This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with my darling friend Wren about being made to feel like we're "too much" for men to "handle" and how this shows up in dating. We also cover a bunch of recent tea from the Freya Finds A Fella campaign, and various other meaty topics like feminism, intimacy, boundaries, beauty standards, and the unequal risks women face when building relationships or having babies with men. Included in this ep: The “too much to handle” narrative, and why “I want to be held, received, and respected” offers a better frame than being “handled” 12:00How women internalize being misunderstood as a personal problem, when the deeper issue may be a gap in emotional skills and relational capacity 12:13The tension between feminism, independence, and the desire for love, partnership, and family 25:01The financial, emotional, and energetic cost of changing a life plan for a relationship 29:06Why love isn’t enough when circumstances, sacrifice, and commitment aren’t balanced 38:37Beauty labour, makeup, cosmetic procedures, ageing, and the social penalties women face for not conforming to beauty standards 41:10How beauty standards intersect with ageism, fatphobia, classism, patriarchy, and consumerism 54:10Why asking a woman why she doesn’t have children can be invasive, especially when fertility, health, finances, career, and personal choice are involved 56:07The difference between wanting to be a dad and being prepared to be an equal, informed, and present father 59:25Pregnancy, sperm health, contraception, and the vastly different physical and social costs of parenthood for men and women 01:00:00Celibacy, sexual boundaries, pleasure, and deciding who gets access to your body 01:13:21Exploring casual intimacy while decentring male pleasure and prioritising mutuality, touch, and women’s pleasure 01:42:08The possibility of softening personal rules without abandoning boundaries or self-trust 01:53:52 Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo The Mates & Dates Mixer and any future events tix and deets can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/events You can check out Wren's work and events here: https://www.wrenrapture.com/ *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
