Stepmum Space

Katie South
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Stepmum Space — The Podcast for Stepmums, Stepfamily Support & Blended Family Help Stepmum Space is the podcast for stepmums who love their partner, care deeply about their stepchildren, and often feel overwhelmed by everything that comes with stepfamily life. Hosted by Katie South — stepmum, transformational coach, and founder of Stepmum Space — this podcast offers real, honest, emotionally validating conversations for anyone navigating the complex world of blended families / stepfamilies. Katie is also a leading media voice and advocate for stepmum wellbeing, regularly speaking about stepfamily dynamics, emotional load, boundaries, and the unseen pressures stepmums face. Her mission is to break the silence surrounding stepmotherhood and to bring compassionate, psychologically informed support into mainstream conversations. Whether you're searching for stepmum support, co-parenting help, stepfamily guidance, or just a place where your feelings finally make sense, you’re in the right place. Katie became a stepmum over a decade ago and, like so many women, found herself facing big emotions! Stepmums are often dealing with loyalty binds, co-parenting challenges, anxiety, resentment, boundaries, burnout and the pressure to “stay strong” — all with very little support.  Stepmum Space was created to change that. Each episode features candid conversations, practical coaching insights, and lived experiences from stepmums and stepfamilies who truly get it. Expect gentle honesty, psychological depth, and tools you can actually use. If you’re feeling like an outsider, overwhelmed by dynamics you didn’t create, trying to balance being supportive with maintaining your own sanity, or just looking for a community that gets it — this podcast is for you. Learn more: www.stepmumspace.com Follow @stepmumspace on Instagram/Tik Tok/Facebook Contact: katie@stepmumspace.com Keywords: stepmum podcast, stepmum support, blended family podcast, stepfamily help, co-parenting advice, high-conflict co-parenting, stepmum burnout, feeling like an outsider as a stepmum, stepmum resentment, stepfamily boundaries, emotional support for stepmums, struggling stepmum, stepmum coaching, stepmum mental health.

  1. 12 HR AGO

    Stepmum Anxiety: When the Kids Are Fine but the Co-Parenting Isn’t

    When the kids are settled and your home is calm… but one message from the ex derails your whole week. This episode is for the stepmum who’s tired of walking on eggshells and carrying the emotional load.  Resources mentioned in this episode Back in Control — 6-Week Live Group for Stepmums If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or overfunctioning just to keep the peace, Back in Control is a small, live 6-week group designed to help you feel steadier, clearer, and more in control of your response even when the co-parenting system around you isn’t stable. You can register your interest here 1:1 Coaching — Personalised Support for Stepmums If you’d prefer more tailored support, I also work privately with stepmums who want focused, psychologically informed coaching around boundaries, emotional regulation, and navigating complex stepfamily dynamics. You can find out more here Sometimes the hardest part of stepfamily life isn’t blending children. It’s living inside a co-parenting system that doesn’t feel steady — even when your home is. In this episode of Stepmum Space, Katie is joined by Carly, who shares a story many stepmums will recognise: a warm, connected home life… alongside persistent tension and criticism from an ex-partner that can undo your sense of calm in a single message. Carly talks openly about what it’s like to be in a blended family where the children get on well, routines are working, and relationships are strong — yet the co-parenting dynamic remains unpredictable and controlling. You’ll hear about the emotional impact of constant messages, the pressure to overfunction to keep the peace, and what happens when conflict escalates into legal proceedings around school choices and child arrangements. This is not a “how to win” episode. It’s a grounding conversation about what you can control, how to protect your home from outside noise, and why you’re not weak for finding it hard. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this still get to me?” — you’ll feel very seen here. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why you can have a calm home and still feel constantly on edgeHow “walking on eggshells” shows up in stepfamily dynamics (even when the kids are fine)What overfunctioning looks like — and why it’s so tempting in blended family lifeThe emotional toll of co-parenting conflict and repeated criticismHow to protect your internal steadiness when external drama keeps landing in your spaceA grounded reminder of what’s within your control (and what isn’t)This episode is for you if you’re a stepmum who… feels anxious before handovers, messages, or contactis exhausted from trying to keep everyone happykeeps questioning yourself because the ex is always “finding a problem”feels protective of the children and frustrated by the system around themwants to feel steadier, clearer, and less emotionally hijacked by stepfamily dynamics This conversation speaks directly to stepmum struggles in real life — the emotional labour, the stepmother role, and the invisible pressure of stepfamily dynamics. If you’re navigating blended family challenges where communication with an ex is difficult, controlling, or unpredictable, this episode offers calm, psychologically informed support for supporting stepmums without minimising what you’re carrying.  Head to stepmumspace.com to book your free clarity call Support the show

