Avoidant Shutdown: Why Avoidants Suddenly Go Cold (Explained by Actual Avoidant)

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Welcome to today's episode! This one is a personal one. I talk about why avoidants suddenly shut down and go cold. How does it feel like? Why there is no other option left? This one may be truly eye opening. ;-)

► Links and Resources:

Polyvagal Theory Video: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=94Sh2XeLyY0nFp9P

Gerald Hüther: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gerald_H%C3%BCther

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Shutdown

02:30 The Shutdown Experience from the Inside

07:32 Roots of the Shutdown

10:12 The Three Closed Doors

17:48 Shame and Nervous System

18:43 How Avoidants Can Change

20:25 Supporting Your Partner

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.