Fanny Chat

Naomi Gale

Fanny chat is hosted is hosted by Naomi Gale: landing into the arms of the feminine through the pelvis. Naomi Gale is a pelvic health educator, somatic guide, and voice for women done with self-help and ready to live what they already know. This podcast is for women and the mothers who have read the books, done the therapy, explored healing… and still feel the quiet hum of dissatisfaction. Not broken. Not in crisis. But not fully alive either. Here we chat about moving beyond quick fixes, Kegals, and surface-level empowerment. Together we share raw conversations, and lived explorations into pelvic health, pleasure, nervous system integration, relationships, and the search for real community in modern life. Blending a wide range of works this space is about integration over information: where knowledge becomes embodied, and healing becomes lived. Currently traveling across the world in a van with her husband, three children, dog and p***y, Naomi explores what it means to mother, create, work, and belong outside the traditional structures, and asks the question many women are quietly holding. This isn’t self-help. This is reality. This is the return to what’s already within you.

  1. 26 MAR

    Why aren’t we living what we already know?

    It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The question now is quieter, but sharper: why aren’t we living what we already know? Where do women go when they’ve done the therapy, read the books, named the wounds… and still feel like something isn’t landing? Meet Jenna. I’m sharing fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of the work I’ve done with women for over a decade. (TW: there are words that some readers may find challenging if they haven’t tended to them). Jenna is 35. She wants a partner and hasn’t found one because life just hasn’t met her there. She’s a creative, but working a job that drains her because it pays. This was a recent switch because her creative work felt draining as it didn’t feel like it paid enough. A cycle creatives know well. She feels guilty for even being in a space like this- the one where we talk about the pelvis. Like tending to herself is indulgent. Frivolous. In her twenties, Jenna was raped. She hasn’t told anyone. There were no visible scars, so she learned to downplay it. But her body didn’t. She lives with vaginismus which is pain with penetration. A body that closes. A body that says no, even when she doesn’t fully understand why. Jenna isn’t in crisis. She’s in holding. Grief from losing her father, who was her safety. A mother who now needs more, but has always struggled to give. Friendships that don’t quite land. A life that looks fine… but doesn’t feel like hers. She comes home from work and goes flat. Scrolling. Not eating well. Not tending to herself. She finds herself easily slipping into her freeze response tools. Jenna doesn’t need fixing.She doesn’t need to “heal her trauma” in the way she’s been taught. She needs to understand what her body is holding. Where her patterns come from. Why her system moves the way it does. Because when a woman can see that: she stops fighting and ignoring her innate needs. Jenna doesn’t need more information. She needs spaces where her body can speak.Where pain isn’t rushed. Where nothing is performed. Where she doesn’t have to explain why she feels the way she feels. Spaces where the deeper questions can exist: What is my body protecting me from? What happens when I finally acknowledge what I’ve lived through without talking it all through again? Can I trust myself to feel this… without needing to fix it? Jenna isn’t looking for answers, either. She’s looking for something she hasn’t had before: a place to land. And maybe that’s the real question for all of us now: Where do women like me go… when we’re ready to stop doing more therapy, and start listening to ourselves? More holding Found Here: The Vagina Book  Gold Standard Pelvic Journey Postpartum Care Journey Substack  Insight Timer Main Website hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat

    24 min
  2. 20 MAR

    The Hidden Dissatisfaction of Mothers Who “Did Everything Right”

    Mother Profile: Sofia It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The fire horse year asks one question: how do we live with what we already know? Where is the community for women who have done the books, the therapy, the circles, and still feel… quiet dissatisfaction? Meet Sofia. I’m going to do some fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of this work I have done with clients for ten years on a 1-1. So Sofia, she did everything “right.” Two children, career, a partner who works full-time, a mother who loves her grandchildren more than her. Life should feel softer now the children are at school. Because, now has has more time, right? Instead, she notices things she can’t name: sex that sometimes hurts, joy that doesn’t feel quite whole, knowledge that comes from all the ‘work’ she has done but it’s not integrated. Sofia isn’t in crisis. She’s in integration pressure. She doesn’t need more answers because she has them from books and therapy. She did counselling for years. she needs places and people and spaces to land.. Spaces where desire, resentment, motherhood, power, money, and pleasure can be spoken without pretense. Real community. Evidence that another way of adulthood exists. No therapy. No webinars. Just women who see it, live it, and share it, sometimes maybe even, over a quick chai latte after a school run. The question for Sofia, for all of us: “Where do women like me gather when they are done pretending?” More holding Found Here: The Vagina Book  Gold Standard Pelvic Journey Postpartum Care Journey Substack  Insight Timer Main Website hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat

    32 min
  3. 11/02/2025

    Betty on vaginisumus, postnatal tending and birth

    Betty Sharpe is a Kent doula who actively supports at births around East Kent. She runs Folkey Birth Club which is a local CIC holding birth cirles and nourishment circles. Betty chats about her experience of vaginismus and what it looked like to have the birth she wanted but the lack of postnatal care she realised she needed. Within this episode we discuss tears, childborth, tending to ourselves and just the general culture around the system- whether we are having painful sex or having a baby.  Betty Sharpe: https://www.kentdoulacollective.com/betty-sharpe  Folkey Birth Club: https://www.folkeybirthclub.co.uk/  Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.uk Buy In Your Vagina book Useful social links YouTube Substack  Insight Timer hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.uk Buy In Your Vagina book Useful social links YouTube Substack  Insight Timer hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.uk Buy In Your Vagina book Useful social links YouTube Substack  Insight Timer hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.uk Buy In Your Vagina book Useful social links YouTube Substack  Insight Timer hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat More holding Found Here: The Vagina Book  Gold Standard Pelvic Journey Postpartum Care Journey Substack  Insight Timer Main Website hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat

    58 min
5
out of 5
10 Ratings

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Fanny chat is hosted is hosted by Naomi Gale: landing into the arms of the feminine through the pelvis. Naomi Gale is a pelvic health educator, somatic guide, and voice for women done with self-help and ready to live what they already know. This podcast is for women and the mothers who have read the books, done the therapy, explored healing… and still feel the quiet hum of dissatisfaction. Not broken. Not in crisis. But not fully alive either. Here we chat about moving beyond quick fixes, Kegals, and surface-level empowerment. Together we share raw conversations, and lived explorations into pelvic health, pleasure, nervous system integration, relationships, and the search for real community in modern life. Blending a wide range of works this space is about integration over information: where knowledge becomes embodied, and healing becomes lived. Currently traveling across the world in a van with her husband, three children, dog and p***y, Naomi explores what it means to mother, create, work, and belong outside the traditional structures, and asks the question many women are quietly holding. This isn’t self-help. This is reality. This is the return to what’s already within you.