Real World Peaceful Parenting

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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

  1. 267: The Real Reason Your Kid Won’t Calm Down

    5 DAYS AGO

    267: The Real Reason Your Kid Won’t Calm Down

    Last week, Lisa introduced co-regulation. This week, she goes deeper. In this episode, Lisa explains the neuroscience behind why co-regulation works and what is actually happening inside your kid’s nervous system when you stay calm during their meltdown. From “borrowed calm” to repair to attunement, you’ll learn how your regulated presence literally builds your kid’s brain. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid’s meltdowns seem to spiral no matter what you say or do, this episode will change how you see regulation forever. What You'll Learn: What “borrowed calm” is and how your kid’s nervous system syncs with yours during emotional stormsWhy regulation is social before it becomes internal, and how kids learn self-regulation through safe relationshipsHow repair after you lose your cool actually strengthens emotional development, not weakens itWhat attunement means and how it builds emotional intelligence without lectures or long conversationsWhy safety increases better behavior, and how regulation creates the conditions for growthHow to reframe meltdowns as brain-building opportunities instead of parenting failures

    21 min
  2. 266: Why Saying ‘Calm Down’ Backfires (And What Your Child Actually Needs)

    11 FEB

    266: Why Saying ‘Calm Down’ Backfires (And What Your Child Actually Needs)

    Have you ever been told that your child should be able to calm themselves down by now? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith breaks down why that belief is not only unhelpful, but completely opposite of how the human brain develops. Lisa explains the science of co-regulation, why kids cannot learn emotional regulation in isolation, and how your calm presence becomes the foundation for your child’s future self-control. Through real-life stories, practical examples, and reassurance for exhausted parents, this episode shows you how to support big emotions without giving in, losing boundaries, or burning yourself out. This is a must-listen if you know what to say but still lose it when emotions run high. What You'll Learn: Why self-regulation does not come first and what must come before itWhat co-regulation really is and why it is not permissive parentingHow your nervous system directly affects your child’s ability to calm downWhat co-regulation looks like at different ages, from toddlers to teensHow to hold firm boundaries while still supporting big emotionsA simple daily practice to start building your child’s emotional regulation skills this week

    27 min
  3. 265: Not Every Hill Is Worth Dying On: How to Choose the Parenting Battles That Matter

    4 FEB

    265: Not Every Hill Is Worth Dying On: How to Choose the Parenting Battles That Matter

    If you feel exhausted from constant power struggles and unsure whether you’re being too strict or too permissive, this episode is for you. Lisa shares a simple, practical framework to help you decide which battles are worth fighting and which ones you can let go without guilt. You’ll learn how to stop wasting energy on small things, hold firm on what truly matters, and protect your connection with your kid while still being a confident leader. What You'll Learn: Why fighting every battle leads to burnout and weakens connectionThe 6-question framework to decide which boundaries really matterHow safety and family values should guide your parenting decisionsWhen letting something go is wisdom, not permissivenessHow developmental stages should shape your expectationsHow choosing the right battles creates calmer kids and a stronger relationship

    27 min
  4. 264: The One Boundary Mistake That Creates More Meltdowns (Stop Saying “We’ll See”)

    28 JAN

    264: The One Boundary Mistake That Creates More Meltdowns (Stop Saying “We’ll See”)

    If you feel stuck in constant negotiations, repeated asking, or daily power struggles, this episode is for you. Lisa breaks down the most common boundary mistake parents make without realizing it and explains why vague, flexible, or mood-based limits actually create more testing and meltdowns. You’ll learn why kids need clarity to feel safe and exactly how to shift from “we’ll see” to calm, clear boundaries that reduce conflict and build trust. What You'll Learn: Why vague boundaries like “maybe” or “we’ll see” increase testing instead of reducing itHow unclear limits dysregulate your child’s nervous system and create power strugglesThe difference between being flexible and being unclear with boundariesAge-appropriate examples of clear boundaries for toddlers, kids, tweens, and teensSimple language to replace vague limits with calm, confident clarityA practical framework to decide, state, and follow through on boundaries consistently

