Maps Are Dead

Mike D

Maps Are Dead is a podcast about navigating life when the old plans stop working. Hosted by Mike Dauphinee, this series is a raw, real, and often funny conversation with people learning to move forward without a clear path. It’s not about success formulas or five-year plans. It’s about inner maps—CliftonStrengths, courage, and the grit it takes to keep going when certainty disappears. Mike and his guests explore identity, leadership, parenting, purpose, and the moments that shake our lives loose. Join our community: https://the-fit-forum.circle.so/join?invitation_token=9d72b1d6f49e63892f277b

  1. 2 days ago

    From Blind Optimist to Productive Positivity - with Bobby Bitton

    Summary Bobby Bitton started OPositive at 23, in a category most companies avoided. The early wins came fast and the lessons came after. Mike sits down with the co-founder and CEO to ask what stays on the compass once a company has something to lose. They get into what positivity looks like when it faces the problem, how fast to ship, and what a founder lets go of. About Bobby BittonPositivity Futuristic Activator Strategic Individualization Bobby Bitton is the CEO and Co-Founder of O Positiv Health, a brand reshaping women’s health by tackling issues too often overlooked. Trained as a Stanford nutritionist and driven by his sister Brianna’s struggle with severe PMS, Bobby co-founded the company and introduced the first-ever gummy vitamin for PMS. In the last few years, Bobby has been named Forbes 30 under 30 and led O Positiv to support over 15 million customers from their first period to well beyond their last. Takeaways Positivity that refuses to look at the problem is avoidance. Productive positivity looks at what went wrong and still believes in the people in the room.A leader’s superpower is changing their mind when new data arrives.Get it to 80%, ship it, then tweak. Shipping at 50% is too early.Know which doors are two-way and which lock behind you. Move fast through one and slow down for the other.Success shrinks your risk appetite, because now you have something to lose. Fight that.Knowing what you will not be gives your team a clear sandbox to build in.A product that over-delivers solves most of your problems. Marketing can’t fix the rest.Giving creators control of the story built a community a brand team could not.Picture the headaches that come with the outcome you want. It puts you in that moment.Ask for help, then go back to work.Soundbites “I think a superpower of a good leader is the ability to change your mind.”“Positivity now means you get to look at what went right, what went wrong.”“The comments section was a better ad than the ad.”“It’s almost more important to know what you’re not gonna be and not do than where you’re going.”“You have to be ready to eat dirt a lot in the early days.”“Nothing is precious, and you have to kill the sacred cows to move forward.” Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with a founder or leader deciding what to build next and what to let go of. Join The Fit ForumMike’s CliftonStrengths community. Bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  2. 13 Oct

    What Is Friction in Leadership? - with Ross Blankenship

    Summary You made the plan, the numbers are right, and something still feels off. Mike talks with his friend Ross Blankenship, PhD, an organizational psychologist and executive coach, about Friction, the book he wrote with Dr. Maggie Sass, and the word they use for what sits underneath work and leadership. They get into how to tell what kind of hard thing you’re facing, how your strengths show up in a room, and where AI fits when the thinking is the work. About Ross Blankenship, PhDRoss Blankenship, PhD is an organizational psychologist and executive coach. He is the founder of the leadership coaching and consulting firm Tuesday Advisors, and author of the books Everyday Leadership: A Guide to Developing Your Mindset as a Leader and Assessing CEOs and Senior Leaders. On Substack, he writes Theory of Change, a newsletter where he explores how people make sense of their lives through work, identity, and moments of transition. He holds a PhD in consulting psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology and a B.A. in English Language and Literature from the University of Virginia. He lives with his family in Birmingham, AL. Links/best ways to find Ross: https://www.tuesdayadvisors.com/https://rossblankenship.substack.com/https://www.instagram.com/rossblankenship/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonrossblankenship/Takeaways Friction is information. It is not good or bad until you ask what it is telling you.Before you ask how to fix a hard thing, ask what kind of hard thing it is.When the facts are right and the other person still will not move, you are probably solving an information problem when the real one is emotional.Name the emotion and the conversation changes. “Frustrated” and “angry” lead to very different talks about leadership.People often avoid a task because of what finishing it would cost them, not because they do not know how.Friction lives in three places: inside you, between you and other people, and in the systems around you. Burnout is usually the third one.When you offload the hard thinking, you offload the learning. The friction is the work.Living in your strengths creates friction for people who think differently. That is information, not a flaw.A team with no conflict is probably not surfacing it. The leader sets the emotional temperature.You cannot take emotion out of a decision. You can only decide whether to read the signal. Soundbites “What sort of hard thing is this?”“Friction is just information.”“The friction is the work.”“Traction doesn’t come without friction.”“The greatest coaching in the world is simply noticing.”“Trying to say we’re gonna take the emotion out of it is trying to say, I’m gonna try to walk around without gravity.” Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with a leader who has all the facts and still senses something is off. Join The Fit ForumMike’s free CliftonStrengths community: bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  3. 29 Sept

