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Do you like spending time alone or by yourself?

How does alone time help clear your mind and fuel positive thoughts?

Today, I am excited to share a conversation I had with Tom Bilyeu in his podcast, Impact Theory, where he interviews me about my profound journey through solitude, relationships, and self-love.

We kick things off by shedding light on the wisdom found in ancient texts like the Vedas, which many monks study in solitude. It's a reminder that spending time alone is not a sign of weakness; in fact, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth. I share the incredible benefits of allocating just one hour a week to being alone with your thoughts, a practice that can transform your life.

As we venture further into this enlightening conversation, we discuss the importance of dealing with life's challenges, share insights on daily meditation, and the complexities of loneliness and why it's essential to feel seen, heard, and understood in our relationships. With heartfelt anecdotes and wisdom, we explore the concept of love, self-worth, and the hard work required for genuine, lasting relationships.

In this interview, you’ll learn:


How to be comfortable with being alone
How to sit with your inner thoughts 
How to prepare for love
The tips to finding true love
How to make relationships last
The impotence valuing self-worth
How to build lasting trust on others
How to maintain a successful marriage

Remember, relationships are just one part of our life's journey, and it's up to us to make it a meaningful and fulfilling one. Let’s navigate the complexities of life and relationships with wisdom and love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
00:35 Jay explains the vedas that most monks study in solitude
03:34 Loneliness is not the enemy while being alone is not a weakness
08:12 The benefits of allocating an hour a week to alone time
14:12 “This bad thing happened, and now what?”
17:31 Daily meditation has varying positive effects on people
18:47 Why do people struggle with being alone with their thoughts?
23:51 Allow yourself to have positive distractions and random thoughts
27:44 Loneliness is when you don’t feel seen, heard, or understood
30:46 How do you prepare for love?
34:01 Jay shares an unrecorded interview with his mom
35:32 “When you’ve experienced your strength, no one can make you feel weak.”
37:35 Why you should not turn to others to validate your self worth
38:59 Can doing hard things make life easier?
43:11 The absence of a good role model and proper tools can lead to making bad choices
45:15 On parenthood: Would you intervene or allow kids to learn about themselves?
49:06 Top 3 things that can help develop a successful relationship
54:38 Why do people select the wrong partner?  
57:26 Jay talks about the four levels of trust we have for relationships
01:00:13 The desperation to be loved makes us give away trust so easily
01:02:20 True, genuine love takes hard work
01:05:01 How can you keep your marriage sacred and successful?
01:14:12 How to grow the relationship you’re currently in and in the right way
01:17:05 Jay explains the consciousness of the human soul  
01:19:42 A relationship isn’t everything, it is not the be-all and end-all of your journey
01:22:55 Would you live your life in a hypothesis?

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Have you ever resented someone from keeping a secret from you?

Do you often put other people's feelings before your own?

In this incredibly vulnerable episode with Kerry Washington, we dive into the complicated nature of family and generational trauma. We learn about how both compassion and pain co-exist. We explore how to receive and react to challenging news. This episode is one that you definitely do not want to miss if you have ever dealt with navigating familial relationships and dynamics. 

Kerry Washington is an Emmy award winning, SAG & Emmy- nominated actor, producer and director, and activist. Washington received widespread recognition for her role as Olivia Pope on ABC’s hit drama Scandal.  

Today we get to see a side of Kerry that we’ve never seen or heard before. She takes us through a journey of unveiling a long guarded family secret. A secret that took her down a journey of transformation, resilience and healing. This is a story that we can all relate to in our own ways.  

If you love this episode, Kerry’s new memoir is Thicker Than Water and you can hear even more stories about how Kerry has navigated challenges of life. 

This conversation is an invitation to explore the depths of truth, the human heart and the transformative power of rewriting your own story. 

In this interview, you will learn:


The family secret that changed her life 
How she leaned into compassion and not anger 
How do you share challenging news to your children or loved ones?
How she embraced her new truth and allowed herself to take control of her narrative 
The secret to what has allowed her to be deeply rooted 
How we can hold space for many truths at once
How the revelation of a truth can make way for greater and deeper love 

