F*CK Trauma Podcast

Candice Tamara
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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

  1. 10 APR

    Ep 59: How to Attract a New Secure Partner Using the Law of Assumption (Anxious Attachment)

    Anxious attachment: If you keep attracting the same type of person -emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or “not ready” - this episode will show you why it’s happening and how to finally change it. . In this episode, I break down how to attract a new partner using the law of assumption and why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns (even with different people). . This isn’t about luck, timing, or “meeting the right person.” . It’s about your self-concept. . I share exactly how I intentionally manifested my fiancé, the shifts I made to stop attracting avoidant and inconsistent partners, and how you can do the same to create a secure, committed relationship. . Inside, we cover: Why you keep attracting the same relationship patternsHow your self-concept shapes who you attractWhat it actually means to “manifest a partner”The identity shift that changes everythingHow to stop settling for situationships or inconsistencyThe 3 stages of manifestation (reprogramming, response, reflection)How to take aligned action without chasing. If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and finally experience a secure, consistent, loving relationship - this is for you. . ✨ Ready to change your relationship patterns fast? My program Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship you actually want. . Includes a pathway specifically for: Shifting a current relationship Reconnecting with someone from the past Attracting a completely new partner . Join here: Create Your Secure Relationship . ⏳ Limited time: Join now to get access to the bonus live coaching call with me. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    32 min

  2. 20 MAR

    Ep 58: How to Change the Way Someone Treats You in a Relationship Without Chasing Using the Law of Assumption (Anxious Attachment)

    If you have an anxious attachment style, you’ve probably found yourself chasing, overgiving, and trying to get someone to change only to feel more drained, more confused, and more disconnected. . In this episode, I’m showing you how to change the way someone treats you in a relationship without chasing, using the law of assumption and self-concept work. . Because here’s the truth:You don’t need to have the same conversation over and over again.You don’t need to beg or your needs to be met.And you don’t need to wait for someone else to change. . 👉 You change and the dynamic changes. . Inside this episode, I break down: Why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns How your self-concept is shaping how people treat you The truth about avoidant behaviour (and what it’s really reflecting) How to shift inconsistency, lack of effort, and emotional unavailability Why you’re not being prioritised (and how to change that) How to stop feeling unsupported in relationships The real reason you’re chasing commitment — and how to become chosen instead How to stabilise your nervous system so you stop reacting and start creating Practical steps to shift your relationship without chasing, begging, or over-explaining This is the work that changes everything. When you shift your identity, your beliefs, and your nervous system…people naturally show up differently. . My program Create Your Secure Relationship shows you exactly how to rewire your self-concept, regulate your nervous system, and shift your relationship dynamic in as little as 8 weeks. . Includes a pathway specifically for: Shifting a current relationship Reconnecting with someone from the past Attracting a completely new partner Plus if you join now, you'll get a live group call with me to personalise the work to your situation. . 👉 Join Create Your Secure Relationship Here . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    44 min

  3. 6 MAR

    Ep 57: How to Reconnect With Someone From Your Past Using the Law of Assumption (Anxious Attachment)

    Anxious attachment can make it feel impossible to reconnect with someone from your past - especially when you’re stuck in no contact, obsessing over what happened, or wondering if your anxiety pushed them away. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to reconnect with someone from your past using the Law of Assumption, self-concept work, nervous system regulation, and my Secure Method approach. . I share the exact shifts I would make if I wanted to reconnect with someone from the past, including how to change the old story, stop focusing on the 3D, regulate an anxious nervous system, and start embodying the version of you who feels chosen, secure, and deeply loved. . Inside this episode, we cover: how anxious attachment patterns recreate abandonment, ghosting, and inconsistency why your self-concept affects how people show up for you how the Law of Assumption applies to reconnecting with someone from your past why no contact, being blocked, or what they said does not have to be the end the role of EFT tapping and nervous system rewiring in manifesting love why holding on to the old story keeps people from coming back what it really means to “live in the end” when manifesting a relationship how to stop chasing, checking, and looking for validation outside of yourself . If you’ve been asking questions like: Can I manifest someone back? Can I reconnect with someone from my past? How do I use the Law of Assumption when I have anxious attachment? How do I stop abandonment patterns from repeating in love? . This episode is for you. . If you want to go deeper, my programme Create Your Secure Relationship is designed to help you rewire anxious survival patterns, shift your self-concept, and apply this work to one of three outcomes: reconnect with someone from your past, attract a new secure relationship, or transform your current relationship. View & Join Create Your Secure Relationship Here . Listen now if you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle in love and start becoming secure, chosen, and deeply loved from the inside out. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    37 min

