Getting Close

Aidan Wharton
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Getting Close is an intimate exploration of how we connect, love, and build relationships in the modern world. Each week, host Aidan Wharton sits down with culture-shaping voices to give you practical insights from honest conversations about relationships, Queerness, sex, connection, and community. gettingclosepod.substack.com

  1. 3 Lessons To Make You Happier with JP Brammer

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    3 Lessons To Make You Happier with JP Brammer

    If you’re tired of all the noise and want three simple tips to find a little more happiness, this is the episode for you. Today, you and I are sitting down with JP Brammer as he reveals three lessons that are making him genuinely happier right now. We learn how to ask for what you need, why you need to wash your thoughts like dishes, why you might feel lonely in a group of gays, the corrosive effects of comfort, and how to really trust what’s best for you. John Paul Brammer is an award-winning writer and artist from Lawton, Oklahoma, currently based in Brooklyn. His memoir-in-essays, ¡Hola Papi!, was published in 2021, and is based on his popular advice column of the same name. His bylines include The New Yorker, The New York times, The Washington Post, and The Los Angeles Times. He is working on his second and third books. We explore: * Why hell is the Fire Island house next door * How a 1700s Swedish mystic can grant you a day pass to heaven * How Buzzfeed personality quizzes created a generation of anxiety * Why the Spotify CEO considers silence his biggest competitor and what that means for your brain * The one piece of advice every gay person needs Links * John Paul Brammer on Instagram * John Paul Brammer on Substack * Splash Blanket Waterproof Blanket * Aidan Wharton on Instagram * Getting Close on Instagram Chapters (00:00) Introduction to Connection and Happiness (03:07) Navigating Advice and Autonomy (06:02) The Journey of an Advice Giver (08:50) Lessons from Vulnerable Communities (11:59) Embracing Your Authentic Self (14:55) The Importance of Asking (18:06) The Role of Spirituality in Connection (20:57) Communities and Personal Growth (27:45) The Complexity of Community and Loneliness (28:42) The Quality of Thoughts and Mental Hygiene (30:39) Influence of Social Media on Thought Patterns (33:31) The Value of Silence and Stillness (36:25) Cruelty and Its Cost on Mental Health (38:46) Trusting Your Intuition and Recognizing Discomfort (41:32) The Illusion of Comfort and Its Consequences (43:31) Navigating Discomfort in Relationships (45:52) Advice for Future Self and Creative Projects (52:36) Community Connections and Personal Growth This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    56 min
  2. Bi Sex Columnist: How Rejection Leads to Sexual Shame

    28. 4.

    Bi Sex Columnist: How Rejection Leads to Sexual Shame

    If you’re tired of missing out on opportunities for fear of rejection, this episode is for you. Today, you and I are sitting down with Zachary Zane to discuss how rejection rules our lives and ends up turning into shame. We get into so much juicy stuff like how rejection lives in the body, the nuances of bisexuality, how to overcome shame and embrace your kinky side, the lessons Zach has learned from the vast amounts of sex he’s had. Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based sex columnist and author whose work centers on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He is also editor-in-chief of the BOYSLUT zine, and his writing has been featured in Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, and more. We unpack: * How to take rejection like a pro and keep moving * How to navigate sexual shame to become a bit more liberated * Why being specific about your kinks on the apps actually gets you rejected less * How to navigate bottom stigma in the gay community * Why you should practice your rejections in the mirror Links * Boy Slut by Zachary Zane * Zachary Zane on Instagram * Boy Slut on Substack * Splash Blanket Waterproof Blanket * Aidan on Instagram * Getting Close on Instagram Chapters (00:00) Understanding Rejection and Shame (04:09) Navigating Personal Experiences of Rejection (10:03) The Impact of Rejection on Relationships (13:45) The Role of Kindness in Rejection (20:11) Exploring Bisexuality and Rejection (26:02) Attraction vs. Behavior in Sexual Identity (27:25) The Journey of Oversharing (31:01) Navigating Shame and Vulnerability (35:30) Building Community and Connection (39:12) Challenging Stigmas in the Gay Community (44:25) Exploring Bisexual Representation (47:26) Curiosity and Connection in Literature This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    55 min
  3. Gay Political Strategist: How to Talk Politics At Brunch

    21. 4.

