Probing In The Sheets

Probing In The Sheets

At its core, we understand the vast ripple effect kink can have on our lives, rooted in pleasure, personal growth, and community. It’s time to tune into yourself and connect on a deeper level, while having delicious fun exploring topics within the kink and BDSM realm. In association with Probe Ottawa.

  1. 9 hr ago

    S3E8 Come CLIMAX with Muse

    Muse joins us in the bondage bed to talk about squirting, art and the politics of pleasure. She shares how squirting for the first time at thirty brought tears, then rage at everything she had been told about her body growing up. That rage turned into sixteen years of workshops, story-gathering and paintings made from the moment itself. Muse, Jamie and Miel get into the myths and science of squirting, porn as reclamation, and why joy, kink and psychedelics are political. They also take on the manosphere, unpacking why the men chasing alpha status might be more submissive than they think. This bold, unapologetic conversation challenges us to stop letting shame write the rules, and to imagine power that is shared rather than held over us. Key topics The myths, misinformation and science of squirtingSquirting, orgasm and the many paths to pleasureSquirt paintingPornography as agency and reclamationJoy, kink and pleasure as political actsSex, psychedelics and consentPatriarchy, matriarchy and dismantling hierarchyRelationship anarchy and choosing power dynamics Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Muse Muse Fontaine (she/her) is an erotic content creator and adult performance artist focused on the social and political climate surrounding censorship of femme bodies and female sexuality. She is the founder of The Squirt Project, an educational network committed to the compilation and dissemination of accurate and experiential information on the topic of female ejaculation. Website: musefontaine.com Instagram: @muse.fontaine @thesquirtproject About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  2. 9 Oct

    S3E7 come CLIMAX with Fiona MacDonell

    Fiona MacDonell, a registered sex therapist with the Ottawa Centre for Relationship and Sex Therapy, joins us to talk about desire, intimacy and the many shapes relationships can take. She shares what she has learned from clients exploring non-monogamy: why shame so often gets in the way when a nervous system is on fire, and why slowing down doesn't have to mean stopping. Fiona, Jamie and Miel get into relationship anarchy, jealousy, attachment panic and the work of repair after rupture, with detours into inner children and psychedelics along the way. This vulnerable, eye-opening conversation reminds us that there is no one right way to connect, and that what we want from our relationships is allowed to change as we do. Key topics Unlearning mononormative relationship scriptsShame and the nervous system when opening a relationshipFinding therapists who don't stigmatize non-monogamyRelationship anarchy and choosing who gets centeredJealousy as a normal human emotionAttachment panic and our survival systemPacing: slowing down without stoppingRupture, repair and choosing a new proximitySeeing the inner child in ourselves and our partnersWhat monogamous folks can learn from non-monogamyHow desire evolves over time Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Fiona Fiona MacDonell (sher/her) is a Certified Sex therapist and Registered Psychotherapist based in Centretown, Ottawa. She is the founder of the Ottawa Centre for Relationships and Sex Therapy, where she leads a group practice supporting individuals and couples. Her work focuses on desire, intimacy, and alternative relationship structures, including non-monogamy and evolving partnership dynamics. She is passionate about creating  an inclusive, non-judgemental space that reflects the realities of people’s lived experience. Through her practice, she helps clients explore their relationships with curiosity, clarity, and consent, with a particular focus on those seeking to better understand themselves and build authentic, fulfilling connections. Website: Ottawa Centre for Relationship and Sex Therapy IG  ocr_st  About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  3. 5 Oct

    S3E6 Come CLIMAX with Martin from Iron Cabaret

    Martin Fransham, co-producer of the Iron Cabaret and Cabaret Nova, joins us to share how his team built a home for after-dark entertainment in Ottawa. He talks about creating stages where sex workers, pole dancers, over-forty burlesque performers and first-timers all have full creative freedom. He also explains why running a transparent, team-first business has changed the way performers and crew relate to the work and to each other. Martin, Meil and Jamie also explore hotter monogamy, from negotiating boundaries as a couple in kink spaces to keeping the conversation going as a relationship changes over time. This fun and candid conversation reminds us that community grows when we lift each other up, and that desire and connection don't come with an expiry date. Key topics Building after-dark entertainment in OttawaCreative freedom and representation on stageBreaking stereotypes about age, size and desirabilityHotter monogamy and negotiating boundaries in kink spacesCommunication as a relationship evolvesChoosing the right time for hard conversations Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Martin Martin (he/him) is a multidisciplinary force—father, husband, entrepreneur, combat sports competitor, outdoors enthusiast, and the producer and host of The Iron Cabaret. With a passion for performance and a deep curiosity about how gender norms shape our culture, Martin crafts provocative, boundary-pushing shows that challenge expectations and celebrate individuality. Since its launch, The Iron Cabaret has not only captivated audiences but also made a meaningful impact—raising over $17,000 for charity and awarding 39 performer bursaries to support emerging artists. Martin’s work lives at the intersection of art, identity, and social change, and he is thrilled to bring this conversation to the Ottawa Climax stage.   Website: www.ironcabaret.com IG: @ironcabaret YouTube: @TheIronCabaret About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  4. 2 Oct