    43 min

  2. 5 DAYS AGO

    When Your Adult Stepdaughter Won’t Attend Your Wedding | Loyalty Binds in Stepfamilies (Listener Question)

    Weddings in stepfamilies are rarely just about the wedding. In this Listener Question minisode, I respond to a stepmum whose 28-year-old stepdaughter says she may not attend her father’s second marriage — because she never saw her own mum marry him. This isn’t really about attendance.  It’s about loyalty, grief, hierarchy and emotional responsibility. In this episode, we explore: • Why adult stepchildren can still experience powerful loyalty binds  • Why weddings formalise hierarchy in second families  • How unresolved grief can surface at symbolic moments — even years later  • Why this isn’t the stepmum’s emotional work to manage  • What it actually means if you feel calm rather than devastated If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re “cold” for not carrying everyone else’s feelings, this episode will give you language and perspective. Stepfamilies are structurally different systems.  And when you understand the structure, the emotion makes sense. If you want deeper support navigating hierarchy, loyalty binds and protecting your couple relationship: → Join the Stepmum Space mailing list at www.stepmumspace.com → Or book a free 15-minute clarity call If this resonated, follow the podcast and leave a review — it helps more stepmums find steady, intelligent support. Support the show

    6 min

  3. 18 FEB

    My Stepchildren Still Won’t See Me: Parental Alienation & Loving From a Distance

    If your stepchildren have pulled away — and you don’t know how to reach them — this episode will land deeply. When rejection becomes long-term and you’re painted as the problem, how do you survive as a stepmum? This episode is a continuation of Lucy’s story. If you haven’t listened to the first part from 2022 — When Your Stepchildren Reject You: Feeling Powerless, Undermined & Unsafe in Bio Mum Conflict — you can search the title wherever you listen or hear it here, free: Part 1 - Lucy's story  In that episode, Lucy was in the thick of stepmum rejection. In this one, she shares what happened next. Lucy returns to Stepmum Space to talk about the reality many stepmums fear but few speak openly about: what happens when rejection doesn’t resolve — and your stepchildren stop coming altogether. Over the past 18 months, Lucy has not seen her stepdaughter at all. Her stepson will only see his dad outside the family home. The siblings who once lived together now hug only at grandparents’ houses. Phones, group chats and subtle triangulation have played a powerful role in deepening divides. This conversation explores parental alienation, high-conflict co-parenting, and the psychological toll of living under constant scrutiny. From secret photos being sent back to their mum, to hundreds of denigrating messages discovered on a phone, Lucy describes what it feels like to be portrayed as unsafe in your own home. We talk about stepfamily dynamics, loyalty binds, smartphone triangulation, and the impossible position stepmums are often placed in — expected to absorb hostility while holding everything together. But we also explore what happens after breaking point. What it means to let go. How to love from a distance. And how to rebuild your nervous system when the crisis stage passes but the grief remains. If you’re navigating stepmum struggles where rejection hasn’t softened, this episode offers clarity, validation and emotional steadiness. What You’ll Learn in This Episode How triangulation and “phone access” can intensify stepfamily conflictWhy children’s insecurities can be weaponised in blended family challengesThe psychological impact of long-term rejection on stepmumsWhat loving from a distance can look like in high-conflict co-parentingHow to stop operating from fear and reclaim emotional steadinessWhy letting go doesn’t mean giving up on your stepchildrenThis episode is for you if you’re a stepmum who: Feels rejected, ignored or pushed out of your stepchildren’s livesIs dealing with high-conflict co-parenting or suspected parental alienationLives under constant scrutiny or feels misrepresented in the other householdIs exhausted from trying to prove you are loving and safeFeels powerless watching stepfamily dynamics spiralIs trying to protect your marriage while holding grief for your stepchildrenStepmum life can be profoundly complex. When loyalty binds, insecurity and conflict collide, it can leave even the most grounded woman questioning herself. If this episode helped you feel understood, you can follow or subscribe so future conversations reach you when you need them. And if you know another stepmum navigating rejection or alienation in a blended family, sharing this episode might help her feel less alone. For further stepmum support, tools and workshops, visit  https://stepmumspace.com Head to stepmumspace.com to book your free clarity call Support the show

