The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers

David Chambers
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The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers is a podcast for men who want more & less from life - more deep connection, more emotional intelligence, more self-awareness and more great sex.
 And less, less heartache, less conflict, less overthinking and less stress.
 Creating dating lives, sex lives and relationships that are incredible and authentic! 
 And will give women a deeper understanding of men, their issue and how to connect more deeply with them.
 The Authentic Man Podcast features experts, coaches, and best selling authors from all over the globe sharing their wisdom in the areas of dating, intimacy, healthy masculinity, relationships and more!
 David is a Men's Dating, Relationship & Intimacy Coach. Who empowers men to create authentic attraction, build deep connections, embody healthy masculinity and connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. Guiding men to do the deep inner work in dating and intimacy Find out more at www.TheAuthenticMan.net & https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    EP 264: Why emotional Intelligence isn't enough

    In this conversation, David Chambers explores the concepts of emotional intelligence and emotional mastery, particularly in the context of men's emotional experiences. He discusses the limitations of emotional intelligence, emphasizing the need for emotional intimacy and the role of the nervous system in emotional responses. Chambers highlights how societal conditioning impacts men's ability to express and process emotions, advocating for the development of emotional mastery through practice and awareness. He concludes by stressing the importance of emotional mastery in relationships and personal growth. Key Topics:  ⭐ Emotional intelligence is often seen as the pinnacle, but it's just the first step. ⭐ Emotional intimacy is crucial for deeper connections. ⭐ The nervous system plays a significant role in emotional responses. ⭐ Emotional mastery involves growing one's capacity to feel and respond. ⭐ Men are often conditioned to suppress their emotions from a young age. ⭐ The skills that lead to success in work do not translate to relationships. ⭐ Emotional mastery cannot be achieved through reading alone. ⭐ Practicing emotional awareness is essential for personal growth. ⭐ Building emotional mastery requires being present with feelings. ⭐ Emotional mastery is vital for effective leadership and relationships. Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

    30 min

  2. 8 FEB

    Weekly Mini Episode: 10 things men do to ruin their relationships

    *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:6f03336f-f9b9-49b5-ae5e-d9ba8b92cbac-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-4" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Most men don't lose their relationships because they're abusive or uncaring. They lose them because they unknowingly repeat the same patterns — habits that slowly erode connection, intimacy, and trust over time. In this episode, David Chambers breaks down the 10 common behaviors he sees again and again while coaching hundreds of men — patterns that quietly sabotage relationships even when a man is trying his best. Rather than shaming or blaming, this conversation offers clarity on why these behaviors show up and how they disconnect men from their partners. This is a practical, honest exploration of emotional reactivity, disconnection, approval-seeking, lack of leadership, and sexual polarity — and why many men feel confused, frustrated, or "never good enough" in their relationships despite good intentions. 📌 Topics covered in this episode: ✅ The 10 patterns that quietly ruin relationships ✅ Emotional reactivity and unresolved past triggers ✅ Living in your head instead of your body and emotions ✅ Why men assume negative responses and self-censor ✅ Difficulty expressing wants and needs ✅ The impact of lacking leadership and direction ✅ How approval-seeking kills attraction and polarity ✅ Criticism, jealousy, and fear of a partner's growth ✅ Why sex becomes functional or disappears ✅ Reclaiming sexual energy and intimacy 🔥 Subscribe for more conversations on masculinity, leadership, and emotionally mature relationships 🔥 ➡️ Join the Waitlist "Relate" https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 ➡️ Build emotionally mature relationships: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Follow/Connect: Instagram: / theauthenticman_

    17 min

  3. 8 FEB

    Weekly Mini Episode: I'm a Relationship Coach. Here Are 5 Things I Still Struggle With in Relationships

    Most men think relationship coaches have it all figured out — unshakeable confidence, perfect communication, zero struggles. In this episode, David Chambers breaks that illusion. Rather than teaching from a pedestal, David opens up about the real patterns he still struggles with in his own relationship — especially after becoming a father. From emotional shutdown and overworking, to guilt around self-care, provider pressure, and difficulty asking for support, this is a raw, grounded look at what actually happens inside long-term relationships. This conversation isn't about perfection — it's about awareness, accountability, and learning how to relate through your patterns instead of letting them quietly erode intimacy, trust, and polarity. 📌 Topics covered in this episode: ✅ Why relationship expertise doesn't make you immune to struggle ✅ Emotional overwhelm, shutdown, and overworking as coping strategies ✅ The hidden cost of "I'll handle it myself" thinking ✅ Guilt around self-care and prioritizing personal needs as a father ✅ Why men delay bringing up emotional or relational issues ✅ Problem-solving alone vs co-creating with your partner ✅ The pressure and fear behind the provider role ✅ Difficulty receiving support and letting yourself be messy ✅ How unspoken stress quietly disconnects relationships ✅ Why awareness + communication matter more than perfection ✅ Creating relational "goodwill" so patterns don't break connection ✅ How men can take responsibility without shame or self-abandonment 🔥 Subscribe for more conversations on masculinity, leadership, and emotionally mature relationships 🔥 👇 Comment below: Which of these patterns do you recognize in yourself? ➡️ Join the Waitlist Relate https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 ➡️ Build emotionally mature relationships: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Follow/Connect: Instagram: / theauthenticman_ ➡️ Date with confidence & start building authentic relationships, visit: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Follow/Connect: Instagram: / theauthenticman_ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

