗Connect with AMANDA MASON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61569505738659 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-mason-0333746/ Website: https://www.solagree.com/ Website: https://www.masonmasonlaw.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice family court, family court system, divorce lawyer, divorce attorney, divorce advice, divorce process, healing after divorce, how to get a divorce, divorce tips, child custody, alimony, high conflict divorce, divorce settlement, family law attorney, getting divorced, divorce mediation, collaborative divorce, adversarial divorce, non adversarial divorce, divorce reform, divorce attorney red flags, obstructionist attorney, divorcing a narcissist, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Solagree, Amanda Mason, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  4. 12 MAY

    First Time Home Buyer After Divorce: Chris Henwood on Divorce Financial Planning, Mortgage Mistakes & Healing After Divorce

    Divorce isn't just an emotional crisis. It's one of the most dangerous financial moments of your life — and the mortgage decisions you make during it can follow you for the next 10 years. Becky Sampson sits down with Chris Henwood, Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and mortgage banker at North Point Bank, to deliver the home and mortgage playbook every woman needs before she signs anything. With a career that spans 22 years as an energy futures trader on Wall Street, on-air financial expert at Reuters, practicing attorney in both securities and real estate law, and now a licensed mortgage banker in all 50 states and Washington DC — Chris brings a depth of financial and legal insight that no ordinary lender can match. His specialty: helping women in divorce slow down, ask better questions, and avoid the housing mistakes that quietly derail a fresh start before it even begins. If you're wondering whether to keep the house, sell it, refinance it, or start over — this episode is the conversation you need to have before you make that call. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The mortgage decisions that follow you for 10 years — why housing choices made during the emotional chaos of divorce create decade-long financial consequences, and how to stop the clock before you sign anything Keeping the house vs. selling it — the financial calculus Chris uses to help clients make clear-headed decisions when they are standing on what he calls "emotional quicksand," and why "I'm not leaving my house" can become the most expensive sentence you ever say Qualifying on paper vs. being comfortable with the payment — why your lender saying "you can afford it" is not the same as "you should keep it," and the conversation Chris has with every client before they commit Becky's own foreclosure story — how stubbornness about the marital home almost cost her everything, and what she wishes she had known about slowing down before digging in Buying out your spouse: when it works and when it doesn't — the numbers-first framework Chris walks every client through, and when the honest answer is "sell and start fresh" Why Chris regularly talks himself out of business — and why that's the single clearest sign that the professional advising you actually has your best interests at heart The emotional home trap — why the house you're fighting to keep in court can quietly become the financial anchor that drags your fresh start underwater What a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) does that a regular mortgage banker can't — and why Chris argues every divorce team needs one, alongside your attorney, financial planner, and coach First time home buyer after divorce — what women who've never handled the mortgage, the finances, or the purchase process solo need to know before they sign a single document One step at a time — Chris's philosophy for navigating the biggest financial decision of your life during the most emotionally charged moment of your life, and why this approach is the difference between surviving divorce and rebuilding strong 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Chris Henwood: Chris Henwood is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and mortgage banker at North Point Bank, licensed in all 50 states and Washington DC. His career spans 22 years as an energy futures trader on Wall Street, a tenure as on-air financial expert at Reuters News Service, and a law degree earned at night while trading by day — leading him to practice securities and real estate law before making a deliberate pivot into mortgage banking. Chris works specifically with people navigating divorce who are being asked to make the biggest financial decisions of their lives during one of the most emotionally destabilizing seasons imaginable. His philosophy — listen first, explain clearly, never assume one-size-fits-all — has made him a trusted partner for family law attorneys, financial planners, and divorce coaches across the country who know their clients need a steady, honest voice in all the noise. Connect with CHRIS HENWOOD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_henwood_edge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CJHenwoodMLO X: https://x.com/HenwoodEDGE YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HenwoodEDGE Website: https://www.northpointe.com/chris-henwood About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceFinance first time home buyer, first time home buyer after divorce, divorce financial planning, mortgage mistakes in divorce, healing after divorce, divorce advice, home buying after divorce, buying a house after divorce, keeping house in divorce, selling house in divorce, refinancing after divorce, foreclosure divorce, certified divorce lending professional, CDLP, divorce mortgage, divorce settlement, property division, financial planning for women, divorce over 50, women and money, high conflict divorce, divorcing a narcissist, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Chris Henwood, North Point Bank, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  5. 7 MAY

    Coercive Control & Emotional Abuse Recovery: Erin Snow on High-Conflict Divorce, Being Heard & Healing After Divorce

