Even Tacos Fall Apart

MommaFoxFire

The "Even Tacos Fall Apart" talk show includes interviews with actual mental health professionals and conversations where real people talk about the messy side of mental illness, disabilities, wellness and life in general. My goal is to normalize mental health conversations and reduce the stigma around illnesses. We all struggle at different times in our lives, but that doesn't mean we're unlovable - after all, Tacos Fall Apart and WE STILL LOVE THOSE! mommafoxfire is a MH advocate and variety gaming streamer on Twitch: twitch.tv/mommafoxfire tacosfallapart.com

  1. 2 days ago

    Expressive Art & Somatic Therapy for Healing Body Trauma with Wednesdae Reim Ifrach

    For the overthinkers, the dissociators and the people who say “it’s all in my head” while their stomach disagrees. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/wednesdae-reim-ifrach Talk therapy does a lot of good, and sometimes it stops short of what a body needs. On this episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart, art therapist and counselor Wednesdae Reim Ifrach (they/them) joins me to break down how expressive art therapy and somatic therapy help people heal body trauma. We also get into why therapists need healing as much as anyone. Wednesdae nearly failed high school while dealing with depression, anxiety and relentless bullying. One art teacher offered a full year of making therapeutic art in class on one condition, which was showing up. That year set the course for a career. We also talk about the movies, plays and artists that shaped them, including Beetlejuice, Frida Kahlo and an Alice Cooper record from their mom. Plus the surprise that this artist played six sports growing up and will fight you for the best seat at a hockey game. You will hear what expressive arts therapy actually is, which is painting, sculpture, dance, music, drama and writing blended into traditional psychotherapy. Somatic therapy starts from the idea that mind and body are deeply connected and that bodies remember what happened to them. Wednesdae explains why The Body Keeps the Score is a reductive take and why dissociation is a normal coping skill that deserves a slow, gentle approach. This work fits complex PTSD, medical trauma, body image struggles and eating disorders especially well. We get into gender affirming care and how art makes room for both dysphoria and euphoria. Teens and parents build altered books together, which gives a family a shared visual language when words fall short. Wednesdae also explains minority stress and why LGBTQ+ clients walk into therapy carrying more than many providers realize. Wednesdae shares what it meant to help create a square for the Monument Quilt, a public art project that spelled out You Are Not Alone on the National Mall with more than 3,000 squares made by survivors and their loved ones. Heads up that this part of the conversation covers sexual assault. For eating disorders, art slips past the intellectual defenses that smart, perfectionistic brains build. Making something messy challenges perfectionism, and sometimes therapy that feels like play is exactly what a worn out client needs. You also leave with practical tools. Wednesdae walks through creating an imaginary safe place, a progressive muscle relaxation exercise you can do at your desk and signs that talk therapy might need backup. Those signs include giving a perfect weekly report, feeling numb from the neck down or dropping the heaviest stuff right as the session ends. If an exercise causes pain or stirs up too much, stop and bring it to a therapist or doctor. Wednesdae’s magic wand wish is that everyone knew therapists are just as messy as their clients, which is the best reason to go to therapy. Press play for an honest, funny and warm conversation about trauma healing, mental health and finding ways to cope when words are not enough.

    Expressive Art & Somatic Therapy for Healing Body Trauma with Wednesdae Reim Ifrach
  2. 20 Oct

