Connectedness

Fernanda Brasileiro
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Most of us are ultra-connected online and yet find ourselves feeling lonely. Craving real connection? Wanting more out of your relationships? The Connectedness Podcast is your companion for building a life full of meaningful friendships, love, and fulfillment. Connections expert Fernanda Brasileiro brings warmth, compassion, expert guests, research, and personal stories to help you navigate friendship, dating, and personal growth. Because connection is a skill that you can build. Join us for meaningful conversations: hit follow and let's grow together.

  1. 3 Sept

    Ep. 41: How "I know my worth" changed Jenny Ferran: A story of connection, surviving cancer, and grief

    Jenny Ferran was a French teacher at a school with a tough reputation when she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019. She thought the hard part would be the diagnosis itself. It wasn't. The hard part came later, when she realized she'd spent years operating out of fear, measuring her worth by how useful she was to everyone else, and living a life that looked right from the outside but didn't feel like hers.In this episode, Jenny talks about the moment her students, kids who'd been written off by their own community, showed up for her with more love than she knew what to do with. She talks about the offhand comment from a teenage boy that cracked something open in her ("I know my worth"). And she talks about Christian, a quiet student who left a letter on her desk during breast cancer awareness month, telling her he'd just lost his own mom to the disease. What grew between them over the next year became one of the most healing relationships of both their lives.Jenny also opens up about leaving her marriage, stepping back from being the daily presence in her sons' lives, and eventually walking away from teaching altogether, all in the name of finishing a healing process she couldn't ignore anymore. She's now writing a memoir called Conversate about illness, teaching, and what it means to find yourself again.This is a conversation about connection in its most unexpected forms. About the difference between being needed and being seen. And about what it costs, and what it gives back, to finally ask yourself the question you've been avoiding: am I happy with who I am?🎧 Like, Subscrbe, and Listen to more episodes of Connectedness 📝 Follow Jenny's writing on Substack https://substack.com/@jennyferranvillanueva📝Find updates on her memoir: https://jferranbookscom.pagenest.ai/ 📍 Filled Cups events + community: https://www.filledcups.comIf this episode moved you, we'd love to know: has there ever been a conversation that changed the way you saw yourself? Jenny has this exact prompt on her site, so go answer it for her, and tag us too.#ConnectednessPodcast #FilledCups

  2. 24 Aug

    Ep 40: The Viral TikTok That Built a Real Friend Group (Evan Oliver's Story)

    Evan Oliver moved to Charlotte in her 30s with her husband and baby daughter, ready for a fresh start. Two weeks later she lost her job, and she didn't know a single person in the city. So she did something most of us are too scared to do. She posted one honest TikTok video asking if anyone wanted to be friends.That video went viral in Charlotte, and over 700 women messaged her. In this episode, Evan talks about what happened next: meeting up with over a hundred of those women one by one, hosting a neighborhood Halloween party that brought out 150 people, starting a book club, and building an entire community from nothing.We talk about what it actually takes to make adult friendships work, including the difference between being social and being someone who puts in the effort, how to know when someone isn't the right fit for you (and why that's okay), navigating ghosting and emotional maturity in friendships, staying connected to friends from your old city while building a new life, and why liking and commenting on your friends' posts matters more than you think.If you've ever moved somewhere new and felt lonely in a room full of people, or if you just want a reminder that building your people is possible, this episode is for you.Follow Evan on TikTok: @evanalexisoliverListen to Connectedness wherever you get your podcasts, and subscribe here on YouTube so you never miss an episode.00:00 Introduction to Evan's story02:00 Moving to Charlotte and getting laid off03:30 The TikTok post that changed everything07:00 Hosting the neighborhood Halloween party11:00 Being candid about who you are28:00 Ghosting and emotional maturity in friendships32:00 Dealing with the grief of moving away36:00 Why engagement matters to your friends39:00 Final thoughts and how to find Evan#Connectedness #AdultFriendships #MakingFriendsAsAnAdult

