21 HR AGO

Winning Over High-Ego Minds: How to Pitch Ideas to Self-Proclaimed Geniuses

Do you ever feel like your best ideas get crushed before they have a chance, simply because you’re pitching to someone who’s already decided they’re the smartest person in the room? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into how to pitch your ideas to high-ego individuals and actually get them on your side. As a recovering college professor and communication coach, I’ve seen far too many great ideas die on the vine, not due to lack of quality, but because of the way they're presented to those who crave authority and validation. There’s an art to getting buy-in from someone who measures every suggestion against their own expertise. And in today’s episode, I break down the strategy you need not just to survive these conversations, but to truly shine. Today, I’m sharing the “stealth collaboration” techniques I’ve developed over years of navigating tough rooms, whether with C-suite executives, dominant clients, or anyone who gets defensive at the hint of a challenge. We walk through what makes a standard pitch fail miserably when ego is at stake, the psychology behind high-ego reactions, and most importantly, how to flip that script. Here’s what I cover in detail: Why walking into a room trying to prove your intelligence is the wrong move when egos are on alert The two basic options a finished pitch gives someone with a need for control and why they’ll almost always choose to shoot it down A real story from my early career of watching a flawless presentation unravel because it threatened someone’s status The concept of “psychological reconnaissance” and why you need to listen like you’re wrong (even when you know you’re right) The Strategic Question Dump: how to schedule a low-pressure chat, ask open-ended questions, and mine for the true priorities and pain points driving their decisions Using their own words and priorities as the foundation for your proposal How the “IKEA effect” from Harvard research helps you craft an intentionally unfinished prototype that invites their edits, so they’ll value the idea more How to invite criticism up front, turning would-be critics into collaborators The importance of mirroring their language, anchoring your summary in their exact phrasing, and letting them feel like the architect of the solution The “eighth grade simplicity test” to make sure your final proposal is simple and clear enough that the high-ego individual can confidently champion it to others Why making your intelligence invisible is the secret to building long-term influence and trust I close with practical homework: ban yourself from saying “I” in your next project pitch, ask one targeted question based on their input, present a draft with intentional gaps, and then let them build it with you. Progress, not perfection, is the goal and your path to becoming a powerful, persuasive communicator starts here. For more resources and your free eBook, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12 min

3 DAYS AGO

The Power of Emotional Intelligence: Leading With Confidence Through Life’s Challenges

What does it really mean to be emotionally intelligent, and how can mastering this skill transform not just your communication, but your entire experience of work and life? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into emotional intelligence beyond the buzzwords and the surface-level definitions, exploring what it looks like in the real world, how we grow it, and why it matters more than ever in today's evolving workplace. I'm Tim Newman, and in this episode, I had the privilege of welcoming Camilla Calberg to the show. Camilla is a business mentor, career coach, and a leader who has spent over 20 years driving transformation at places like BP, Shell, and IBM. Today, she’s on a mission to help women (and all professionals) who feel unseen, stuck, or overwhelmed, finally find inner peace and become trusted, emotionally intelligent advisors in their organizations. And she’s changing the way we think about leadership moving beyond the old KPIs-and-box-ticking mentality to a more soul-led, sustainable approach that truly supports people. In our conversation, Camilla and I jumped right into the realities of personal growth at work, especially the tough parts of those moments when things aren’t going according to plan and it feels like the storms are never ending. We discussed the huge difference between knowing about emotional intelligence in theory versus actually living it day-to-day: feeling those waves of emotion, noticing when your body is sending you nervous signals, and making real choices about how to show up in the moment. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The true, lived definition of emotional intelligence and how it shows up in real work situations Camilla’s personal journey from masking emotions to finding inner peace and the pivotal moments that changed her approach The problem with equating years or credentials with real growth and how to embody your learning How stress and emotional overload manifest in work conversations, and phrases to listen for Leadership and the art of saying “no” why boundaries are crucial for effectiveness and health The disconnect between Gen Z and business leaders, and actionable ways to bridge the gap using emotional intelligence Practical, immediately usable mindset shifts and conversational strategies for dealing with tough work situations and negative environments The importance of choosing your "tribe" and surrounding yourself with people who lift you up Whether you’re early in your career, leading teams, or navigating big life transitions, this episode will challenge you to rethink what confidence, emotional intelligence, and real leadership look like from the inside out. Plus, Camilla shares more resources for those who want to go deeper. Tune in to discover how being more intelligent with your emotions and less attached to your “mask” can transform not just your presence at work, but your overall sense of peace and purpose. Connect with Camilla: Website: https://www.camillacalberg.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/camillacalberg/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@camillacalberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

