Alonement

Francesca Specter
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Alonement is a podcast about the positive side of spending time alone. When being alone isn't lonely, it's alonement: finding joy and value in solitude. Each week, host Francesca Specter asks a new guest about the time they spend by themselves – and why it matters to them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 29 JUL

    Creating Community When You Live Alone, with Marianne Power

    This week I’m chatting to journalist & bestselling author, Marianne Power. Marianne’s first book, Help Me, where she takes a deep dive into the world of self-help, was published in 25 languages and became a global bestseller. Now, she’s back with her long-awaited follow-up, Love Me: One Woman’s Search for A Different Happy Ever After. In this book, Marianne explores the potential for a life less ordinary. Living alone in east London, and single in her mid-forties, Marianne asks the question of what makes a happy life – and crucially, is it possible without a traditional romantic partner? After listening to this episode, I’ll leave you to answer that question for yourself. Marianne shares so much wisdom with me about how to build a chosen family through local community, leaning in to introversion, and what it means to be single at heart.  If you’d like to hear more from Marianne Power, you can follow her on Substack at helpmenewsletter.substack.com, and of course her books, Help Me! and Love Me! are available to buy at all good book stores. Follow me on Instagram, @chezspecter and subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at francescaspecter.substack.com  Referenced in this episode: Motherhood by Sheila Heiti 'What Do We Do Now We're Here' - A Substack by Rosie Spinks Bella DePaulo's Single at Heart Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    42 min

  2. 21 JUL

    Solo Travel and How to Master the Art of Packing for One, with Lizzie Frainier

    My guest this week Lizzie Frainier, author of Main Character: Lessons from a Real Life Rom-Com and associate travel editor at The Times. In this episode, she shares what she’s learnt from over a decade of solo travel, which began with a transatlantic home swap inspired by the film The Holiday and continued with a romantic trip for one in Venice, an ill-fated motorcycling trip in Vietnam and an Eat Pray Love style pilgrimage to Bali. We also talk about Lizzie’s infatuation with rom-coms, and how the lessons she learnt from the likes of Notting Hill and Bridget Jones inspired her to write her memoir. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the episode – do leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, if you haven’t already. You can finding Lizzie on Instagram – her handle is just her full name, Lizzie Frainier, which is very chic. I’m on Instagram too @ChezSpecter, and you can follow my writing on Substack at francescaspecter.substack.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 5m

  3. 8 JUL

    Carving Out Space and Time for Yourself, with Penny Wincer

    Penny Wincer is the author of Home Matters: How Our Homes Shape Us and We Shape Them, her second non-fiction book, and host of the podcast, Not Too Busy to Write, where she interviews writers on their relationship with their craft and how they make time for it.  In the years I’ve been writing this podcast, I’ve learnt alonement is just about practical considerations as it is about the emotional ones. Penny’s work is a testament to that philosophy. Her work is centred around creating the time and space for alone time, even in the most challenging of circumstances - a challenge she herself navigates every day as the mother of a disabled child. Penny is a one-of-a-kind thinker and a brilliant interviewee, and I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed recording.  You can follow Penny on Instagram at @pennywincer and on Substack. Her latest book, Home Matters, is available to buy now. Meanwhile, I’m on Substack at francescaspecter.substack.com and Instagram @ChezSpecter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    33 min

  4. 30 JUN

    Strengthen Your Solitude Skills, with Thuy-vy Nguyen

    This week's guest, Thuy-vy Nguyen, PhD, is one of the world’s leading researchers on solitude, and an associate professor at Durham University’s dedicated research lab, Solitude Lab. Her interest is in ‘ordinary, everyday life solitude’, the kind you’re more likely to find in the corner of a cafe than on a 10-day silent meditation retreat. It’s solitude in moderation – or what we on this podcast like to call alonement. This episode is an edifying exploration of the latest in solitude research, from how the experience of being alone affects our mental state to the pros and cons of labelling yourself an introvert/extrovert. We also talk about solitude skills, and how almost anyone can get better at it – no matter how much they hate it to begin with. You can find out more about Thuy-vy’s brilliant work on the Solitude Lab website. Meanwhile, stay in touch with me on Instagram @chezspecter and on Substack – francescaspecter.substack.com  Referenced in the show: Solitude: Seeking Wisdom in Extremes - A Year Alone in the Patagonia Wilderness by Robert Kull Solitude: In Pursuit of a Singular Life in a Crowded World by Michael Harris Solitude Skills and the Private Self – Research paper authored by Virginia Thomas A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    40 min

  5. 23 JUN

    How to Cook for One, with Eleanor Wilkinson

    Struggle to cook for one? We've got you - our guest Eleanor Wilkinson, recipe developer and author of One Pot, One Portion, has dedicated her career to overcoming some of the most common hurdles people face when cooking solo. Inspired by losing her father at a young age, Eleanor resolved to seize life's simple pleasures and make every moment count, including the meals she ate alone. Trained at Ballymaloe cookery school, she turned her skillset towards the oft-neglected territory of single portion meals. From her special take on lasagne for one to her innovative ways to use up a pack of tortillas when it's 'just you', this episode combines practical advice with a continuous love letter to the joy that is nurturing yourself, stomach and soul, in your alonement. Nigella Lawson's a fan, and you will be too after tuning into this episode. Why not leave a review to let us know what you thought? If you'd like to follow Eleanor's solo cooking adventures, her book One Pot, One Portion is out now, while she's on Instagram at @eleanorgwilkinson. She also regularly updates her website, eleanorgwilkinson.com, with new recipes. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    44 min