    S3E5 Come CLIMAX with Becky from A Spoonful of Becky

    Becky joins us to share her journey of navigating disability, chronic illness, intimacy, and sexuality while building a life and career rooted in self-advocacy and representation. She talks openly about living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and how understanding her body and health has changed the way she thinks about relationships, desirability, pleasure, and connection.  Becky, Jamie and Miel explore the importance of communication when navigating intimacy and health challenges, and how pleasure and connection can exist far beyond penetrative sex or traditional ideas of sexuality. This tender conversation invites us to rethink what intimacy can look like and make more space for different bodies, needs, and experiences in conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection. Key topics Navigating intimacy and sexuality with chronic illness Understanding Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and its impact on intimacy Living with vaginismus and redefining sexual connection Finding pleasure beyond penetrative sex Rethinking traditional ideas of intimacy and sexuality Exploring alternative forms of intimacy and connection The role of power dynamics in relationships Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Becky Becky (she/her) is a Canadian disability advocate, adaptive model, artist, and entrepreneur. Since beginning her first social media account documenting her disability journey, she has had the opportunity to model & collaborate with brands such as Aerie (American Eagle), Knix, Adaptt Apparel, and more. In the summer of 2024, Becky launched “A Spoonful of Becky Designs” – a small business featuring her artwork on a variety of mediums. Some of her most popular categories are greeting cards, disability awareness apparel and fibre art. As a speaker, she ties in her own experiences to help others navigate disability. She advocates for the undiagnosed, the rare disease community, and the disabled community at large. The stigma surrounding young women in the healthcare world is of particular interest to her advocacy and research. Social media was a crucial part of her own diagnostic journey- and in her belief- one of the most powerful tools in advocating for necessary care. Connection is vital to the disabled community. Website: https://aspoonfulofbecky.ca/ IG aspoonfulofbecky About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  5. 25 Sept

    S3E4 Come CLIMAX with Meghan from Mindfulness Meghan

    In this conversation, Meghan talks about pleasure activism, mindfulness, and the ways that patriarchy, colonialism, capitalism, and racism shape our experiences of ourselves, our bodies, and our relationships. Meghan, Jamie, and Miel also explore how mindfulness can influence our relationships, our experiences of pleasure and conflict. This raw and real episode explores how taking the time to connect with our inner selves can be an act of rebellion against the systems that seek to divide us. Key topics Exploring pleasure activism and its connection to personal and collective liberationHow patriarchy, colonialism, capitalism, and racism shape our experiences of well-beingThe impact of social labels and identities on how we understand ourselvesMindfulness and its role in navigating relationships and conflict Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Meghan Meghan (she/her) is certified through Unified Mindfulness as a Mindfulness Trainer/Teacher, located in Ottawa, Canada on unceded and unsurrendered Algonquin Anishinaabe territory. Identifying as she/her, Meghan is a multi-racial, Black Woman with a Jamaican heritage, and the mother of 2 amazing girls. She includes over 15 years of experience within human resources, hospitality and philanthropy into all her projects and offerings. Meghan is currently studying for her B.A. in Human Relations and Spirituality at St. Paul’s University in Ottawa, ON. She continues to partner with and support people and organizations that aim to minimize suffering and harm within humanity and nature. Her philanthropy experiences include advising for Uniting for Children and Youth, an active member in the OCDSB Advisory Committee on Equity, a temporary role in 2020 as Chair of Parents for Diversity and now actively a volunteer within their education committee. In 2021, she launched the Mindful Educator Program as a part of the New Teacher Induction Program for school boards across Canada including the Ottawa Catholic School Board and Durham District School Board. In 2022, she partnered with Dale Allen, to create the Thrive Learning Program for Youth and Educators that fuses restorative justice and the foundations of inclusive wellness practices and approaches. They are currently facilitating this program within schools in the Ottawa/Gatineau area. Identified by Shifter in 2023 as one of 20 Outstanding Black Women in Canada and featured in CBC Ottawa as one of 10 local Women building community by supporting and promoting wellness. Mindfulness is accessible to harness in our emancipation of mental slavery; it empowers self-awareness, self-mastery and equanimity.  Website: mindfulnessmeghan.com  About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  6. 18 Sept

    S3E3 Come CLIMAX with Lisa Flanders | Cliterally Obsessed | Bloom Integrated Health | CLIMAX