    16 min

  4. 4 FEB

    EP 263: Why Relationships Feel Hard for Men (It's Not What You Think)

    Why do relationships feel so hard for men? So many men believe relationships are confusing, emotionally overwhelming, or simply "not for them." They assume women are too complicated, that communication is impossible, or that long-term commitment goes against male nature. In this episode, David Chambers dismantles those myths and names the real issue most men have never been taught to see: emotional capacity. Drawing on personal experience, client stories, and relationship science, David explains why men shut down, withdraw, become defensive, or feel overwhelmed in intimacy and conflict. He shows why most relationship advice fails men, why "just communicate better" is often useless, and what actually builds the ability to stay present, grounded, and connected when emotions run high. This is a practical, compassionate, and deeply clarifying episode for men who want calmer, healthier, more connected relationships without losing themselves in the process. Key Topics:  ⭐ Attraction is unconscious, not a logical choice ⭐ Childhood patterns shape adult relationships ⭐ Emotionally unavailable partners feel intoxicating ⭐ Healthy partners can feel "boring" ⭐ Intermittent reinforcement fuels dating addiction ⭐ Projection keeps people attached to fantasy ⭐ Insight alone doesn't change attraction ⭐ Attraction is rewired through the nervous system ⭐ Real chemistry is emotional safety and presence ⭐ Secure relationships are built, not found Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

    48 min

  5. 1 FEB

    Weekly Mini Episode: Brooklyn, Enmeshed mums and controlling families

    When men struggle with boundaries, commitment, or choosing their own path, the issue isn't always confidence or competence — it's often an unseen loyalty to their parents, particularly an enmeshed relationship with their mother. In this conversation, David Chambers explores mother–son enmeshment, controlling family dynamics, and individuation, using the public situation around Brooklyn Beckham as a cultural mirror. He breaks down how blurred emotional boundaries, emotional manipulation, and parental control quietly shape anxiety, indecision, passivity, and difficulty forming adult partnerships. This episode reveals how boys who are emotionally fused with their mothers are often placed in impossible loyalty binds — forced to choose between their mother's emotional needs and their partner's. Rather than shaming parents or sons, this conversation offers clarity on why boundary-setting, rebellion, and separation are essential developmental steps for men to become sovereign, self-led adults. Rather than framing estrangement as failure, this episode reframes separation as a necessary phase of growth — one that can later lead to repair, renegotiation, and healthier adult relationships. 📌 Topics covered in this episode: ✅ What mother–son enmeshment actually is ✅ How controlling families create anxiety and indecision ✅ Emotional manipulation disguised as care or obligation ✅ Why some men feel forced to choose between mother and partner ✅ The impact of absent or weak fathers on individuation ✅ Why rebellion is a necessary step into adulthood ✅ How separation can lead to healthier repair with parents ✅ Becoming a sovereign, self-led man 🔥 Subscribe for more conversations on masculinity, boundaries, and emotional maturity 🔥 ➡️ Join the Waitlist "Relate" https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 ➡️ Date with confidence & build emotionally mature relationships: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Follow/Connect: Instagram: / theauthenticman_

    15 min

  6. 28 JAN

    EP 262: What Happens When You Stop Chasing Status

    Ian Edwards is a philosopher-sculptor and world-class longbow champion. For over 36 years, his work in sculpture has been a direct exploration of presence, truth, and what it means to live a well-formed life. At his core, Ian helps people understand that the only thing of real meaning is the quality of their life — and that this quality is determined by fulfilment, which can only be accessed in the present moment by being true to oneself. Having lived this path through deep craft and mastery, he speaks from firsthand experience about how the ego quietly steals fulfilment in the pursuit of becoming more. Key Topics: ⭐ The Story of Ian - Longbow Archery As A Practice Of Presence ⭐ From Severe Dyslexia To Inner Confidence ⭐ Finding Meaning Outside Academic Success ⭐ Craftsmanship, Wood, And The Intelligence Of The Body ⭐ The Discovery Of Flow Before Language ⭐ Mentorship, Discipline, And Fierce Compassion ⭐ Self-Realization Through Daily Work ⭐ The Difference Between Egoic Drive And Heart's Desire ⭐ Living A High-Quality Life In The Present Moment ⭐ When Society's Expectations No Longer Apply ⭐ Raising Children Without Imposing Identity ⭐ Choosing Fulfillment Over Status And Approval Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Connect With Ian Edwards : Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ianedwardsstudios Website: https://www.ianedwardssculptor.com/

