Control and the Law Podcast

Sarah Ellis

Control and the Law cuts through the noise to expose the realities of coercive control, domestic abuse, and stalking - and the legal systems that too often fail to confront them. Each episode tackles the issues others avoid, shifting the Overton window and challenging the narratives that keep victims unheard and unseen. Bringing together legal insight and fearless questioning, this podcast shines a light on the gaps, injustices and uncomfortable truths that shape our response to abuse. It's designed for legal professionals who are curious about how we can respond better - and for victims who've been silenced by a system meant to protect them. Bold, informed, and unafraid to demand change, Control and the Law is for anyone who believes our justice system can - and must - evolve.

Episodes

  1. Weaponised Justice: How the Family Courts are Used to Perpetuate Post Separation Abuse

    18 APR

    Weaponised Justice: How the Family Courts are Used to Perpetuate Post Separation Abuse

    Up to 90% of women escaping an abusive relationship experience post separation abuse. This can take many forms including emotional, psychological, financial, physical and even sexual abuse. However, 'custody stalking', using the family courts to intrude upon the lives of protective parents by weaponising child arrangements, is an incredibly effective, and widespread, tactic of post separation abuse. Dr Kathryn Spearman from Pennsylvania State University is a leading expert in post separation abuse. In this podcast she explains how her own background as a paediatric nurse and first hand experience of controlling parents refusing lifesaving treatment for their own children, led her to question the legal systems that enable controlling people to harm their own children in plain sight. She discusses how harmful domestic abuse and coercive control is to children's health and how professionals can identify the controlling parent from behavioural patterns. Advocating for systems change and improved training for legal professionals to enable earlier recognition of this tactic of abuse, Dr Spearman eloquently describes how harmful post separation abuse is for survivors and their children.

    37 min
  2. The Price of Harm: When Domestic Abuse Defines a Relationship, Shouldn’t It Influence the Financial Outcome?

    22 MAR

    The Price of Harm: When Domestic Abuse Defines a Relationship, Shouldn’t It Influence the Financial Outcome?

    Domestic abuse — and coercive control in particular — leaves deep, lasting scars. Yet in financial remedy proceedings, the threshold for proving misconduct remains so high that most victims never meet it. Case law has evolved away from the statute’s wording, and the courts’ reluctance to “rummage through the attic” of the marriage has become almost a mantra. But our understanding of coercive control has transformed. We now recognise its tactics, its cumulative damage, and the way it can shape every aspect of a victim’s financial position. So the real question is this: now that we finally see the harm clearly, isn’t it time the financial remedies court recalibrated its approach — and stopped treating abuse as legally invisible? Sarah Ellis is joined by barristers Samantha Hillas KC and Anita Mehta and solicitor, Olivia Piercy to discuss this issue and how we might achieve change in the future. We discuss the historical approach of the courts to allegations of misconduct, how high the threshold for conduct has been set, whether statutory change is necessary to reflect the harms to victims and what happens at the coalface when allegations of domestic abuse are made in financial remedy proceedings. Please follow this channel for further podcasts on coercive control from a legal perspective. The next episode is on Post Separation Abuse with Asst. Professor Kathryn Spearman.

    42 min
  3. Part 2 - Unseen and Unheard? Navigating Domestic Abuse in Private Law Proceedings

    17 FEB

    Part 2 - Unseen and Unheard? Navigating Domestic Abuse in Private Law Proceedings

    Are the family courts routinely ignoring or minimising allegations of domestic abuse? Join barrister, Sarah Ellis, Professor Jo Delahunty KC and Professor Rosemary Hunter KC (Hon) to discuss coercive control, whether allegations of domestic abuse should ever be treated as 'historic', how victims are treated in the court, how we can evidence domestic abuse better and whether the Pathfinder process is the panacea we're looking for.

    30 min
  4. Ep.2 Pt 1: Unseen and Unheard? Navigating Domestic Abuse in Private Law Proceedings

    10 FEB

    Ep.2 Pt 1: Unseen and Unheard? Navigating Domestic Abuse in Private Law Proceedings

    In October 2025 the 'Everyday Business' report found allegations of domestic abuse are made in around three-quarters of private law cases. Yet, in only c. 4% of cases is there a finding of fact hearing. Prof. Jo Delahunty KC and Prof. Rosemary Hunter KC (Hon) join barrister, Sarah Ellis, to discuss the scale of the issue, the negative consequences of LASPO 2012 on legal representation and advice, the minimisation of harmful behaviours, the low status of domestic abuse and whether the current law is fit for purpose. This is part 1 of a 2 part podcast. Links: ⁠Domestic Abuse and the Family Justice System: Law and Practice: Professor Jo Delahunty KC: Bloomsbury Professional - Bloomsbury Professional⁠ ⁠Everyday-Business-full-report-web.pdf⁠ ⁠Re H-N and Others (children) judgment⁠ ⁠Domestic Abuse Act 2021

    34 min
  5. Weaponised Justice: how civil courts are being used to stalk and harass victims

    12/11/2025

    Weaponised Justice: how civil courts are being used to stalk and harass victims

    Stalkers and controlling people are increasingly using the civil courts to continue their abuse and harassment of victims. Faced with little, if any, consequences for bringing vexatious and repeat claims we discuss the scale of the issue, who is affected and what can be done to help victims. Barrister, Sarah Ellis, is joined by the designate Victims' Commissioner, Claire Waxman OBE and solicitor, Rachel Horman-Brown KC (Hon) to discuss this urgent and chronic issue.

    45 min
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Control and the Law cuts through the noise to expose the realities of coercive control, domestic abuse, and stalking - and the legal systems that too often fail to confront them. Each episode tackles the issues others avoid, shifting the Overton window and challenging the narratives that keep victims unheard and unseen. Bringing together legal insight and fearless questioning, this podcast shines a light on the gaps, injustices and uncomfortable truths that shape our response to abuse. It's designed for legal professionals who are curious about how we can respond better - and for victims who've been silenced by a system meant to protect them. Bold, informed, and unafraid to demand change, Control and the Law is for anyone who believes our justice system can - and must - evolve.

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