Healing with Teeling Podcast

Rachel Teeling

Join me as I share my journey of healing from heartbreak, rebuilding my life, and finding healthy love after relationship trauma. I’m Rachel Teeling, Certified Relationship & Life Coach and NLP Practitioner, and I support high-achieving women who feel successful in life but stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. The women who are tired of overthinking, emotionally unavailable relationships, and wondering why love feels so hard despite having everything else together. Through honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools, we’ll explore how to heal old wounds, rebuild self-worth, stop settling, and create healthy, secure relationships without losing yourself in the process. Using NLP, I help women rewire the subconscious beliefs and emotional patterns that keep them stuck in painful relationship cycles, so they can move through dating and relationships with more confidence, clarity, and ease. Whether you’re healing after heartbreak, navigating dating in your 30s or 40s, or learning to trust yourself again, this podcast is here to support your healing, growth, and transformation. Don’t miss an episode - follow the show now and join me on this empowering journey of self-discovery and transformation. ✨ Free Resources to Support Your Journey ✨ Book Your Free Empowerment Call If you’re ready to break free from the past and move forward with confidence, book your FREE empowerment call today. Let’s talk about how I can support you in healing, shifting your identity, and attracting the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. Book your FREE empowerment call here. Why Am I Still Single? Quiz Wondering what might be blocking your love life? Take my FREE Why Am I Still Single? quiz to uncover your love-blocking archetype and gain clarity on how to attract the relationship you truly desire. Take the quiz here! Connect with me: ✨ Instagram: @rachelteelingcoaching ✨ Facebook: Rachel Teeling Coaching ✨ Website: www.rachelteeling.com Let’s rebuild, rediscover, and thrive together! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 22 hr ago

    How life coaching helped me rebuild my life after heartbreak

    How life coaching helped me rebuild my life after heartbreak In 2018, my nine-year relationship ended just weeks before our wedding. I then found out my ex had been having an affair. I lost the future I had planned, my family unit, my income and the career I had built around him. I experienced a breakdown and was left with around £15,000 of debt. From the outside, I looked as though I was coping. I went out, drank, trained for half marathons and dated younger, unsuitable and emotionally unavailable men. Sometimes all three in one convenient package. But looking as though you are coping is not the same as healing. My life looked fine from the outside, but my self-worth was on the floor. Then I made the decision to work with a life coach for six months. My coach didn’t rescue me or tell me what to do. She helped me stop waiting for somebody else to rescue me. Today, my life looks completely different. In this episode, I explain how coaching helped me challenge the beliefs I had mistaken for facts, change my relationship patterns and create a new vision for my future. I also answer the question: What does a life coach actually do? IN THIS EPISODE: • Why looking as though you are coping doesn’t mean you have healed • What life coaching is and how it differs from therapy • How your experiences can shape your beliefs and relationship choices • Why I kept looking to unsuitable men for validation • The role values, boundaries and identity played in rebuilding my life • Why being chosen isn’t the goal, but being treated well is • How coaching helped me turn a vision into action QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF: • Where in your life are you pretending to be fine? • What are you using to distract yourself from how you really feel? • What happened to you, and what have you decided it means about you? • How is that belief affecting the relationships you accept now? • What do you want your life to feel like three years from now? • Who do you need to become to create that life? WAYS TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP WITH RACHEL 💕 JOIN MY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Join Life After Divorce: Heal, Rebuild & Become You, my free community for midlife women healing after heartbreak or divorce. Connect with women who understand, share what you are going through and receive support to help you feel like yourself again. 💕 TAKE THE LOVE-BLOCKING ARCHETYPE QUIZ Take my “Why Am I Still Single?” quiz to find out your Love-Blocking Archetype and understand what may be happening underneath your relationship patterns. ✨ BOOK AN EMPOWERMENT SESSION If heartbreak has left you questioning who you are, what you want or what comes next, you do not have to work through it alone. During an Empowerment Session, we’ll look at where you are now, what may be keeping you stuck and what could help you move forward. Whether you want to heal after heartbreak, rebuild your confidence, find yourself again or create healthier love, this is a place to start. CONNECT WITH RACHEL Instagram Website If this episode reminds you of another woman who needs to hear it, please share it with her. This episode shares general education and personal experiences. It is not a substitute for individual mental health support. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    How life coaching helped me rebuild my life after heartbreak
  2. 31 Aug

