Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Heather Frazier
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Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support. Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere. Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip you with the knowledge and skills to not only survive but thrive during these pivotal years. Join us as we explore topics like building trust with your teens, dealing with peer pressure, helping them with mental illness challenges, understanding the teenage brain, and much more. With a focus on empathy and resilience, Heather guides you through the highs and lows of parenting, helping you find peace of mind and joy in the journey. Subscribe now and become part of our community of parents who are dedicated to raising happy, healthy, and well-adjusted young adults. Don't miss out on essential parenting wisdom that will empower you to create a nurturing and supportive home environment. Pivot Parenting—because every moment is an opportunity to grow and connect with your kids when you're confident in your parental abilities.

  1. 7 hr ago

    326. Why Your Teen Lies To You

    *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto" data-turn-id="071daa67-e012-4974-a518-991d65b08fe6" data-turn-id-container="071daa67-e012-4974-a518-991d65b08fe6" data-testid="conversation-turn-9" data-scroll-anchor="false" data-turn="user">   *]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:dc636fdb-a759-4002-9990-1fbed3831b73-4" data-turn-id-container= "request-WEB:dc636fdb-a759-4002-9990-1fbed3831b73-4" data-testid= "conversation-turn-10" data-scroll-anchor="false" data-turn= "assistant"> Your teen lies and suddenly your brain is off to the races. Why would they do this? Why can't they just tell me the truth? They know better. How do I stop this? Can I even trust them anymore? And before we know it, the lie starts to mean something much bigger. We wonder if we failed. If they're headed down the wrong path. If this says something terrible about their character… or ours. In this reprise episode of the Pivot Parenting Podcast, I'm revisiting one of my favorite topics because it changes everything: lying. Yep. We're talking about your little lying-McLie-mouth. I'm going to challenge the way most of us think about dishonesty, why teens lie in the first place, what fear and self-protection have to do with it, and why parenting from panic usually backfires. This episode is full of perspective shifts and truth bombs that will help you move from fear and control to curiosity, connection, and influence. Because when we understand the why behind the behavior, we stop parenting from "fix it" energy and start responding in ways that actually work. You may never look at your teen's lying the same way again… and honestly, that could be very good news for both of you. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    33 min

  2. 23 Jun

    325. Seeing Your Teen as a Person, Not a Reflection

    *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:30ab3167-5a8e-4b11-b6c0-c9e5c9827bb9-54" data-testid= "conversation-turn-110" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> When you hear "objectification," you probably think of something sexual. But it shows up in parenting more than we realize. It happens when we see our kids as a reflection of us, a measure of our success, or a project to manage instead of a person to understand. And once that shift happens, it becomes easier to justify frustration, control, and disconnection. In this episode, I walk you through the subtle ways this shows up with your teen and how to catch it early. Awareness alone can change everything, but I will also show you exactly how to shift your thinking and your behavior so you can see your child clearly again. This is one of those conversations that, once you see it, you cannot unsee it. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me.   There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    40 min

  3. 16 Jun

    324. You and Your Teen Are Not Enemies

    Humans are wired to look for an enemy. And when things feel hard with your teen, it is easy to turn them into the problem. But that approach quietly creates more distance. In this episode, I revisit one of my most important conversations about what it really looks like to be on the same team as your teen. You will learn how to catch the habit of "us vs them," shift into connection, and respond in ways that actually bring you closer. I will give you simple, practical ways to stay on your teen's side, even when things feel tense, emotional, or off track. Because you and your teen were never meant to be opponents. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    21 min

  4. 9 Jun

    323. Rules and Consequences

    This is a reprise episode of "ep. 89 Letter of the Law". I am going to break down the value of rules and consequences in parenting, as well as the application of how to create and follow through with rules and consequences. This is a really common topic with clients and will be very helpful to those struggling with navigating this area where teens tend to give a lot of pushback.  To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    41 min

  5. 2 Jun

    322. Are You a Good Parent?

    This weeks episode is a throw back of ep. 158. I teach you how to know the answer to a common and often painful question: Am I a good parent? It can be a scary thing to consider, but I invite you to have me along as you do.  To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    22 min

