Career Coaching With John

John Fialkowski

Hosted by John Fialkowski This isn’t another feel-good career podcast—it’s a reality check with a roadmap. Join career coach and business fixer John Fialkowski as he dives into the messiness of work life—career pivots, toxic workplaces, entrepreneurial headaches, and everything in between. Drawing on real stories, cultural history, and the occasional hot take, John helps you rethink your relationship with work and take back control. To learn more , visit Career Coaching with John

  1. 2 days ago

    Episode Twenty Two - This, My Friends, Is Purgatory | Geoff Curtis on Rebuilding Your Identity After Job Loss

    Episode 22: This, My Friends, Is Purgatory With Geoff Curtis | Career Coaching with John Who are you when the career you've spent decades building is suddenly taken away? For 30 years, Geoff Curtis worked in communications and public relations, building a successful career that became central to his identity. When his company was acquired and his future became uncertain, he found himself confronting a question he hadn't given much thought to: who was he without the job? In this episode, Geoff joins me to discuss his book, EmbracingYour Own Purgatory, and the uncomfortable, often disorienting experience of rebuilding a life after career loss. We explore the relationship between work and identity, the temptation to keep ourselves busy rather than confront difficult questions, and what happens when the person we thought we were no longer quite fits. Geoff doesn't offer a tidy story of reinvention. He's still figuring things out. And perhaps that's the point. We don't always know who we're becoming, and we don't necessarily have to. I begin with a few stories about horrible bosses, including Hollywood producer Don Simpson and a rather memorable experience of my own working at a Montreal wine auction house. Both raise a question: why does losing a job, or being treated badly at work, sometimes feel like losing a part of ourselves? We finish with a conversation about imposter syndrome,taking chances, and the importance of occasionally giving yourself permission to suck. Because perhaps becoming someone new isn't about knowing exactly where you're going. Sometimes it's about being willing to find out. Connect Learn more about Career Coaching with John, explore other episodes, or find out about working together: Website: https://www.johnfialkowski.com Book a free discovery call: https://calendar.app.google/4HYsPzKtQnLwUDDY8 If this conversation reminds you of someone who's been holding back from trying something new, share it with them. And remember: becoming capable usually involves being willing to look incapable first. Music Credits Introduction Synthwave Retro 80s by MondaMusicfrom Pixabay Dreamdrive '86 by Pixelmaniaxxfrom Pixabay 80s Soundtrack by AstronautFlute from Pixabay Intermission Cryin' in My Beer by JasonShaw on Free Music Archive Smooth Chill Jazz by AllWorldMusicfrom Pixabay Outro VHS Tapes by TheTop One Percent on Free Music Archive Eighties Ladies by TheTop One Percent on Free Music Archive

    Episode Twenty Two - This, My Friends, Is Purgatory | Geoff Curtis on Rebuilding Your Identity After Job Loss
  2. 29 Sept

    Episode 21 - Optimizing for Adaptation - What Ukraine's Brave1 Can Teach Us About Getting Unstuck

    What do you do when nothing is really wrong with your career—but you know something isn't right? In this episode, I tell the story of “Jenny,” a client with a stable job, good income, flexibility and a life that, on paper, works. The problem is that she's bored. She's stopped learning. And when she tries to imagine something different, she doesn't know what she's looking for. Strangely enough, that problem got me thinking about Ukraine. Over the course of the war, Ukraine has been forced to build systems that allow ideas to be tested, challenged and improved at extraordinary speed. One of those systems is Brave1, an innovation ecosystem connecting soldiers, engineers, entrepreneurs, manufacturers and government around a continuous feedback loop: Build. Test. Learn. Improve. Then do it again. This isn't an episode about pretending that changing careers is comparable to fighting a war. It's about something much simpler: what happens when we stop waiting for the perfect answer and start building systems that help us learn? We explore career stagnation, self-determination, curiosity, experimentation, feedback, the danger of “good enough,” and why the ability to adapt may matter more than having the perfect plan. Because sometimes the problem isn't that you've failed. Sometimes you've built exactly the life you thought you wanted—and discovered that you need something else. Optimizing for Adaptation — Learning Module Want to put this idea to work? Optimizing for Adaptation doesn't end with the episode. Dr. Joanna Jimin Lee and I created a six-part learning module for people who recognize themselves in Jenny's situation: you know something needs to change, but you don't know what comes next. It won't tell you what career you should choose. Instead, it takes you through a process of examining what's working, identifying what's missing, challenging some of your assumptions, and designing a small experiment that can give you new information. Build. Test. Learn. Improve. Explore Optimizing for Adaptation Still trying to figure out what comes next?You can also start with a free 20-minute conversation with me ⁠johnfialkowski.com⁠ Music Credits: Introduction New Life by Maarten Schellekens on Free Music Archive Intermission Mirrors by Beat Mekanik on Free Music Archive  Smooth Chill Jazz by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AllWorldMusic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pixabay Outro Soul Eyes by Out of Towners from Free Music Archive

