Another Way

Selina Barker

Join Career and Life Design Coach, Selina Barker as she explores the collective limiting beliefs that seem to be keeping so many of us trapped on a treadmill of daily grind and exhaustion and stopping us from living the lives we really want to be living. Listen in as she dives into conversation with special guests who show us that there is another way and the practical steps we can each take to break free and create lives and careers that have us thriving. selinabarker.com anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Don't let your dreams get left behind in the pages of your journal

    Today I want to talk about an important topic - one that we can forget about when we’re swept up in the dreaming, vision boarding and intention setting at the start of the year. And that is how we’re going to make sure those dreams and desires don’t just remain stuck in the pages of our journals, but actually become a reality. And no, this is not about manifesting. This is about the very practical art of life design. A topic I’ve been dedicated to learning and teaching for the past two decades. In particular I’ve always been interested in how you take the steps you need, to go after your dreams and design the life you really want to be living - when you have a hell of a lot of other stuff going on and a deeply rooted belief that to be a good person you should be looking after the needs of others - and not your own. And so in today’s Pep-Talk I am talking you through the key ingredients that I have found make the biggest difference when it comes to designing your life and turning your dreams into reality. And I also tell you all about the Project You Club - the online membership that is dedicated to helping you turn your dreams into reality. The Project You Club is on its way! The doors open tomorrow night after the Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 Big Online Share and I’ve added a new Project You Club Light membership option for those of you that are short on time, but want that regular monthly Reflect and Plan Session to help you return to what is important to you at the start of every month and create a plan of how you’re going to take steps towards your dreams and fill your life with the ingredients that help you to thrive. It’s a total game changer. So hit play today to hear what the key ingredients are that will help you take the dreams from the pages of your journal and turn them into reality. And how the Project You Club could help you this year in getting the support, structure and accountability you need to stay on track and designing a life you love 🥰 x Selina P.S. Doors to the Project You Club are opening after the Big Online Share on 20th Jan - if you want to be first to hear and you’re NOT on my newsletter list, you can sign up here If you’re reading this and it’s already the 22nd Jan or later, then you can check out the Club and join right away over on projectyoushop.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    22 min

  2. 12 JAN

    ✍️Try my 'WORK: Reflect and Plan - 2025-2026' exercise that I do every year

    Hello lovelies, I have ​your first Monday Pep-Talk of 2026​ for you! And this one is accompanied by a WORK: Reflect and Plan 2025-2026 exercise that I’ve been doing for the past three years. I write it into the notes pages at the back of my Goodbye, Hello journal and I love to do it. While I always explore my dreams for my work and business in my Goodbye, Hello journal, I really enjoy dedicating an entire exercise to my work, to really get clear on my dreams and goals for my business each year. And so I wanted to share this exercise with you this week, so that you can try it too! 👇 Download the worksheet here: And then tune in to today’s Pep-Talk where I walk you through the exercise, as well as exploring: * The difference it makes when you treat January as the warm-up month of the year and how my Slowanuary movement has become a ‘cultural concept’ according to Google! * How, even if you have a lot going on in January, you can still create pockets of time to go s l o w * The power of starting the year from stillness rather than leaping into action * Why I am really taking me time before I commit to my intention for 2026 * And what the Goodbye, Hello Big Online Share is all about - and why I think you should come! It’s next Tuesday 20th January - and it’s free! Oh and if you didn’t see my email on Friday, the last of the Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journals is now on sale at 40% off - so if you or someone know have been thinking about trying out the journal, now is your chance! And whatever you have going on this week, I hope that you find pockets of time to take it slow and ease in gently. And I’ll see you back here next week!x Selina This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    12 min
  3. How she designed her life over 10 years - one 'Goodbye, Hello' journal at a time