50 min

7 MAY

Speak Without Fear: The ACEs Checklist for Calm, Clear Answers

Have you ever been put on the spot in a meeting when your boss turns to you and asks, “What’s your take on this?” and your mind just goes blank? If you’ve ever struggled with this kind of pressure, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the uncomfortable but all-too-common experience of freezing up when you’re unexpectedly called upon, and I reveal a practical way to break through that mental block, fast. I open the show by getting real about what’s actually happening in those high-stakes moments. Freezing up isn’t a sign that you’re not smart, or that you don’t know your stuff, it's the result of cognitive overload. Suddenly, your brain’s juggling a hundred possibilities at once, and without a clear filter or system in place, panic sets in and clarity goes out the window. That’s why today I’m sharing a tool that’s been a game-changer for me and my clients: the ACES method. It’s a mental checklist that helps you cut through the noise and respond with confidence even when your heart’s pounding and your thoughts are scrambling for an exit. I’ll walk you through the ACES framework. We’ll dig into the real reasons smart people freeze, why the usual “just be confident” advice falls flat, and how using a simple, four-step mental scan can help you deliver sharp, focused answers in any conversation. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why freezing doesn’t mean you’re unprepared and what’s actually going on in your brain when you’re put on the spot. The critical importance of filtering your response through “audience” focusing on who’s asking the question and what they actually need from you. The “one thing rule” for content zeroing in on the single most important piece of information instead of dumping everything you know. How to spot and align with hidden expectations behind the question, so you answer what’s really being asked. The power of having a go-to “script” structure point, reason, example, and action that helps your thoughts flow into a clear, compelling answer. Practical, low-pressure ways to practice ACES, so the process becomes automatic (even when you’re under pressure). A simple challenge to try the ACES method in your next everyday conversation to start building unstoppable communication muscle. If you’re ready to replace panic with process and show up in high-stakes moments with real clarity, this episode is for you. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and check out the Forming for Public Speaking course. Let’s keep moving towards progress, not perfection. Your voice really can change the world! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 min

4 MAY

Unlocking True Confidence: How Self-Talk and Trust Can Transform Public Speaking

Have you ever wondered why confidence seems to slip away right when you need it most? Or if it’s really possible to change how you feel about yourself and your abilities no matter how long you’ve struggled? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into the roots of real confidence, the power of self-talk, and how science and faith come together to help us show up as our best selves. I’m Tim Newman, and today I’m joined by the incredible Dr. Laurette Willis, a cognitive behavioral therapist, speaker, mentor, and founder of Weight Loss Without Willpower and Praises Moves Fitness Ministry. Laurette’s journey from childhood struggles with overeating and self-image to empowering women and men around the world to find strength without shame brings a wealth of wisdom and practical tools to our conversation. We kick things off by unpacking what confidence really means. As Dr. Laurette explains, the word itself comes from the Latin “confidere” to have full trust. She shares how true confidence is about leaning your full weight on your trust on something greater than yourself, and why this “trust” is the opposite of fear, especially for people whose greatest challenges show up right alongside their greatest gifts. We both get personal about our own experiences with stage fright and imposter syndrome even after years of professional speaking and performing. Dr. Laurette opens up about growing up with negative self-talk and how completely changing what she said to herself transformed not only her feelings but her results in life. I reveal my ongoing struggles with self-doubt, despite being able to help others navigate the same thing, and we both talk about how, even as coaches, we need outside support to keep our inner voices in check. Throughout the episode, we explore: The roots and true meaning of confidence How fear often attacks our greatest strengths The five-step chain that links self-talk to results Practical neuroscience: how your brain can and does change (neuroplasticity!) Myths about “overnight” change and why patience with yourself matters How your environment and the people around you shape your mindset and outcomes The power of habits, big and small, to rewire your brain and your life Dr. Laurette’s story of feeling most “herself” on stage, and how improv taught her trust Using faith-based practices and scripture to ground confidence A powerful cognitive-behavioral exercise to physically “cast off” worry and take on peace The science behind victory celebrations, positive self-talk, and dopamine hits for change Why believing in others before they believe in themselves can be life-changing A hands-on bilateral brain stimulation technique for cutting through fear or cravings in seconds The practical, lifelong value of mentorship, support, humility, and helping others up the ladder How to speak life into yourself and others (and why that matters more than you think) By the end of our heartfelt, hope-filled talk, you’ll walk away with a practical toolkit for tackling fear, reframing your inner dialogue, and stepping up to life’s stage with true confidence rooted in trust, humility, and real support. If you’re ready to break out of old cycles, speak with boldness, and help others do the same, this conversation with Dr. Laurette Willis will inspire you from the inside out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

54 min

30 APR

From Invisible to Influential: Mastering Clarity, Collaboration, and Public Speaking

