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Eduard Brink & David Henzel
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Welcome to the 'Love Not Fear' podcast, where your hosts, David Henzel and Eduard Brink, journey with you daily through bite-sized, action-packed episodes. Each discussion - on productivity, business, or personal development - aims to shift the narrative from fear to love, guiding listeners towards a more fulfilling life. Our passionate duo believes in nurturing a mindset of love, not fear, as the catalyst for personal and professional transformative growth. This podcast isn't just for individuals seeking personal growth. David and Eduard delve into the power of a 'Love Not Fear' culture in organizations, providing insights on creating a nurturing, thriving workplace. They inspire and motivate you to implement this mindset in your organization, so you will experience positive results and, as a result, encourage others to take action in their lives. Tune in daily and join the conversation as we aspire to change minds, hearts, and workplaces, one episode at a time. Get ready to embrace love over fear and witness the positive impact ripple through all facets of your life.

  1. 21 Oct

    Ep. 55: When Structure Meets Relationship: Rethinking How We Partner with Sibrecht Diender

    What if a contract could be built on trust instead of fear? In this episode of the Love Not Fear podcast, Tine Bieber sits down with Sibrecht Diender, relational contracting expert, founder of Yellow Everest and member of the Vested Board of Advisors, to talk about what happens when structure meets relationship. Sibrecht explains how relational contracts move business partners away from power games and risk shifting toward co-creating a shared vision, and why the way we write our agreements says a lot about our culture. Together they explore trust, transparency, governance and what it really takes to keep a partnership alive for the long term. Topics covered in this episode: - How Sibrecht went from procurement "negotiation tactics" to relational contracting - Relational versus transactional contracts, and why risk shifting backfires - The statement of intent: shared vision, desired outcomes and social norms front and center in the contract - Moving from a fear driven scarcity mindset to abundance: making the pie bigger for everyone - Why trust and transparency are the essence, and how organizational culture can help or block them - Core teams, "couples" across organizations and the role of the steering committee - Internal alignment, silos and the root causes behind most partnership challenges - Total cost of ownership and creating value together instead of squeezing price - A contract that works like a playbook, not something you put in a drawer - How relational contracts helped partners get creative during COVID - Onboarding generations, relationship health checks and why a refresh keeps ownership alive About Sibrecht Diender: Sibrecht Diender is the founder of Yellow Everest, a consultancy based in the Netherlands that helps organizations build strategic, trust based business partnerships. She has close to two decades of experience in procurement and supply chain, including roles in the energy and high tech sectors. Sibrecht has been a certified Vested coach since 2016 and has served on the Vested Board of Advisors since 2020. She is the co-author, with Bonnie Keith, of "Successful Relational Contracting: Preparing for Business-to-Business Collaboration" (Palgrave Macmillan, 2025). Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and introducing Sibrecht Diender 01:25 From procurement to relational contracting 03:57 What is relational contracting? 05:44 The statement of intent 06:28 From a scarcity mindset to abundance 07:28 Trust, transparency and culture 08:38 Who uses relational contracts? 10:23 Walking through the process 12:31 Soft and squishy? Why alignment creates focus 13:21 Agency and adult to adult relationships 14:42 Would you treat your friends this way? 15:33 Holding space and involving stakeholders 17:12 Core teams, couples and the steering committee 20:59 Internal alignment and breaking down silos 23:13 Walking our talk: culture in the contract 25:26 From the core team to the whole organization 26:33 Designing governance for the long term 27:32 What success looks like: total cost of ownership 29:55 A contract that works like a playbook 32:16 Staying involved: check ins and health checks 34:28 Relational contracts in a crisis 37:13 Ambassadors of organizational transformation 38:47 Onboarding generations and the refresh 42:40 Stronger together: the couple structure 43:12 Wrapping up 45:13 Where to find Sibrecht Connect with Sibrecht Diender: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sibrechtdiender Website: https://yelloweverest.com Book: https://yelloweverest.com/publications/book-successful-relational-contracting/

    Ep. 55: When Structure Meets Relationship: Rethinking How We Partner with Sibrecht Diender