    If you keep leaving conversations with your spouse feeling spun, blamed, and breathless — like you've said everything and been heard by no one — this episode is going to change something inside you. Becky Sampson sits down with Erin Snow, Transformative Listening Strategist, legal advocate, and founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge, to reveal the one thing most high-conflict divorce survivors are missing: not better arguments, not smarter legal strategy — but the experience of being truly heard. With 16+ years as a frontline legal advocate for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking — and as the first paralegal in New Hampshire to represent her own clients directly in family court — Erin has built her life's work around a radical idea: being heard isn't a luxury. It's a turning point. If emotional abuse, coercive control, or a high-conflict marriage has left you guarded, raw, or shut down — this episode is a deep exhale. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why you feel unheard even when you're talking — the difference between someone listening at you versus listening for you, and what that gap costs you in high-conflict divorce The "how do you want me to listen?" question — Erin's signature approach that immediately shifts the power dynamic in any professional relationship, and the red flag to watch for when the professional doesn't ask it What coercive control does to your voice — how years of emotional abuse and gaslighting train you to stop telling the full truth because it feels like no one can hold it The physical experience of being heard — what changes in your body, your decisions, and your relationships when you finally feel safe enough to say everything out loud without performing strength Sea Coast Listening Lounge — Erin's confidential, non-clinical sanctuary where women in divorce can let it out, sort it out, and reclaim their narrative without judgment, without fixing, and without being told what to do Erin's personal story — a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who resisted letting her trauma become her calling, and the moment she realized her wound was actually her superpower The "buffet" approach to legal support — why the best attorneys, mediators, and advocates show you all the options and trust you to choose, not dictate your path — and why "my way or the highway" is a red flag worth walking away from How the justice system fails domestic violence survivors — case reviews that happen too late, listeners who weren't listening, and the systemic communication breakdown Erin has spent 16 years trying to fix How to interview a professional and know it's a right fit — the one conversation that reveals whether your attorney, coach, or mediator will fight with you or just fight for their own agenda Why "be patient, it's a process" is not dismissal — it's permission — Becky's reminder that grieving divorce takes longer than the world around you will give you credit for, and why that's okay 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Erin Snow: Erin Snow is a Transformative Listening Strategist and the founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge — a safe, confidential, non-clinical space where women navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and life transitions can be truly heard without judgment, without being fixed, and without performing strength. A survivor herself, Erin spent 16+ years on the frontlines of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking advocacy in New Hampshire — working her way from paralegal to Director of the Domestic Violence Project at a legal aid organization, and ultimately becoming the first paralegal in the state of New Hampshire authorized to represent her own clients directly in family court. Her lived experience and legal expertise converge in a singular mission: to ensure that no woman going through one of the hardest moments of her life has to face it feeling unheard. Connect with ERIN SNOW Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seacoastlisteninglounge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seacoastlisteninglounge YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@seacoastlisteninglounge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-snow-237998334/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #EmotionalAbuse coercive control, emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, emotional abuse in marriage, divorce support for women, being heard in divorce, listening boundaries, domestic violence advocacy, legal advocate, divorce communication, setting boundaries in divorce, trauma recovery, coercive control divorce, gaslighting in divorce, divorce coach, family law, child custody, abuse survivor, divorcing a narcissist, safe space for survivors, divorce podcast, midlife reinvention, Erin Snow, Sea Coast Listening Lounge Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  6. 5 MAY

    Credit Repair in Divorce: Fair Credit Attorney Jim Smith on Financial Abuse, Credit Report Errors & Healing After Divorce