Are you tired of working hard but still finding yourself overlooked, misunderstood, or stuck in conflict at work? In today’s episode, I tackle the question: What if the real reason you're not getting the recognition or opportunities you deserve isn’t about how hard you’re working, but about the way you communicate? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and your guide on the Speaking with Confidence podcast. In this episode, I break down the exact three-part formula I use with my clients to transform invisible, frustrated professionals into clear, connected, and unstoppable communicators. It’s not just a list of tips, it's a step-by-step system where every part is necessary, and missing any one piece makes the whole thing fall apart. It’s just you and me exploring what it truly means to become a successful, respected communicator. I’ll share the actionable steps that have helped my clients move from being overlooked to being valued, and from being anxious in the spotlight to becoming confident, effective public speakers. Here’s what we cover in today’s episode: Why the root of your career problems is more likely a communication issue than a lack of effort or expertise, and why that’s actually good news The myth that sounding articulate or having a big vocabulary means you’re a good communicator and why real communication starts with clarity above all else The importance of the “eighth grade rule” explaining your ideas so simply that even an eighth grader would understand, making your message unmissable at work A deep dive into collaboration and why true teamwork isn’t about being agreeable or avoiding conflict, but about handling friction with empathy and courage The “velvet brick” framework: being soft on the person but hard on the problem so you can tackle tough issues without sacrificing relationships How poor communication in small, one-on-one conversations can snowball into big project failures and blown deadlines down the line The misconception that public speaking is an innate talent, and why it’s actually about having applied confidence in your message and your collaborative skills A personal story about how reframing the audience as collaborators rather than judges can eliminate stage fright and boost your influence Why you can’t cheat the system by skipping steps each skill builds on the last, and only by mastering the sequence do you unlock real career leverage A challenge for the week: Identify one conversation and apply the eighth grade rule—deliberately choose clarity, and see how it transforms your results By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have a practical formula for communication success, but you’ll understand why each part matters and how to put it all together for dramatic results in your work and beyond. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook on the top 21 challenges for public speakers and learn about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice really does have the power to change the world. Let's unlock it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 min

27 APR

Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety and Building Real Confidence with Hufsah Ahmad

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can’t just “be confident” especially when your hands are shaking and your mind is racing? If so, you’re not alone, and you’re exactly who this episode is for. Today on Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling the reality behind what it means to build, lose, and rebuild true confidence especially for those who’ve faced serious self-doubt, bullying, or lived experience with mental health challenges. I sat down with the remarkable Hufsa Ahmad licensed therapist, scientist, award-winning mental health advocate, behavioral health consultant, and two-time TEDx speaker. She’s uniquely known for blending science, clinical wisdom, and sharp humor, turning even life’s lowest points into stepping stones for growth and resilience. In this episode, Hufsah opens up about her journey from being a happy, curious child to enduring relentless bullying, depression, and defining periods of isolation. She shares how a suicide attempt as a child and ongoing battles with mental illness and the stigma attached eventually pushed her to hit rock bottom. From there, she didn’t just rebuild her confidence; she reframed her entire relationship with herself and those around her. Highlights from our conversation: How early life experiences and bullying shaped Hafsah’s self-image and how she turned the corner The gritty process of learning to care less about what others think, even in the face of online hate and real-world rejection The impact of social media on social confidence, and why stepping away transformed her focus and well-being The difference between “performing confidence” and actually feeling it, and how to spot the difference Why humor is a tool for healing, connection, and resilience and how anyone can start using it Tactics Hafsah uses to reframe negative self-talk and rewrite the narrative after setbacks The most common myths anxious speakers believe, and evidence-based ways to challenge them What crowd work and comedy taught her about real presence in public speaking Practical steps every anxious speaker should stop doing immediately and what to do instead The power of not taking things personally, and why audience reactions aren’t always about you If you’ve ever felt crushed by criticism, paralyzed by anxiety, or frustrated by the advice to “just be confident,” this episode will give you actionable wisdom, a few laughs, and a whole new way to think about resilience on and off the stage. Connect with Hufsa: Website: https://hufsaahmad.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hufsaahmad/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hufsaahmad YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hufsa-ahmad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