  2. 21 Oct

    Ep. 56: Designing the DNA of Belonging with Andy Hawkins

    What if belonging is something we can design on purpose, instead of something we simply hope for? In this episode of the Love Not Fear podcast, Tine Bieber sits down with Andy Hawkins, B Corp coach and community builder from Bristol, to talk about the DNA of belonging. Andy shares how six years working with communities in Africa changed what he values, why he and his wife chose to move into a brand new neighborhood so they could help shape its culture from day one, and how the same intentionality applies to business through the B Corp movement. Topics covered in this episode: - Why Andy left Africa feeling people there were "poor financially and materially, but rich relationally and spiritually" - What a B Corp actually is, explained through a jar of fair trade coffee - Moving into a brand new Bristol neighborhood to be a catalyst for community from the get go - Street champions, tea ceremonies, curtain tracks and other small acts that fast track belonging - Diversity in a community where people come from more than 25 nationalities - Micro moments of connection and why we do not have to wait for politicians to be perfect - Andy's ten step "couch to 5k" approach to helping businesses become better - Why most businesses see B Corp as a cost, and why Andy sees it as an investment - "A better time is never coming": why the best time to start is now - Trust, transparency and how consumers can recognize businesses doing good - How B Lab is approaching standards for AI About Andy Hawkins: Andy grew up in Bristol, spent six years in Africa running community projects for children and families, and later returned to the tech world. After certifying his own tech consultancy as a B Corp in August 2020, he began helping other companies through the process and has since coached more than 500 businesses, from one person organizations to large corporates. Today he is the founder and C-3PO (Chief People, Planet and Purpose Officer) of Business on Purpose, a B Leader with B Lab UK, and a driving force behind PurposeFest in Bristol. Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and introducing Andy Hawkins 01:19 From Bristol to Africa: six years that changed everything 04:03 Becoming a B Corp and growing the community 05:26 What is a B Corp? The fair trade analogy 06:30 Living in a disconnected world 08:04 Why Andy moved into a brand new neighborhood 11:16 House number three: building community from the get go 12:40 Festivals, tea ceremonies and a Spitfire hangar 15:07 How the community organizes and what it stands for 17:11 Diversity, age and welcoming newcomers 20:58 We can influence our own neighborhood 22:40 Micro moments of connection 26:13 Why business needs to play its part 28:23 The B Corp "couch to 5k" 32:07 500 businesses and the tipping point 34:22 The biggest challenge: cost or investment? 37:42 A better time is never coming 39:23 Is there good in all of us? 41:07 Trust, local and transparency 43:45 How is B Corp dealing with AI? 46:08 Where to find Andy Connect with Andy Hawkins: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andy-hawkins Website: https://businessonpurpose.uk

    Ep. 56: Designing the DNA of Belonging with Andy Hawkins

  3. 27 Apr

    Ep. 54: The Unschooling Mindset: I Am My Relationships with Jon Barnes

    Jon Barnes is a coach, facilitator, and co-founder of Pala — a company that helps organizations move toward highly empowering, self-managing cultures. In this episode, Jon and Tine explore how developmental psychology, unschooling philosophy, and the way we navigate relationships all shape the cultures we build at work and at home. Topics covered in this episode: The difference between "I am my relationships" and "I have my relationships" — and why it matters for autonomyRobert Kegan's stages of adult development and how most of us get stuck at the socialized mindWhy fear-driven decision-making dominates organizations and what shifts when motivation becomes intrinsicThe limits of feedback and why self-reflection may be more powerful for genuine growthHow conflict avoidance kills team performance — and what healthy repair actually looks likeJon's unschooling journey with his son, from a jungle school in Costa Rica to choosing traditional school at age 12Designing for friction: why removing all obstacles can actually remove growth opportunitiesThe promise and pitfalls of consciousness models like Spiral Dynamics in organizational workVolunteering vs. being voluntold — practical ways to build autonomy into team structures Connect with Jon Barnes: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonbarnesdotme/ Website: https://teampala.co.uk/

    Ep. 54: The Unschooling Mindset: I Am My Relationships with Jon Barnes

  4. 19 Mar

    Ep. 53: Hacking Organizations: What Moves and What Remains with Priel Korenfeld

    In this episode, Tine Bieber sits down with Priel Korenfeld, self-described organizational hacker and partner at Milan-based consulting company Copernicana. Priel brings a unique background from democratic schooling to compulsory military service to years of hacking how organizations work — and shares why most change efforts miss the mark by trying to design culture directly instead of cultivating the conditions for it to emerge. Together, Tine and Priel explore the tension between individual needs and collective purpose, why organizations need to be both flexible and habitable by human beings, and where the boundary sits between healthy community feedback and crossing into someone's individual space.  Topics covered:  - What makes an organization future-proof: flexibility and habitability  - Why culture is an emergent property — not something you can design top-down  - The monoculture trap: what agriculture teaches us about organizational health  - Measuring impact in transformation work — mixing objective and subjective  - The power of micro-moments: check-ins, closing rounds, and feedback loops  - The boundary between the individual and the collective in organizational life  - Why agency starts with yourself, not with changing others  - How connection differs from alignment — and why that matters  - The danger of pushing personal development too far inside organizations

