Wild Nectar Podcast by Dr. Caite

Caite Gordon

A podcast for women who want to feel turned on in their bodies and secure in their love lives. We explore the patterns of shame, conditioning, and self-abandonment that dull our aliveness and the many ways we can revive vitality and return to our true essence. caitlingordon.substack.com

Episodes

  1. 16 Aug

    Trying to fill God-sized holes with romantic love.

    A spontaneous teaching I shared with my women’s group while driving (pardon the car-audio-quality). What if the deepest longing you feel for partnership... isn’t actually for partnership? This isn’t a sermon or an argument for any religious beliefs. I believe one of the greatest spiritual misunderstandings we carry is that another person can fulfill the deepest longing of our soul. I don’t think they can. I think what we’re ultimately longing for is a union that doesn’t exist in any sustainable way inside of partnership with another human. Union with the divine, union with the field of love, union with our own true nature. And because we’ve forgotten what that feels like, or we only experience in these little glimmers during lovemaking or plant-medicine experiences or other fleeting states, we project that longing onto romantic partnership. We imagine that when we finally meet “the one,” we’ll arrive. Of course I believe partnership can be extraordinary. I teach relationship skills for a living. I believe healthy partnership is one of the most profound paths of spiritual growth available to us. But I don’t believe your partner was ever meant to become your source of love. I think they’re meant to reveal all the places you still believe you’re separate from it. That’s a very different relationship. No wonder people don’t meet the “one” and suddenly feel peaceful, loved and fulfilled forevermore. In this mini podcast, I explore why the deepest fulfillment we’re seeking isn’t something another person can give us, and why that realization actually makes love more available, not less. I’d love to know what comes up for you. Does this feel like an exhale...or does it bring up resistance? 🎧 Listen to the full audio and let me know. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit caitlingordon.substack.com/subscribe

    Trying to fill God-sized holes with romantic love.
  2. 7 Jul

    Slow Pleasure is Deeper Pleasure

    Orgasms are one of the most powerful forms of natural medicine we have, supporting everything from mood and pain relief to cardiovascular health, bonding, and nervous system regulation. But not all pleasure affects the brain in the same way. In this episode, we're exploring the fascinating relationship between orgasm, dopamine, oxytocin, and effort, and why slower, more intentional pleasure often leaves us feeling more nourished than quick dopamine hits. We'll talk about the neuroscience of pleasure, the difference between relief and true fulfillment, and how your intimate life often mirrors the patterns present in the rest of your relationships. Find the class I referenced, The “O” Code right here. About Me I’m Dr. Caite Gordon: intimacy, sex, and relationship coaching, Doctor of Chinese Medicine, and feminine embodiment teacher. For more than a decade, I’ve guided women and couples through the landscapes of healing, intimacy, and eros. My work draws from eastern medicine, functional medicine, somatic healing, spirituality, and years spent sitting with thousands of people in life’s most vulnerable and sacred moments. I’m fascinated by what allows us to become more fully ourselves: to unwind old survival strategies, trust our bodies, create nourishing relationships, and build lives infused with vitality, meaning, and pleasure. This Substack is an extension of that exploration—a place for conversations about embodiment, women’s health, intimacy, spirituality, and the art of being human. If these words resonate, I’m glad you’re here. Connect with me on Instagram Book a call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit caitlingordon.substack.com/subscribe

    Slow Pleasure is Deeper Pleasure
  3. 5 Jul

    🌹 Why Pleasure Changes Throughout Your Cycle

    Why does sex sometimes feel incredible... and other times leave you wondering what happened? Why do orgasms vary so much throughout your cycle? Why does everything seem to hurt more emotionally and physically right before your period? In this episode, we're exploring the fascinating roles estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins play in shaping your experience of pleasure, desire, orgasm, and pain. I'll weave together science, Chinese medicine, and my own observations to help you better understand your body's rhythms so you can work with them instead of wondering what's "wrong" with you. 🫠🌹The Melt class I referenced as an HRT alternative way to support improved vaginal and vulva health and estrogen levels. About Me I’m Dr. Caite Gordon: intimacy, sex, and relationship coaching, Doctor of Chinese Medicine, and feminine embodiment teacher. For more than a decade, I’ve guided women and couples through the landscapes of healing, intimacy, and eros. My work draws from eastern medicine, functional medicine, somatic healing, spirituality, and years spent sitting with thousands of people in life’s most vulnerable and sacred moments. I’m fascinated by what allows us to become more fully ourselves: to unwind old survival strategies, trust our bodies, create nourishing relationships, and build lives infused with vitality, meaning, and pleasure. This Substack is an extension of that exploration—a place for conversations about embodiment, women’s health, intimacy, spirituality, and the art of being human. If these words resonate, I’m glad you’re here. Connect with me on Instagram Book a call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit caitlingordon.substack.com/subscribe