    ADHD, Dyslexia & Mid-life Diagnoses with Garrett Wood

    This episode is for the person who's spent years feeling like they were failing at things that should've been easy, especially if a diagnosis at 40 sounds a little too familiar. Listen to this conversation of Even Tacos Fall Apart for a real conversation about ADHD, dyslexia and getting diagnosed later in life, and why understanding your brain is never too late to matter. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/garrett-wood Garrett Wood didn't get diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia until he was 40, and this episode digs into everything that late diagnosis unlocked for him. Garrett is a clinical hypnotherapist and executive functioning specialist who founded Gnosis Therapy, where he works with executives, founders and entrepreneurs who want to perform at a high level without wrecking their health and relationships to get there. We talk about how he built his A Cubed framework (assess, accommodate, align) after noticing that half of his clients had grown up with a formal ADHD diagnosis while the other half had never even considered one despite living with the same symptoms. That overlap is what sent him toward his own evaluation, where ADHD, dyslexia and dysgraphia all showed up. Garrett gets specific about what dyslexia and dysgraphia feel like day to day, from mixing up letters while reading for meaning instead of decoding word by word, to years of handwriting that even he couldn't read back afterward. We also spend a good chunk of the conversation on masking and high functioning burnout, the kind where you're succeeding on paper while your coping mechanisms quietly stop keeping up with the effort it takes to hold everything together. Some of the most honest moments in this episode are about what a diagnosis does and doesn't do. Garrett talks about the relief of finally having a name for what he'd been dealing with his whole life, and about the grief that came with wondering how things might have looked if he'd known sooner. We get into why trauma and burnout can mimic ADHD closely enough to cause a misdiagnosis, why ADHD tends to show up differently for women, and why research on women's health still lags so far behind. If you can't access a formal diagnosis, Garrett walks through tools like the Executive Strengths Questionnaire that help you start understanding your own brain without needing a clinical label first. We also talk about sleep as one of the most underrated accommodations out there and why one size fits all classroom and workplace accommodations often miss the point entirely. This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered if the way their brain works has a name, anyone parenting a kid with an IEP or a 504 plan and anyone who has spent years being high functioning while quietly falling apart behind the scenes. Garrett's story is proof that a diagnosis doesn't erase everything that came before it. It just gives you something to finally work with.

    ADHD, Dyslexia & Mid-life Diagnoses with Garrett Wood
  3. 13 Oct

    Addiction & Mental Health with The Cynical Therapist (Elle Anzalone)

    This one's for anyone who's dealt with addiction up close, loves someone who has, or just wants a real, unfiltered take on mental health from someone who's lived it and helps others through it too. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/the-cynical-therapist This episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart brings on Elle, known online as The Cynical Therapist, for a raw and unfiltered conversation about addiction and mental health. Elle is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed advanced alcohol and drug counselor who calls herself an "anti-therapist," ditching the stiff, clinical energy of traditional therapy for something warmer, funnier, and a lot more honest. She talks openly about her own recovery from alcoholism, including getting sober after her third DUI, relapsing after a decade, and rebuilding her sobriety from the ground up. The conversation covers a lot of ground. Elle breaks down what AA is like from the inside, the good and the cultish, and why it saved her life even when parts of it made her uncomfortable. She talks about the real reasons people turn to substances, including pain, boredom, and emptiness, and how cultural environment shapes what "normal" drinking or using even looks like growing up. She also digs into the dangerous myths around addiction, like the idea that it only touches certain kinds of people, when in reality it cuts across every background, income level, and profession. There's a frank breakdown of what treatment actually looks like, from medically supervised detox for alcohol and benzo withdrawal to the wild cost differences between inpatient programs, outpatient options, and everything in between. Elle and MommaFoxFire don't hold back on the state of the American healthcare system either, calling out insurance companies, reimbursement rates, and the absurd gap between what treatment costs and what people can actually afford. The two also get into conditions that often show up alongside addiction, like OCD and eating disorders, and talk through the difference between self-harm and addictive behavior. Elle shares her take on stages of change, why willpower alone rarely fixes anything, and why she believes therapy should be seen as strength building instead of a sign something is broken. Toward the end, the conversation shifts into practical territory. Elle offers real talk on building a well-being routine that actually holds up, including setting achievable goals, creating structure without rigidity, limiting news and social media intake, and making space for people who make you laugh. It's grounded advice from someone who has lived through the hard stuff herself and works with people navigating it every single day. This episode is for anyone who wants a therapist's perspective without the sterile, buttoned up delivery. Elle brings humor, bluntness, and genuine compassion to topics that usually get talked about in hushed, careful tones. Whether you're in recovery, love someone who is, or just want a smarter and more human take on addiction and mental health, this conversation delivers. Even Tacos Fall Apart is a podcast about real conversations with real people, mental health, personal growth, and the messy stuff nobody else wants to talk about out loud.

