Equal-ish

Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino
  • 5.0 (11)
  • Parenting
  • Updated weekly

Equal-ish is all about that precise intersection of parenthood, work, and being in a relationship. This funny, wonderful, messy, frustrating process is possible - but not easy! Join Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs every week to help you find your equal-ish household balance.

  1. 2 days ago

    Ep 41: No More Mediocre. Why do we keep laughing at relationships that aren't working? An interview with Laura Danger.

    We are all familiar with the jokes. The exhausted mum carrying everything.The lovable but clueless dad.The wife who nags.The husband who "helps." But what if the jokes aren't harmless? This week Rachel and Kate are joined by Laura Danger, author of No More Mediocre, to explore the hidden relationship dynamics that have been normalised for generations. Laura shares how a flood of "couples comedy" videos during the pandemic sparked her now-famous work on the mental load, weaponized incompetence, and what she calls the "nag paradox", the exhausting cycle where one partner carries the responsibility, then gets blamed for managing it. Together we unpack: Why so many unequal relationships feel "normal" The hidden emotional cost of being indispensable Why progressive couples often struggle behind closed doors How social media is changing the conversation around the mental load The fear that comes with demanding more from your relationship Why changing your relationship means accepting that things will be different This isn't a conversation about blaming men or women. It's a conversation about questioning the stories we've inherited, challenging what we've accepted as inevitable, and asking whether "good enough" is really good enough. Because maybe the goal isn't perfection. Maybe it's refusing to settle for mediocre. Find out more about Laura at www.lauradanger.com, and on Instagram @thatdarnchat Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    44 min

  2. 27 May

    Ep 40. If men want to care, why are families still struggling? The Equal-ish Edit with Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs

    In this Equal-ish Edit, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino reflect on the last three powerful conversations with: Professor Leah Ruppanner (ep 36 & 37) on redefining the mental load, Dr. Taveeshi Gupta (ep 38) on the global state of fatherhood, and Danny Mercer (ep 39) on life as an at-home dad. Together, they unpack one huge question: if men increasingly say they want to care more, why are so many families still stuck in unequal systems? This episode explores: Why caregiving is still culturally coded as “women’s work”How workplaces continue to shape parenting rolesThe mental load beyond motherhood and domestic labourThe invisible pressure many fathers carry as providersWhy modern parenting feels so isolating and overwhelmingThe role community, vulnerability and systems change play in creating more equal familiesIt’s an honest, emotional and deeply nuanced conversation about the tension many families live inside every day: wanting equality, while operating inside systems that make it incredibly hard to achieve. And in one particularly moving moment, Kate reflects on the simple but powerful truth many parents need most: not solutions, just someone willing to listen. Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    33 min

  3. 20 May

    Ep 39: “I’m not a paycheck”: What 16 years as an at-home dad taught Danny Mercer about identity, care and equality

    Danny Mercer has spent 16 years as the primary caregiver for his four children, and what started as a practical family decision became a complete redefinition of identity, fatherhood, care and partnership. In this deeply honest conversation, Danny shares what it means to be the default parent as a father: the exhaustion, the invisible labour, the mental load, the resentment, the joy, and the relentless nature of caregiving. He talks openly about losing the identity that came with a paycheck, navigating judgement from society, and why community became essential to survival. As Vice President of the National At-Home Dad Network, Danny also reflects on the growing movement of fathers stepping more fully into caregiving roles, and why many men still struggle to ask for help, build support systems, or believe they are “allowed” to parent this way at all. This episode explores: how gender shapes caregiving expectations why the mental load burns out anyone carrying it the hidden emotional realities of being an at-home dad  why appreciation, communication and self-care matter more than rigid equality Explore the National at Home Dads Network: athomedad.org dadsgottatalk.org Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    51 min

  4. 13 May

    Ep 38: Fatherhood, masculinity, and the care revolution we urgently need. An interview with Taveeshi Gupta

    What if the biggest lie we’ve been told about caregiving is that people don’t want to do it? In this powerful conversation, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino sit down with Dr. Taveeshi Gupta, Senior Director of Research, Evaluation, and Learning from Equimundo to unpack the newly released State of the World’s Fathers 2026 report (a landmark global study spanning 16 countries and 8,000 parents). The findings are both devastating and hopeful. Parents overwhelmingly say caregiving brings joy, purpose and connection. Fathers want meaningful relationships with their children. Mothers and fathers alike say men are doing more care work than previous generations ever did. But the systems surrounding families (workplaces, economies, public policy, gender norms, childcare structures and cultural expectations) are failing caregivers at every turn. In this week’s conversation we explore: Why care should be treated as a basic human good, like food or shelter The dangerous rise of hyper-traditional gender narratives among younger men Why couples who hold more traditional gender beliefs actually report more conflict Why the manosphere is thriving in an era of economic insecurity The hidden “fatherhood flexibility stigma” in workplaces The tension between fathers wanting to care and not always defining care the same way women do Why caregiving conversations cannot be separated from capitalism, policy and structural inequality And why Taveeshi believes we are on the brink of a global “care revolution” This is a conversation about the systems we’ve built around care, and whether humanity can survive without rebuilding them. Read the report here: State of the World’s Fathers 2026 Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    51 min