    26 min
  5. 263: When Your No Leads to Their Meltdown: Language That Works

    21 JAN

    263: When Your No Leads to Their Meltdown: Language That Works

    In this final episode of Lisa Smith’s January Boundary Series, Lisa gives parents the exact words to use when kids push back, melt down, or argue against limits. Instead of freezing, snapping, or feeling like the “bad guy,” you’ll learn how to hold firm boundaries while staying deeply connected. Through real-life examples, age-specific scripts, and the powerful “I know… and…” formula, Lisa shows how to be both kind and clear, without giving in or blowing up. What You'll Learn: Why the problem isn’t setting boundaries, but how they’re deliveredThe simple “I know… and…” formula that helps kids feel seen while limits stay firmExact scripts to use for common struggles like screen time, bedtime, snacks, homework, and leaving the parkHow to respond when kids keep pushing back, negotiating, or comparing you to other parentsWhat to say during full meltdowns while staying calm and connectedHow to repair when you lose your cool and turn mistakes into moments of trust and safety

    26 min
  6. 262: Why Your Child Saves Their Worst Behavior for You

    14 JAN

    262: Why Your Child Saves Their Worst Behavior for You

    Have you ever wondered why your child is cooperative, polite, and regulated everywhere else but completely falls apart with you? In this episode, Lisa Smith breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind why kids save their hardest moments for their safest person. You’ll learn why this behavior is not a sign of failure, but a powerful indicator of secure attachment. Lisa shares real-life stories, research-backed insights, and a practical framework to help you respond to after-school meltdowns, boundary testing, and emotional explosions with clarity, confidence, and connection. What You'll Learn: Why children often “hold it together” all day and fall apart at homeHow your child’s nervous system shifts from performance mode to safe modeWhy testing boundaries is often a sign of trust, not disrespectThe four core questions your child is asking when they melt down or push backHow to reframe challenging behavior so you stop taking it personallyA step-by-step framework to respond with connection while still holding firm boundaries

    24 min
  7. 261: The Most Important Parenting Skill No One Teaches You: How to Repair After You Lose It (And Restore Connection)

    7 JAN

    261: The Most Important Parenting Skill No One Teaches You: How to Repair After You Lose It (And Restore Connection)

    If you’re starting the new year carrying guilt about how you showed up during the holidays, this episode is for you. In this powerful and practical conversation, parent coach Lisa Smith breaks down why repair, not perfection, is the key to peaceful parenting. You’ll learn why common apologies often miss the mark, how effective repair actually strengthens your relationship with your child, and a simple four-step framework you can use anytime you lose your cool. Through personal stories, neuroscience, and real-life examples, Lisa shows you how to repair without shame, overexplaining, or making things worse, and how these moments can become some of the most meaningful in your child’s life. What You'll Learn: Why repairing after you yell is more important than never yelling at all.The three most common repair mistakes parents make and why they don’t work.How to repair in under 60 seconds without guilt, excuses, or overexplaining.The four essential steps to effective repair that actually restore connection.How repair helps regulate your child’s nervous system and build secure attachment.Why consistent repair breaks the shame cycle and helps you become a calmer parent over time.

    21 min
  8. 260: Why Your Child CAN'T Listen (Even When They Want To)

    31/12/2025

    260: Why Your Child CAN'T Listen (Even When They Want To)

    This episode is part of our December Calm & Connection Toolkit - four of our most downloaded episodes designed to help you find peace through the holiday chaos. Whether you’re brand new to this podcast or revisiting these essential tools, this series will help you understand your nervous system, your triggers, and your child’s developing brain during one of the most stressful times of the year. In this eye-opening episode, Lisa Smith shares a powerful story from her own parenting journey that transformed how she understood children’s behavior. Discover why your child’s dysregulation isn’t defiance but a result of their brain being overwhelmed. Lisa breaks down the science of dysregulation across different ages, explains the key signs to watch for, and provides actionable steps to move from chaos to connection. Whether your toddler is melting down or your teenager is slamming doors, this episode will give you the tools to handle these moments with compassion and confidence. What You'll Learn: Why dysregulation isn’t about defiance but your child’s brain being overwhelmed.How to recognize the early signs of dysregulation in toddlers, school-aged kids, and teenagers.The critical difference between correcting behavior and connecting with your child.Why traditional discipline methods often fail in moments of dysregulation.Two key steps to transform your reactions: noticing patterns and tracking your responses.How to begin helping your child regulate their emotions for better cooperation and trust.

    20 min
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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  • Creator
    Lisa Smith
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    269
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Real World Peaceful Parenting
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