    54 min

  4. 13 FEB

    Stepmum Fairness & One-to-One Time: Ours Baby, Older Child & Blended Family Balance (Listener Question)

    You’ve always encouraged your partner to prioritise time with his older child.  But now you have an “ours” baby… and something feels subtly off.  In this week’s Listener Question, we explore a blended family dynamic that many stepmums quietly wrestle with: one-to-one time. Louisa asks whether it’s still “normal” to encourage her husband to spend alone time with his older son now that they have an ours baby — especially when he doesn’t spend the same intentional time with their youngest. On the surface, this is about parenting structure. Underneath, it’s about fairness, emotional equity, and position inside the stepfamily system. In stepfamilies, time isn’t neutral. It carries symbolism. When a parent consciously protects one bond but assumes the other will “just happen”, it can begin to feel uneven — even if no one intends harm. And unevenness in stepfamily dynamics heightens sensitivity quickly. We talk about why fathers often prioritise restricted time with older children, how guilt and protection play into that, and why proximity isn’t the same as intentional connection. We also look at the emotional labour many stepmums carry — encouraging connection while quietly noticing imbalance. This episode gently reframes the question away from “Is this normal?” and towards “Does this feel fair in our family?” Because blended family challenges aren’t about competition between children. They’re about secure positioning, shared responsibility, and recalibrating as the system evolves. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re overreacting — this one is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why one-to-one time in a stepfamily carries more symbolism than you might thinkThe difference between proximity and intentional connectionHow restricted time can unconsciously prioritise one bond over anotherWhy stepmum struggles often show up as “fairness” questionsHow to approach this conversation systemically rather than competitivelyWhat emotional equity really means in blended family lifeIf you’re a stepmum who: Encourages your partner’s bond with his older child but feels something has shiftedHas an “ours” baby and is questioning emotional balance at homeFeels uncomfortable naming imbalance because you don’t want to seem jealousNotices stepfamily dynamics becoming more sensitive since a new baby arrivedIs carrying emotional labour around fairness and shared parentingThis conversation will feel familiar. This episode explores common stepmum struggles around the stepmother role in blended family life — particularly how stepfamily dynamics shift when an ours baby arrives. Supporting stepmums means acknowledging that small imbalances can feel amplified inside a blended family system, especially where loyalty and belonging are already sensitive themes. If this episode resonated, follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future Listener Questions. And if you know another stepmum navigating blended family challenges, share this with her — sometimes just knowing you’re not alone changes everything. For more grounded support, resources and conversations, explore www.stepmumspace.com Support the show

    8 min

  5. 11 FEB

    Lockdown Strain, Surprise Baby & Stepfamily Meltdowns: Why This Blended Family Survived