    MENOPAUSE, MIDLIFE AND FEELING LIKE YOURSELF AGAIN

    Have you reached midlife and suddenly found that you no longer feel like yourself? Perhaps your energy has disappeared, your confidence has taken a knock, your body feels different or the healthy habits that worked in your 20s and 30s are no longer giving you the same results. In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I’m joined by Kelly Phillips, founder of Strong Womenopause™ and Executive Menopause Coach. Kelly shares how anxiety, joint pain and sciatica affected her health and legal career. After finding that strength training helped her symptoms, she retrained as a personal trainer before specialising in perimenopause and menopause. We discuss: • Why menopause can make you feel as though you have lost yourself • How brain fog, low energy and physical changes affect confidence • Why busy women often push through their symptoms • How your nutrition and exercise needs change during midlife • Why protein and strength training matter • Why carbohydrates and healthy fats still have a place in your diet • The truth about potatoes, because naturally I needed to ask • Why sleep and recovery are so important • How menopause can affect relationships and stress levels • How partners, families and workplaces can offer support Kelly also shares three simple places to start: Include protein with each meal.Add regular strength-based exercise that works for you.Create a consistent sleep and recovery routine. The main message from this conversation is that you do not have to struggle in silence or simply put up with your symptoms. Start by noticing what is happening in your body and make one manageable change at a time. ABOUT KELLY Kelly Phillips is the founder of Strong Womenopause™ and an Executive Menopause Coach. She helps ambitious women understand menopause, reduce the symptoms holding them back and rebuild their health, confidence and performance. Kelly also works with organisations to improve menopause awareness and support in the workplace. THE COLLECTIVE The Collective is Kelly’s online membership for women going through perimenopause and menopause. Members receive education, nutrition guidance, strength workouts, live yoga and Pilates, Q&A sessions, guest workshops and community support. Join The Collective: CONNECT WITH KELLY Instagram: LinkedIn: Website: WAYS TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP WITH RACHEL 💕 TAKE THE LOVE-BLOCKING ARCHETYPE QUIZ Menopause may affect how you feel, but old relationship patterns, beliefs and emotional wounds can also influence your confidence and relationships. Take my “Why Am I Still Single?” quiz to find out your Love-Blocking Archetype and understand what may be happening underneath your relationship patterns. ✨ BOOK AN EMPOWERMENT SESSION If midlife has left you questioning who you are, what you want or how you feel about your relationships, you do not have to work through it alone. During an Empowerment Session, we’ll look at where you are now, what may be keeping you stuck and the support that could help you move forward. Whether you want to heal after heartbreak, rebuild your confidence, find yourself again or create healthier love, this is a place to start. CONNECT WITH RACHEL Instagram: Website: Join the Life After Divorce facebook group here. This episode shares general education and personal experiences. Please speak to a qualified healthcare professional about your individual symptoms or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    MENOPAUSE, MIDLIFE AND FEELING LIKE YOURSELF AGAIN
  3. 24 Aug

