Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband
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It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.

  1. 2 days ago ·  Bonus

    BONUS — Marriage Undressed: Obligation Sex, Overcoming Shame, and Rebuilding Intimacy

    What do you do when intimacy starts to feel like an obligation? How do you rebuild desire when anxiety, stress, or past experiences get in the way? And how can you talk about what you really want without making your spouse feel criticized? In this special bonus episode, Dan is joined by licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist Dr. Lisa Elieson for a recording of our live Marriage Undressed Q&A! They answer real questions from married couples about some of the most personal and challenging parts of sexual intimacy: Why having sex doesn't always mean feeling connected How stress and anxiety can interfere with sexual desire What to do when intimacy feels like another item on the to-do list Overcoming sexual shame and negative messages from the past Navigating differences in sexual preferences and comfort levels Rebuilding intimacy after rejection, resentment, or obligation sex How to communicate your needs without criticizing your spouse Maintaining connection when health challenges change your relationship Why your love languages may change over time Whether you're struggling with desire differences, trying to reconnect, or simply wanting to understand your spouse better, this conversation is full of practical insights to help you build a more connected, playful, and fulfilling marriage. Want to take your intimacy to the next level? Join us November 6–7 for our upcoming Virtual Intimacy Getaway, where we'll guide you and your spouse through a new approach to slow, mindful lovemaking. You can also learn about our upcoming couples retreat in Southern Utah and our marriage coaching programs. Find all the details at https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/

  2. 6 days ago

    How to Get Out of Your Head and Actually Enjoy Sex

    Have you ever been intimate with your spouse, but instead of enjoying the moment, you're stuck in your head? Wondering if they're enjoying it, worrying about your performance, or feeling pressure to make everything go just right? What if all that effort to make intimacy better is actually making it worse? In this episode, Dan shares a surprisingly vulnerable story from his own marriage about how his determination to be a great lover backfired—and what finally changed things for him and Emily. You'll discover why trying harder isn't always the answer, what might be getting in the way of the connection you crave, and how to get back to truly enjoying each other. Want to take your connection even deeper? Join Dan and Emily for their Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, November 6–7, where you'll learn to slow down and experience intimacy in a whole new way. https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/

  3. 16 Oct

    Your Marriage Needs an Adult Playground (Here's How to Build One), with Tammy Camp.

    Has sex started to feel more like a responsibility than something you actually look forward to? Somewhere along the way, many couples stop playing together. Sex becomes serious, intimacy feels like work, and differences in desire create pressure instead of connection. In this episode, Dan sits down with returning guest and relationship coach Tammy Camp to talk about building an adult playground in your marriage—a place where both spouses feel free to explore, laugh, and enjoy each other. You'll discover why play matters in a healthy sexual relationship, how to bring back the fun when you have different desires, and simple ways to make intimacy feel less like an obligation and more like an invitation. Because great intimacy isn't just about what you do together. It's about how you feel together. Register for one of our retreat options: Virtual Retreat or In-Person Retreat   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

  4. 9 Oct

    Do Christians Really Have Bad Sex Lives? (What the Data Actually Shows)

    Do Christians really have worse sex lives—or is that just a story we've been told? After seeing conflicting claims online, Dan went straight to the data. What he found was surprising: churchgoing couples are having slightly more sex than those who rarely attend religious services—but both groups are having significantly less sex than couples did a generation ago. So what's really going on? In this episode, Dan separates Christian theology from the cultural messages about sex many of us grew up with. He shares three beliefs from Christian faith that can support a healthy, fulfilling sex life, plus three practical ways to build more intimacy, pleasure, play, and connection in your marriage. You'll also learn how to recognize beliefs about sex that may have come from culture rather than your faith—and why your faith might actually be one of your greatest advantages in building the sex life you want. Resources Virtual Retreat (November 6-7, 2026) In-person Couples Retreat (April 7-11, 2027) Our apps