    Ep. 53: Hacking Organizations: What Moves and What Remains with Priel Korenfeld

  5. 19 Mar

    Ep. 52: How Intentional Facilitation Can Transform Your Culture with Tom Goulooze

    In this episode, Tine sits down with Tom Goulooze — designer, facilitator, and founder of Tomfoolery — who's on a mission to prove that not every company offsite needs beach sports, cocktail workshops, or death-by-PowerPoint. Based in Amsterdam and coming from years of internal facilitation at companies like WeTransfer,  Tom brings a refreshingly honest perspective on what teams actually need when they come together — and why most leaders get it wrong.  Tom shares stories from the frontlines of culture work: a co-founder who wallpapered an entire office in protest, the power of giving detractors a role, and why a silly chair game might be the most effective team-building exercise you've never tried.  Topics covered in this episode:  - Why most company offsites and all-hands fail to deliver real value  - The surprisingly simple process of asking people what they need before designing a gathering  - How internal vs. external facilitation changes the dynamics of culture work  - The role of brave, imperfect leadership in cultural transformation  - Why comfort can do more harm than good in team settings  - Navigating ambiguity — when "I don't know" is the honest answer from leadership  - The chair game: a deceptively simple exercise that reveals team dynamics  - AI's impact on authentic human connection at work  - Tom's secret to implementing cultural change: lead with benefit first

    Ep. 52: How Intentional Facilitation Can Transform Your Culture with Tom Goulooze

  6. 27 Feb

    Ep. 50: 4,000 Mondays: Stop Deferring Life and Start Living It with Dr. Jodi Wellman

    Dr. Jodi Wellman is a psychologist, author, TEDx speaker, and the creator of 4,000 Mondays — a philosophy built on one sobering  truth: the average human life contains roughly 4,000 Mondays. In this episode, she joins Eduard to explore what happens when you  actually do the mortality math, why most of us keep deferring the life we want, and how befriending death might be the most  life-affirming thing you can do.  Topics covered:  - Why counting your remaining Mondays is the most effective wake-up call  - Regrets of omission vs. commission — and why what we didn't do haunts us more  - How entrepreneurs get trapped in one-dimensional lives without noticing  - "Pre-grats": regrets in the making that you can still change today  - Health span vs. life expectancy — why quality years matter more than quantity  - The deathbed exercise and how to use it without waiting for a near-death experience  - Why novelty and the willingness to be bad at something new are signs of aliveness  - How leaders can build teams that bring genuine energy to work — by having a life outside of it  Take Jodi's "How Alive or Dead Are You?" quiz and find her book at 4000mondays.com

    Ep. 50: 4,000 Mondays: Stop Deferring Life and Start Living It with Dr. Jodi Wellman

  7. 26 Feb

    Ep. 51: When Values Get Real: Culture, Ego, and the Courage to Actually Mean It with Heather Stephens

    What does it actually mean to have a healthy organizational culture — and why do so many culture programs make things worse instead of better? In this episode, Tine sits down with Heather Stephens, an organizational design and development specialist with three degrees in political science and a background in institutional change. Heather has spent years helping teams build structure that actually lets people solve problems together. She brings a sharp, research-grounded lens to the gap between the culture companies say they have and the one they're actually running.  They get into:  - Why culture is an emergent property — not a poster, not a workshop, not a values statement  - The reciprocal relationship between culture and structure (and why you can't change one without touching the other)  - Mental models: how people from different functions literally live in different realities  - The team that spent six hours on sprint planning because their CEO always overrode them anyway — and what happened next  - Psychological safety and the "suspicious lack of conflict" red flag  - Corporate values programs as a form of organizational gaslighting — and how "culture fit" became a weapon  - The difference between stated values and operationalized values (hint: look at who gets promoted)  - Healthy ego vs. fragile ego — and why the "genius a*****e" trope doesn't hold up  - Power dynamics on leadership teams and why they're the hardest rooms to work in  - Why it always comes back to relationships — these specific people, at this moment, in this configuration

    Ep. 51: When Values Get Real: Culture, Ego, and the Courage to Actually Mean It with Heather Stephens

  8. 20/03/2025

    Ep. 49 Network Leadership: Transforming Company Culture Through with Jeffrey Beeson

