Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor

Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer. We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends. That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better. This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments. Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing. New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST. Peace.

  1. 13 hr ago

    How To Save A Marriage With Better Thoughts

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look fine on the outside while quietly getting torn down from the inside by one habit: a critical inner dialogue. We get honest about what happens when you replay a moment, assume the worst, and start building a case against the person you love. If you’ve ever thought “What did they mean by that?” and felt the rabbit hole open up, this conversation gives you a better way forward.  We talk about what it means to defend your spouse to yourself and why that kind of mental discipline is a form of maturity. We share how fault finding chips away at respect, emotional safety, and physical intimacy, and why attraction struggles often start long before the bedroom, in the thoughts you repeatedly feed. You’ll hear our real-life rhythm of praying for each other, why we don’t force a “pray together” routine, and how daily intercession shifts your heart from irritation to empathy.  We also lay out practical steps you can use immediately: catch the thought, replace irritation with interpretation, separate behavior from identity, practice daily gratitude, stop comparing, and communicate instead of stewing. Along the way, we anchor it with scriptures about love covering offenses and choosing what to focus on. If you want Christian marriage advice that’s both spiritual and practical, this will help you build a healthier mindset and a stronger relationship.  If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s one critical thought you’re ready to replace today? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    29 min
  2. 18 Jun

    Why Keeping A List Of Wrongs Kills Intimacy And How To Let It Go

    Send us Fan Mail Keeping a mental list of your spouse’s mistakes feels like self-protection, but it quietly turns your home into a courtroom. When every argument pulls out old receipts, intimacy dies, progress feels impossible, and “I forgive you” starts sounding like a trap. We get honest about what list keeping really is: mentally recording mistakes, replaying past failures, storing hurt for future fights, and measuring your spouse by who they used to be instead of who they are becoming.  We also dig into the deeper reason the list won’t go away: the original wound never healed. That’s why some couples describe a betrayal from five or ten years ago like it happened last week. We connect the dots between unforgiveness, negativity, and confirmation bias, and we challenge the habit of fault finding that makes you look for proof rather than pursue peace. Along the way, we ground the conversation in 1 Corinthians 13 and the idea that love keeps no record of wrongs, while still acknowledging a crucial truth: love and trust are not the same thing, and wise boundaries can coexist with real forgiveness.  You’ll walk away with practical steps to drop the list for good: forgive fully, stop rehearsing the offense, replace accusation with communication, separate patterns from moments, give credit for change, and ask God to heal the first hurt that started the scorekeeping. If you want a healthier marriage, a stronger emotional connection, and a future that isn’t chained to the past, press play and do this with us. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find the help. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    28 min
  3. 11 Jun

    Seven Biblical Steps To Turn A Bad Marriage Around

    Send us Fan Mail A bad marriage can feel like you’re trapped in the same house with a stranger, stuck between “I don’t want to leave” and “I can’t do this anymore.” We go straight at that tension with humility and authority, because we’ve lived it. After 26 years of marriage and a rough start that nearly ended in divorce, we’ve learned that a struggling marriage is often less about “the wrong person” and more about missing tools, missing clarity, and missing spiritual covering. We talk through what “bad marriage” really means, from emotional distance and constant tension to loneliness, lack of intimacy, and repeated arguments. We also name the situations that require immediate outside help, including adultery, abuse, and abandonment, and why counseling and wise leadership matter. Then we challenge one of the biggest traps couples fall into: focusing all their energy on changing their spouse. You can’t manipulate transformation, but you can take responsibility for your part, rebuild emotional safety, and choose respect when it would be easier to react. We also unpack faith as action, not wishful thinking. That includes building a war room prayer life, refusing the spirit of accusation in your home, and learning to speak life over your spouse and your future. Finally, we lay out seven biblical steps to help turn a bad season around: stop pretending, get clear on what’s broken, own your part, stop fighting alone, rebuild safety, reintroduce God, and choose growth over escape. If you’re looking for Christian marriage advice, biblical steps to save your marriage, and practical help for a struggling marriage, press play, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more couples can find it. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    39 min
  4. 4 Jun

    How To Heal Emotional Wounds Before They Harden

    Send us Fan Mail Hurt has a way of sneaking into every relationship, and if we don’t deal with it, it doesn’t just fade. It hardens. Ken and Tabitha Claytor get honest about how emotional wounds, unmet expectations, betrayal, and disappointment can quietly turn into bitterness that reshapes your personality, drains your joy, and poisons your marriage, friendships, and faith. We talk through what hurt really is, why “church hurt” is often just people hurt, and how maturity means learning to stay grounded instead of running from every painful moment. Along the way, we share real stories, name the difference between reacting and responding, and explain how replaying pain without healing creates resentment, cynicism, suspicion, and withdrawal. If you’ve felt guarded, negative, or constantly bracing for the worst, we help you spot the signs of a bitter root before it spreads. Then we get practical and spiritual. We walk through eight clear steps for healing, including prayer, forgiveness without an apology, choosing safe people to process with, refusing a victim mindset, and using gratitude to starve bitterness. We close with a powerful prayer and daily declarations you can speak to break the cycle and move forward free. Subscribe, share this with someone who’s carrying heavy hurt, and leave a review if it helps. What’s one wound you’re ready to stop replaying and finally heal? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    28 min
  5. 28 May