    It started easy. Bowling trips. Dad’s friend. No drama. Then came lockdown, a surprise baby, a six-person household… and the birthday card drama that changed the way they do gifts forever!  This is more of a fairytale than scary-tale! Clare became a stepmum unexpectedly — meeting three young children in what felt like the “easy” stage of stepfamily life. There were meals out, holidays, and the freedom of not yet being responsible for homework, bedtimes, or household routines. And then 2020 happened. Lockdown forced everyone into living together full-time. Homeschooling, working, navigating new roles inside what had once been her house. Not long after, a surprise pregnancy, a move, a new baby, and the reality of building a blended family of six. In this episode, Clare shares the small but powerful moments that can catch stepmums off guard — the birthday card labelled “daughter”, the holiday that unravelled in heat and exhaustion, the invisible mental load of trying to get it right. But she’s also clear: not every wobble is a stepfamily problem. Sometimes it’s just life with teenagers, toddlers, tired parents and too-high expectations. What makes this conversation refreshing is its honesty. Clare genuinely enjoys being a stepmum. She talks about what’s helped their blended family work: a supportive partner, flexible co-parenting, shared values across households, and creating new traditions that belong to this home. It’s a steady, realistic reminder that stepfamily life can be positive — even when it’s full. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why stepfamily life can feel “easy” at first — and why living together changes the dynamicHow lockdown intensified everyday pressures in blended familiesThe hidden emotional load of the stepmother role (even in low-conflict situations)Why small moments — like birthday cards and labels — can feel disproportionately bigHow to tell the difference between stepfamily dynamics and just… normal family chaosPractical shifts that helped this stepfamily thrive (including holidays, room setups, and boundaries)What genuinely supports stepmums: partner backing, consistency across homes, and choosing battles wiselyThis episode is for you if you’re a stepmum who: had a smooth start and then found things changed once you moved in togetheris navigating teenagers and younger children under one rooffeels the pressure of running a home that isn’t just “yours” anymorehas a relatively calm co-parenting situation but still finds it emotionally complexwants reassurance that blended family challenges don’t mean you’re failingneeds a grounded example of stepfamily life that’s real — not dramatic, not perfectIf this episode felt reassuring or familiar, follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future conversations. And if you know another stepmum who needs a reminder that it doesn’t have to be a horror story, share this episode with her. You can find more steady, practical support at www.stepmumspace.com Head to stepmumspace.com to book your free clarity call Support the show

    41 min

  6. 6 FEB

    Stepmum Resentment: When Dad Won’t Discipline and Your Home Starts to Feel Unfair (Listener Question)

    Do you feel resentful because your partner won’t hold boundaries with his child? This isn’t about you being too strict. It’s about a home that no longer feels protected. Resentment is one of the most common stepmum struggles — and one of the hardest to admit out loud. In this Listener Question episode, Katie responds to a stepmum who feels overwhelmed by resentment as her stepdaughter lies, steals, and faces no consequences. Her partner avoids discipline out of fear that his child “won’t want to come” if he enforces boundaries, and she’s left feeling like the only adult in the room. This episode gently reframes resentment through a stepfamily lens. Because this isn’t really about the child’s behaviour. It’s about what happens in blended family life when parental authority quietly disappears, when one adult parents from fear, and the other is left carrying the emotional and moral weight of holding the home together. Katie explores why resentment grows when your values are being violated, why stepmums often end up feeling like the “bad one” for even noticing, and why children and adults both struggle to relax in homes where no one is clearly holding the line. You’ll hear practical ways to shift the focus away from the child and back to couple alignment, along with a simple written exercise you can do together to bring clarity, steadiness, and shared responsibility back into your home. If you’ve ever thought, “I shouldn’t feel this resentful”, this episode will help you understand why you do — and what actually needs to change. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why stepmum resentment is often a signal that something in the stepfamily system needs to changeHow fear of alienation can quietly remove parental authority in blended familiesWhy you start to feel like the only adult — and the “bad one” for noticingHow to shift the issue from child behaviour to partner alignmentWhat “holding the line” calmly and consistently really looks likeA simple journal exercise to help you and your partner get clear togetherYou'll connect with this episode If you’re a stepmum who… Feels resentful about behaviour in your home that goes unaddressedFeels like you’re the only one noticing what’s not okayWorries you’re becoming the “strict” or “nagging” oneLives with a partner who avoids discipline out of fearFeels your blended family home doesn’t feel steady, calm, or protected  This episode speaks directly to stepmum struggles within stepfamily dynamics, especially where blended family challenges arise around discipline, boundaries, and couple alignment. It offers practical, emotionally intelligent support for stepmums navigating resentment, parental fear, and feeling unsupported in their stepmother role.  If this resonated, follow Stepmum Space so you don’t miss future Listener Questions, and share this episode with another stepmum who might need to hear it. You can find more support, tools, and your free Clarity Call at stepmumspace.com as well as learning more about stepmum resentment. Support the show

