46 episodes

In this new original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron identify struggles faced by real-life parents and family members by inviting them in and hearing their story, in a one-time unscripted session with a real person. Claudia listens in to the conversation to discover how Tanya begins to unlock the story behind the issue and help find solutions.

With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience with clear outcomes to each episode.

This podcast doesn’t tell people how to raise their children, or reconnect with family members, rather it helps people understand why, as perfectly competent adults, they can’t put into practice what they know they should do.

Each episode passes on useful links and contacts which listeners can find in the programme notes.

This is a Somethin' Else production.

How Did We Get Here‪?‬ Real Life Stories

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In this new original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron identify struggles faced by real-life parents and family members by inviting them in and hearing their story, in a one-time unscripted session with a real person. Claudia listens in to the conversation to discover how Tanya begins to unlock the story behind the issue and help find solutions.

With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience with clear outcomes to each episode.

This podcast doesn’t tell people how to raise their children, or reconnect with family members, rather it helps people understand why, as perfectly competent adults, they can’t put into practice what they know they should do.

Each episode passes on useful links and contacts which listeners can find in the programme notes.

This is a Somethin' Else production.

Listen on Apple Podcasts
Requires subscription and macOS 11.4 or higher

    Season 1 & 2 Guests Revisited: Prof Tanya asks Jack if he's made contact with his father & whether a long-term relationship is more feasible for Sally

    Season 1 & 2 Guests Revisited: Prof Tanya asks Jack if he's made contact with his father & whether a long-term relationship is more feasible for Sally

    In this third bonus episode of How Did We Get Here? Tanya catches up with two more of our previous guests from Season 1 and 2, to see how things have moved on since they last spoke and what they have learned in the process.

    First we hear from Jack, our first ever episode. He was estranged from his father and was thinking about reconnecting. Listen back to Jack’s episode from Season 1 here:
    https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-distant-father/id1491735705?i=1000527123924

    We’ll also hear from Sally, who found it hard to make a relationship last more than 18 months. She realised that a key moment in her life had changed her forever and needed to move on. Listen back to Sally’s episode from Season 2 here:
    https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-long-term-relationships-dont-work/id1491735705?i=1000521783165

    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.

    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.

    Other helpful organisations:
    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines
    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123
    MIND - www.mind.co.uk
    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe
    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org
    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance
    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk

    How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.

    If I'm Not Thin I'm Not Successful

    If I'm Not Thin I'm Not Successful

    Bea is an achiever in all areas of her life apart from one. She feels that until she is slimmer, she hasn’t achieved everything she set out to do. 



    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. 



    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. 



    Other helpful organisations:


    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines


    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123

    MIND - www.mind.co.uk


    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe


    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org


    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance


    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk



    Find the transcript for episode 12 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_12.txt 



    How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. 



    If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com. 


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    • 51 min
    Grieving Multiple Losses

    Grieving Multiple Losses

    Isla has suffered more deaths in her family than most people deal with in a lifetime. 



    She finds it impossible to process what has happened and needs a way out of the pain. 



    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. 



    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. 



    Other helpful organisations:


    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines


    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123

    MIND - www.mind.co.uk


    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe


    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org


    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance


    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk



    Find the transcript for episode 11 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_11.txt 



    How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  



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    • 50 min
    Keep Myself to Myself

    Keep Myself to Myself

    George was a fireman for the RAF in Iraq and Afghanistan. After his tour of 2007, he came back a different person and has found it hard to reintegrate into society. 



    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. 



    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. 



    Other helpful organisations:


    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines


    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123

    MIND - www.mind.co.uk


    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe


    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org


    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance


    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk



    Find the transcript for episode 10 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_10.txt



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    • 53 min
    Season 1 Guests Revisited: Professor Tanya asks Donia if her daughters are back in their own bed & finds out how Lara and her son Will, are getting on

    Season 1 Guests Revisited: Professor Tanya asks Donia if her daughters are back in their own bed & finds out how Lara and her son Will, are getting on

    In this second bonus episode of How Did We Get Here? Tanya catches up with two more of our previous guests from Season 1, to see what they came away with from their session with her, how they’ve been getting on since, and their hopes for the future.

    First we hear from Donia, to find out if her daughter’s are sleeping in their own beds, and if she has dealt with her personal struggles with guilt and anxiety.
    Listen back to Donia’s episode from Season 1 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-did-we-get-here/id1491735705?i=1000527123923

    We’ll also hear from Lara, to see if she has found a new perspective on her diagnosis of bipolar, and to find out how her son Will is getting on now. Listen back to Lara’s episode from Season 1 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-did-we-get-here/id1491735705?i=1000527123972

    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.

    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.

    Other helpful organisations:
    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines
    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123
    MIND - www.mind.co.uk
    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe
    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org
    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance
    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk

    How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.

    My Mother Walked Out

    My Mother Walked Out

    Heather’s mum left the family home when she was 17 with no warning. Heather still struggles with that day many years later, but is she looking at it the wrong way? 



    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. 



    To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.

    Other helpful organisations:


    NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines


    SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123

    MIND - www.mind.co.uk


    NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe


    WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org


    NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance


    Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk



    Find the transcript for episode 9 here: 

    somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_9.txt



    How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. 



    If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com. 


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    • 49 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
2.7K Ratings

2.7K Ratings

Mindsettochange ,

Awareness and understanding epic ness ❤️

I am late to the party here as only just found this jewel of a Podcast with Claudia and the amazing Prof Tanya. So much shift experienced when seeing things from another’s understanding and reverse engineering all that has transpired. From there a new chapter can be plotted. Awareness and understanding one’s path and behaviour are such vital components to breaking patterns and shifting the beliefs which cause the anxiety and destruction of our lives. Please please keep these coming. Appreciate you both so much. Thank you for what you bring to this world through changing one person at a time to seeing the light and gaining self love and support. This is my mission daily as a Coach and together we can spread that light 💡 so badly needed more than ever.

pinksugarvegan ,

Amazing

Such an interesting listen and something to take away from every episode. 😘😘

Carrie on smiling ,

I love You gals!

This isn’t a weird review, but as a psychotherapist and human who experiences life’s challenges, their is so many wise, helpful, educational, tips and tricks in supporting our mental health. The true life stories are very touching.
Thank you Hank you thank you. Side note I became a therapist after being so inspired by The House of Tiny Tearaways!!!! So Claudia and Tanya thanks for that too. X

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