    The Question Every Buyer Is Asking: with Jacques Spitzer

    SummaryJacques Spitzer started Raindrop as a one-person shop and grew it into a creative agency of about a hundred people. He and Mike get into what it takes to keep your footing when the work, the tools, and the industry keep shifting under you. Jacques makes the case that people buy for only two reasons, that being "anti-niche" is a strength rather than a liability, and that the hard part of AI is not the tool, it's leading a hundred people who all feel differently about it. Along the way: why he turns down most of the companies that want to hire him, and why his proudest result last year was a team survey, not an award. About Jacques SpitzerJacques Spitzer is a 4x Emmy® award-winning creative agency founder who AdWeek recently named one of the Top 20 Advertising Leaders in the country. His agency, Raindrop, has generated billions in campaign sales for powerhouse brands like Dr. Squatch, Native and Grüns and insurgent brands like Good Culture, Hello Panda, Magic Spoon, Dude Wipes and more.Raindrop’s creative force has been showcased by their work on three Super Bowl campaigns and their recent execution of the largest brand launch in Procter & Gamble history for Spruce.As a champion for the next generation of disruptive companies, Jacques serves as a strategic advisor to high-growth CPG brands that Raindrop Ventures has uniquely helped launch and invested in, including Grüns, Laundry Sauce, ForAll, VitaWild and Magic Mind. With a trophy case boasting over 50 advertising awards, Jacques’ work is consistently recognized for its rare blend of viral creativity and massive ROI. His insights have been featured in Forbes, AdAge, and Entrepreneur Magazine. He was recently named one of the “most influential people in San Diego” by the San Diego Business Journal and one of “California’s most visionary CEOs” by the Los Angeles Times, who noted:“Raindrop’s creative success and results have put San Diego on the map for creative work across the country.”In addition to his work in advertising, Spitzer helped produce the full-length documentary Wampler’s Ascent, which won over 38 international film festival awards. (Watch on Amazon Prime Now).Know more about Jacques Spitzer⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠Website⁠ Takeaways Nobody buys your mission statement. People buy what reflects who they already are, or who they're trying to become.Often there's no right answer, only an answer you can have conviction in. That's true of AI, of who you hire, and of who you agree to work with.Leading people through a new tool is less about the tool and more about the fact that your team feels every possible way about it at once.A niche can become a cage. Getting clear on your real strength lets you take it anywhere.Saying no protects the work. Turning down most of the demand can be the choice that keeps the quality.A leader leaves a wake whether they notice it or not. The dangerous ones are the leaders who don't.Feedback works best on a disciplined ratio. If people are right most of the time, your feedback should reflect that, not just the corrections.Culture is not a statement on a wall. It's how you show up in every single meeting.The truest measure of a good year might be whether your team still wants to be there next year. Soundbites "People only buy things for two reasons. They believe it's a reflection of who they are already today. Or who they're trying to become. That's it.""Sometimes there's just no right answer. It's just an answer that you have conviction in.""It's how you show up in every single meeting. It is not a vision statement.""This is the most successful year we've ever had, not because we won this external award, but because that was the survey we got back.""Information isn't transformation, and transformation is a human experience." Share this with a founder who can't stop being the one who does everything. Join The Fit ForumMike's free CliftonStrengths community bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  4. 15 Sept