  4. 13 FEB

    Ep 56: Why Anxious Attachment Struggles to Manifest Love (Law of Assumption & Self-Concept)

    If you have anxious attachment and you’re trying to manifest love, this episode will explain exactly why it can feel harder for you - especially when using the Law of Assumption. . You’ve been told to “just assume you have it.” . To “live in the end.” . To “stop checking the 3D.” . But when you’re in no contact… when you’re trying to manifest your SP back… when you’re shifting a current relationship… or when you’ve never experienced healthy love before - it doesn’t feel simple. . In this episode, I break down: . • Why anxious attachment makes it harder to stay in the state of the wish fulfilled. . • How hypervigilance and checking the 3D delays your manifestation. . • Why your nervous system is wired for loss (and how that affects manifesting an ex back or new love). . • The real meaning of “feeling is the secret”. . • How self-concept and safety within yourself changes everything . I share my own journey from severe anxious attachment to manifesting my fiancé, shifting past relationships, and helping clients reconnect with someone from the past, attract secure love, or transform their current dynamic... . If you’ve been doing the affirmations, the techniques, the Law of Assumption work - but still feel anxious, triggered, or stuck - this will give you the clarity you’ve been missing. . You’re not failing at manifestation.You just need it explained in a way that understands your nervous system. . And if this resonates, join my free 7-day series: Seven Manifestation Mistakes Anxious Attachment Makes When Manifesting Love - where I break down the patterns that could be blocking you without you even realising. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Quiz: ⁠ Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    16 min

  5. 6 FEB

    Ep 55: 6 Ways You’re Still Chasing Love (Without Realising It)

    If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for you. . You might not be double-texting. You might not be chasing in obvious ways. You might even look secure on the outside. . And yet… you’re still not being chosen. . In this episode, I’m breaking down the subtle, unconscious ways people with anxious attachment are still chasing love without realising it - and why simply “acting secure” doesn’t change your relationship outcomes. . I share my own personal stories, client patterns, and the six chasing archetypes I see over and over again in people who want love, stability, and commitment - but keep recreating the same painful dynamics. . We cover: • The difference between secure behaviour and anxious survival strategies • How anxious attachment shows up as fixing, proving, pleasing, performing, waiting, or hyper-independence • Why you can stop chasing on the surface and still sabotage love underneath • How self-concept and subconscious beliefs determine who chooses you • Why being “low maintenance”, overly understanding, or hyper-independent is still chasing • How these patterns keep recreating partners who don’t fully choose you . If you’ve ever thought: “Why am I still not chosen even though I’m doing everything right?” . This episode will help you see exactly what’s happening - clearly, honestly, and without blame. . Find out your dominant chasing archetype Most people don’t just have one - but there is usually one that runs the show underneath. . 👉 Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here . When you know how you’re chasing, it becomes much easier to stop sabotaging love without realising it. . Ready to shift from chasing to being chosen? If you recognise yourself in this episode, the work to change these patterns is inside my Chasing to Chosen Masterclass. . 👉 Watch the Chasing to Chosen Masterclass here And if you’re trying to manifest love, shift a current relationship, or attract someone new - make sure you listen to next week’s episode. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it! . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    30 min