  3. 15 Aug

    Ep. 39: Adult ADHD Diagnosis: How It Rewires Your Relationships and Self-Worth

    What if the thing you spent your whole life blaming yourself for was never a character flaw at all?In this episode of Connectedness, I sit down with Kathleen Long, founder of Coached by Kath and an ADHD life coach who spent over 20 years in education before being diagnosed with ADHD herself at 41. Kathleen coaches adults, teens, and families, and she brings a national board certification, trauma insight certification through NAMI, and two decades of lived classroom experience into every session.We talk about what it felt like for Kathleen to realize, decades into her career, that her brain simply works differently. She opens up about the grief that came with a late diagnosis, the years of being called too sensitive or too dramatic, and how rejection-sensitive dysphoria shaped her relationships long before she had a name for it.We also get into the emotional exhaustion of masking, how ADHD shows up differently in romantic relationships and friendships, and why so many people feel like everyone else got a manual for life that they never received. Kathleen shares how therapy, support groups, and small daily habits helped her unlearn shame and start rebuilding her self-worth from the ground up.If you've ever wondered whether your emotional intensity, forgetfulness, or sensitivity means something is wrong with you, this conversation will feel like the exhale you didn't know you needed.In this episode we cover the following: 00:00 Introduction to Kathleen Long 02:15 Realizing you have ADHD after 20 years in education 05:02 The grief of a late diagnosis 08:37 Rejection sensitive dysphoria and misdiagnosis 11:07 What masking really looks like day to day 13:22 How ADHD shows up in romantic relationships 20:47 ADHD and adult friendships 24:02 Self-esteem, self-worth, and "the manual nobody gave you" 29:34 Rebuilding self-love after a late diagnosis 36:01 What to do first if this episode feels like youConnect with Kathleen Long: Website: https://coachedbykath.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdcoachkath/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachedbyKathLLC/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathleen-m-long/Connect with Connectedness: If this episode brought something up for you, I hope you'll sit with it a little. Maybe it's time to look at your own story with a little more compassion or have a conversation with someone you love about what's really going on underneath the surface. That's what connectedness is all about.Please like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone you love.#ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHDAwareness #ADHDCoach #ADHDRelationships #Masking #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #SelfWorth #ConnectednessPodcast

  4. 10 Aug

    Ep. 38: Narcissistic Households, Explained: Roles, Gaslighting & Healing | Dr. Nzinga Cates | Connectedness

    If you grew up with a narcissistic mother or father, you already know the confusion isn't really about one bad day or one hard conversation. It's a whole way of surviving that gets built into you before you even have words for it.In this episode of Connectedness, I sit down with Dr. Nzinga Cates, victimologist, licensed clinical mental health counselor, and one of the first researchers to center the lived experience of Black daughters raised by narcissistic mothers. She's also the author of What Happens in This House and Black Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, and she brings both her clinical expertise and her own healing journey into this conversation.I share more of my own story in this episode than I usually do, including what it looked like to set boundaries with my mother that eventually led to estrangement. Dr. Cates and I talk about what actually happens inside a narcissistic household, the roles kids get assigned (golden child, scapegoat, invisible child), how gaslighting and lack of privacy shape a child's sense of self, why so many of us don't recognize the pattern until our late 30s or 40s, and what it looks like to unlearn all of it as adults.If you saw yourself in anything we talked about today, I want you to know what Dr. Cates told me: you are not alone, you are not too sensitive, and you are not imagining things.Learn more about Dr. Nzinga Cates: Website: https://catescounselingandconsulting.com/ Books: What Happens in This House: A Memoir of Strength, and Black Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Healing the Wounds That No One Could See (plus companion workbook)Dr. Cates is also available to see clients through Headway:https://care.headway.co/providers/nzinga-catesTimestamps: 0:00 Intro [add timestamps once you finalize edit]Connect with me on socials: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fernandabrasileiro/https://www.instagram.com/filled.cups/If this episode meant something to you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Like, subscribe, and keep showing up for connection, including the connection you're building with yourself.

