Autism Dadcast

Gaz and Andrew
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An unfiltered, unflinching, and occasionally inappropriate deep dive into the world of autism parenting-from a dad's perspective.

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    #42 | "I Wouldn't Pay A Penny To Change Him" | Paul Mullin On Albi, Autism & Being A Dad

    Paul Mullin has scored goals in front of millions and become a household name through Welcome to Wrexham. But this one is about the part of his life the cameras rarely catch: being dad to Albi, his autistic son. Gaz and Andy sit down with Paul for an honest, Albi-centric conversation about the regression that stopped his little boy in his tracks, the guilt that kept him up at night, and why he wouldn't change a single thing about his son. Plus the moment Albi found a way to tell him 'you're my best friend' without saying a word. If you have ever felt like the only dad going through this, this one is for you. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome Paul Mullin 01:00 The first signs, and Albi after his 12-month jabs 02:00 Regression: like a click of the fingers 04:00 The guilt, and crying himself to sleep 04:30 I wouldn't pay a penny to change him 05:35 Denial, and getting the diagnosis 07:20 Speaking about it on Welcome to Wrexham 08:24 The hope that kills you 11:38 Why 'he'll be fine' doesn't help 13:00 Did he grieve? The problem-solver dad 16:14 Being a footballer dad: time away and routine 19:12 How Albi communicates now 22:15 Holidays: frozen meals, dry ice and the airport 25:40 Coming home: holidays, holidays, holidays 27:50 Razor-sharp awareness: he just knows 29:20 The crafty negotiator: jet skis and boats 33:40 The best friend clip 35:07 Macho on the pitch, in tears at home 35:48 Autism in Racing and giving back 38:26 Nobody ever asks the dad how he is 43:00 Advice to a dad just starting the journey New episodes of the Autism Dadcast every week. Real talk, real dads, real autism. Listen, follow and find everything in our link tree in bio.

    45 min

  2. 19 juin

    #41 | How One Wrong Word Can Ruin An Entire Day

    One missed board and one wrong word at in the morning, and Thomas's whole morning falls apart. This week Gaz and Andy unpack how much detail autistic kids track, why a single word can rewrite their day, and how much they understand even mid-meltdown. Plus Lydia becomes swimmer of the week, the new-neighbour conversation every autism parent knows, and an honest, conflicted take on the under-16 social media ban and what it overlooks for autistic teens.Timestamps00:00 Charlie's shop opening and meeting Sophie the BTS superfan02:00 Lydia's swimming breakthrough: swimmer of the week03:40 Thomas's Monday meltdown: how one wrong word derailed the morning06:10 He knew the score: what the meltdown hid09:15 The new neighbour, the fence, and explaining autism again11:05 Attention to detail: the thing they do best14:35 The under-16 social media ban: where we land26:15 What the ban gets wrong about autistic kidsLatest episode and Discord in the link tree in our bio. Merch from Neurospicy & Co at neurospicyandco.uk, 10% off with code DADCAST.

    1 h 2 min

  3. 11 juin

    #40 | Toilet training, Autism & Gut Health.

    Every parent of an autistic child has been told the same thing: just take the nappy off and sit them on the toilet. This week Gaz and Andy sit down with Charmaine, a learning disability nurse turned continence consultant with over 30 years of experience, and find out why that advice not only fails, it can make things worse.What starts as a chat about toilet training turns into something much bigger: gut health, the gut-brain connection, sleep, meltdowns, and the quiet toll this takes on a whole family. Charmaine explains why you have to start inside the body and not on the toilet, why it is learning and not training, and why no parent struggling with this has ever been failing.If you have ever felt judged, stuck, or completely on your own with this, this one is for you.Chapters00:00 Meet Charmaine, continence consultant02:45 Why toilet training is so hard for autistic kids03:34 Gut health and the gut biome05:43 The gut as a second brain10:07 Where to actually start (inside the body)11:59 The Bristol stool chart21:54 Nobody makes mistakes: parent blame and misinformation25:51 Learning, not training30:05 Why rewards do not work38:20 What the NHS offers, and the postcode lottery49:53 Why it works at home but not at school53:47 It was never lazy parenting57:42 Sleep, the brain and meltdowns1:08:50 Charmaine's support group and free resources1:13:18 The real cost: holidays, work and isolationFind CharmaineClear Steps Consultancy: https://www.clearstepsconsultancy.co.ukSupport group: How to Get the Wee and Poo in the Loo (videos, live sessions and free downloads)Socials: search "continence consultant and trainer" on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedInNew episodes of the Autism Dadcast every week. Real talk, real dads, real autism. Listen, follow and find everything in our link tree in bio.