    22/12/2025

    How she designed her life over 10 years - one 'Goodbye, Hello' journal at a time

    Hello lovelies, Before I dive into today’s gorgeous episode - a quick reminder that you CAN still get the Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journal in time for Christmas! 🎄 * If you’re in the UK Choose the ‘Tracked 24’ option when you order over at the projectyoushop.com - you can still get the 3 for the price of 2 bundle for those last minute Christmas gifts! * Order on Amazon Prime over on Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.com * Buy from Oliver Bonas in store if you’re in the UK * Order the digital version from anywhere in the world! And now…onto today’s episode to get you inspired as we head into Christmas… I wanted to share with you one last gorgeous episode from the Write it. Create it. Live it series before we all head into Christmas. Write It. Create It. Live It. is the series where I talk to people who’ve been using my journal for the past year - or many years - and explore how, step by step, they’ve turned what they wrote on the page into real lives that actually work for them. And in this episode my guest is Ellen Rowland - a true OG when it comes to the Goodbye, Hello journals. She’s been doing them since 2016, back when it was still just a PDF. And her story is such a powerful reminder that designing a life you love doesn’t happen overnight. It happens slowly, often unexpectedly, and usually without a grand plan - by coming back to the same questions year after year, noticing what isn’t working, and gently following what pulls you forward. Ellen shares how, over the past ten years, she’s gone from feeling overwhelmed, unrooted, stuck in toxic work and struggling with her mental health, to having a life and relationship she loves and a deeply fulfilling career as a medical herbalist, specialising in supporting people who are neurodivergent and/or living with mental health challenges to feel well and thrive. Oh and along the way, she accidentally found herself writing a book: The Healing Power of Scent. Ellen is such a wise owl, and she shares so many beautiful insights about what it really takes to create a life that works for you. We also dive into her fascinating work as a medical herbalist, how herbal medicine first supported her own mental health and ADHD, and how she now uses it to help others who are neurodivergent and/or struggling with their mental health. This really is such an inspiring conversation to curl up with - the perfect listen if you’re feeling reflective as the year draws to a close or to keep you company while you wrap Christmas presents 🎁 Enjoy! x Selina P.S. You can get in touch with Ellen and find out all about her work at www.amberluna.co.uk This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    50 min
  4. Tiny ways to hibernate in a season that won't slow down

    15/12/2025

    Tiny ways to hibernate in a season that won't slow down

    Hey lovelies, How are you getting on in this festive season? This can be a challenging time to keep your energy topped up and flowing - on one hand, winter is calling us to go slow and be still. On the other hand we can find ourselves on a treadmill of non-stop Christmas prep and festive activities. And so I wanted to dedicate today’s Pep-Talk to the art of what I’ve been calling ‘hibernation pockets’ - creating pockets of time in amongst the Christmas chaos to rest, be still and get seriously snuggly. Even a couple of minutes dedicated to hibernating can make a big difference. I also talk about the guilt that can creep in when we dare to put ourselves first at this time of year - and why it’s so important to notice it, name it, and not let it run the show. So if you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed, or quietly craving a bit more stillness and space this December, this one’s for you. x Selina Coming up in December and January… 1. ✍️ LIVE online Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journalling events in December and January with Marianne Power Join LIVE Goodbye, Hello journal-alongs with the amazing best-selling author Marianne Power in December and January. Watch the video below to hear all about it! 2. Come to my London Workshop: Get Ready To Turn Your Dreams Into Reality In 2026 On Saturday 17th January, 2–4.30pm I’m running a workshop in London, designed to help you step into 2026 clear on what you want to make it all about and ready to bring those dreams and desires to life. ​We’ll be taking everything you’ve been dreaming about and scribbling into your Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journal… and turning it into a plan to actually make it HAPPEN. Finishing with a powerful sound bath with Sami Fitz. 3. Join the BIG ONLINE SHARE - 20th January @7.30pm GMT (for free) Join me for the annual Goodbye Hello BIG ONLINE SHARE - where people who have done the Goodbye, Hello journal join me online to go through the journal sharing our answers from the key questions in the journal and at the end declaring what our intentions for 2026 are going to be. This is such a gorgeous community event - and everyone is invited to join - it’s completely free. And you are guaranteed to walk away from it feeling uplifted and inspired and with a big grin on your face! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    17 min

