Grappling In Thought

Grappling In Thought
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Real talk for when your brain won’t quiet. Short episodes on boundaries, self-worth, and speaking up—without the fluff. I share my mess, my mistakes, and what’s helped me heal so you don’t feel so alone.

  1. How To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

    4 DAYS AGO

    How To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

    Why are we so hard on ourselves? That voice in your head that says"I'm so stupid.""What's wrong with me?""Why did I do that?" We all have it. But what most people don't realize is that there's another voice inside us too — a quieter one.The voice that supports us, encourages us, and actually has our back. In this episode, we talk about: • The two voices inside all of us• Why the critical voice is so loud• How to recognize the calm voice that has your back• How to start building a better relationship with yourself• Why keeping promises to yourself builds self-trust This is Part 1 of the Becoming Your Own Best Friend series. Your inner voice doesn't have to be your biggest critic. It can become your biggest ally. Try this week's challenge:Notice the friend voice within you and see what happens. 0:00 The Voice In Your Head1:12 The Critic We All Hear2:30 The Other Voice Inside You4:05 Watching the Conversation Inside Your Mind6:00 Why the Critical Voice Is So Loud7:55 The Slackline Example9:40 The Calm Voice That Has Your Back11:25 Being Honest Without Being Mean to Yourself13:00 Building a Relationship With Yourself14:10 Keeping Promises to Yourself16:00 Learning to Notice the Friend Voice17:25 This Week's Challenge

    19 min
  2. How To Strategically Remember

    10 MAR

    How To Strategically Remember

    Reflection isn’t about beating yourself up or replaying your mistakes over and over again. It’s about understanding yourself. In this episode, I share exactly how I practice what I call Strategic Remembering — a simple reflection practice that helps you understand your reactions, your triggers, and how you want to show up next time. Instead of blaming the situation or the other person, this process helps you focus on the only thing you can truly control: yourself. If you’ve ever replayed moments in your head wishing you handled them differently, this episode will give you a practical way to turn those moments into learning instead of shame. Try the 10-minute reflection challenge this week and see what you discover about yourself. In this episode: • Why reflection doesn’t work when you’re still in the middle of the emotion• Why time and emotional distance matter• How to use curiosity instead of self-criticism• The one rule that makes reflection actually work• How to replay situations in a way that helps you improve next time• Why reflection helps you stop reacting like a pinball to everything around you Try this: Take 10 minutes this week to reflect on a situation that stuck with you. Let your mind go to the moment that bothered you most. Then ask yourself: Where was I emotionally?What was going on in my mind?What was I feeling in my body?How did I show up? And remember the rule: You can’t say “because they did this.” Reflection is about understanding yourself, not blaming the outside world. 00:00 What Reflection Really Is01:15 Why Reflection Used to Lead to Guilt02:20 What “Strategic Remembering” Means04:00 Why You Can’t Reflect in the Moment06:00 Giving Yourself Time to Reset07:30 Sitting With the Friend Within09:30 Letting Your Mind Go to the Tough Moments11:20 The One Rule of Reflection13:45 Understanding Your Triggers and Reactions15:50 Replaying the Situation Differently17:40 Why Reflection Stops the “Pinball” Reaction19:00 The 10-Minute Strategic Remembering Challenge

    20 min
  3. Strategic Remembering: A Better Way to Overthink

    3 MAR

    Strategic Remembering: A Better Way to Overthink

    You’re already reflecting.You just might be doing it in a way that leaves you with shame instead of clarity. In this episode, I talk about something I call Strategic Remembering — the shift from replaying situations to understanding yourself within them. If you’ve ever left a conversation thinking, “Why did I say that?” or “Why didn’t I say something?” — this is for you. Show Notes: The difference between replaying and strategic remembering Why blame gives your control away The “pinball” effect of constant reaction Gabor Maté’s wound analogy Why curiosity must replace judgment How reflection helped me catch myself, pause, and choose differently My weekend reflection habit This week’s 10-minute challenge In This Episode: 00:00 – You’re already reflecting (you just might not realize it)01:40 – What I mean by “Strategic Remembering”03:10 – The pinball effect: reacting vs taking control05:45 – What wound in you got scratched?07:30 – Curiosity instead of judgment11:30 – How I started reflecting on weekends14:20 – Your 10-minute challenge this week