    Gay Political Strategist: How to Talk Politics At Brunch

    If you’ve turned off the news and feel guilty about it, this episode’s for you. In today’s episode, you and I are getting close with Brian Derrick. We discuss the complexities of political engagement, why we’re all politically burnt out, why liberals keep losing, and how to turn politics from a hobby to an actionable lifestyle. Brian Derrick is a political strategist, activist, and Founder and CEO of Oath – a civic tech platform transforming political giving. He has consulted on campaigns from city council to president – most notably for Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY) and Marti Gould Cummings (NYC City Council). Derrick is also a leader in the nonprofit sector. In this episode, we explore: * Why you need to fight with your friends * When it’s okay to stop injesting the news. * Why your state senate donation matters more than your presidential one * How to tell if you’ve turned politics into a hobby * The real reason liberals keep losing. Before You Go * Please subscribe, rate, and review the show! * And share it with someone who you think might enjoy it. That’s the best way you can help us grow! Links! Follow Brian: https://www.instagram.com/brianderrick_ Check Out Oath: https://app.oath.vote/ Follow Aidan: https://www.instagram.com/aidanwharton Follow Getting Close: https://www.instagram.com/gettingclosepod Follow on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@gettingclosepod Chapters (00:00) Introduction to Political Engagement (02:17) Understanding Political Burnout (06:03) The Role of Data in Politics (10:16) Taking Action Beyond Knowledge (14:10) Navigating News Consumption (19:54) Long-Term Political Planning (24:32) Building Coalitions Through Disagreement (27:23) Navigating Difficult Conversations (30:21) The Importance of Engaging in Disagreements (33:42) Deciding to Win: Taking Action in Politics (37:04) Leveraging Resources for Political Change (41:21) Finding Hope in Local Elections (45:36) Cultivating Positivity in Political Discourse (47:05) The Role of Voting in Civic Duty (49:24) Curiosity and Connection in Community (52:40) Empowerment and Enacting Change This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    54 min
  4. Sexual Liberation Therapist (on Reconnecting with Your Body and Desire)

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    Sexual Liberation Therapist (on Reconnecting with Your Body and Desire)

    If you’re feeling overstimulated and disconnected, this episode’s for you. In it, we connect with Keanu Jackson, a sex therapist, to explore the complexities of desire, consent, and online sexuality in our modern world. Keanu Jackson is a Brooklyn, NY-based Sex Therapist, Content Creator, & Founder of Homebody Psychotherapy, a therapy practice that centers on supporting queer folks in building more nurturing relationships with their bodies. Keanu uses his experiences as a queer, Black man, sex worker, and survivor as a bridge to support others on their healing journeys. In this episode, we explore: * How to reconnect with your body through curiosity * Why sexual liberation might mean having less sex. * What you consent to by entering gay spaces. * How race impacts sexual dynamics and what we can do about it. * Keanu’s surprising recommendation for safer sex. Chapters (00:00) Introduction to Connection and Self-Discovery (01:52) The Impact of Personal Loss on Relationships (06:06) Exploring Sexuality and Identity in 2026 (08:50) Understanding Consent in Modern Culture (12:08) Navigating Boundaries and Personal Safety (14:59) The Intersection of Digital Presence and Sexuality (20:59) Racism and Its Impact on Sexual Identity (26:24) Navigating Sexual Spaces: Race and Entitlement (30:12) The Importance of Acknowledging Racial Dynamics (33:54) Unspoken Assumptions in Queer Spaces (36:46) Building Self-Security and Curiosity (41:10) Exploring Sexual Compatibility and Connection (47:29) Curiosity in Black Diasporic Sexual Practices (50:40) Creating Community and Connection Before You Go! * Please subscribe, rate, and review the show! * And share it with someone who you think might enjoy it. That’s the best way you can help us grow! Follow Along! Follow Keanu: https://www.instagram.com/homebodypsychotherapy Follow Aidan: https://www.instagram.com/aidanwharton Follow Getting Close: https://www.instagram.com/gettingclosepod Follow on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@gettingclosepod This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    52 min
  5. Poly-Kink Therapist: Have this Conversation & Forever Change How You Communicate

    7. 4.

    Poly-Kink Therapist: Have this Conversation & Forever Change How You Communicate

    Today’s episode will change how you communicate. How do I know? Because it changed how I did. In this episode, I sit down with Ruffus, affectionately known on socials as the Poly-Kink Therapist, to discuss communication, sexual agency, and the vital lessons we can learn from the kink community. If you’ve ever had scripts in your head that tell you what you can and can’t ask for, what is and is not allowed, get ready to finally claim your power and transform the way you communicate with me and Ruffus. We explore: * How to reclaim your agency through better communication * How to create a container conversation and why it will change your relationships forever. * The three things you must ask about when opening your relationship. * How the pup community can teach us to be more accepting. * How to navigate differences in sex or libido. Chapters (00:00) Introduction to Vulnerability and Connection (02:24) Navigating Difficult Conversations (06:50) Understanding Kink and Agency (10:38) Finding Community and Safety (14:55) Unlearning Expectations in Relationships (19:12) Creating a Safe Container for Conversations (27:19) Navigating Communication in Relationships (29:44) Exploring Kink and Freedom (31:39) The Journey of Self-Discovery in Kink (36:23) Understanding Consent and Expectations (40:48) Navigating Sexual Incompatibilities (44:32) The Importance of Communication in Non-Monogamy (49:59) Common Kink Misunderstandings and Mistakes (52:48) Community and Acceptance in Kink Spaces Follow Along Follow Ruffus: https://www.instagram.com/thepolykink.therapist Follow Aidan: https://www.instagram.com/aidanwharton Follow Getting Close: https://www.instagram.com/gettingclosepod Follow on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@gettingclosepod This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    54 min
  6. My Husband & Broadway Star: How to Break the Patterns Holding You Back

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    My Husband & Broadway Star: How to Break the Patterns Holding You Back