  5. 01/12/2025

    The simple tools that help us go after our dreams and design our lives

    Hello lovelies, Welcome to December! I love the Christmas season - the mince pies, the sparkling lights, the music, the crafting, the gingerbread house making, the wintery films, all the snuggling under blankets and having an actual real-life tree in the house dripping with lights and homemade decorations. I also love this month, of course, because it is THE Goodbye, Hello season - the season of collectively reflecting and dreaming. This is the month where many of us will crack open our brand new Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journals for the first time to start the journey of reflecting back on the year we’ve each been through and watch our dreams and desires for the year ahead emerge on the pages of our journals. Getting to do that process at the same time as thousands of people all over the world, feels utterly magical to me! And so in today’s Pep-Talk… I’m sharing a juicy slice of a conversation I had recently with the wonderful Claire Venus ✨ over on Sparkle on Substack, where we talked about the journal, the power of reflecting and dreaming and the different ways we can help turn those dreams into reality. Claire - who has been doing the journal herself this year - shares how it has acted like an anchor for her through a turbulent year - keeping her grounded, reminding her to pause, helping her find the joy threaded through the hard bits, and nudging her back toward the things that fill up her cup. And we went deep into: * Why reflecting back is just as important as dreaming forward * How quarterly and monthly check-ins help to keep you anchored to what is most important to you * Why even the toughest years hold beauty and wisdom when you slow down enough to look * How turning a five-year vision into something visible (big paper, felt tips, wall!) is a really power way to actually help it come alive * The magic that happens when you keep your dreams in front of you, not hidden in a closed journal * The power of doing these check-ins and reflections together - both for the accountability and the inspiration it offers This conversation left me feeling so filled up and inspired. I’ve included a juicy slice of it in today’s Pep-Talk - and you can watch the whole conversation, over here 🤩 The Big Online Share - Goodbye 2025, Hello 202 Since this conversation I have now set a date for the Big Online Share - the 20th January, 2026! Save your spot here! x Selina This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    22 min

  6. 24/11/2025

    What it's REALLY like to be in the messy middle of a big career change

    Hello lovelies, I’m back this week with another episode from my new Write It. Create It. Live It. series and this one is such an exciting one. I’m joined by Dani Rayner, who has been doing the Goodbye Hello journal for the past three years, and this year she’s taken a huge, brave and wildly exciting leap - escaping the corporate cage (and a job that sounded amazing on paper) to build a new life centred on adventure, freedom, social impact, community and a deeper connection to the outdoors. Sounds like the dream, doesn’t it? But Dani is also keen to share the realities of taking a leap like this. Because exciting though it might sound - as she is discovering (and as I know well) - that kind of leap comes with a big and unavoidable dose of doubt and fear. Navigating that is the hardest part of the journey. And of course it is. When you’re making a big change in life and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, there is no other option, than to hold your nerve and make your way through the messy middle and all the uncertainty that comes with it. Because - as we talk about in the episode - you simply cannot make a change this big without stepping into the unknown. And that is both terrifying and exciting in equal measure. But I promise you, when you get to the other side - and that new career path becomes your new reality - you will be so glad you stuck it out and kept moving forward through all the uncertainty. So today, we dive deep into the reality of bringing about big change in your life, and how: * Hitting rock bottom can sometimes be the very moment that clears the way for what’s next * Shedding an old identity is often far messier - and far more freeing - than people talk about * Setting intentions (like Dani’s word of the year, ‘Intrepidity’) can quietly guide you towards a life you didn’t even know you were ready for * Letting go of the ‘shiny’ path can lead you towards a life that feels meaningful, aligned, and truly yours This conversation is honest, moving, brave, and full of the kind of wisdom that only comes from someone who is right in the messy middle of the leap - not looking back on it from the safety of the other side. I absolutely loved this interview, and I think you will too. Particularly if you’re standing at your own crossroads – or secretly dreaming of a big leap. 🎧 Hit play on today’s Pep-Talk above to hear some of the golden nuggets from this brilliant conversation with Dani. And for the full interview (which I really recommend watching) - here is the video on YouTube. And then make sure you go and follow Dani and her adventures - you’ll find her YouTube, instagram, Tiktok and LinkedIn And if you’re ready to bring about change - big or small - in 2026, order your Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journal TODAY! Your future self will thank you 💛 x Selina This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min