    The Overachiever Archetype

    You’re successful, independent and capable. You’ve built a life you’re proud of and you’re used to getting things done. So why can love still feel so difficult? In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I’m breaking down the final Love-Blocking Archetype in this series: The Overachiever. The Overachiever is often the woman everyone else thinks has it all together. She’s ambitious, reliable and strong. She knows how to achieve, solve problems and take care of herself. But underneath that independence can be a subconscious belief that love, approval and worth have to be earned. And when you bring that belief into relationships, you can find yourself over-giving, over-functioning, trying to control the outcome or working far too hard to make a relationship work. In this episode, I cover: • The common signs of the Overachiever Archetype • Why achievement can become connected to your sense of worth • Childhood experiences that can create these subconscious patterns • Why asking for help, resting and receiving can feel uncomfortable • How being fiercely independent can affect intimacy and vulnerability • Why you may find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable relationships • The difference between healthy independence and keeping people at a distance • How to stop trying to earn love through what you do for other people • Three practical ways to start changing the Overachiever pattern • How to separate who you are from what you achieve You don’t need to become less ambitious, stop being successful or make yourself smaller to find healthy love. The work is learning that your achievements are not evidence of your worth. You are worthy of love when you’re achieving, and you’re worthy of love when you’re doing absolutely nothing. When you stop trying to prove yourself, you can start choosing yourself. And that changes the relationships you choose too. WAYS TO WORK WITH ME ✨ One-to-One Coaching Private coaching for successful midlife women who are ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love. Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices. This is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same patterns, find herself again and build a life and relationship she truly loves. A limited number of private coaching spaces are available. 💕 The BeYou Blueprint Course A step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love. You’ll learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to start making choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear. FREE RESOURCES 💡 Take the Love Blocking Archetype Quiz Find out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer. Your result will help you understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want. 💗 Book an Empowerment Session If you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session. We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want. ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS? Connect with me on Instagram Visit my website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    The Overachiever Archetype
  4. 17 Aug

    Why You Keep People at Arm’s Length

    If you’re fiercely independent, struggle to let people get too close or find yourself losing interest when someone becomes emotionally available, you might recognise yourself in the Ice Queen archetype. But the Ice Queen isn’t cold. Often, she feels deeply. She has simply learned that keeping people at a distance feels safer than risking being hurt again. In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I’m breaking down the Ice Queen, one of the five Love Blocking Archetypes from my Why Am I Still Single? quiz. We’ll explore: Who the Ice Queen is and how she shows up in relationshipsWhy independence can become emotional armourWhy you might pull away when someone gets closeHow heartbreak, betrayal or emotionally unavailable relationships can create this patternThe subconscious beliefs driving your behaviourWhy emotionally unavailable people can sometimes feel more attractive than secure onesWhy healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar or even boringHow to practise vulnerability without losing yourselfHow to start breaking these repeating relationship patterns Your conscious mind might want connection while your subconscious mind wants protection. So while you’re saying, “I want a healthy relationship,” another part of you might be saying: “Love leads to pain.” “People leave.” “I can only rely on myself.” “If I let someone in, I’ll get hurt.” Healing the Ice Queen isn’t about becoming less independent. It’s about learning that you can have boundaries without building walls, allow someone to love you without losing yourself and trust yourself enough to know you won’t abandon yourself again. WAYS TO WORK WITH ME ✨ One-to-One Coaching Private coaching for successful midlife women ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love using my five-step BeYou Method. 💕 The BeYou Blueprint Course A step-by-step course to understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and start making relationship choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear. FREE RESOURCES 💡 Take the Love Blocking Archetype Quiz Are you the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer? Find out the hidden pattern that could be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want. 💗 Book an Empowerment Session Ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again? We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want. ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS? Instagram Facebook Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Why You Keep People at Arm’s Length
  5. 10 Aug