    Hope under the Taliban: with Aref Dostyar

    Summary On August 15, 2021, Aref Dostyar was Afghanistan's Consul General in Los Angeles. By the end of the day, the government he represented no longer existed. His map wasn't running out. It was being erased while he stood on it. Aref and Mike talk about what you steer by when the plan disappears in an afternoon. How Aref and his staff wrote a plan on a Friday they didn't yet know they'd need by Sunday. Why he calls taking action his therapy. And what he is learning from Afghan women who refuse the reality that was handed to them. This one is about navigating with no roadmap, and choosing to keep building anyway. About Aref Dostyar Aref Dostyar leads the Afghanistan Dialogue and Visioning Process (DVP), a multi- stakeholder initiative, housed at the University of Notre Dame, that aims to develop a shared vision for a peaceful future in Afghanistan. He is interested in comparative dialogue methodologies, consensus-building, and visioning processes in divided societies. Prior to joining Notre Dame, Dostyar served in senior diplomatic and national security roles for the Islamic Republic of Afghanistan, including as Consul General in Los Angeles (2020-2022) and as Director General for International Relations and Regional Cooperation and Director of Peace and Reconciliation Affairs at the Office of the National Security Council. Dostyar’s analysis and commentary have been featured in the New York Times, Foreign Policy, Al Jazeera, The Cipher Brief, Vox, and other publications. His recent essay, “How the UN can turn Afghanistan’s seat into a path forward” was published by the London School of Economics and Political Science. He posts on social media at @ArefDostyar. But if you ask him, nothing compares to wrestling and giggling with his two little sons in the evenings! Know more about Aref: - https://api-peacebuilding.com/ - https://aptyouth.org/ Takeaways When the map is erased, you navigate by a compass. Aref's was simple: people first. Family, colleagues, friends, ahead of services and strategy.A plan you never use isn't wasted. Aref's team wrote one on Friday afternoon. The country fell Sunday. It kept them from starting from zero in the chaos.Action can be therapy. Offered six months to rest, Aref couldn't take six days. Building something was how he processed the loss.The healthiest people in a crisis spend almost no time on how the reality got here. They ask a better question: here I am, what do I do now?Relationship over rules. In the moment that mattered most, what moved people wasn't procedure. It was who you knew and who you kept showing up for.You can't leave a generation in the waiting room of history. Change is generational, but real people need help today. You hold both at once.Guns haven't worked in decades. Set against the cost of fighting, talking is cheap. Peace starts by building constituencies willing to sit down.Everything changes, because it always has. The trap is believing this moment is permanent. Get your insides ready for the change you can't yet see.You can't un-educate a person. Afghan women are learning on their phones with the schools shut, because once something is learned, it can't be taken back. Soundbites "The formulas of the past just do not work.""There's an entire generation that cannot be in the waiting room of history.""This is my therapy to take action.""We have tried the alternative and it has not worked.""They are refusing to accept this imposed reality on them, and they are determined to change that.""You can't un-educate somebody, ever." (Mike) Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone navigating a season with no roadmap. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community, bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  5. 1 Sept

    All Our Maps Are Incomplete - with Danny Kim

    Summary Mike sits down with Danny Kim, a classically trained violinist turned pastor turned organizational psychologist who has changed careers about every eighteen months and calls each leap an invitation, not a crisis. Danny grew up without a map. The only Asian kid in a white neighborhood, a first-generation Korean American, he learned to chart his own course before he was old enough to drive. Now, crossing forty and doing the math on how much music he has left to make, the question gets sharper. When the map runs out, what do you steer by? The answer Danny keeps landing on isn't a framework or a hack. It's people. This is a conversation about relationships as the compass, and why admitting your map is incomplete might be the most connective thing you can do. About Danny Kim Includer · Activator · Communication · Command · Self-Assurance Danny Kim, PhD, brings the science of human performance to the art of leadership. An I/O psychologist, CliftonStrengths coach, and team builder, Danny helps organizations discover what they're truly capable of. Danny Kim is the Assistant Vice President of People and Operations at the San Diego Foundation, where he leads people, culture, and operations while also overseeing IT and the organization's AI transformation. His path has run through Raindrop, the award-winning San Diego creative agency, as Head of People, plus Point Loma Nazarene University and consulting work with Centauric and The Dauphinee Group. He holds a BS in biological sciences, a Master of Divinity in transformational leadership, and a PhD in industrial and organizational psychology, with doctoral research on emotional intelligence, problematic smartphone use, and the future of the digital workforce. He is the author of Influx: Finding Purpose in Transition and lives in San Diego. Know more about Danny: www.drdannykim.com Takeaways ● Nobody hands you a map to hurt you, but there comes a point when it stops working, and only you can know that. ● Running off the map isn't failure. Danny reframes the unknown as a threshold, a door opening, an invitation to walk through. ● If life never handed you a map, you learned to chart your own course early, and that becomes a strength instead of a wound. ● Coaching isn't a set of tools. It's presence, paying attention to the person in front of you and finding the real challenge under what they say. ● Behind every door is a possibility, but not every door is an opportunity. Vision is what tells the two apart. ● A building never sings your song. Titles, products, and org charts don't tell the story of your life. People do. ● Information isn't transformation. Transformation never happens alone. It happens in relationship. ● Process and technology are simple. People are complex, and that complexity is where leadership actually lives. ● Before you make a change, ping it. Ask what the relationships you value most would say about the move you're weighing. ● Every map is incomplete. The moment you stop pretending yours is finished, someone can help you fill it in. Soundbites ● “A building never sings your song.” ● “Information isn't transformation. Transformation never occurs alone. It always occurs in relationship.” ● “Process and technology, I'm gonna simplify it, is simple. It's the people that are complex.” ● “All of our maps are incomplete. There is no roadmap. There is no map.” ● “People already have the wisdom within them. My job is to pull it out.” ● “We borrow some of your belief until we find our own.” Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's standing in front of a door, afraid to open it. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community — bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  6. 11 Aug