  7. 17/11/2025

    Feeling frazzled before the week's even begun? This one’s for you 💛

    Last week I woke up on Monday morning feeling shattered. And not just the kind of tiredness that comes from a couple of late nights or a busy weekend. I mean the kind of bone tired exhaustion that comes from over doing it for some time. It’s a level of exhaustion that once upon a time I would have met with a strong coffee, a stern word with myself and a to-do list that looked like a military operation. Exhaustion, in those days, was something to override, not listen to. But - I’m glad to say - those days are long gone. Now, when I feel that kind of bone weariness and depletion - particularly on a Monday morning - I see it as a big fat warning sign: that something is wildly off kilter and needs to be addressed. Immediately. And so, before the day had even begun, I downed tools, took a step back and got to the heart of what was causing me to feel so worn out. And within just a few days I was back to feeling fully rested and energised. Which felt nothing short of miraculous. So this week’s Pep Talk is for you if you’ve been feeling frazzled, overstretched, running on empty or just quietly aware that the way you’re operating right now just isn’t sustainable. I want to show you how to course-correct and identify what simple things will help you to unfrazzle yourself and get your energy back in a short space of time. And let’s all agree together that, as we head into the Christmas period, we don’t normalise feeling utterly shattered all of the time. And that if we do, we see it as a sign that we need to stop and take a look at what we need to fill up our cups and recharge our batteries - even 8 minutes lying on your bed, staring at the ceiling can make a surprisingly big difference (as you’ll hear in the episode 😂)! x Selina This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    21 min

  8. 10/11/2025

    How I've designed a life I get to thrive in with ADHD

    Do you know what? I am absolutely loving recording this new series in the podcast - Write it. Create it. Live it. So often we hear podcasts filled with the voices of celebrities or experts — and don’t get me wrong, I love inviting experts onto Another Way to offer up their advice and insights into how to design a life you love. But there’s something that feels quietly rebellious and deeply moving about dedicating a series to ordinary people - people like you and me - who are courageously going after their dreams and learning how to create ways of living and working that truly work for them. And today’s conversation is such a beautiful example of that. I’m joined by Annelie Wambeek who’s been using the Goodbye Hello journal (and been a member of the club) for the past three years. Having been through periods of anxiety and depression in her life - and after many years of feeling trapped in a corporate job that eventually burnt her out - Annelie has gone on to change career and create a way of living and working that really works for her. In this episode we talk about: * How the combination of the journal - plus the live quarterly, monthly and weekly check-ins in the club — have become an important anchor in her life - helping her to manage her ADHD and support her mental health * How some of us simply aren’t suited to traditional ways of working - so much so that they can break us. And so finding another way is a necessity, not just a choice.. * The guilt so many of us carry when things are “good enough” - that feeling that we shouldn’t ask for more when there’s so much suffering in the world. And how learning to thrive, rather than just survive, isn’t selfish - it’s an act of service. Because when we’re full, we have so much more to give. This conversation is full of wisdom, warmth and practical insight - from reframing self-care as a necessity, to realising that “the grass is greener where you water it.” I found it deeply nourishing and I think you will too. I’ve added a section of the conversation into today’s episode and you can watch the full video interview over on the new Project You YouTube channel. And you can find out more about Annelie and her work over on Linkedin and her website: www.anneliewambeek.com And if you’d like to come and join the club that is designed to help you create a life that you get to thrive in - then come and check it out over here. Hope to see you in there! x Selina This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min
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Join Career and Life Design Coach, Selina Barker as she explores the collective limiting beliefs that seem to be keeping so many of us trapped on a treadmill of daily grind and exhaustion and stopping us from living the lives we really want to be living. Listen in as she dives into conversation with special guests who show us that there is another way and the practical steps we can each take to break free and create lives and careers that have us thriving. selinabarker.com anotherwaywithselinabarker.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Selina Barker
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Selina Barker
  • Show Website
    Another Way

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