  5. 6 May

    Ep 37: Not everything is yours to carry: Rethinking the Mental Load. Part two interview with Prof Leah Ruppaner

    Last week, we redefined the mental load. This week, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino ask the harder question: What do you actually do about it? In Part 2 of our conversation with Professor Leah Ruppanner, we move from awareness to action. Because once you realise you’re not just carrying one mental load (but eight) it can feel even heavier. So how do you: stop feeling responsible for everything? challenge the “shoulds” shaping your decisions? share the load in a way that actually works? Leah introduces a powerful reframe: The goal isn’t doing more. The goal is being intentional about what you carry, and what you don’t. From dropping unnecessary standards to recognising how social norms quietly increase your load, this episode is about reclaiming your time, energy, and headspace. You don’t need to carry it all. In fact, you were never meant to. Click here to find out more about Professor Leah Ruppaner Measure your mental load - Lighten Lab Buy Drained now Listen to Leah on Miss Perceived Podcast Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    35 min

  6. 29 Apr

    Ep 36: The mental load, redefined. An interview with Professor Leah Ruppanner

    This week, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino sit down with Professor Leah Ruppanner to unpack one of the most misunderstood (and underestimated) forces shaping modern relationships: the mental load. Leah is Professor of Sociology at the University of Melbourne and Founder of LightenLab. She is the author of Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More and Motherlands: How States Push Mothers Out of Employment. Drawing on years of global research and hundreds of interviews, Leah challenges the narrow way we’ve been taught to think about it. Because it’s not just about remembering the shopping list or organising the calendar. It’s emotional, it’s invisible. it’s boundaryless. And crucially, it doesn’t stop. From “emotional thinking work” to the eight different types of mental load we’re all carrying, this conversation explains why even the most well-intentioned, modern couples still feel overwhelmed—and what we’ve been missing all along. Click here to find out more about Leah Ruppaner Measure your mental load - Lighten Lab Buy Drained now Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    44 min

  7. 22 Apr

    Ep 35: Are you raising a child… or managing an outcome? After the interview with Anita Cleare

    What if the way you’ve been measuring yourself as a parent is the very thing making it harder? In this raw and reflective “After the Interview” episode, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino unpack the uncomfortable truths from their conversation with parenting expert Anita Cleare, and what it actually means to live those insights in real life. Because it’s one thing to say “focus on the relationship, not the outcome.” But it’s another thing entirely when your child is: having a meltdown in public pushing boundaries or making choices you fundamentally disagree with Together, we explore: Why even “progressive parenting” is still often outcome-driven The hidden pressure of constantly evaluating your child’s behaviour What “being in relationship” actually looks like in difficult moments Why letting go of control feels so uncomfortable (especially for high-achievers) The tension between preparing your child for the real world vs staying connected to them And the surprising question every couple should ask before (or during) parenthood Meet our guest, Anita Cleare, here. Author of: The Work/Parent Switch (UK) (The Working Parent’s Survival Guide in the USA) How To Get Your Teenager Out Of Their Bedroom Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    32 min

  8. 15 Apr

    Ep. 34: You’re not raising a project: Rethinking parenting, partnership & the pressure to perform

    What if the biggest mistake we’re making as parents is thinking it’s our job to shape our children? This week, Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino sit down with parenting expert Anita Cleare to challenge everything we think we know about “good parenting.” From the myth of perfect outcomes to the reality of relationship-building, Anita reframes parenting as something far less controllable and far more human. Together, we explore: Why parenting isn’t something you do to your child, but a relationship you build with them How modern “performance parenting” is setting us up to feel like failures The hidden cost of doing too much (for our kids and ourselves) Why conflict between parents is inevitable (and even valuable) The uncomfortable truth about letting go, stepping back, and allowing failure How to stay connected to teenagers when they’re pulling away This episode will challenge your assumptions, ease your guilt, and invite you into a more realistic and joyful way of parenting. Meet our guest, Anita Cleare, here.  The Work/Parent Switch (UK) (The Working Parent’s Survival Guide in the USA) How To Get Your Teenager Out Of Their Bedroom Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview.  Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.

    52 min
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Equal-ish is all about that precise intersection of parenthood, work, and being in a relationship. This funny, wonderful, messy, frustrating process is possible - but not easy! Join Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs every week to help you find your equal-ish household balance.

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  • Creator
    Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Rachel Childs and Kate Mangino
  • Show Website
    Equal-ish

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