59 min

23 APR

5 Presentation Traps That Make Experts Look Unprepared

Have you ever wondered if knowing too much about your subject could actually make you a less effective communicator? I know it sounds counterintuitive, but in this episode of Speaking With Confidence, I dive into why deep expertise might be your biggest liability when presenting and the one simple rule that can turn it all around. Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and in this episode, I share my journey from thinking that piling on credentials and information would make me the most persuasive person in the room to realizing that too much expertise can actually get in the way of real communication. I know firsthand how easy it is to fall into “the expert trap,” and today, I want to walk you through the five ways this shows up in our presentations, plus the practical fix that anyone can use immediately. It’s just me sharing hard-won experience and tools you can apply whether you’re presenting research, delivering a pitch, or leading a team meeting. We start by unpacking the subtle but powerful curse of knowledge, that cognitive bias that makes us forget what it felt like not to know our subject. From there, I break down the other traps that experts stumble into: overloading slides with data, defaulting to lecture mode, relying on jargon to “prove” credibility, and hiding behind an impenetrable expert persona that actually alienates your audience. We don’t just name the problems, we walk through fixes. I share my go-to strategies, like building presentations that map the audience’s journey rather than just dumping information, making every slide a clear, focused compass rather than a wall of text, and applying what I call the “Gen Z Intern Test” to ensure your language stays human and relatable. Most importantly, I reveal the eighth-grade rule: If a typical eighth grader can’t grasp your main point and its importance after just one hearing, you need to simplify it even further. Clear ideas are your greatest source of authority. Here’s what I cover in this episode: The real ways expertise can sabotage your communication and connection Understanding and overcoming the curse of knowledge Escaping the trap of data drowning and cluttered slides Breaking the lecture loop by building real exchanges with your audience Avoiding jargon overload and speaking so anyone can understand Letting go of the impenetrable expert persona and embracing authentic authority The “eighth grade rule” as your universal test for clarity Why preparing to connect is always more powerful than preparing to impress If you’re ready to move your presentations from impressive to impactful, and from credible to truly connected, this episode is packed with tools to get you there. Don’t forget to grab your free ebook at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and I’ll see you next time as we keep building the soft skills that create real change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 min

20 APR

The Hidden System Behind Confident Communication and Leadership Growth

What does it really take to move from simply having a message to building a message that truly lasts? That’s the question we answer in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, we dig deep into the art and science behind powerful communication not just what you see on stage, but the systems, preparation, and intentionality that make those moments matter. I’m joined by Jared Cagle, Executive Vice President of Content at Maxwell Leadership. Jared is a master of helping communicators, authors, and thought leaders craft messages that create lasting impact. He’s been directly involved with the development, publishing, and global expansion of John Maxwell’s legendary leadership content, and he shares a behind-the-scenes look at what it really takes to influence at scale. In our conversation, Jared Cagle and I talk about the recent International Maxwell Conference, with Jared offering his highlights and lessons learned from running the show behind the curtain. We discuss the real meaning of connection and community, why the hallway conversations are sometimes more transformative than what happens on stage, and how being genuinely interested in others is foundational to meaningful leadership and influence. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Jared’s role at Maxwell Leadership and the intentional system behind crafting memorable messages Why community and connection matter more than just great content The power of being interested in others and making them feel valued Jared’s unique career journey from cold calls to leading content for a global brand Lessons from getting “in the room” with world-class leaders and how to add value The relationship between reading, writing, and effective speaking Practical advice on building messages that last and how the market determines message longevity The importance of making your message about the audience, not just yourself Confidence vs. preparedness: what the top speakers and leaders really feel before walking on stage How to contextualize your message for different audiences and make every moment of interaction count Why starting small and serving locally can create ripple effects of influence What’s next for Jared, the legacy work with John Maxwell, and how you can get involved with Maxwell Leadership Whether you’re an aspiring speaker, established leader, or someone passionate about communicating with more impact, this episode will give you actionable strategies and a fresh perspective on what it takes to build a message and a legacy that lasts. Connect with Jared: LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/jared_cagle/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jared_cagle/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

57 min

Speaking With Confidence

Winning Over High-Ego Minds: How to Pitch Ideas to Self-Proclaimed Geniuses

The Power of Emotional Intelligence: Leading With Confidence Through Life’s Challenges

Speak Without Fear: The ACEs Checklist for Calm, Clear Answers

Unlocking True Confidence: How Self-Talk and Trust Can Transform Public Speaking

From Invisible to Influential: Mastering Clarity, Collaboration, and Public Speaking

Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety and Building Real Confidence with Hufsah Ahmad

5 Presentation Traps That Make Experts Look Unprepared

The Hidden System Behind Confident Communication and Leadership Growth

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Winning Over High-Ego Minds: How to Pitch Ideas to Self-Proclaimed Geniuses

The Power of Emotional Intelligence: Leading With Confidence Through Life’s Challenges

Speak Without Fear: The ACEs Checklist for Calm, Clear Answers

Unlocking True Confidence: How Self-Talk and Trust Can Transform Public Speaking

From Invisible to Influential: Mastering Clarity, Collaboration, and Public Speaking

Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety and Building Real Confidence with Hufsah Ahmad

5 Presentation Traps That Make Experts Look Unprepared

The Hidden System Behind Confident Communication and Leadership Growth

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