  6. 25 May

    321. LOVE is The Strongest Force for Change in Hearts, Homes, and Communities

    What if love isn't just sweet and soft? What if it's actually the strongest force for good, for change? In this final episode of my LOVE series, I'm talking about why love changes people in ways pressure, fear, shame, criticism, control, and consequences never can. As parents, partners, and humans, we often try to create change by pushing harder, worrying more, managing outcomes, or protecting ourselves from disappointment. But real, lasting change doesn't usually happen through force—it happens through safety, connection, truth, and love. I'll share why love is not passive, permissive, or weak. Love holds boundaries. Love sees clearly. Love invites growth. And love- especially when it's grounded and mature, has the power to soften hearts, heal relationships, and create transformation in ourselves and the people we care about. This episode ties together everything we've explored in the LOVE series: loving ourselves, loving our teens, emotional regulation, connection, advocacy, flexibility, and showing up differently even when it's hard. Because in the end, love isn't just something we feel. It's something we practice. And it may be the most powerful catalyst for change we have. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a legitimate reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your struggles can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    19 min
  7. 320. Out-of-the-box Ways to Love Your Teen, with Sonia Suthar

    19 May

    320. Out-of-the-box Ways to Love Your Teen, with Sonia Suthar

    "I love you" might not be getting the job done. Most parents believe that saying the words should be enough—but with teenagers, love isn't always received the way we intend it. Sometimes the most powerful ways to show love are the ones we don't naturally think of. In Episode 11 of the Pivot Parenting LOVE series, Sonja Suthar and I explore creative, out-of-the-box ways to love your teen so they actually feel it. We talk about the role of respect, the Four H's of connection, and how to encourage kids to help out around the house without constant tension. In this conversation, you'll learn: Why your teen's behavior usually isn't about you What teens actually hear when we lecture about video games, TikTok, and screen time Small communication shifts that dramatically strengthen connection How to express love in ways your teen can truly receive This episode is full of practical, real-life tools you can start using today to deepen trust, improve communication, and help your teen feel valued and understood. Because when love is expressed in ways teens can actually hear, something powerful happens—they begin to understand just how precious they are to you. About my guest: Sonia is a 19-year-old founder of Cloud 9 focused on helping teens build leadership, emotional intelligence, and entrepreneurial life skills. Through workshops and speaking engagements, she supports young people and their parents in developing confidence, communication, and real-world readiness while strengthening connection at home. You can find Sonia here: cloud9go - instagram www.linkedin.com/in/soniakatara https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVqO3ESJ9fo -TEDX https://www.facebook.com/cloud9go     To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a solid reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your weaknesses can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    26 min

  8. 12 May

    319. Love Your Teen Even When They Make it Hard to Love Them

    Why are teens often the hardest on the people who love them most? And how do we keep loving our teens well when they're rude, angry, defensive, disrespectful, or pushing us away? In part 10 of my LOVE series on the Pivot Parenting Podcast, I'm talking about what's really going on underneath "difficult" teen behavior and why so many of us end up escalating instead of helping calm the situation. When emotions run high, it's easy to imitate our teen's energy rather than regulate our own—but that usually creates more distance, not more connection. I'll talk about why teens can become prickly during adolescence, how we can deescalate instead of adding fuel to the fire, and why love is often needed most when our teens are struggling the most. Not because we ignore bad behavior or stop holding boundaries, but because connection is what gives us influence long term. If you're exhausted by conflict, walking on eggshells, or wondering how to love your teen without becoming permissive, this episode will help you show up with more peace, clarity, and emotional strength. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call with me. There is a solid reason you're feeling stuck, broken, or are hurting. I will help you discover it so that you can heal it. I firmly believe that your weaknesses can become your strength. Let me show you how. xoxo

    31 min
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Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support. Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere. Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip you with the knowledge and skills to not only survive but thrive during these pivotal years. Join us as we explore topics like building trust with your teens, dealing with peer pressure, helping them with mental illness challenges, understanding the teenage brain, and much more. With a focus on empathy and resilience, Heather guides you through the highs and lows of parenting, helping you find peace of mind and joy in the journey. Subscribe now and become part of our community of parents who are dedicated to raising happy, healthy, and well-adjusted young adults. Don't miss out on essential parenting wisdom that will empower you to create a nurturing and supportive home environment. Pivot Parenting—because every moment is an opportunity to grow and connect with your kids when you're confident in your parental abilities.

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