  5. 2 Oct

    Five Steps to Having Juicy Sex in Long-term Marriages, with Dr. Emily Jamea

    What if your sex life is good—but you still sense there could be something more? Sex therapist Dr. Emily Jamea kept hearing this question from couples who had overcome their sexual struggles but still longed for the passion and intensity they once felt. Her search for answers led her to study sexual flow—the experience of becoming so immersed in intimacy that distractions disappear and time seems to stand still. In this episode, Dr. Emily shares five research-backed skills that can help couples move beyond "good enough" and experience deeper connection, greater pleasure, and sex that may be even better than the honeymoon stage. Want help putting these ideas into practice? Get my free eight-page guide to the five steps of sexual flow here. or Register for one of our retreat options: Virtual Retreat or In-Person Retreat Check out Dr. Emily Jamea's book: The Art of Desire Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

  6. 25 Sept

    Dreading "Are We Having Sex Tonight?" Try the Menu Mindset Instead

    Has sex in your marriage become a yes-or-no question: "Are we having sex tonight?" For one spouse, that question may bring hope and anticipation. For the other, it may feel like a test they're about to pass or fail. When every flirtation, touch, or attempt at closeness seems tied to one expected outcome, both spouses may eventually stop reaching for each other. In this episode, Dan shares how this pass-or-fail dynamic affected his own marriage and introduces a different approach: the "menu mindset." You'll learn three practical ways to create more choice, flexibility, and genuine desire in your intimate relationship—without denying what you want or waiting for your spouse to change first. You'll learn how to: • Build a broader menu of physical and emotional connection • Replace "Are we having sex tonight?" with a better question • Respond to disappointment without withdrawing or applying pressure • Make intimacy feel more playful, pleasurable, and freely chosen Resources Get the Intimacy Menu in the Intimacy Vault--only available until September 30! 323: Roommate Marriage Episode 321: Why Your Libido Disappeared After the Honeymoon Next Level Couples Coaching Program Couples Retreat (April 2027)

  7. 18 Sept

    Stop Having "Baseball Sex" (Do This Instead), with Dr. Lisa Elieson

    Does sex in your marriage ever feel like a race toward intercourse or orgasm? Dr. Lisa Elieson calls this "baseball sex"—rushing around the bases instead of enjoying where you are. In this episode, she joins Dan to explore sexuality as a creative art: something two people build together, moment by moment, without knowing exactly where it has to lead. You'll learn how slowing down, letting go of a predetermined outcome, and making room for each partner's unique desires can reduce pressure and create more pleasure, connection, and play. They also discuss the anxiety both higher- and lower-desire spouses may carry, why emotional safety matters, and what it means to become emotionally as well as physically naked with your spouse. Want more practical help creating intimacy that works for both of you? The 2026 Intimacy Vault includes our brand new interactive Intimacy Menu, along with Dr. Lisa Elieson's Common Gender Differences in Desire and more than a dozen other resources for deeper emotional and sexual connection. It's only available through September 30, so explore the Vault while you can. Other Resources: Learn more about Lisa on her website Check out our couples retreat coming up this spring! Check out our intimacy and relationship apps! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

  8. 11 Sept

    The More You Pursue, the More They Pull Away: Breaking the Intimacy Cycle with Dr. Laurie Watson

    The more you pursue your spouse for emotional or sexual connection, the more they seem to pull away—and the harder you try, the worse it gets. Certified sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson explains why couples get trapped in this pursue-withdraw cycle and how vulnerable, blame-free conversations can begin to change it. We also discuss why trading emotional connection for sex backfires, what women's bodies actually need for pleasure, and why securely attached couples often have the most—and most varied—sex. Resources: Laurie's New Book: Brave Love, Great Sex Couples Retreat Next Level Couples Coaching Our apps   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

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It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.

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  • Creator
    Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    331
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024 Get Your Marriage On!
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