    The Fixer

    Why You Keep Falling in Love With Potential: The Fixer Archetype Are you always the one supporting, encouraging and trying to help your partner become the person you know they could be? You may be the Fixer. The Fixer is caring, loyal and highly empathetic. She sees the best in people, but this can lead her to fall in love with someone’s potential rather than who they are today. She becomes their therapist, coach, cheerleader and emotional support system. She gives more, accepts less and hopes her love will eventually inspire them to change. In this episode, I explore: • Who the Fixer is and how this archetype behaves • Why being needed can feel like being loved • How childhood experiences and past relationships can create this pattern • The subconscious beliefs driving overgiving and rescuing • Why emotionally available partners can initially feel unfamiliar • How to stop taking responsibility for another adult • How to choose real, reciprocal love instead of potential You’ll also hear practical questions to help you recognise when you are fixing, step back from responsibility that is not yours and bring your attention back to your own needs. You do not need to fix somebody into loving you. Healthy love does not require you to earn your place by becoming indispensable. BEYOU BLUEPRINT BETA TESTERS WANTED I’m looking for five successful women to become beta testers for my signature programme before I officially relaunch it in September. If you’ve experienced a breakup, divorce or painful relationship and you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns, this is for you. The six-week BeYou Blueprint will help you work through: ♡ Your relationship patterns ♡ Limiting beliefs ♡ Boundaries ♡ Self-worth ♡ Needs and values ♡ Your vision for the future You’ll receive: • Lifetime access to the course • Three private 30-minute coaching calls with me • A one-week implementation break • Practical exercises to create lasting change You’ll need to commit 60 to 90 minutes each week, complete the programme and provide honest feedback before the September relaunch. The supported beta investment is £555 instead of the full price of £999. DM me on Instagram: with the word BETA and I’ll share the full details. WAYS TO WORK WITH ME ✨ One-to-One Coaching Private coaching for successful midlife women who are ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love. Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices. This is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same patterns, find herself again and build a life and relationship she truly loves. A limited number of private coaching spaces are available. 💕 The BeYou Blueprint Course A step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love. You’ll learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to start making choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear. FREE RESOURCES 💡 Take the Love Blocking Archetype Quiz Find out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer. Your result will help you understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want. 💗 Book an Empowerment Session If you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session. We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want. ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS? Connect with me on Instagram: Visit my website: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    The Fixer
  6. 3 Aug

    The Lone Wolf

    The Lone Wolf: When independence becomes a barrier to love Are you the woman everyone relies on, but you struggle to let anyone support you? In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I break down the Lone Wolf, the second-highest result from women who take my Love Archetype Quiz. The Lone Wolf does not necessarily want to be alone. She wants love, but somewhere along the way she learned that relying on other people can lead to disappointment. Her independence became her protection. This can show up as choosing emotionally unavailable men, considering long-distance relationships or pulling away when somebody kind and consistent enters your life. Calm feels unfamiliar, while uncertainty feels like attraction. In this episode, you’ll learn: • How the Lone Wolf behaves in dating and relationships • Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel safer • Where hyper-independence may come from • The subconscious beliefs keeping this pattern in place • How to accept support without losing your independence • What to do when you want to pull away from a safe person Healing the Lone Wolf is not about becoming less capable. It is about learning that you can have boundaries and closeness, freedom and commitment, and still receive love. WAYS TO WORK WITH ME ✨ One-to-One Coaching Private coaching for successful midlife women ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love. Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices. A limited number of private coaching spaces are available. 💕 Join The BeYou Blueprint Course A step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love. Learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to make choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear. FREE RESOURCES 💡 Take the Love Archetype Quiz Find out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer, and understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck. 💗 Book an Empowerment Session If you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session. We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want. ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS? Instagram Facebook Website If this episode supported you, please follow, rate and review Healing With Teeling. Share the episode to your stories and tag me so I can see you tuning in. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    The Lone Wolf
  7. 27 Jul

    Are You Addicted to Love?

    Are You Addicted to Love? The Love Addict Archetype Explained Do you become attached quickly, overthink every message or lose yourself when you meet someone you really like? You may be repeating the patterns of the Love Addict, the most common result from my Love Blocking Archetype Quiz. The Love Addict wants a loving, committed relationship. She wants someone she can trust, adore and share her life with. But fear of rejection, unresolved heartbreak and subconscious beliefs can lead her towards emotionally unavailable partners. In this episode, I explain: • The signs and behaviours of the Love Addict • Why you may confuse anxiety with chemistry • Why you become attached to someone’s potential • How overgiving and hiding your needs affect relationships • How childhood experiences can shape your relationship patterns • How an ex, divorce or co-parenting relationship may still affect your love life • What your subconscious mind is trying to protect you from • Practical ways to stop chasing love and start choosing yourself • How my five-step BeYou Method helps you become ready for healthy love The goal isn’t simply to find a new relationship. It’s to become a woman who trusts herself, communicates her needs and no longer abandons herself to be chosen. WAYS TO WORK WITH ME ✨ One-to-One Coaching Private coaching for successful midlife women who are ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love. Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices. This is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same patterns, find herself again and build a life and relationship she truly loves. A limited number of private coaching spaces are available. 💕 The BeYou Blueprint Course A step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love. You’ll learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to start making choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear. FREE RESOURCES 💡 Take the Love Archetype Quiz Find out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer. Your result will help you understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want. 💗 Book an Empowerment Session If you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session. We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want. ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS? Connect with me on Instagram: Connect with me on Facebook: Visit my website If this episode supported you today, I’d love you to follow, rate and review Healing With Teeling. And if you’re listening, share the episode to your stories and tag me so I can see you tuning in. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Are You Addicted to Love?
  8. 20 Jul