    If you have a little voice in the back of your mind saying, you should really break that habit, this episode is for you. We all have coping mechanisms that help us get through the day, but when do we know if those coping mechanisms have turned into unhealthy patterns, and if so, how can we break them? In this episode, my husband Casey (and y’all’s most requested return guest) sits back down with me for a deeply intimate and vulnerable conversation about his last year breaking patterns of addiction. We unpack: * How to let go of the patterns that no longer serve you * The differences between habits, coping mechanisms, and unhealthy patterns * Why your journey with substances doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. * How to support a partner who is dismantling their relationship with substances * How to find joy in sobriety through new rituals and experiences. * The most surprising things we’ve both learned as we stopped drinking. Chapters (00:00) Introduction to Connection and Coping Mechanisms (02:54) Celebrating Six Months Alcohol-Free (05:40) Understanding Patterns vs. Habits (10:04) Exploring Early Coping Mechanisms (16:44) The Impact of Substances on Life (21:54) Navigating Social Drinking and Isolation (26:38) Navigating Loneliness and Community Needs (28:05) The Journey to Sobriety: A Personal Reflection (31:51) Breaking Patterns: The Role of Substances in Coping (36:01) Emotional Breakthroughs: The Impact of Isolation (39:46) Supporting Partners Through Change (43:02) Surprising Positives: Finding Joy in Sobriety (45:58) Messages of Hope: Embracing Change and Growth (50:17) Curiosity and Connection: Engaging with Community Follow Along! Follow Casey: https://bit.ly/3NY8jya Follow Aidan: https://bit.ly/4sRSpoX Follow Getting Close: https://bit.ly/4jW9Ro8 Send us a comment or question at: hellogettingclose@gmail.com! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    53 min
  7. Gay Ass Podcast Host: The Gay Ass Art of A Good Question

    24. 3.

    Gay Ass Podcast Host: The Gay Ass Art of A Good Question

    If you’ve ever sat in an awkward silence, wondering what to ask next, or left a conversation wishing you’d known how to go deeper, this episode will change how you talk to people. In this episode, Eric Williams joins us to explore what separates a good question from a bad one, why our digital world is making us worse at curiosity, and how the way you ask questions shapes everything from your first date to your longest relationship. Eric Williams is the host of That’s A Gay Ass Podcast and has interviewed icons like Dan Savage, Lisa Rinna, and Kathy Griffin. He’s also a solo performer in the middle of touring his solo show, Why All The Drama? He also just happens to be one of the most gifted conversationalists I know. We unpack: 🟡 What actually makes a good question and why it matters 🟡 Why you think you’re asking enough questions, but you aren’t. 🟡 The surprising link between asking good questions and being good in bed. 🟡 What questions actually sustain a long term relationship. 🟡 The one question everyone in an open relationship needs to ask. If you’ve ever sat in that awkward silence wondering what to say next, this one’s for you. Follow Along Follow Eric on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericwillz Follow Eric on Substack: Follow Aidan: https://www.instagram.com/aidanwharton Follow Getting Close: https://www.instagram.com/gettingclosepod This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    56 min
  8. Trans Thought Leader: The Complex Politics of Being a Man

    17. 3.

    Trans Thought Leader: The Complex Politics of Being a Man

    What can gay men learn from trans men? In this episode of Getting Close, I sit down with my friend Sandy for a very vulnerable conversation about how trans men and cis men exist within the gay community. We dive into masculinity, privilege, and what compassionate inclusion can look like in our spaces. Sandy Gooen is a published and produced writer. He’s currently developing a musical called Twink Piece. He also runs TEMPO (@theetempo), which is an organization for Trans music professionals. His professional and academic background is mostly music and theater, but in his free time, he focuses a lot on gender and LGBT topics. At the root of Sandy’s work is the desire to cultivate belonging and understanding! We get into * Which conversations about transness are oversaturated * Which conversations about transness still need to happen * What gay men don’t know about the trans experience * The different ways that masculinity affects us all * And why gay men only talk to people they’re attracted to, and how to start to change that. Follow Along! Follow Sandy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silentwhat Follow Sandy on Substack: Follow Aidan: https://www.instagram.com/aidanwharton Follow Getting Close: https://www.instagram.com/gettingclosepod Chapters (00:00) Introduction (05:20) Growing Up Masculine (10:40) The Early Signs of Difference (16:00) Exploring Gender (21:50) The Carving Out A Space in NYC (27:10) Navigating Gay Spaces as a Trans Man (32:40) The Unspoken Social Rules Inside Queer Spaces (38:00) Why We’re Afraid to Talk About Trans Experiences (43:30) Who Gets to Define Masculinity (49:30) What Connection Between Men Can Look Like This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit gettingclosepod.substack.com/subscribe

    54 min
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Getting Close is an intimate exploration of how we connect, love, and build relationships in the modern world. Each week, host Aidan Wharton sits down with culture-shaping voices to give you practical insights from honest conversations about relationships, Queerness, sex, connection, and community. gettingclosepod.substack.com

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    Aidan Wharton
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