    How to Make Decisions When There's No Roadmap

    Summary Have you ever been lost? Not turned around in the woods, though Joseph has a story about that too, but lost in your own life. Joseph Pietrocini is 26 and running three companies at once, and he has spent his whole life navigating toward a vision most people never let themselves name. Mike sits down with a friend he has coached since the eighth grade to unpack what it takes to move when the map runs out: deciding by direction instead of destination, why ideas are worthless without execution, and how to build something that matters without doing it alone. The twist is that being lost has almost nothing to do with not knowing where you are. About Joseph Pietrocini Strategic · Competition · Ideation · Futuristic · Positivity From starting a lawn care business in middle school to building a marketing agency in college, and now starting RECREATE Work with his father and WealthReach with his business partners, Joseph loves to build businesses that have the ability to impact people at scale. Follow Joseph: Instagram: @joseph_pietrocini LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/josephpietrocini Takeaways ● Not knowing where you are and being lost are two different things. The panic shows up only when you don't know where you are and where you're going at the same time. ● You don't have to know where you are to move. You need peace about where you're going. ● Navigate by direction, not destination. You don't have to choose San Diego over Miami to agree it's time to head south. ● Ideas are cheap. What separates people is execution, the willingness to actually do the thing. ● Trying to do a thing and doing it look nothing alike. Not sitting in the chair looks exactly like trying to sit in the chair. ● Information by itself changes nothing. Every packaged food has a nutrition label and we're heavier than ever. ● The people around you set the ceiling on who you become. Change the community and you change the behavior. ● You can't predict the future, and anyone who claims they can is worth ignoring. All you know is that it will be different. ● Certainty and control are an illusion. In the fog, reach for curiosity instead of fear. ● The barrier to starting has never been lower. The only wrong move is refusing to take one. Soundbites ● "Lost is a state of mind and a choice." ● "You don't have to know where you are, but you can have peace in knowing where you're going." ● "Anybody can have the idea, what differentiates ideas is how you execute on it." ● "Information is not transformation, which is why AI data is not going to transform real fact." ● "Not sitting in the chair looks exactly like trying to sit in the chair." ● "Certainty and control is an illusion." Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who feels lost but really just hasn't decided where they're going. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community. Bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  7. 21 Jul