    1h 28m

  7. 25 JAN

    Weekly Mini Episode: The Hidden Ways You're Damaging Trust in Your Relationships

    Many men believe trust is something they automatically deserve for being "a good guy" — but trust is not built through intention, morality, or loyalty alone. In this episode, David breaks down why so many men hear "I don't trust you" from women despite never cheating, lying, or doing anything obviously wrong — and explains how trust is quietly eroded through unconscious behaviors most men don't even realize they're doing. Rather than focusing on extreme betrayals, this conversation exposes the subtle, everyday ways men rupture trust: emotional dismissal, inconsistency, withdrawal under pressure, people-pleasing, defensiveness, and avoiding repair. These patterns create emotional unsafety — and over time, women stop opening, stop sharing, and stop trusting. If you've ever been told you're emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, hard to rely on, or that something "just feels off" in your relationships — this episode offers a clear, responsibility-based framework for understanding what actually builds trust, safety, and attraction. 📌 Topics Covered ✅ Why trust is emotional and nervous-system based — not moral ✅ How men unconsciously erode trust without cheating or lying ✅ Why intention doesn't matter as much as impact ✅ Emotional dismissal and why "problem-solving" kills connection ✅ Turning away from bids for connection without realizing it ✅ Incongruence between words, body language, and presence ✅ Withdrawing, collapsing, or exploding under emotional pressure ✅ People-pleasing vs grounded masculine leadership ✅ How avoiding small truths creates long-term resentment ✅ Defensiveness and why it makes men feel unsafe to women ✅ Inconsistent availability and hot–cold behavior ✅ Boundary pushing, incompetence, and erosion of reliability ✅ Why avoiding repair destroys relationships — even when love is present ✅ The two questions that radically increase trust when asked sincerely 🔥 What to Do Next ➡️ Join the Relate Waitlist https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 ➡️ Build emotional leadership, secure attachment & grounded masculinity https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Follow / Connect Instagram — @theauthenticman_ For Coaching 📧 hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

    25 min

  8. 21 JAN

    EP 261: The Impact of an Absent Father on a Man's Relationships and Intimacy

    Why does an absent or emotionally unavailable father affect your relationships as a man? In this episode, David breaks down how growing up without consistent masculine presence shapes attachment, emotional regulation, and intimacy in adult relationships. You'll learn how father absence leads to avoidance, hyper-independence, emotional shutdown, performance-based self-worth, and repeated dating patterns—including choosing emotionally unavailable partners and sabotaging healthy connection. This episode goes beyond psychology and dating advice. It's about responsibility, nervous system healing, masculine leadership, and doing the deep relational work required to create secure, grounded, and fulfilling relationships.     Key Topics Covered: ⭐ The real impact of an absent or emotionally unavailable father ⭐ How father wounds shape attachment styles in men ⭐ Avoidant attachment, fear of intimacy, and emotional shutdown ⭐ Hyper-independence and distrust in relationships ⭐ Performance, success, and "never feeling good enough" ⭐ Shame cycles, conflict avoidance, and lack of repair ⭐ Why men choose unavailable partners ⭐ Repeating your father's patterns unconsciously ⭐ Difficulty receiving love and reassurance ⭐ Healing father wounds through relationship ⭐ Inner child work and masculine reparenting ⭐ Nervous system regulation and emotional capacity ⭐ Learning repair, leadership, and secure intimacy   ➡️ Join the Waitlist "Relate" https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7  Connect With David – The Authentic Man: Instagram: / theauthenticman_ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

    38 min
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The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers is a podcast for men who want more & less from life - more deep connection, more emotional intelligence, more self-awareness and more great sex.
 And less, less heartache, less conflict, less overthinking and less stress.
 Creating dating lives, sex lives and relationships that are incredible and authentic! 
 And will give women a deeper understanding of men, their issue and how to connect more deeply with them.
 The Authentic Man Podcast features experts, coaches, and best selling authors from all over the globe sharing their wisdom in the areas of dating, intimacy, healthy masculinity, relationships and more!
 David is a Men's Dating, Relationship & Intimacy Coach. Who empowers men to create authentic attraction, build deep connections, embody healthy masculinity and connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. Guiding men to do the deep inner work in dating and intimacy Find out more at www.TheAuthenticMan.net & https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_.

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