We invite you to join us on this deep exploration of secrets, truth, self discovery and witnessing the power of compassion and love in the presence of pain.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
03:15 What is a childhood memory that stands out to you?
09:11 Kerry describes a panic attack she had at age 7
12:55 “I wasn’t emotionally safe”
16:11 Kerry's feeling of needing to perform at a young age
19:15  Why has Kerry been trying to walk away from acting? 
26:30 How we are impacted by our dharma and how we can’t extract our dharna from ourselves 
30:37: “I survived a childhood where I learned what truth does not look like and so I am really aware of what it looks like now.” 
32:30 How can we get closer to our own personal truth? 
33:40: Why keeping ourselves busy = control 
37:30 Kerry had to redefine what success means to her
38:08 “Everytime I sat down to write it didn’t feel honest.”
38:50  **book spoiler alert - Kerry shares news that changed her life 
39:25 “So my parents sat me down and told me…”
49:25 How to move forward with love after receiving life-changing news
59:08 Growing up with shame 
01:03:36 How to have compassion over anger 
01:16:16 “Sometimes the truth seems so scary.”
01:16:36 How does a parent tell their kids life changing information? 
01:21:19 Bonding together as a family not a part after trauma 
01:26:32 How we should allow ourselves to be nurtured by love. 
01:32:30 Kerry Washington on Final Five 

Episode Resources:


Kerry Washington | Twitter
Kerry Washington | Instagram
Kerry Washington | Facebook
Kerry Washington | YouTube
Kerry Washington | TikTok
Thicker than Water: A Memoir

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How many of us spend our free time on social media?

Do you find yourself becoming unproductive because of it?

Today, we will unravel the ways in which social media can subtly control our minds and lifestyles. The journey begins by acknowledging that if we don't learn to use technology consciously, it can end up consuming us entirely. Step by step, we navigate through practical strategies to regain control and create a healthier relationship with social media. 

These strategies guide us toward fostering more meaningful interactions, like detaching from devices during social gatherings, creating 'no technology' zones in our homes, and engaging in curious and vulnerable conversations with loved ones. We also learn the importance of transforming from passive consumers to active creators. 

In this episode, you'll learn:


How addictive social media can be
How to develop a healthy screen time
How to spend your time more productively
How to make genuine connections in person

Through these steps, we embark on a transformative journey towards mastering technology, ultimately reclaiming our presence and connection in the digital age.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
01:14 How does social media control your mind and your life?
06:57 If we don't learn how to use technology, it ends up consuming us 
10:42 Step #1 On social media, people talk about themselves 80% of the time
12:39 How can we shift into connecting with others on social media?
15:51 Step #2: Do activities without your phone with your friends
20:00 Step #3: Create a ‘no technology’ zone in your home
23:14 Step #4: Have more curious, vulnerable conversations with people you love
24:59 Step #5: Become a creator not a consumer
26:45 Step #6: Having alternatives is easier than setting blocks

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Do you want to feel like you belong? 

Do you want to block negativity and rejection? 

In this episode we dive deep into what it means to step into your authentic self and the tools needed to do so.

Today, I welcome multi-platinum, award-winning singer, songwriter, actress, and activist Becky G. The 26-year-old global superstar's long list of achievements include four Latin GRAMMY nominations, four number one hits on the Billboard Latin Airplay Charts, and her debut album Mala Santa (October 2019) is certified 8X Platinum in the United States. In June, Becky released her latest single “La Nena” alongside Gabito Ballesteros giving fans another glimpse of what’s to come. 

Becky G did not hesitate to dive deep into the heart of authenticity and self-discovery. We start by awakening to a deeper sense of self, shaking off those social constructs that keep us from being our authentic selves. It's a reminder that it's perfectly okay to embrace who we are and find happiness in that authenticity.

Throughout our conversation, we explore the importance of creating spaces where our uniqueness is celebrated, not just tolerated. We also touch on the idea that it's alright if not everyone likes us - what truly matters is staying true to ourselves.

In this interview, you'll learn:


How to tap into your authentic self
How to embrace your uniqueness
How to take risks for success
Why self-love is a must
How to be persistent in adversities
How stay focused on your goal

Join us on this journey of self-discovery and connection, where we celebrate the beauty of being our authentic selves in a complex world.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
01:41 An awakening for a deeper sense of self
02:48 The social constructs that don’t allow us to be our authentic self
04:27 The concept of not half of this and half of that
09:12 You gotta make yourself happy and stay rooted to your authenticity
12:31 We need spaces where our uniqueness is accepted
15:17 We all come from something so much bigger than us
19:13 Maybe it’s okay if we’re not liked by everybody
25:13 “You have to be willing to do something you haven’t done to get the result you never had.”
28:49 The three-legged table: the mind, body, and soul
34:54 How do you create quality connections?
37:23 “Just because you can, it doesn’t mean you should.”
39:59 Always have empathy and compassion for yourself
46:56 Sometimes a good cry is the best way to release pent up emotions
51:46 “Everything happens for you, not to you.”
58:13 The healing journey of relationships that has ended
01:01:27 Who do you share your failures and successes with?
01:09:29 Starting an acting career after empowered personalities
01:14:49 Finding mutual spaces where you can change and grow
01:17:53 How do you stay open to finding your purpose you have in life
01:20:06 Do you believe in guardian angels?
01:23:45 Did we lose our listening ability when communicating?
01:06:37 Becky G on Final Five

Episode Resources:


Becky G | YouTube
Becky G | Instagram
Becky G | Facebook
Becky G | TikTok
Becky G | Website

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What was your biggest dream as a child?