    Healing Isn't a Straight Line Forward

    Summary Destry Wardle has spent nearly two decades helping people go backward before they can moveforward. Today she's turning that lens on the man across the table from her. Mike sits down with his longtime coach, collaborator, and self-described “sister voice in my head” to unpack why healing isn't a straight line, why thetools that kept you alive as a kid can quietly sabotage you as an adult, and why he's more willing than usual to turn the mirror on himself. About Destry Wardle Connectedness Communication Arranger Analytical Harmony Destry Wardle is a therapeutic and performance coach and Chief of Staff at The Dauphinee Group. Before stepping into coaching, she trained as a therapist and holds an MA in Clinical Pastoral Counseling from Ashland Theological Seminary. Fornearly two decades, she has served with Healing Care Ministries, where she directs the Come Away with Me Retreats and has facilitated more than 50 multi-day group retreats. She lives outside Boulder, Colorado. Takeaways ●       Therapy is the journey backward: witnessingold ruptures and ungrieved losses. Coaching is the journey forward: turningthat awareness into partnership and accountability. Neither replaces the other. ●       The behaviors that helped you survive yourstory often become the very things working against you in your present. ●       Sometimes the mind goes blank exactly wherethe unprocessed work is waiting. You can't explain a block you haven't namedyet. ●       Survival tools are custom-built for onespecific environment. What kept you safe as a kid won't necessarily keep yousafe now. ●       You can't skip the emotional work to shortcutyour way to healing. You have to feel it to heal it. ●       Feelings buried alive don't die. They come outsideways, in your relationships and in your work. ●       None of us were formed in isolation, and noneof us heal in isolation either. ●       Every strength brings something and needssomething. An unmet need doesn't disappear. It multiplies pressure on the restof who you are. ●       Under threat, most people default to one ofthree roles: fixing everyone else's feelings, blaming someone, or collapsinginto helplessness. ●       The goal was never perfection. It's gettingcurious about your story instead of judging it. Soundbites ●       “None of us were formed away from people.” ●       “We want to heal ourselves by ourselves.” ●       “We have to feel to heal.” ●       “Feelings buried alive never die.” ●       “Healthy people ask for what they want.” ●       “I'm not the only one who's sitting with thatstory inside of me that's so terrified to have it exposed.” Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's trying to heal by themselves and wondering why it isn't working. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community. Bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  8. 7 Jul

    Confidence Is Remembered, Not Conjured

    Summary Katie Kennedy is seven years old, hand raised in art class, waiting for her teacher to just tell her what to do next. Twenty years later, she's a senior manager at Twin Cities agency OVATIVE Group, and she's still catching herself waiting for someone else to hand her the next step. Mike sits down with his longtime friend to unpack why people-pleasing might be the most manipulative habit you don't know you have, what happens when your definition of growth quietly expires, and why the confidence you're chasing isn't something you conjure, it's something you remember. About Katie Kennedy Developer · Positivity · Empathy · Connectedness · Achiever Katie Kennedy is a Senior Manager on the Client Services team at Ovative Group, where she helps clients navigate complex marketing challenges with thoughtful strategy, strong partnerships, and storytelling. At her core, she loves people and believes the right words can bring them together. When she’s not working, you’ll find her reading, running, discovering new restaurants, or happily dilly-dallying in a cute local shop. Driven by curiosity and empathy, Katie loves conversations that leave people feeling inspired—and a little more understood. More about Katie:Website: katiekennedy.me Instagram: @kathalatha Takeaways Confidence isn't conjured, it's remembered, you build it by recalling the evidence, not manufacturing new proof every time you need it.People-pleasing isn't kindness, it's control, it's an attempt to manage someone else's reaction to protect your own sense of worth.We reach for control when we feel fear and reach for curiosity when we move toward love.Growth stops feeling good the moment your definition of "growth" quietly goes out of date.The higher you climb, the less applause you get for showing up well, most of the growth that matters now happens without an audience.Trade-offs stay invisible until you decide something is worth more than someone else's approval.A career doesn't need to be your calling to be meaningful, sometimes the vehicle matters more than the destination.Best friends at work aren't a soft perk. They're tied directly to retention, productivity, and profitability.Connection only makes sense in hindsight, you're not supposed to see the pattern while you're still inside it.Critical thinking, not the AI tool itself, decides whether it actually helps you or just moves you faster in the wrong direction. Soundbites "We reach for control when we feel fear. We reach for curiosity when we move towards love.""Confidence is remembered, not conjured.""People pleasing is the most manipulative way to live your life.""The illusion of control is what's like giving me gray hair.""Critical thinking is the most valuable skill in the world right now.""Connection is backwards, not forwards."Facing Codependence by Pia MellodyThe Alchemist by Paulo CoelhoJoanna Gaines' story (her path from working in her dad's auto parts store to building her own brand)Helen Keller's account of learning language from her teacherGallup research on workplace well-being, team leadership impact, and friendship at work Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's still waiting for permission to trust their own timing. Join The Fit ForumMike's free CliftonStrengths community — bring your Top 5 and find your people.

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Maps Are Dead is a podcast about navigating life when the old plans stop working. Hosted by Mike Dauphinee, this series is a raw, real, and often funny conversation with people learning to move forward without a clear path. It’s not about success formulas or five-year plans. It’s about inner maps—CliftonStrengths, courage, and the grit it takes to keep going when certainty disappears. Mike and his guests explore identity, leadership, parenting, purpose, and the moments that shake our lives loose. Join our community: https://the-fit-forum.circle.so/join?invitation_token=9d72b1d6f49e63892f277b