    1 h 17 min

  4. 4 juin

    #39 | "He Opened The Door And Just Walked Off"

    You can know your child inside out and still be blindsided in the space of a week. This one starts with Thomas opening the front door and wandering off down a hill in a quiet Shropshire village - the same week Lydia did almost exactly the same thing. From there it runs into the half-term chaos that brought biting back out of nowhere, the dread of summer toilet training and puberty creeping into view, and a proper kicking of the Department for Education for handing SEND to Gemma Collins after the white paper left families feeling gaslit. Underneath the rage and the dark humour, it lands somewhere quieter. Gaz and Andy talk about the pre-autism photos, the grief that takes turns between two parents, and the two-second forehead touch that says everything a spoken "I love you" never will. You'll come away realising two things can be true at once. You can grieve the life you pictured and still get up and be the dad your kid actually needs.

    58 min

  5. 20 mai

    #38 | "What If You Didn't Have to Fight So Hard?"

    You sit down with the paediatrician. You've got half an hour. You know the first 20 minutes will be you trying to prove your child is different to every other child in that waiting room - and you'll walk out no further forward. Orrin Benford knows that feeling. After a year of being fobbed off across GPs, neurologists and urologists for his daughter Indie, he stopped trying to remember everything off the top of his head and built something that did it for him. This episode is about what happens when parents stop fighting and start advocating - with the full picture, not a half-remembered one. In this episode: Orrin's journey from digital-nomad life to full-time parent carer in Australia, why so many parents feel gaslit by the system, the difference between fighting and effective advocacy, and how technology is finally letting parents drive change instead of waiting for the system to catch up. 🔑 Key moments: - 00:38 — Orrin's story: England, Australia, and an airport on Christmas Day - 04:29 — The seizure the day after Indie's first birthday - 12:15 — Healthcare in Australia vs the UK vs Dubai - 17:05 — Why parents hand over "dirty, incomplete data" - 19:22 — The two-page summary that changed everything - 25:16 — Why it's not gaslighting, but it feels like it - 37:35 — The handovers, the ring binders, and the things you forget - 46:19 — The things that break parents are the things that didn't need to happen If this episode helped, subscribe and leave a review - it helps other parents find us. Follow Orrin: @OrrinBenford | The app: @theindiapp #AutismDadcast #Autism #Parenting #Neurodiversity #ASD #SEND

    1 h 3 min

  6. 12 mai

    #37 | "The Word That Broke Me in Popeye's"

    Adam Parkinson came on this week. One of the Two Mr. Ps. Teaching assistant. Podcaster. Dad of two — a 10-year-old daughter and a 7-year-old autistic son called Max. We talked about Max. We talked about the plane aisle moment his wife filmed without telling him, that went viral and started everything. We talked about siblings, and what it means to watch your daughter try not to look upset when her brother destroys her Barbie Dream House. We talked about online trolls, the dads' WhatsApp group, and the time a stranger told him celebrating his son's diagnosis was "like celebrating your kid having cancer." And we talked about the moment in Popeye's last weekend when Max tried a chicken tender for the first time, looked up, and said one word he'd never said before. Timestamps: 0:00 — SATs week, Popeye's, and a school uniform standoff 3:00 — Meet Adam and the family 4:00 — Spotting it during lockdown 5:18 — You're allowed to mourn the life you planned 6:23 — The plane aisle video that started everything 8:31 — Isla, sibling of the year 10:55 — When the Barbie Dream House got destroyed 11:53 — You can never relax 13:16 — What people don't understand until they live it 15:14 — The small wins nobody else sees 17:25 — Autism top trumps and 23 hours awake 18:30 — Handling violent moments differently after the community 20:07 — Verdict. Great. Outstanding. 21:25 — Are dads in the SEND world overlooked? 24:33 — Permission to talk 26:55 — The celebrating cancer comment 28:13 — Chubby Tommy Robinson and other DMs 31:51 — The dads' WhatsApp army 38:33 — Two Mr. Ps and how it started 49:17 — Pen licences and getting recognised in your swimming shorts 59:55 — Adam's advice to a dad at diagnosis

    1 h 3 min

  7. 8 mai

    #36 | "Are We Doing As Much As We Can?"