  6. 26 JAN

    Ep 54: Why They're Not Choosing You

    Anxious attachment doesn’t come from the people you date - it comes from the belief that you are not chosen. . In this episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I explain why they’re not choosing you - and why it has far less to do with them than you’ve been led to believe. . If you keep finding yourself in cycles of anxiety in love, attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or waiting, chasing, and hoping to be chosen, this episode will connect the dots for you. . SHARE this with your friends also stuck in these cycles . This is not surface-level dating advice.This is the belief underneath everything. . I’m breaking down the “not chosen” wound - a subconscious belief formed in childhood that says: • I’m not a priority• I don’t matter as much as others• Love isn’t safe• I have to earn being chosen . And how this belief silently shapes your relationships, your attachment patterns, and even who feels “right” to you. . In this episode, I share: • Why anxious attachment is rooted in self-concept, not other people . • How the not chosen belief causes people to pull away, ghost, or say “I’m not ready” . • Why you end up chasing reassurance, texts, effort, or commitment . • How “waiting to be chosen” actually creates more rejection . • Why people who do want to choose you can feel uncomfortable or boring . • How this wound shows up not just in romantic relationships, but in family, friendships, work, and money . • The exact shift that changed every relationship in my life - including attracting my fiancé . I also explain how the Law of Assumption works in relationships, why people are mirrors of your internal beliefs, and why awareness alone is not enough to create lasting change. . If you’ve ever thought: “Why does this keep happening to me?”“Why does it always start well and then fall apart?”“Why do I feel anxious the moment I care?” This episode will land deeply. . And if you’re ready to stop understanding this pattern and actually shift it, I’ve created a new masterclass called From Chasing to Chosen. . Inside the masterclass, I guide you through reprogramming the not chosen belief at the subconscious and nervous system level, so you’re no longer reacting, spiralling, or self-abandoning in love and instead begin embodying the version of you who expects to be chosen. . Watch From Chasing to Chosen masterclass . ✨ Next episode: I’ll break down the specific behaviours that show you’re unconsciously waiting to be chosen - even when you think you’re not. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it! . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    44 min

  7. 16 JAN

    Ep 53: What Choosing You Actually Means (And How to Start Doing It)

    Everyone tells you to “choose yourself.” . But no one really explains what choosing yourself actually means or how to do it in a way that doesn’t leave you burnt out, overwhelmed, or feeling like you’re doing it wrong. . In this episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, I’m breaking down what choosing you really means, why so many people misunderstand it, and how to start choosing yourself in a way your nervous system can actually hold. . This episode is especially important if you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, people-pleasing, burnout, or feeling like you’re constantly pushing yourself from survival. . Because choosing yourself isn’t about cutting people off, acting unbothered, forcing confidence, or playing it cool. It’s about building self-trust, internal safety, and boundaries with yourself first - so you stop sabotaging, overriding your body, or abandoning yourself for relationships, goals, or outcomes. . In this episode, you’ll learn: What choosing yourself actually looks like in real life (not the Instagram version) The most common ways people misunderstand and get choosing themselves wrong Why forcing change, discipline, or “motivation” often leads to burnout and self-sabotage How anxious attachment and survival patterns show up when you don’t feel safe with yourself Three simple ways to start choosing yourself today by building trust with your body and nervous system Why small, consistent actions matter more than intensity, overhauls, or willpower How choosing yourself internally changes your relationships externally - without trying to control or chase the outcome This episode is the foundation. Before we talk about the chosen wound, anxious attachment patterns in relationships, or why you keep chasing to be chosen, we have to start here - with safety, self-trust, and learning how to stay in relationship with yourself. . If you’ve ever wondered: Why does choosing myself feel so hard? Why do I keep abandoning myself for people, goals, or validation? Why do I burn out every time I try to change or improve my life? This episode is for you. Take the pressure off.Start where you are. And learn how choosing yourself actually begins - quietly, gently, and powerfully. . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    27 min

  8. 28/11/2025

    Ep 52: The Truth About Anxious Attachment: It’s Not Who You Are - It’s a State (Law of Assumption)

    Most people believe anxious attachment is a personality type. It isn’t. . In this episode, I reveal the truth almost no one is teaching:.Your anxious attachment style is not who you are - it’s a state created by the assumptions you hold about yourself, love, and your worth..And when you understand that, everything changes. This is the foundation of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ - my signature state-based approach that combines subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation, identity work, and the Law of Assumption into one cohesive, transformational framework. . Inside this episode, I take you deep into: ✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t an identity - it’s a conditioned state.✨ How subconscious assumptions become your lived experience.✨ How your nervous system stores old emotional imprints.✨ Why awareness alone isn’t enough to create change.✨ The mechanics of shifting into a secure state.✨ The three pillars of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™: • Belief Reprogramming • Nervous System Regulation • Secure Identity Embodiment.✨ How state-shifts transform your relationships and your life . This is where psychology meets consciousness.Where the nervous system meets the Law of Assumption.Where you stop trying to “fix” yourself and step into a new state of being. . Your attachment style was learned.It can be unlearned..And the path back to security is far more powerful and far more possible than you’ve been told. . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    17 min
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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

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  • Creator
    Candice Tamara
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    64
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Candice Tamara
  • Show Website
    F*CK Trauma Podcast

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