    If your stomach drops every time you check your credit score because you don't trust what your spouse is doing behind closed doors — this episode could save you years of financial pain. Becky Sampson sits down with Jim Smith, partner and co-founder of Fair Credit Attorneys, to deliver the credit protection playbook every woman needs before, during, and after divorce. With 20 years of experience holding credit bureaus, banks, and debt collectors accountable — and 14 years litigating nationwide consumer class actions — Jim has seen every way a high-conflict or financially abusive ex can wreck your credit report without you ever knowing. And more importantly, he knows exactly how to stop it, reverse it, and protect your fresh start. That application denial you're dreading — for housing, a car loan, or a new lease — doesn't have to be your story. But only if you know what to look for right now. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The first thing to do the moment divorce becomes a possibility — pull all three credit reports (Equifax, Experian, TransUnion) from annualcreditreport.com and establish a baseline before your ex has any reason to act strategically Joint accounts vs. authorized user accounts — the critical legal distinction that determines whether your ex's financial behavior will haunt YOUR credit report for years, and what to do about each one during the divorce proceeding The 22-year student loan bomb: a real case where a divorce decree assigned debt to a wife — but the ex-husband's credit was still destroyed two decades later because the creditor never cared what the court said Why a divorce decree does NOT protect your credit — creditors go back to the original signed agreement, not your court order, and why ignoring this gap can cost you enormously How to remove yourself as an authorized user — and why you cannot do it yourself; it must be negotiated into the divorce settlement before the decree is signed The free credit review Jim's firm offers — a no-hard-inquiry, item-by-item credit report analysis specifically designed for people in divorce, at zero cost Credit report errors under the Fair Credit Reporting Act — what triggers a legitimate dispute, when the credit bureaus fail their investigation duty, and when it's time to bring a lawsuit to force the correction The real-world consequences of damaged credit in divorce — blocked housing applications, employment background check failures, inability to get transportation — and how credit sabotage becomes another tool of financial abuse in high-conflict marriages When to look at your credit a second time — at the end of the divorce — to catch any last-minute authorized user accounts or joint liabilities that slipped through How Jim collaborates with family law attorneys and financial professionals to close the gap between the legal decree and the actual credit file — so your fresh start isn't sabotaged before it even begins 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Jim Smith: Jim Smith is a partner and co-founder of Fair Credit Attorneys, a nationally recognized consumer protection law firm dedicated to correcting credit reporting errors and pursuing real relief when those errors cause real-life harm. With 20 years of experience holding credit reporting agencies, banks, and debt collectors accountable — including 14 years litigating consumer class actions nationwide — Jim found his calling in the Fair Credit Reporting Act: a legal framework where he could fight for people who had done nothing wrong but were being penalized anyway. Since launching Fair Credit Attorneys in 2019, Jim has made it a priority to collaborate with family law attorneys and financial planners, specifically when divorce, identity theft, and credit damage intersect — ensuring his clients are never blocked from housing, employment, or the clean financial start they deserve. Connect with JIM SMITH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fair.creditattorneys Facebook: ​​https://www.facebook.com/faircreditattorney/followers  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-smith-722366135/ Website: https://faircreditattorneys.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: ****https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #FinancialAbuse credit repair, credit repair after divorce, financial abuse in divorce, healing after divorce, credit report errors, divorce financial planning, credit score divorce, identity theft protection, joint accounts divorce, authorized user divorce, fair credit reporting act, divorce settlement, financial infidelity, credit monitoring, credit sabotage, high conflict divorce, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorcing a narcissist, protecting credit in divorce, consumer protection attorney, credit bureaus, Equifax Experian TransUnion, divorce advice for women, midlife reinvention, divorce support for women, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    38 dk.

  7. 30 NIS

    Life After Divorce: Divorce Coach Justin Milrad on Divorce Recovery, Rebuilding After Divorce & Healing After Divorce

    If you've survived the paperwork but you still feel like you're disappearing — like the marriage ended, but so did the version of you that knew who she was — this episode is your turning point. Becky Sampson sits down with Justin Milrad, Certified Divorce Coach, author of YOU 2.0: Divorce a Better Way Forward, and founder of Reclaim and Reboot, to deliver the blueprint for not just surviving divorce — but designing the most intentional, powerful version of your life on the other side. A father of three who lived through a seven-figure, 8-day jury trial divorce he describes as "11 out of 10 terrible," Justin knows the terrain from both sides of the table. And what he built from the wreckage is exactly what he's sharing with you today. This is not a conversation about getting through divorce. This is a roadmap for growing through it — and coming out clearer, stronger, and more aligned than before. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The YOU 2.0 model — why trying to go back to life "as it was before" is the single biggest trap in divorce recovery, and how to design the next version of yourself with intention at 9, 12, and 18 months out The sobering financial reality — women are 41% worse off financially after divorce, men are 27% worse off — and the specific mediation prep steps that protect you before you sign anything Why Justin spent 7 figures on a divorce that started amicably — and the single decision he made that he believes triggered the entire collapse The 8-week shift from victim to survivor — what Justin's fiancée learned from her divorce coach that took her from stuck to thriving, and why it became his life mission Radical acceptance in divorce — the apology you're waiting for is never coming, and why accepting that truth is the fastest path to reclaiming your power Co-parenting done right — why Justin calls being a parent "the greatest job on earth" and how he and his ex went from an 8-day courtroom war to what he describes as an A+ co-parenting relationship The divorce team blueprint — attorney, divorce coach, therapist, financial planner, and subpoena experts — who does what, why you need all of them, and why calling your attorney first is one of the most expensive mistakes you can make The 4-hour co-parenting class Justin wished had been the first thing his attorney gave him — and what he now does with every single client before anything else The mediation blind spots most attorneys miss — college costs, car insurance for the kids, braces, extracurriculars — and how a divorce coach fills that gap without the hourly rate of a lawyer Hope from the other side — Justin is engaged. Becky is happily married. Life after divorce is not just possible. It's waiting for you. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Justin Milrad: Justin Milrad is a Certified Divorce Coach, serial entrepreneur, author of YOU 2.0: Divorce a Better Way Forward, and founder of Reclaim and Reboot. A father of three with an MBA and a background in financial planning, Justin brings a rare dual lens to divorce coaching — blending the practical (budgets, mediation prep, team building) with the deeply personal (radical acceptance, identity rebuilding, co-parenting). After living through one of the most contentious divorces imaginable and discovering the life-changing impact of divorce coaching through his now-fiancée, he made it his mission to ensure no one navigates this terrain alone — or unprepared. Connect with JUSTIN MILRAD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reclaimandreboot.me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReclaimAndReboot LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinmilrad/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ReclaimAndReboot Website: https://reclaimandreboot.me/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceRecovery life after divorce, divorce recovery, divorce coach, rebuilding after divorce, healing after divorce, divorce financial planning, co-parenting after divorce, divorce mindset, radical acceptance, divorce support for women, identity after divorce, narcissistic abuse recovery, high conflict divorce, divorcing a narcissist, midlife reinvention, women and divorce, divorce team, mediation preparation, YOU 2.0, Reclaim and Reboot, Justin Milrad, divorce podcast, emotional recovery divorce, personal growth after divorce, surviving divorce Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    36 dk.