    We ran the London Marathon. We didn't train. We finished it. And then we had a conversation we weren't expecting to have. Halfway through writing this off as a marathon recap, we ended up admitting something neither of us had said out loud before. We talk a lot about wanting to be around as long as we can for our kids. But if we're honest, we're not always doing the things that would actually make that happen. This one's got the funny stuff. The rhinos overtaking us. The fireman in full kit with an air canister on his back. The stranger who fed Gaz crisps when his calf cramped outside a pub. But underneath all of it, the question we couldn't stop asking each other. Are we doing enough? And if we're not, when does that stop? Timestamps: 0:00 — Medals, recovery, and the post-marathon shock 1:00 — The trainer mistake nobody warned us about 3:30 — Hitting the wall at 25k 4:53 — How slick the event actually was 6:30 — Cody's Sark and looking for Mish in the crowd 7:34 — Tower Bridge and faking it for the BBC camera 8:35 — "I'd love to do it again, but I'd train this time" 9:00 — Why we're already signing up for next year 11:21 — The bug we didn't expect to catch 12:23 — The honest conversation about staying alive 14:14 — What you'd say on your deathbed 16:11 — The other dads getting stuck in19:07 — Sean's response when he saw Mish 19:33 — Ambitious About Autism at mile 25 21:13 — Garmin lies and the 22-mile detour 22:35 — The fridge runner and the dementia genes 23:34 — The best of London on one day 27:19 — Why the donations kept us going 29:51 — The crisps, the IPA and the kindness of strangers 35:01 — Crossing the line and the wave of emotion 35:32 — The voice note that made Gaz cry 36:48 — The school forgot Thomas's good luck present 37:41 — A shout out to Spot Limited 40:11 — Buying us a coffee mid-marathon 41:35 — Adam Parkinson and the Australian app 42:31 — The kick up the arse we needed

    48 min

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    #35 | What Mums Wish We Knew

    We put two sets of questions to the community. One for dads, one for mums. The dads sent seven. The mums sent seventeen. And most of the mums' questions were about how to get their partner on board. This one hits different. We talk about what happens when you refuse to accept your child's diagnosis. Why dads get left behind. Why mums end up carrying everything. And the moment you have to stop making it about you and start making it about your kid. We also answer the question nobody wants to think about: what do you actually miss? Not the big stuff. The everyday things that every other parent takes for granted. If you're a dad still sitting on the fence, this is the one. Timestamps:0:00 — Marathon panic and stepping in human feces4:39 — Q&A starts: dads' questions5:06 — How did the diagnosis hit you?11:27 — Living in silence and burnout17:33 — Golden hope for adulthood19:25 — Low expectations and why we stop pushing our kids23:05 — Why mums do all the work29:01 — Should the UK adopt autism levels?32:12 — Guilt of calling home from work34:53 — Mums' questions begin35:02 — Why does mum do all the research?39:29 — The wake-up call for dads41:44 — How to support your partner after diagnosis46:42 — Processing trauma of being dismissed52:30 — Coping with isolation1:00:04 — The video that broke us1:02:14 — Advice for grandparents, friends, and family1:10:22 — Coping as a single mum1:14:03 — Keeping calm when professionals fail you1:19:22 — Why is it so hard to be heard?1:22:36 — Unawareness in the medical community1:25:35 — No support after diagnosis1:26:59 — Why aren't there enough specialist schools?1:32:22 — What do dads miss the most?1:36:24 — Supporting a partner as a stepparent1:40:39 — Helping your husband find his tribe

    1 h 46 min
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An unfiltered, unflinching, and occasionally inappropriate deep dive into the world of autism parenting-from a dad's perspective.

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  • Création
    Gaz and Andrew
  • Années d’activité
    2025 - 2026
  • Épisodes
    48
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    © Gaz and Andrew
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    Autism Dadcast

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