    🌹 Why Pleasure Changes Throughout Your Cycle
  4. 30 Jun

    Life wisdom from BDSM: How pushing the pain button leads to more pleasure ⛓️

    How we keep our brains healthy in a world of cheap dopamine and what actually helps with a happiness hangover. Slow dopamine sources: Anything that requires EFFORT to get the reward. * Walking in nature * Strength training * Hiking * Yoga * Breathwork * Meditation * Gardening * Cooking from scratch * Reading a book * Journaling * Learning a new skill * Practicing an instrument * Making art * Writing * Completing a meaningful project * Organizing your home * Cleaning a space * Building consistent routines * Working toward a long-term goal * Saving money * Growing a business * Deep conversation * Quality time with friends * Slow sex * Volunteering * Prayer or spiritual practice * Spending time in sunlight * Cold exposure * Sauna * Rest after effort * Delayed gratification * Creating something with your hands * Studying a subject deeply * Tracking progress over time * Keeping promises to yourself * Solving a difficult problem * Practicing a craft repeatedly * Eating a nourishing meal slowly * Completing a workout * Watching something grow * Preparing for a trip or event * Building intimacy gradually About Me I’m Dr. Caite Gordon: intimacy and spirituality coaching, Doctor of Chinese Medicine, and feminine embodiment teacher. For more than a decade, I’ve guided women and couples through the landscapes of healing, intimacy, and eros. My work draws from eastern medicine, functional medicine, somatic healing, spirituality, and years spent sitting with thousands of people in life’s most vulnerable and sacred moments. I’m fascinated by what allows us to become more fully ourselves: to unwind old survival strategies, trust our bodies, create nourishing relationships, and build lives infused with vitality, meaning, and pleasure. This Substack is an extension of that exploration—a place for conversations about embodiment, women’s health, intimacy, spirituality, and the art of being human. If these words resonate, I’m glad you’re here. Connect with me on Instagram Book a call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit caitlingordon.substack.com/subscribe

    Life wisdom from BDSM: How pushing the pain button leads to more pleasure ⛓️
  5. 28 Jun

    The pleasure paradox and why everything you've been taught about pleasure is wrong.

    There is a lot of nuance to this topic of depression that I didn’t address in this clip. If you’re struggling with major depression currently, this episode is not for you. Four things I want to mention in particular: * Our propensity for depression can be related to our liver detox genes and nutritional deficiencies, I highly recommend working with a functional med doc before you medicate. * The dorsal “freeze” response happens when we perceive a threat that we don’t think we are capable of fighting of fleeing from. Our nervous system will choose sympathetic/fight-flight as a first line of defense typically, unless it assesses that something is too dangerous for those to be effective. I hope this gives you compassion for what is underneath depression— some fear, grief, or perceived danger that feels insurmountable. * Movement isn’t the only thing that helps us come out of dorsal. Co-regulation with other people can help, oxytocin from touch and loving connection can help, and turning towards the source of shame, grief, or fear and taking action can help immensely. This is what good therapeutic or coaching support should help you do! * I acknowledge there are people and circumstances in which the help of an anti-depressant can be life-changing. The concern I have is my years helping patients wean off those meds and how there is often a backlog of emotion that didn’t get processed in the chemically-masked freeze state. The reason many people can’t cry or orgasm on SSRIs is because the nervous system is still hypo-regulated. The fight-flight responses that come online again as they wean and unthaw can be really tough— insomnia, anxiety, nightmares, panic, racing heart, dizziness, brain zaps, etc. And these can absolutely be helped by a number of other interventions to help regulate the nervous system but the nervous system supportive tools need to be there. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit caitlingordon.substack.com/subscribe

    The pleasure paradox and why everything you've been taught about pleasure is wrong.

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A podcast for women who want to feel turned on in their bodies and secure in their love lives. We explore the patterns of shame, conditioning, and self-abandonment that dull our aliveness and the many ways we can revive vitality and return to our true essence. caitlingordon.substack.com

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