    BeYou: The 5 Steps Method That Transform Your Love Life

    Episode 98: The BeYou Method. Break the Relationship Patterns Keeping You Stuck Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, lose yourself in relationships, or end up repeating the same painful cycle over and over again? The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you. The patterns you're experiencing are often driven by subconscious beliefs that were created long before you started dating. Until those beliefs change, your relationships rarely do. In this episode, I'm introducing my signature BeYou Method. The five-step coaching framework I use with my clients to help them stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create calm, secure love. If you've ever found yourself asking... • Why do I keep attracting the wrong people? • Why do I ignore red flags? • Why do I lose myself in relationships? • Why does love always feel so hard? ...this episode is for you. Inside this episode you'll learn: • Why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns. • How subconscious beliefs shape your dating life. • The connection between childhood experiences, attachment and adult relationships. • Why awareness alone isn't enough to create lasting change. • The five stages of the BeYou Method. • How to reconnect with your authentic self so you can attract healthier relationships. • Why becoming more you is the key to creating secure love. The BeYou Method Become Aware Gain clarity on what you truly want from your life and your relationships. Understand the patterns that have been running on autopilot. Explore Your Patterns Uncover your attachment style, limiting beliefs and subconscious programming. Understand where your relationship patterns began and why they continue. Your Breakthrough Using NLP, subconscious change work and nervous system regulation, replace old beliefs with new ones that support healthy, secure relationships. Own Your Power Rebuild self-worth, confidence and trust in yourself. Learn healthy boundaries and stop seeking validation from others. Unleash the Real You Become your authentic self. Create relationships from confidence instead of fear and attract love that feels calm, secure and aligned. Resources Mentioned Take my free Love Blocking Archetype Quiz Book an Empowerment Session Connect with me: Website: https://www.rachelteeling.com Instagram @rachelteelingcoaching If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram and tell me which relationship pattern you've recognised in yourself. If you enjoyed today's episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs this conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    BeYou: The 5 Steps Method That Transform Your Love Life
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Join me as I share my journey of healing from heartbreak, rebuilding my life, and finding healthy love after relationship trauma. I’m Rachel Teeling, Certified Relationship & Life Coach and NLP Practitioner, and I support high-achieving women who feel successful in life but stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. The women who are tired of overthinking, emotionally unavailable relationships, and wondering why love feels so hard despite having everything else together. Through honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools, we’ll explore how to heal old wounds, rebuild self-worth, stop settling, and create healthy, secure relationships without losing yourself in the process. Using NLP, I help women rewire the subconscious beliefs and emotional patterns that keep them stuck in painful relationship cycles, so they can move through dating and relationships with more confidence, clarity, and ease. Whether you’re healing after heartbreak, navigating dating in your 30s or 40s, or learning to trust yourself again, this podcast is here to support your healing, growth, and transformation. Don’t miss an episode - follow the show now and join me on this empowering journey of self-discovery and transformation. ✨ Free Resources to Support Your Journey ✨ Book Your Free Empowerment Call If you’re ready to break free from the past and move forward with confidence, book your FREE empowerment call today. Let’s talk about how I can support you in healing, shifting your identity, and attracting the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. Book your FREE empowerment call here. Why Am I Still Single? Quiz Wondering what might be blocking your love life? Take my FREE Why Am I Still Single? quiz to uncover your love-blocking archetype and gain clarity on how to attract the relationship you truly desire. Take the quiz here! Connect with me: ✨ Instagram: @rachelteelingcoaching ✨ Facebook: Rachel Teeling Coaching ✨ Website: www.rachelteeling.com Let’s rebuild, rediscover, and thrive together! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.