Growing up, did you have the best environment to pursue these dreams? Or did you need to set them aside for a different purpose in life?

Today, Jay sits down with the iconic voice behind Elsa from the film Frozen, Idina Menzel. Idina's other well-known character is Elphaba in the original Broadway production of the musical "Wicked." She co-authored the children's book, Loud Mouse.

One of the big takeaways here is how our dreams and ambitions are like living entities, always changing and growing, just like we are. As we navigate life's various chapters, our goals shift in response to what matters most to us. It's a reminder that it's perfectly okay for our dreams to evolve and expand as we do.

Idina has a way of nudging us to appreciate diverse viewpoints and experiences. The podcast encourages us to embrace this and to seek understanding and connection with others. There's a powerful message about the strength in being open, vulnerable, and compassionate in a world that can sometimes be a bit harsh. 

In this interview, you’ll learn:


How our dreams evolve throughout the years
How to navigate challenges that come our way
How to be less self-absorbed in certain situations
Why understanding someone has limitations
How to allow your authentic voice to be heard

Ultimately, this conversation is like a friendly nudge to live life on our terms, free from the weight of other people's judgments. It's an invitation to explore our ever-changing perspectives, to find strength in resilience, and to chase our passions with fervor.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
02:31 What keeps you going these days?
06:00 When you start seeing things differently through a different lens
08:43 The story of a young girl learning her way with music through experience
12:23 How ambition and dreams can evolve through the years
16:07 The long developmental process of musical shows
19:46 The mission was to show up and never miss a show
23:39 How do you find perspective and become less self-absorbed?
26:14 How do you stay present in the moment?
31:09 How to communicate through differences with parents and children   
35:55 Idina wrote a children’s book that allows children to be more themselves!
40:39 How do you allow your authentic voice to be heard?
41:54 What it is like to revisit a character you played years later
44:27 Why it is challenging to believe we can walk in someone else’s shoes 
46:37 Stop worrying about what other people think and live your own life

Episode Resources:


Idina Menzel | Website
Idina Menzel | Instagram
Idina Menzel | YouTube
Idina Menzel | Facebook
Idina Menzel | TikTok
Loud Mouse
Drama Queen Digital Album

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How far are you willing to go to pursue your passion and achieve success?

Do you sometimes find yourself sitting in silence and getting in your own thoughts?

When we're driven by our passion, we become creative, motivated, and enduring every hardship that comes our way. 

Today, Airbnb Co-founder and Chief Executive Officer Brian Chesky sits down with Jay for an honest and eye-opening conversation about the other side of success. 

Brian talks about how crucial it is to choose your group wisely for the people you surround yourself with can make a big difference, sharing success with others keeps you from feeling all alone in your victories, and the need for balance between focusing on your goals and creating a community where you can thrive. 

Mental health is another important point of discussion as well as the outdated perceptions we have of ourselves that potentially blocks personal growth. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to be wise in choosing your people

How to keep valuable friendships

How to deal with success

How to overcome loneliness

How to be of service to others

How creativity can solve problems

Join us in this engaging conversation as we navigate the twists and turns, seeking wisdom and connection for personal growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro
02:16 Choose the people you want to surround yourself with
05:33 Going in a journey that will help you learn something new about yourself
08:47 Never allow arguments to win over your friendships
13:28 Share your success or else it might feel so isolating
18:24 To truly understand someone is to try to walk in their shoes
20:35 That feeling where you don’t fit in anywhere
28:29 Loneliness has led to a lot of mental health issues
34:59 Worry less about what people think, focus on what you can share with others
39:42 There are two words that define being alone - loneliness and solitude
41:40 Creativity is about bringing different experiences together
49:00 Try more things, have more experiences, and avoid seeking status
50:41 What would your younger self tell you now?
55:37 We are who we think other people think we are
57:48 The tendency to make an outdated perception of ourselves
01:00:32 How do you want to be remembered?
01:03:15 Singular focus is good for success but it has limitations  
01:09:03 What keeps you up at night?
01:14:19 How do you process your thoughts and ideas?
01:17:38 Finding a shared value and having clarity about what you want to do
01:20:13 Losing yourself while pursuing your passion
01:24:00 How do you want to define family?
01:27:47 The wisdom of older people and the curiosity of a child
01:32:16 Even though things are interconnected, it doesn’t mean they’re all the same
01:36:12 Brian on Final Five

Episode Resources:


Brian Chesky | Instagram
Airbnb

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