    Addiction & Mental Health with The Cynical Therapist (Elle Anzalone)
  4. 6 Oct

    Survival, Shame & Erectile Dysfunction with Gaylen Wilson

    This one's for anyone who's ever gone quiet about a problem instead of talking about it, and for the partner on the other side wondering why the distance keeps growing. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/gaylen-wilson Gaylen Wilson almost died three times before his heart finally gave out for good, and then a stranger's heart gave him twenty more years. In 2014 a virus attacked his heart while he was on the road doing computer field service work with his wife Heather. A physician's assistant misdiagnosed it as pneumonia without ever ordering a chest x-ray. Gaylen kept working. Weeks later, in a clinic in Corpus Christi, doctors told him he didn't have pneumonia at all. He had congestive heart failure, and it had been quietly destroying his heart the entire time he thought he was recovering. His ejection fraction, the measure of how much blood his heart could actually pump, had dropped to five percent. A healthy heart runs fifty to sixty. What followed was three and a half years of end stage heart failure. A defibrillator implant. A night when it fired and shocked him back into rhythm while Heather lay next to him, unaware how close she'd come to losing him in his sleep. Half an hour after he finally told her he probably had two to three months left, the hospital called. A heart was available. He went into surgery at four in the morning and came out with a thirty eight year old heart in his sixty one year old body. That transplant is the reason Gaylen exists in the online world he built. He calls it his insane need to pay the blessing forward, and it shows up in everything from the free dating site he runs to the dozens of books he's written to the erectile dysfunction support communities he now leads. Gaylen had developed ED at forty four, long before his heart failed, and he watched it wreck marriage after marriage in the groups he moderates. What he found wasn't a bedroom problem. It was men going silent, pulling away from the women who loved them, convinced that losing their ability to perform meant losing their worth. He doesn't buy the idea that this is a character flaw. He calls it a nervous system in fight or flight, a primal fear of losing the relationship that ends up sabotaging the relationship instead. That's the same insight behind the Monument Method, the coaching framework he and Heather built together after nearly two and a half decades of marriage, including the hardest years of his life. It leans on attachment theory, the idea that most fights between partners have nothing to do with what's actually being said and everything to do with a threat the nervous system thinks it's under. Gaylen and Heather built a set of tools around that, including a shared word they use to stop a fight cold and turn back toward each other instead of away. This conversation covers survival, misdiagnosis, shame, sex after sixty, why silence is the real enemy for men dealing with ED, and what it actually takes for a marriage to become a refuge instead of a battlefield. If you've ever watched someone you love go quiet on you, or gone quiet yourself, this one is worth your time.

    Survival, Shame & Erectile Dysfunction with Gaylen Wilson
  5. 29 Sept

    Performing "FINE" - The Emotional Cost of Performing Wellness While Secretly Struggling with Lisa Lacy

    This one's for anyone who's mastered the art of looking fine while quietly falling apart behind the scenes. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/lisa-lacy Lisa Lacy spent three decades in corporate education and healthcare consulting before she started writing about the things most people keep locked away: addiction, psychosis, trauma and what she calls identity masking, the gap between who you actually are and who you become just to get through the day. She's also written her debut memoir, Notes from a Certified Mad Woman, along with a companion guide, and she joined MommaFoxFire on Even Tacos Fall Apart to talk about performing fine and what it actually costs. This episode digs into the difference between adapting to a room and disappearing inside a mask. Lisa is clear that we all shift a little depending on where we are. You don't bring the same energy to a board meeting that you bring home to your partner. That's normal. The dangerous mask is the polished one, the six figures and the perfect blended family on social media while you're falling apart behind the scenes in total silence. Lisa and MommaFoxFire talk about why high functioning people often get checked on the least. When you're the one who gets everything done, everyone assumes you're fine, so nobody asks. Lisa breaks down why shame keeps people quiet even when they know something is wrong, and she gives real language for closing that gap: acknowledgement, awareness and observation. She makes the case that just noticing the pattern is most of the work. They cover how to support a high functioning person in your life without making things worse, starting with asking permission before you share an observation instead of walking in with unsolicited advice. Lisa also lays out what actually makes someone a safe person to open up to, someone with a track record of lifting you up instead of draining you or judging you. Lisa gets honest about her own ten year recovery journey, starting inpatient rehab at forty, and she talks through psychosis from the inside, what it's like to live inside another reality that felt completely real while it was happening. She pushes back on the idea that mental health struggles make someone defective or that struggling is some kind of moral failure. It's real. It exists. That's it. There's a lot of practical stuff in here too. Lisa is a martial artist with belts in three disciplines and she connects that training to staying regulated instead of reactive. She talks about the power of a long exhale when anxiety hits, why building your coping toolbox before you hit a low matters more than scrambling for it in the moment, and why she believes emotional intelligence, especially willingness and curiosity, matters more for a good life than IQ ever will. This one hits close to home for anyone who has ever looked completely fine on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside. Lisa's bottom line carries the whole episode: always one more day, always one more try. Today is not the day to give up.