  8. 28 NIS

    Divorce Financial Planning & Real Estate: CDFA Melissa Murphy Pavone on the Marital Home, Divorce Settlement & Healing After Divorce

    If you've been white-knuckling your way through divorce because you're convinced keeping the house is the only thing holding your life together — stop. Before you sign anything, before you tell your attorney, "I want the house," you need to hear this episode. Becky Sampson sits down with Melissa Murphy Pavone, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and Certified Financial Planner (CFP), founder of Mindful Financial Partners, to break down the real numbers, the hidden costs, and the financial decisions that will define your life long after the divorce decree is signed. With 18 years of financial guidance and a decade specializing in divorce financial planning, Melissa is the calm, clear voice women need when the math feels terrifying and the emotions feel louder. This is not just about the house. This is about your financial future — and how to protect it. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The three-pronged divorce team — emotional support, financial support, and legal support — and why calling your attorney first is one of the most expensive mistakes you can make The Golden Handcuffs problem: why those COVID-era 2.5–3% interest rates are driving some of the most emotionally charged (and financially dangerous) house decisions women make in divorce The marital home decision tree — all three paths: sell and split, one spouse buys out the other, or "nesting" — and the real-world math behind each option Capital gains tax and home improvements — the questions your financial advisor must ask before your divorce settlement is finalized (and why most people get annoyed when asked) The five financial clarity pillars you must know before negotiating: what you own, what you owe, what you earn, what you spend, and your credit score Why "I'm keeping the house no matter what" is the most dangerous sentence in a divorce — and how to pressure-test that decision with real what-if financial scenarios How to look at every financial decision through the lens of your children — a reframe that removes the resentment and brings clarity to even the hardest choices Why Melissa — a New York State licensed mediator — refuses to do a full mediation alone, and what that integrity tells you about who you want on your team Melissa's upcoming book on designing your divorce team — and the blueprint she uses to keep professionals in their lanes so you don't blow your budget 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Melissa Murphy Pavone: Melissa Murphy Pavone is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Certified Financial Planner (CFP), and New York State-licensed mediator. She is the founder of Mindful Financial Partners, where she brings 18+ years of financial guidance to individuals navigating the emotional and financial complexity of divorce. A child of divorce herself, Melissa is driven by a deeply personal mission: to ensure the women she works with make financial decisions with both their heart and their head — so their futures remain protected. She has been specializing in divorce financial planning since 2015. Connect with MELISSA MURPHY PAVONE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissampavone/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.murphy.108889 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissamurphypavone/ Website: https://mindfulfinancialpartners.com/ Website: https://mindfuldivorcepartners.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceFinancialPlanning divorce financial planning, healing after divorce, divorce settlement, divorce and real estate, certified divorce financial analyst, CDFA, marital home in divorce, keeping the house in divorce, divorce over 50, financial planning for women, divorce team, divorce mediation, divorce attorney, co-parenting after divorce, capital gains and divorce, divorce retirement accounts, financial infidelity, women and money, rebuilding after divorce, midlife reinvention, divorce support for women, divorce podcast, mindful financial partners, divorce financial advisor Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

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