    16 min
  4. How To Get Out of a Funk Without Quiting

    19 FEB

    How To Get Out of a Funk Without Quiting

    Ever hit momentum… and then suddenly feel unmotivated, annoyed, and just off? That’s where I’ve been this week. Nothing went wrong. In fact, things were building. But with momentum came a clear view of the gap between where I am and where I want to be — and that gap hit harder than I expected. In this episode, I’m walking you through what a real “funk” looks like, how I almost spiraled, and the exact shift that’s helping me reset. If you’ve been feeling behind, stuck, or low-energy lately — this one’s for you. In this episode: What actually triggered my mood shift The danger of focusing only on the gap Why the “messy middle” is unavoidable The best-friend question that changed my state Why routines matter most when you don’t feel like doing them How visualization rebuilds momentum If you’re in a slump right now — you’re not broken. You’re building. Until next time… keep looking forward.

    13 min
  5. Do You Want To Be Liked-Or Be You?

    12 FEB

    Do You Want To Be Liked-Or Be You?

    In this episode, we go deeper into a quieter form of comparison — the kind that shows up as people-pleasing, holding back, and editing yourself just to fit in. Have you ever felt exhausted because you just want to be you… but you’re not fully being you? We talk about: Why comparison makes us shrink How people-pleasing is connected to fear of rejection The real cost of being liked for someone you’re not The pause moment that changes everything A practical step-by-step way to stop hiding yourself If you’ve ever bitten your tongue, dimmed your personality, or held back your opinions just to belong — this one’s for you. Catch the moment. Pause. Then choose.

    15 min
  6. It's Not Wanting Their Life-It's Wanting Yours To Be Easier

    5 FEB

    It's Not Wanting Their Life-It's Wanting Yours To Be Easier

    Comparison doesn’t usually mean we actually want someone else’s life.More often, it means we wish something felt easier for us. In Part 2 of the Comparison series, we look at three everyday situations where comparison sneaks in and how to step out of the comparison trap without turning on yourself. In this episode, I talk about: Why things can look easy for others and hard for us Timeline comparison and the feeling of being “behind” Comparing ourselves to people who seem more confident How to shift comparison into learning, motivation, and forward movement This episode isn’t about stopping comparison or saying it's wrong.It’s about using it differently — with curiosity instead of shame. Until next time, keep looking forward.

    15 min
  7. Comparison Isn't Always Loud

    30 JAN

    Comparison Isn't Always Loud

    Have you ever been scrolling and suddenly felt your mood drop — like you’re behind or not enough? In Part 1 of the Comparison series, we’re talking about social media comparison — how it sneaks in quietly, why it affects us so deeply, and why there’s nothing wrong with you when it happens. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why comparison isn’t always loud or obvious How social media overwhelms our brain’s natural wiring A simple way to interrupt comparison and return to your own life This episode isn’t about stopping comparison — it’s about catching it sooner and choosing not to turn on yourself when it shows up. Next week, we’ll explore other ways comparison sneaks into our lives. Until next time, keep looking forward.

    8 min
  8. Reconnecting After Reacting

    22 JAN

    Reconnecting After Reacting

    Even when we’re doing the work — pausing, noticing, trying to respond differently — we still react sometimes. We snap.We shut down.We say something we don’t mean. And when that happens, it’s easy to think the moment is ruined or that all the progress we’ve made doesn’t count anymore. In this episode, we talk about what comes after a reaction — how reacting isn’t failure, but a signal that something disconnected, and how reconnection can happen without shame, over-explaining, or punishing yourself. We explore: Why reacting doesn’t undo your progress How avoidance keeps tension alive Reconnecting with yourself before reconnecting with someone else Simple ways to acknowledge a reaction without spiraling Why ownership builds trust more than perfection Letting go of the need to be instantly forgiven or understood Reacting doesn’t mean the moment is ruined.It’s a signal that something disconnected — and that gives us an opportunity to reconnect. This episode is about coming back to yourself, learning from the moment, and staying connected instead of carrying it.

    18 min
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Real talk for when your brain won’t quiet. Short episodes on boundaries, self-worth, and speaking up—without the fluff. I share my mess, my mistakes, and what’s helped me heal so you don’t feel so alone.

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  • Creator
    Grappling In Thought
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Clean
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