    Episode 21 - Optimizing for Adaptation - What Ukraine's Brave1 Can Teach Us About Getting Unstuck
  3. 17 Apr

    Episode Twenty - Why Some People Don’t Fit in a Box — And Still Make It Work, with Emily Parr

    Episode Twenty - Why Some People Don’t Fit in a Box — And Still Make It Work We open the show with a reflection on Lady Gaga and Little Richard — two artists who built careers by refusing to be defined by a single identity. Lady Gaga represents a more modern, deliberate version of identity: someone who crafted a persona that can move seamlessly between worlds — mainstream and fringe, polished and experimental. Little Richard, on the other hand, represents something less tidy. A rock and roll pioneer, a religious preacher, a boundary-pushing performer — all at once. His identity wasn’t clean or consistent, and it didn’t always align neatly. But it worked. Together, they raise a question that carries into the rest of the episode: Do we need to simplify who we are to be understood… or can we succeed by expressing something more complex? In this episode, John explores that question through a real conversation. What starts as a discussion about influencers quickly becomes something deeper. When John interviews content creator and client Emily Parr, he finds himself caught off guard by the difference between the person he knows… and the one who shows up on camera. That moment raises a bigger question: Are we supposed to simplify ourselves to be understood — or learn how to express something more complex? From there, the episode explores how identity isn’t always clean, consistent, or easy to define — and why that might not be a problem after all. About the Guest Emily Parr  is a host, creative producer, and fashion and beauty media personality. She is currently developing and leading a makeover web series for YouTube, where she brings together style, storytelling, and transformation through a modern, editorial lens. With a background in wellness and fitness, Emily’s work has evolved into a broader creative vision centered on identity, self-expression, and personal reinvention. Her content blends fashion, beauty, and elegance to reflect atimeless, refined aesthetic while embracing individuality.   At the core of her work is a spiritual mission: to empower women to feel beautiful, confident, and fully aligned with their divine feminine nature—embodying both elegance and power in how they present themselves and move through the world. You can findmore of her work here: https://www.emilymparr.com/links About CCWJ Full show notes at: johnfialkowski.com Follow John on Linkedin: @John Fialkowski  Music Credits: Introduction Rainfall  by Bransboynd on Pixabay Techno Wave by Bransboynd from Pixabay Intermission Nismo by 1000 Handz on Free Music Archive Attribution 4.0 International License. Smooth Chill Jazz by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AllWorldMusic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ from ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pixabay Outro Country Thoughts by Ykaiavu from Pixabay

    Episode Twenty - Why Some People Don’t Fit in a Box — And Still Make It Work, with Emily Parr
  4. 13 Feb

    Episode Nineteen - Let's Get Him Back into It Rebuilding - Confidence After Job Loss