    Lisa Flanders discusses the importance of pelvic health physiotherapy, breaking down the stigma surrounding pelvic health issues, and the need for education on these topics. Lisa shares her journey into pelvic health, the common misconceptions about who can benefit from pelvic floor therapy, and the various issues that can arise for all genders.  Lisa, Jamie and Miel speak candidly about the value of open conversations about sexual health, pleasure, and the power of curiosity in overcoming shame. Key topics Exploring pelvic floor health across all genders and life stagesBreaking the stigma through education and opennessPelvic floor therapy treats more than incontinenceBody literacy, pleasure, and understanding orgasmConsent, breathing techniques, and curiosity over shame Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference. Click Here () 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Lisa Flanders Lisa Flanders (she/her) is a Registered Physiotherapist and co-owner of Bloom Integrative Health & Movement in Ottawa, Ontario, with expertise in pelvic health, sexual health, and pelvic pain. She holds a Bachelor of Arts and a Bachelor of Kinesiology from the University of Manitoba, and a Master of Science in Physical Therapy from Queen’s University. Lisa began her career in orthopedic physiotherapy and continues to integrate this foundation into her pelvic health practice. She has completed extensive post-graduate training in pelvic floor dysfunction, with advanced focus on persistent pelvic pain, sexual health, and the care of transgender and gender-diverse individuals, including post-operative, gender affirming rehabilitation. Lisa is passionate about smashing the stigma and creating safe, inclusive spaces for care. Through clinical work, education, and mentorship, she empowers individuals to better understand their bodies, reconnect with their pelvic health, and return to meaningful movement and participation in life. @bloom_health_ottawa @lisaflandersphysio @cliterally_obsessed_podcast Website: Bloom Integrated Health About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  7. 18 Sept

    S3E2 Come CLIMAX with Dr. Keiko Chan

    Dr. Keiko Chan discusses various aspects of sexual health for people with vulvas and vaginas, particularly focusing on perimenopause, menopause, hormone treatments, and misconceptions surrounding testosterone therapy. The conversation explores the complexities of desire, intimacy, and sexual health. Delving into relationship dynamics, the importance of emotional connection, and the impact of societal expectations on libido. Dr. Chan emphasizes the need for a biopsychosocial approach to understanding sexual health and the role of communication in fostering intimacy. Key topics Understanding perimenopause, menopause and hormonal changesRethinking testosterone therapy and sexual healthExploring spontaneous vs. responsive desireBuilding intimacy through emotional connection and communicationTaking a biopsychosocial approach to desire, arousal, and sexual wellbeing Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Dr. Chan Dr. Keiko Chan (she/her) is a local women’s health GP in Ottawa. She carries a Focused Practice Designation in gynecology and is a certified Menopause Society Practitioner. She prides herself on providing evidence-based care to patients of all age groups, whether it be at her women’s health clinic or Carleton University family practice. Dr. Chan is also passionate about education in family medicine and serves as a clinical preceptor for medical students and family medicine residents at the University of Ottawa. IG @ottawa_girl_doc About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work with Miel Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work with Jamie Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

  8. 11 Sept

    S3E1 Come CLIMAX With Natalia | Kinks And Coffee | House of Kink | CLIMAX

    Natalia shares how her personal sexual reawakening evolved into Kinks and Coffee, House of Kink, Climax, and a larger role in Ottawa’s sex-positive community. This candid episode explores moving beyond shame, discovering pleasure, building safer spaces, and turning personal pain into purpose. Natalia also discusses creating inclusive events, making kink more approachable, and why collaboration is essential to a thriving community. Key topics Reclaiming pleasure after divorce Moving beyond shame and insecurity Sexual education and self-discovery Building sex-positive communities Creating House of Kink and Climax Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference Here 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Natalia Jaczkowski (she/her)  A sex educator and founder of Kinks & Coffee, a sexual wellness brand dedicated to making conversations around intimacy, desire, pleasure, and kink more approachable, inclusive, and stigma-free. She is also the co-founder of CLIMAX Conference and an event producer behind Singles Mingle and House of Kink, creating community experiences that bring sexuality, connection, education, arts, and nightlife together. Her work is grounded in curiosity, community, and evidence-informed sexuality education, with professional training through the Kinsey Institute, Sexual Health Alliance, and advanced mentorship in kink and power exchange.  @kinksandcoffee @climax.conference @singlesmingle.events @events.houseofkink  About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Work With Jamie Connect On IG @walkerxox About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Work With Miel Connect On IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Visit Probe Ottawa IG @probeottawa

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At its core, we understand the vast ripple effect kink can have on our lives, rooted in pleasure, personal growth, and community. It’s time to tune into yourself and connect on a deeper level, while having delicious fun exploring topics within the kink and BDSM realm. In association with Probe Ottawa.

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