    Performing "FINE" - The Emotional Cost of Performing Wellness While Secretly Struggling with Lisa Lacy
  6. 22 Sept

    Creative Expression & Connection with Dr. Fred Moss

    This one's for anyone who's tired of being handed a diagnosis instead of a real conversation. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/dr-fred-moss Dr. Fred Moss spent over forty years in psychiatry and worked with more than thirty thousand patients before he started asking the question that changed everything for him: what actually heals people? That search led him to build Welcome to Humanity, a movement built on the idea that connection, creativity and honest communication are the real medicine, not a diagnosis and a prescription pad. On this episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart, Dr. Fred joins host MommaFoxFire for a conversation that goes straight at the heart of how we talk about mental health and why so much of it misses the mark. Dr. Fred shares the story of growing up as the family communicator, getting bored out of his mind in a school system built for compliance instead of curiosity, and stumbling into psychiatry almost by accident while working a child care job at a state hospital. What he found there set the course for the rest of his career. He talks openly about the years he spent doing work he didn't believe in, prescribing medications and handing out diagnoses because that's what the industry wanted, even while he suspected those tools were doing more harm than good. In 2006 he tested that suspicion by taking willing patients off their medications and watching many of them get better, not worse. That moment reshaped how he practiced and eventually led him to close his practice and travel the world researching what people actually need to heal. The conversation covers a lot of ground. Dr. Fred and MommaFoxFire dig into the difference between a label that validates someone's experience and a label that boxes them in, using MommaFoxFire's own family and her son's Tourette syndrome diagnosis as a real world example of how labels can cut both ways. Dr. Fred pushes back hard on the idea that psychiatric conditions are fixed or permanent, and he makes the case that connection and honest communication do more for a person's wellbeing than most people expect. They also get into creativity as a form of healing, why so many of the best poems are actually songs, and what Dr. Fred has learned about taking care of his own mental health after four decades of sitting across from other people's pain. He talks about his upcoming book, Welcome to Humanity: A Psychiatrist's Case Against the Mental Health System, and shares the one piece of advice he'd give someone who feels like traditional therapy or medication just hasn't reached them yet. This episode is a reminder that healing doesn't always start with a prescription. Sometimes it starts with a creative outlet. Sometimes it starts with reaching out to another person and being brave enough to say something true out loud. Tune in for a conversation about creative expression, connection and what it really means to be human, straight from a psychiatrist who has seen it all and isn't afraid to challenge the system he spent his career inside of.