    We open this episode with a side note on Raymond Chandler — a writer who reinvented himself when the world shifted beneath him. Out of job, out of structure, he disciplined himself to write and, in doing so, created Philip Marlowe — a character who could move through uncertainty with purpose. That thread runs through this conversation. In this episode, I sit down with Vince Ciarlo, a communications professional and educator who has watched his industry change rapidly. Immigration policy shifts impacted enrollment in Ontario colleges. Academic hours dried up. Digital media reshaped expectations. He retrained. He completed a master’s degree. He adapted. And still, he feels behind. Alongside guest coach Brian Epstein, we explore what happens when the structure that once defined you disappears. This isn’t just about job applications. It’s about identity, relevance, and momentum. As the conversation continues beyond the recording date, two questions become central: What is the problem here? And how can we solve it with the tools we actually have? The problem isn’t a lack of experience. It’s a loss of clarity. Vince doesn’t just need a job — he needs to reconnect with how his skills solve real problems in today’s world. We experiment with a different approach: Define a clear professional value proposition. Treat every job posting as someone else’s problem. Rewrite it through that lens. Apply as the solution, not the supplicant. In a world hungry for effective communication and thoughtful leadership, there is space for experience — if it is framed properly. This episode is about regaining that frame. Full Show notes at Career Coaching with John Visit johnfialkowski.com to learn more about my work. Music Credits Introduction Like Black Coffee  by Onion All Stars on Pixabay Intermission Sista Jane–  by Lopkerjo  Free Music Archieve, licensed under a Attribution 4.0 International License. Less is More by Lesiakower rom Pixabay Outro The Midnight Delight  by MonkeyBandito from Pixabay Theme from the 90's by Lesiakower from Pixabay

    Episode Nineteen - Let's Get Him Back into It Rebuilding - Confidence After Job Loss
  5. 16 Jan

    Episode Eighteen: Your Path in Life with Luca Volentir - Part Four

    In Part 4 of the Your Path in Life series, Johncontinues his coaching conversations with Luca — and runs head-first into something unexpected. This episode isn’t about a breakthrough moment or a tidyrealization. It’s about what happens when the framework doesn’t land the way you thought it would, and when the coach’s expectations start getting in the way. Using a personal “needs” exercise, Luca identifies four coredrivers: Make it happenConsistencyHonestyClarityBut instead of pointing outward toward an ideal workenvironment or future role, Luca turns the exercise inward — focusing almost entirely on personal accountability and standards he already holds himself to. That mismatch creates tension, hesitation, and discomfort — especially for John. Rather than editing around it, this episode stays with thatdiscomfort. Over the course of the conversation, the focus shifts: From finding answers to learning when to stop forcing themFrom being the hero to being the guideFrom outcomes and advice to listening, presence, and relationship Later in the episode, Luca reflects on how the coachingprocess reshaped his own podcast — helping him move from vague conversationstoward more intentional, focused storytelling by identifying the one thingeach guest does particularly well. The episode closes with a question worth sitting with: What do the people around you come to you for — and whatkind of value do they already see in you? This is an episode about expectations, identity, culturaldifferences, responsibility, and the quiet work of paying attention — both in coaching and in life. Topics explored The limits of coaching frameworksPersonal needs vs. environmental needsAccountability without ideal conditionsCultural differences in communication Discomfort as a signal, not a problem Letting go of the “hero” roleCoaching as listening, not directingMusic Credits: Introduction For P  by ilyatruhanov on Pixabay Intermission Roy  –  by JBlankedon  Free Music Archieve, licensed under an Attribution4.0 International License.   Free Enjoy your Life  by Agerabeatz from Pixabay Outro Snowy Night by Delta-x Music from Pixabay