    The latest episode of the "Love Not Fear" podcast invites Jeffrey Beeson, a renowned thought leader in organizational development and network science, to discuss the dynamic interplay between network structures and effective leadership. Hosted by David Henzel, they delve into how embracing network thinking can transform company culture from autocratic models into systems built around trust and collaboration. "Traditional leadership focuses on roles and responsibilities. Network science says, "what you really need to be paying attention to is the space between the people." - Jeffrey Beeson Beeson explores how network leadership can illuminate pathways for fostering healthy, self-organizing workplaces. Through actionable insights like promoting smaller teams, enhancing emotional competence, and increasing transparency, he positions network structures as catalysts for genuine communication and innovative thinking. As businesses increasingly prioritize purpose and alignment over hierarchical power structures, Jeffrey Beeson's approach represents a radical yet practical shift towards more emotionally intelligent relational practices. These ideas resonate through insightful anecdotes and practical advice, challenging traditional corporate norms and endorsing love and connection in team dynamics. In Today’s Episode:❤️ Network Leadership Approach: Leaders should focus not on individual roles but rather on the relationships and interactions between team members to promote healthier communications. ❤️ Importance of Smaller Teams: Research supports that smaller teams (4-9 members) function more efficiently, fostering stronger relationships and better communication. ❤️ Promoting Transparency: Transparency within organizational processes and results not only decreases costs but also builds trust and openness, thereby enhancing team performance. ❤️ Empowering Autonomy: Encouraging autonomy and responsibility leads to a richer organizational culture where employees feel motivated and engaged to innovate and contribute to company goals. "All complex systems are based on network structures, and traditional leadership hasn't prepared leaders for network disruptions." - Jeffrey Beeson Episode Timestamps:00:00 - Network leadership and the importance of interpersonal connections 10:21 - Building effective teams through communication and emotional connection 17:05 - Building strong workplace bonds to reduce employee turnover 19:29 - The power of self-organizing teams in modern organizations 24:51 - The power of transparency in reducing company expenses 28:27 - Creating competitive shared services for internal and external use 31:52 - Transforming organizations through network structures and conscious capitalism 39:54 - Finding meaning and purpose beyond material success 42:48 - The importance of social connection for meaning and health 47:22 - Network leadership and promoting a healthier world "The better the connections inside the workplace, the longer they're going to be with you as an organization." - Jeffrey Beeson Exploring network leadership: Transforming organizational cultureIn today's fast-paced business environment, the concept of network leadership presents an opportunity to rethink traditional hierarchical structures. As Jeffrey Beeson and David Henzel discuss in their insightful conversation, embracing a networked approach can lead to healthier, more productive organizational systems. By focusing on the interactions and relationships within a company, network leadership fosters a culture where employees thrive out of love for their work, not fear of consequences, effectively aligning with the central theme of the "Love Not Fear" podcast. Lead with connection, build for the future:✅ Strengthen Relationships: Leadership isn’t about control—it’s about the quality of connections. Focus on the space between people to improve communication, collaboration, and team resilience. ✅ Empower Small Teams: Smaller, autonomous teams foster agility, creativity, and accountability. Keep teams lean and connected to enhance efficiency and impact. ✅ Cultivate Transparency & Trust: Open communication and shared information build psychological safety, drive innovation, and reduce operational friction. ✅ Redefine Leadership: Move beyond hierarchy—embrace a networked approach that prioritizes collective success over individual achievement. 🔊 If you found value in today’s episode, don’t forget to subscribe to our channel and share this podcast with friends. Your support helps us spread the message of love over fear and reach more listeners. Remember, growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. Resources:Jeffrey’s LinkedIn Official Website “Network Leadership (Elements in Leadership)” by Jeffrey Beeson Ensemble Enabler Join our Love Not Fear community: https://lovenotfear.com/ Recommended resources and books: https://lovenotfear.com/blog/ Shop Swag: https://love-not-fear.myspreadshop.com/ Follow David Henzel: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhenzel/ Follow Eduard Brink: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eduardbrink/ Spread the message and share the Love with every person you talk to! ❤️ #lovenotfear #lovenotfearpodcast

    Ep. 49 Network Leadership: Transforming Company Culture Through with Jeffrey Beeson
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Welcome to the 'Love Not Fear' podcast, where your hosts, David Henzel and Eduard Brink, journey with you daily through bite-sized, action-packed episodes. Each discussion - on productivity, business, or personal development - aims to shift the narrative from fear to love, guiding listeners towards a more fulfilling life. Our passionate duo believes in nurturing a mindset of love, not fear, as the catalyst for personal and professional transformative growth. This podcast isn't just for individuals seeking personal growth. David and Eduard delve into the power of a 'Love Not Fear' culture in organizations, providing insights on creating a nurturing, thriving workplace. They inspire and motivate you to implement this mindset in your organization, so you will experience positive results and, as a result, encourage others to take action in their lives. Tune in daily and join the conversation as we aspire to change minds, hearts, and workplaces, one episode at a time. Get ready to embrace love over fear and witness the positive impact ripple through all facets of your life.

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  • Creator
    Eduard Brink & David Henzel
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    57
  • Rating
    Explicit
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