  6. 16 JUN

    Cat Ladies of the World, Unite! With Comedian Katie Norris

    Welcome to season 10 of Alonement! Katie Norris, an award-winning comedian and confirmed cat-cherlorette (OK, I came up with that) is my guest on the first episode of this season. Katie adopted her 'lockdown baby', Atticus, at the start of the pandemic. He's been her companion as she's established herself as a stand-up comedian, and taken a prolonged dating hiatus. She shares how she's claiming the much-maligned 'childless cat lady' stereotype (with a middle finger up to JD Vance). Plus, the highs and lows of solo comedy (after years of being a double act) and maintaining self-esteem in the face of criticism. This is a conversation about following your heart, as Katie has done, towards a life that feels right for you – romantically, and creatively. Whether you’re a fellow pet owner, a single person, a comedy fan or simply someone curious about all of the above, there will be something here for you. Happy listening – and if you love this episode, do leave a glowing review! Now for some handles! You can find Katie on Instagram at @katienorris26 – while Francesca is on Instagram @chezspecter and writes a Substack newsletter, francescaspecter.substack.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    46 min

  7. 09/01/2024

    Maggie Smith: Financial Independence, Relearning Vulnerability & Dating After Divorce

    Maggie Smith is a poet & writer who found overnight fame when her poem, ‘Good Bones’, went viral on social media in 2016. Later on, her life was to take a further change when her husband of 19 years, and the father of her children, announced he wanted a divorce two years later. Her memoir, You Could Make This Place Beautiful, published in April 2023 – explores the connection between these two events, how become a hit writer led to the breakdown of her marriage – and what could be found in the disruption that followed it all. Throughout it all, Maggie’s love of creativity and solitude has been a constant – something she speaks to me about in this episode. We also talk about finding love in middle age, and the joy of a relationship that’s free from the pressure of milestones. Thank you to our season sponsor Sensate, a palm-sized infrasonic stress and anti-anxiety device. Visit getsensate.com/alonement for 10% off your first device. Takeaways Alone time can be a positive and restorative experience, especially for creative individuals.Being in a relationship that is not working can be lonelier than being alone.Financial independence and self-sufficiency are important for personal empowerment.There is freedom in choosing a relationship without merging lives and milestones.Alone time is essential for creativity and self-reflection. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Small Talk 03:33 Exploring the Meaning of Alone 04:27 Aloneness as a Positive and Restorative Experience 05:24 The Irony of Being an Introverted Writer 06:24 The Challenges of Being an Introverted Writer in the Public Eye 08:15 Navigating Life After Divorce 09:43 The Loneliness of Incompatible Partnership 10:41 Living Alone vs. Living Without a Partner 11:36 The Myth of Partnership Solving Loneliness 13:29 The Shift in Attitudes Towards Being Alone 14:52 The Impact of Age on Relationship Choices 16:13 The Pressure to Settle Down and Have Children 17:32 Financial Independence and Self-Sufficiency 18:45 The Liberation of Not Racing Through Relationship Milestones 19:58 The Freedom of Choosing a Relationship Without Merging Lives 21:20 Balancing Independence and Vulnerability 22:48 The Lack of Cultural Models for Non-Traditional Relationships 23:44 The Beauty of Constant Companionship 24:43 The Negative Side of Hyper-Independence 25:39 The Importance of Alone Time for Creativity 27:29 Learning to Accept Help and Support 28:54 Returning to a Special Place for Solitude 31:43 The Restorative Power of Writing Alone 33:09 The Impact of Professional Success on Relationships 35:31 The Evolution of Creativity After Having Children 39:21 The Joy of Having Unstructured Alone Time Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    42 min

  8. 02/01/2024

    Alice Vincent: A Garden of One's Own

    There are certain rites of passage that take place after a major break-up. For some, it’s a hair-cut or a big solo trip, or a regrettable rebound with someone the polar opposite of your ex. My guest this week, Alice Vincent, departed from the cliches: for her, it was growing plants. In her partly autobiographical books, Rootbound and more recently Why Women Grow, Alice chronicles how she came to growing plants as a way to heal and regain a sense of control after a break-up in her late twenties. As her life has changed – Alice is now married with her first child – gardening has remained a constant for her. In this episode, we discuss how Alice has navigated the changes of the past seven years, how gardening has allowed her to maintain a version of independence throughout it, and why she never feels lonely while out in the garden. Later, Alice also shares her tips for beginning your gardening journey by yourself, whether it’s just growing herbs on a windowsill, using a balcony space or joining a community garden.  Takeaways Alone time can be a valuable and fulfilling experience, allowing for personal growth and self-reflection.Creating personal space, whether through gardening or other activities, can provide a sense of independence and freedom.Navigating relationships and sharing space with a partner requires constant communication and a willingness to compromise.Taking time alone, whether through solo trips or dedicated alone time at home, can be rejuvenating and empowering. 00:00 Introduction 04:34 Transition to Writing 06:27 Exploring Alonement 07:43 Defining Alone 09:38 Aloneness in Different Life Stages 10:35 The Luxury of Alone Time 13:04 Navigating Alone Time 14:28 Themes in Rootbound and Why Women Grow 15:21 Finding Solace in Gardening 19:46 Creating Space for Oneself 20:46 Gardening as a Solitary Activity 24:41 The Meditative Nature of Gardening 27:03 Living with a Partner and Maintaining Independence 30:16 The Ambivalence of Sharing Space 34:32 Choosing Relationships on One's Own Terms 38:52 Creating Personal Space 43:37 Tips for Starting a Growing Journey 47:21 Taking Time Alone 50:07 Ultimate Alone Time Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    44 min
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Alonement is a podcast about the positive side of spending time alone. When being alone isn't lonely, it's alonement: finding joy and value in solitude. Each week, host Francesca Specter asks a new guest about the time they spend by themselves – and why it matters to them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Francesca Specter
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    98
  • Rating
    Explicit
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