    9 min

  7. 4 FEB

    Stepmum Burnout: Doing Everything but Still The Villain

    You can give everything to a stepfamily and still feel like the villain in your own home. This is what stepmum burnout really looks like when dad won’t lead and the children turn on you. What happens when you jump into stepfamily life with the best intentions… and four years later you’re emotionally exhausted, resented, and questioning whether you can keep doing this? In this powerful conversation, Jane shares the reality of becoming the default parent in her blended family while having none of the authority, safety, or support that role requires. What began as helping her partner establish routines and boundaries for his children slowly turned into Jane carrying the emotional, practical, and mental load of parenting every other weekend — while being treated as the villain. You’ll hear how stepmum burnout creeps in quietly: through bedtimes, shoes at the door, meal planning, managing behaviour, navigating an ex-partner’s interference, and trying to protect children who are clearly struggling emotionally but beyond her influence. This episode explores the painful space many stepmums recognise:  doing everything out of care… and being resented for it. We talk about disengaging without guilt, the danger of over-functioning, dad’s guilt-based parenting, loyalty binds in children, and why sometimes stepping back is the healthiest move for everyone. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m giving so much and getting nothing back,” this episode will feel uncomfortably familiar — and deeply validating. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why stepmum burnout often comes from over-functioning, not under-caringHow guilt-based parenting from dads leaves stepmums carrying the loadThe emotional toll of being cast as the villain for basic boundariesWhat healthy disengaging actually looks like in a stepfamilyHow loyalty binds show up as hostility towards stepmumsWhy protecting your own mental health is sometimes the most loving moveThe difference between caring for stepchildren and parenting themThis is for you if you’re a stepmum who… feels responsible for everything when the children are with youis exhausted from managing routines, meals, behaviour and emotionsfeels like the villain for asking for basic respect in your own homeworries constantly about your stepchildren but has no real authorityfeels resentful, guilty, and burnt out all at the same timehas a partner who says he “backs you” but doesn’t when it mattersIf this conversation resonated, make sure you’re following Stepmum Space on Apple or Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes. You can also explore more support, tools, and workshops for stepmums at Stepmum Space. And if you know another stepmum who needs to hear this, share it with her today. Head to stepmumspace.com to book your free clarity call Support the show

    1h 1m

  8. 30 JAN

    When You Feel On Edge Around Your Stepkids - Stepmum Boundaries When the Ex Complains (Listener Question)