  5. 28 Jul

    Ep. 37: The 3 C's That Get You Through Divorce with Nicole Bright | Connectedness Podcast

    What happens when the life you built for 17 years falls apart overnight? Nicole Bright knows. She's the founder of the Nicole Bright brand, a strategic decision advisor during divorce, and a transformational speaker who helps high achieving women hold onto clarity, composure, and control during one of the most disorienting seasons of their lives.In this episode, Nicole opens up about the moment her marriage exploded, why she left with almost nothing, and how she had to rebuild her entire sense of self after years of losing her voice in a toxic relationship. We talk about the difference between coaching and advising, why she treats big life decisions like business decisions, and the three C's she now teaches other women: clarity, composure, and control.This conversation isn't just for women going through divorce. It's for anyone in a season of starting over, whether that's a new job, a new city, a breakup, or becoming a mother. If you've ever felt like you lost yourself inside a relationship or a role, this one is for you.We cover:- The moment Nicole's marriage fell apart and how she left within a month- Why she calls herself her own first client- The real difference between divorce coaching and divorce advising- How to make big life decisions using the same logic you'd use in business- Rebuilding your identity when it's been wrapped up in a marriage- Why "who are you becoming" matters more than "who you used to be"- Nicole's new collaboration with stylist Donna to help women feel like themselves inside and outConnect with Nicole Bright: Instagram: @nicolebrightofficial Facebook: Nicole Bright Official Website: https://nicolebright.com (grab her free clarity worksheet here)If this episode moved something in you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Leave a review, subscribe, and keep filling your cup.#ConnectednessPodcast #DivorceRecovery #RebuildingYourself

  6. 9 Jul

    Ep. 36: The Woman In The Mirror Doesn't Match Who You've Become (Here's Why)

    Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like the woman looking back at you didn't quite match who you've actually become? That is exactly where today's conversation begins.My guest is Donna Hundley, founder of The Designed Presence™ and also the founder of Curvy Chix Chariot, one of the nation's first mobile fashion boutiques for plus-size women. Donna spent over 25 years helping organizations align who they are with how they operate, and after being laid off in 2024, she realized that so many accomplished women were carrying that exact same kind of misalignment personally.In this episode, Donna gets honest about a moment many of us know all too well. She talks about being the woman everyone called "sunshine," the one who always showed up dressed and smiling, while feeling completely broken on the inside. We talk about what it means to honor your evolution instead of judging yourself for changing, how to figure out whose voice you are actually hearing when you look in the mirror, and why she believes identity always comes first and style comes second.We also get into her Presence Room experience, an intimate dinner gathering for women over 40 where phones are put away and real conversations happen, and why she believes so much of healing starts with raw and honest relationships between women.This conversation is a reminder that alignment is not something you find once and keep forever. It is something you have to keep coming back to as you grow and change, and giving yourself permission to be seen exactly as you are today might be one of the most important things you ever do for yourself.If this episode speaks to you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear it, and leave us a review wherever you're listening. It genuinely helps this little community grow.Connect with Donna Hundley:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedesignedpresence/LinkedIn: Donna HundleyWebsite: https://thedesignedpresence.com/Connect with Connectedness:Instagram @Filled.Cupswww.filledcups.comTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:08 What was happening when Donna first noticed the misalignment6:16 From Curvy Chix Chariot to The Designed Presence10:51 Why identity comes first and style comes second13:00 Where to start if you feel successful on paper but disconnected inside21:23 A moment of identity shift she witnessed in a client25:38 Inside the Presence Room experience29:38 Other ways Donna supports women and organizations32:11 Closing thoughts#PersonalGrowth #WomenOver40 #SelfIdentity #Alignment #ConnectednessPodcast

  7. 1 Jul

    Ep. 35: Healing Is Not Linear: A Conversation on Trauma, Identity & Finding Yourself Again Caroline Wienecke