    Episode Eighteen: Your Path in Life with Luca Volentir - Part Four
  6. 7 Jan

    Episode Seventeen - Your Path in Life Part Three

    In Part Three of Your Path in Life, John continues his ongoing coaching conversation with UK-based podcaster Luca Volentir, turning the focus toward discomfort, intention, and where real value actually comes from—in work, creativity, and conversation. The episode opens with a reflective side note on Yuri Gagarin, the first human in space, and the quiet tragedy of what happens when someone is celebrated, preserved, and prevented from evolving. From there, the conversation becomes deeply personal and practical: how expectations shape outcomes, why comfort can quietly stall growth, and how unspoken needs distort collaboration. Together, John and Luca unpack what it means to move from interviewing to real conversation, and why the most meaningful insights rarely come from polished résumés or surface-level success stories—but from moments of friction, uncertainty, and self-challenge. In this episode, we explore: Why growth almost always comes from discomfort, not confidenceThe difference between being supported and being displayedHow unclear expectations sabotage collaboration and creative workWhy conversations fail when we chase polish instead of presenceThe tension between comfort, safety, and ambitionWhat actually creates value in storytelling, coaching, and workHow intention—not preparation—often drives better outcomes  The real tension in this episode: This episode isn’t about achievement — it’s about what happens after it, and whether you’re willing to stay uncomfortable long enough to keep growing. Using Yuri Gagarin as a cautionary example, John explores what happens when someone is celebrated so completely that they’re no longer allowed to evolve. The danger isn’t failure — it’s being preserved, protected, and quietly boxed in. In contrast, figures like Chris Hadfield, Roberta Bondar, and Mark Kelly treated discomfort as an invitation, not a threat — continuing to stretch, reinvent, and place themselves back into uncertainty. That contrast becomes the central challenge to Luca’s work: If discomfort is where learning lives, what happens when a podcast — or a career — is structured to avoid it? Is the goal to make conversations smoother… or to make them more honest? Path in Life Podcast – Luca’s show🎧 Want early access to the rest of this series with Luca? Become a Friend of the Show on Patreon💌 Have a story about work, identity, or creative struggle you want to share on the podcast? Use the contact form on the site to apply to be a guest.Full Show Notes at JohnFialkowski.comMusic Credits: Introduction Quiet Bloom  by Grand Project on Pixabay Intermission Soundwatch – Southside by Antipodeanwriter on Pixabay Lo-Fi Midnight Hip Hop  by Grand Project from Pixabay Outro Kura – by Maarten Schellekens on Free Music Archieve, licensed under a Attribution 4.0 International License.

    Episode Seventeen - Your Path in Life Part Three
  7. 05/12/2025

    Episode Sixteen - Your Path in Life Part Two

    In this second part of the Your Path in Life series, we pick up the conversation with UK-based software developer and podcaster Luca Volentir, host of Path in Life. We start with a detour into the alien abduction story behind Fire in the Sky — what happens when people invent a more comfortable reality instead of facing failure, fear, or unmet needs. From there, we dig into Luca’s own story: his podcast, his personal brand, and the tension between structure, success, and genuine emotional connection. This episode is less about “how to podcast” and more about authenticity, self-image, and the stories we tell ourselves when our needs aren’t being met. “How do you become the person who’s actually right for the content you’re trying to make?” Links & references Full Show Notes at johnfialkowski.comPath in Life Podcast – Luca’s show16Personalities Test – the personality test John has guests completePrinciples by Ray Dalio – the book that introduced Luca to “radical open-mindedness”Fire in the Sky (1993) – the film adaptation of the Travis Walton story  🎧 Want early access to the rest of this series with Luca?Become a Friend of the Show on Patreon💌 Have a story about work, identity, or creative struggle you want to share on the podcast?Use the contact form on the site to apply to be a guest.Music Credits: Introduction Night Rider Music by Saavane on Pixabay Intermission 80s Robo Man by Kirk Osamayo on Free Music Archives Attribution 4.0 International License. Contemplation Part 1 by Danydory on Pixabay Outro Sunny Ocean Drive Citypop Beat by Noobehouse on Pixabay

    Episode Sixteen - Your Path in Life Part Two

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Hosted by John Fialkowski This isn’t another feel-good career podcast—it’s a reality check with a roadmap. Join career coach and business fixer John Fialkowski as he dives into the messiness of work life—career pivots, toxic workplaces, entrepreneurial headaches, and everything in between. Drawing on real stories, cultural history, and the occasional hot take, John helps you rethink your relationship with work and take back control. To learn more , visit Career Coaching with John