    Creative Expression & Connection with Dr. Fred Moss
  7. 15 Sept

    Somatic Practices & Letting Go with Melanie Smithson

    Somatic therapist Melanie Smithson joined ETFA to talk about why your shoulders, your gut and your jaw remember things your brain would rather forget. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/melanie-smithson Melanie Smithson has spent thirty years as a somatic psychotherapist, and she opened this episode with a truth most of us avoid: your body remembers everything your mind tries to forget. Stress, grief and old wounds don't just live in your head, they lodge in your shoulders, your gut and your jaw. And according to Melanie, the way out isn't more thinking. It's movement. Melanie is the award winning author of two books, Stress Free in Thirty Seconds and her newest release Shake Yourself Free, and she sits on the board of NAMI New Mexico. Her whole approach centers on one idea: letting go is a skill we were all born with and most of us lost somewhere along the way. We got into practical stuff fast. Melanie broke down small, doable somatic practices anyone can use at a desk, in a chair or stuck in a rut of apathy. Throw your arms in the air. Shake your body loose for thirty seconds. Bounce in your seat. Even groaning counts, and she's working on a new book about exactly that. The goal isn't to look graceful. It's to remind your nervous system that you're not stuck, even when your mind insists you are. We also talked about anger, and Melanie gave one of the most useful distinctions of the whole conversation: the difference between expressing a feeling and raging at someone. It comes down to checking in with your body first and doing an honest inventory before you ever open your mouth. She walked through how she handles it in her own marriage, and it's a practice worth stealing. Grief got its own space too. Melanie explained why grief isn't one feeling but a whole cluster of them, sadness, anger, despair, stuck-ness, and why figuring out which one you're actually sitting with changes everything about how you move through it. One of the most striking parts of our conversation was Melanie's point about why physical illness gets accepted in our culture while mental struggle still carries shame. Her answer wasn't what I expected, and it reframed the whole stigma conversation for me. We closed on letting go itself. How do you know when something is actually released instead of just shoved back down? Melanie's answer comes back to the body every time. She also shared a line that stuck with me long after we stopped recording: you cannot let go of who you are, only what you've accumulated. The more you release, the closer you get to yourself. This episode is full of small, real, actually usable tools, not vague advice to just relax. If you carry tension in your body, if you've been told to calm down without anyone telling you how, or if you're ready to stop pushing feelings back down just to have them resurface later, this conversation will give you somewhere to start.

    Somatic Practices & Letting Go with Melanie Smithson
  8. 8 Sept

    Bipolar Personality Disorder & Mental Health Advocacy with Loot The Body

    This one's for anyone who's ever felt like they had to prove they were struggling before someone would finally believe them. More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/loot-the-body This time on Even Tacos Fall Apart I sat down with Loot the Body, a Twitch streamer, homeschool mom of seven, and mental health advocate who turns face painting into a way to open up hard conversations. She streams as Mental Health and Makeup, and her whole mission comes down to one line she lives by: your worth isn't something you earn, you already have it. Loot lives with bipolar disorder, and she walked us through what that actually looks like day to day, not the neat two month manic and two month depressive cycle people picture, but mood shifts that can hit four times in a two week stretch. During manic phases she'd chase validation in ways that hurt her marriage. During depressive ones sleep became her only escape from feeling like a failure. She talked openly about passive suicidal ideation, the kind where you're not trying to end your life but you catch yourself hoping you just don't wake up, and why that still counts as an emergency worth calling for help over. We got into her two week inpatient stay, the structure that helped her steady out, and the moment a doctor finally listened close enough to catch what years of misdiagnosis had missed. Getting the right diagnosis, she said, was one of the biggest steps toward learning to manage her illness instead of just surviving it. Loot also opened up about miscarriage, the ignorant comments she heard from people who meant well but had no idea what to say, and the one sentence that actually helped: it's okay to grieve. She talked about Poland syndrome, a condition she was born with that wasn't fully visible until puberty, and how she learned to stop apologizing for a body that didn't match anyone else's. Underneath all of it is a woman who homeschools seven kids, still finds time to crochet through her manic energy, and built a community on Twitch that gave her somewhere to land when her dad passed away suddenly. She's honest with her kids about what she's going through because bipolar disorder runs in her family and she wants them to see that naming a struggle out loud takes away its power, not adds to it. If you've ever felt like admitting you're struggling makes you weak, this conversation is going to hit different. Loot reminds us that one in two people will deal with a mental illness at some point in their life, so the odds are good that whoever you're talking to gets it more than you think. Self care isn't selfish, asking for help isn't failure, and feeling unheard by the people meant to help you is one of the hardest parts of getting better. Grab a taco, settle in, and listen to a conversation about bipolar disorder, mental health advocacy, and what it actually takes to keep showing up for yourself and your family when your brain is working against you.

    Bipolar Personality Disorder & Mental Health Advocacy with Loot The Body

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The "Even Tacos Fall Apart" talk show includes interviews with actual mental health professionals and conversations where real people talk about the messy side of mental illness, disabilities, wellness and life in general. My goal is to normalize mental health conversations and reduce the stigma around illnesses. We all struggle at different times in our lives, but that doesn't mean we're unlovable - after all, Tacos Fall Apart and WE STILL LOVE THOSE! mommafoxfire is a MH advocate and variety gaming streamer on Twitch: twitch.tv/mommafoxfire tacosfallapart.com