    [TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains a brief mention of sexual assault. Please take care of yourself as you listen.]What does it really mean to "find yourself" after trauma? In this deeply moving conversation, I'm joined by Caroline Wienecke, author, entrepreneur, and storyteller behind the novel Finding You: Beyond Broken Pieces, a story of a woman who must learn to reclaim her voice, her identity, and her sense of wholeness after an unimaginable experience.Caroline shares her own healing journey with such honesty and courage — from the years she spent silently holding everything together, to the sleepless nights that eventually became the pages of her book. We talk about what it actually feels like to live through trauma while the world keeps moving, why healing is messy and non-linear, and why speaking your truth, even when it's terrifying, might be the most important thing you ever do.In this episode, we explore:Why trauma doesn't just change what happens to us — it changes who we becomeHow journaling and storytelling helped Caroline process what words alone couldn't expressThe surprising gift of vulnerability and why letting people in is where healing really beginsWhat to do when you feel stuck, isolated, or like you're just going through the motionsCaroline's one message for anyone who feels broken right nowWhether you're navigating something painful, supporting someone you love, or just curious about the deep connection between storytelling and healing, this episode will leave you feeling a little less alone.📖 Caroline's novel: Finding You: Beyond Broken Pieces🌐 Connect with Caroline: carolinewienecke.com | @carolinewienecke on Instagram & LinkedIn🎙️ Connectedness is a podcast about the relationships, experiences, and moments that help us better understand ourselves and each other. New episodes drop regularly — subscribe so you never miss one.💬 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.📩 Connect with Fernanda: filledcups.com | @filled.cupsCHAPTERS:00:00 Trigger Warning00:20 Welcome & Guest Introduction01:53 Who Was Caroline Before Trauma?03:14 The Moment She Knew She Wasn't Living as Herself05:11 About the Novel: Finding You: Beyond Broken Pieces06:25 What "Finding Yourself" Really Means08:38 How Storytelling Became Her Healing11:14 How Trauma Reshapes Identity13:44 The Hardest Part of Healing Nobody Tells You16:31 Practical Tips for Getting Back to Living Your Life18:33 Why Speaking Up After Trauma Is So Hard22:20 Creating Safe Spaces for Difficult Conversations23:37 How Connection Shaped Her Healing Journey26:09 What Caroline Is Still Learning27:55 A Final Message on Healing, Courage & Connection29:15 Where to Find Caroline

  8. 27 Jun

    Ep. 34: Finding Love After 40: Values, Expectations, & Mindset Tips with Amy Schoen

    Are the expectations you're carrying into dating helping you find love — or quietly blocking it?In this episode of the Connectedness Podcast, I sit down with Amy Schoen, a certified professional life coach and ICF PCC-credentialed relationship coach who has spent 20 years helping marriage-minded singles find lasting, committed love. And yes, she's been in those shoes herself. Divorced in her mid-30s, Amy hired a coach, did the inner work, and met her husband at 42. They've been married 24 years and are still going strong.We talk about something that doesn't get enough airtime in the dating conversation: the expectations we carry without even realizing them, and how they shape every connection we make.In this episode, we cover:The most common expectations Amy sees singles bring into dating (pacing, finances, time, family, and more)- How to tell the difference between healthy standards and rigid dealbreakers- The "must haves vs. would like to haves" exercise that helps her clients get clear fast- Why her clients tend to reach exclusivity within just 3–6 dates- What separates the singles who find great relationships from the ones who stay stuck- How to navigate online dating without losing hope (yes, the good ones are out there)- Why the real relationship work begins after you find the personWhether you're newly single, back in the dating world after a long relationship, or just feeling like something isn't clicking, this conversation will leave you feeling more grounded, more hopeful, and a lot more self-aware.Connect with Amy Schoen:🌐 motivatedtomarry.com▶️ YouTube: Relationship Coach Amy ShonneConnect with Fernanda & Filled Cups:🌐 filledcups.com📸 Instagram: @filled.cupsIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who might need to hear it. Like, subscribe, and until next time — stay connected to yourself and others, and keep filling your cup. 💜#DatingAdvice #RelationshipCoach #DatingExpectations #SingleLife #FindingLove #ConnectednessPodcast #FilledCups #MarriageMinded #DatingMindset #SelfAwareness #LoveAfter40 #HealthyRelationships #ModernDating #SingleWomen #DatingCoach

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Most of us are ultra-connected online and yet find ourselves feeling lonely. Craving real connection? Wanting more out of your relationships? The Connectedness Podcast is your companion for building a life full of meaningful friendships, love, and fulfillment. Connections expert Fernanda Brasileiro brings warmth, compassion, expert guests, research, and personal stories to help you navigate friendship, dating, and personal growth. Because connection is a skill that you can build. Join us for meaningful conversations: hit follow and let's grow together.

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  • Creator
    Fernanda Brasileiro
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    42
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Fernanda Brasileiro
  • Show Website
    Connectedness