    Spiritual Warfare 101 | How The Enemy Targets Believers And How To Fight Back

    Send us Fan Mail Some battles don’t start in your schedule, your bank account, or your relationships. They start as a thought you never challenge, a fear you keep feeding, or an offense you refuse to release. We talk about spiritual warfare with a steady head and a strong spine: not blaming the devil for every problem, but also not pretending the enemy isn’t real or organized. We walk through what spiritual warfare actually looks like for believers, why the mind is such a target, and how deception can make a lie feel “obvious” while God’s truth starts to sound questionable. Tabatha shares her personal story of being set free from depression after years of coping methods that helped but didn’t cure. That testimony opens a bigger conversation about identity in Christ, spiritual authority, and why the Word of God matters when you’re facing anxiety, discouragement, temptation, or confusion. We also get practical. We break down Ephesians 6 and the reality that our fight isn’t against flesh and blood, then lay out clear tactics the enemy uses: offense, isolation, distraction, compromise, and weariness. We end with direct, faith-filled prayers to renounce depression, anxiety, addiction, fear, and any occult doors, plus steps to stay submitted to God, stay in community, speak truth out loud, and rest when you’re tired. If you want a biblical, actionable guide to Christian spiritual warfare, deliverance, and resisting the devil, this conversation is for you. Subscribe for more, share this with someone who’s in a fight, and if this helped you, leave a rating and review so more people can find it. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    41 min
  6. 21 May

    Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties | How to Break Soul Ties & Be FREE!

    Send us Fan Mail We name the difference between healthy and unhealthy soul ties, then get honest about why certain relationships keep pulling us back even when they hurt. We walk through spiritual and practical steps to break ungodly connections and close with a renouncing prayer for healing and freedom.  • defining soul ties as emotional, mental, and will-level bonding  • healthy soul ties in marriage, family, mentorship, and godly friendship  • unhealthy soul ties formed through manipulation, trauma bonding, and emotional dependence  • Tabatha’s testimony of breaking ties with words and obedience  • how trauma and sexual abuse can create lingering attachment and shame  • why sexual purity matters and how sexual sin creates bondage  • how unbroken past connections can affect dating and marriage  • signs you may have an unhealthy soul tie including comparison, guilt, confusion, and stalking social media  • why people stay in toxic relationships and how self-worth gets targeted  • safety, community, and practical help for leaving abusive relationships  • a step-by-step framework to acknowledge, repent, forgive, cut access, renounce, and renew your mind  • a guided renouncing prayer and declarations for peace, healing, and a clear path forward  I want you to just take a moment, comment in the section below. Let us know the soul ties that you’ve had, how you’ve overcome them, what you need prayer for, and share this with other people.  If you’re new to our podcast, make sure you hit the subscribe button or the alert icon.  You can get your tickets right now. And the website is in the show notes.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    38 min
  7. 14 May

    David's Heart | Developing a Heart That God Promotes

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about why God promotes trustworthy people over simply gifted people, using David’s life to show what a heart after God actually looks like under pressure. We unpack honor, repentance, private integrity, and worship as the habits that keep your heart clean when influence grows.  • David’s origin story as the overlooked shepherd anointed for leadership  • why time with God shapes a worshipful heart  • repentance as the key difference between David and Saul  • honoring leadership offices without excusing sin  • resisting gossip, slander, and platform-building through criticism  • guarding your heart from a culture of demonizing and outrage  • practical steps for a heart God can promote, including private integrity and serving first  • healing from wounds so you don’t bleed on innocent people  • choosing obedience over popularity and worshiping through warfare  If you enjoyed today, make sure that you subscribe if you're not subscribed already.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    40 min
  8. 7 May

    How To Heal A Broken Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look “fine” on paper and still feel dead in the day to day. If you’re living in the same house but the air feels cold, the talks are short, trust is thin, and intimacy feels complicated, we want to give you real hope and real tools. We tell the truth about our own early years, including the season when Ken privately planned a divorce, the confusion and immaturity that made small issues feel unfixable, and how depression and anxiety impacted Tabitha’s ability to connect. We also share what changed everything: inviting God into the center of the marriage and letting Him work on us first, not just “fix” our spouse. That shift is where healing starts, because a restored marriage is built on transformed hearts, not better arguments. From there, we get practical about marriage restoration: how to become the hero in the home, how to rebuild trust through consistent patterns instead of big promises, and how to communicate without attacking so you can finally talk about hard things without blowing up. We also dig into why many couples keep treating symptoms while the real root stays untouched, and why counseling, wisdom, and steady effort over time matter more than quick emotional moments. We close with five clear keys to heal a broken marriage and a prayer for anyone hanging on by a thread. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a comment with what stood out most so we can hear your story. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    43 min
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Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer. We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends. That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better. This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments. Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing. New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST. Peace.

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