    Do you feel on edge around your stepkids because of complaints from the ex? Like you can’t fully relax or be yourself in your own home? This is a common but rarely named stepmum struggle in stepfamily life. In this Listener Question episode of Stepmum Space, Katie responds to a stepmum who feels judged and under pressure when her stepchildren visit because criticism keeps coming from the other household. Over time, repeated complaints can lead to hyper-vigilance, self-editing, and walking on eggshells. This episode explains what’s happening underneath that “on edge” feeling — not as personal weakness, but as a stress response inside difficult stepfamily dynamics. You’ll hear reflections from other stepmums and practical shifts that reduce anxiety without increasing conflict — including why over-adjusting backfires and how couple alignment and boundaries restore emotional safety. If you feel watched, judged, or overly responsible for keeping the peace, this will help you feel steadier and clearer about what helps. You’re not too sensitive. You’re responding to pressure — and pressure can be reduced. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why complaints from the ex trigger stepmum stressThe “being watched” effect in stepfamily dynamicsFeedback vs authority in a blended familyWhy eggshell-walking backfiresHow partner filtering reduces overloadSimple in-the-moment regulation toolsHow boundaries protect you and the coupleThis Episode Is For You If You’re a Stepmum Who… feels anxious before contact daysworries things will be reported backfeels judged by the other householdoverthinks everyday momentsstruggles to relax at homewants calmer stepfamily boundaries5  Shifts: Separate complaints from authority Not every complaint carries decision-making power. Someone can be unhappy without being in charge of how your home runs. Discomfort from the other household is not the same as wrongdoing in yours. When you stop treating every criticism like a ruling, your nervous system gets space to settle. Create a partner filter for incoming complaints You don’t need full exposure to every message, comment, or criticism. Agree with your partner that he receives and assesses concerns first, and only passes on what genuinely needs your involvement. This protects you from carrying unnecessary emotional weight and keeps parental responsibility where it belongs. Agree your household standards together — in advance Have calm, proactive couple conversations about your home norms and values. How do we speak here? What matters most? What are our non-negotiables? When you’re aligned, stepmums feel less singled out and more secure inside the couple unit. Use in-the-moment nervous system resets when anxiety spikes When the “what if this gets reported back” fear kicks in, ground yourself with simple truths: This is discomfort, not danger. I’m allowed to be real in my own home. Not everyone has to approve of me. Use them as gentle resets, not forced affirmations. Reduce overexposure to the complaint channel You don’t need to read every criticism or hear every negative opinion. Psychological boundaries matter as much as practical ones in stepfamily life. Limiting exposure reduces hyper-vigilance and helps you stay emotionally available rather than braced. Follow or subscribe so new episodes land automatically.  If this topic hit close to home, visit stepmumspace.com for support. Support the show

    8 min
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Stepmum Space — The Podcast for Stepmums, Stepfamily Support & Blended Family Help Stepmum Space is the podcast for stepmums who love their partner, care deeply about their stepchildren, and often feel overwhelmed by everything that comes with stepfamily life. Hosted by Katie South — stepmum, transformational coach, and founder of Stepmum Space — this podcast offers real, honest, emotionally validating conversations for anyone navigating the complex world of blended families / stepfamilies. Katie is also a leading media voice and advocate for stepmum wellbeing, regularly speaking about stepfamily dynamics, emotional load, boundaries, and the unseen pressures stepmums face. Her mission is to break the silence surrounding stepmotherhood and to bring compassionate, psychologically informed support into mainstream conversations. Whether you're searching for stepmum support, co-parenting help, stepfamily guidance, or just a place where your feelings finally make sense, you’re in the right place. Katie became a stepmum over a decade ago and, like so many women, found herself facing big emotions! Stepmums are often dealing with loyalty binds, co-parenting challenges, anxiety, resentment, boundaries, burnout and the pressure to “stay strong” — all with very little support.  Stepmum Space was created to change that. Each episode features candid conversations, practical coaching insights, and lived experiences from stepmums and stepfamilies who truly get it. Expect gentle honesty, psychological depth, and tools you can actually use. If you’re feeling like an outsider, overwhelmed by dynamics you didn’t create, trying to balance being supportive with maintaining your own sanity, or just looking for a community that gets it — this podcast is for you. Learn more: www.stepmumspace.com Follow @stepmumspace on Instagram/Tik Tok/Facebook Contact: katie@stepmumspace.com Keywords: stepmum podcast, stepmum support, blended family podcast, stepfamily help, co-parenting advice, high-conflict co-parenting, stepmum burnout, feeling like an outsider as a stepmum, stepmum resentment, stepfamily boundaries, emotional support for stepmums, struggling stepmum, stepmum coaching, stepmum mental health.

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  • Creator
    Katie South
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    75
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Stepmum Space
  • Show Website
    Stepmum Space

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