It Starts with YOU

Vic O'Farrell
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What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.

  1. 21 hr ago

    Why Selfish Leaders Win: Putting Yourself First with Gary Parsons

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by professional speaker and executive mentor Gary Parsons to challenge one of the most negatively loaded words in leadership: selfish. Gary believes that the best leaders are selfish, but not in the way you might think. For him, being selfish means intentionally prioritising yourself, protecting your energy and setting boundaries so that you can show up at your best for the people who rely on you. Gary also shares the deeply personal story behind his work. After developing Bell's palsy at 18 and being left with a visible facial difference, he spent years intensely aware of how other people might see him, eventually making the conscious decision to stop smiling. He talks openly about self-esteem, vulnerability, the impact of other people's words and what it took to change the way he saw himself. Together, Vic and Gary explore boundaries, presenteeism, the pressure to always be available, the power of saying no and why good leadership isn't about sacrificing yourself for everyone else. Because putting yourself first doesn't have to mean putting everybody else last. Sometimes, it's exactly what allows you to lead them better.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Gary Parsons is a keynote speaker and founder of Selfish Thinking Co. He previously co-founded and led a multi-award-winning business for over a decade. At the height of that success, Gary was diagnosed with severe depression. Rather than stepping away, he chose to rethink how he worked and led, rebuilding his approach to pressure and performance while continuing to grow the business sustainably before stepping down as CEO in 2024. Today, Gary speaks openly about the pressures many high performers experience but rarely discuss. Blending lived experience with practical, real-world tools from his SELF Framework, he helps people challenge the belief that putting yourself last is a sign of strength and shows how prioritising your wellbeing leads to better performance, stronger relationships and longer-term success. His sessions are engaging, honest and highly practical, giving audiences simple strategies they can use immediately. Contact Details https://garyparsons.uk - My Website https://garyparsons.uk - Selfish Leaders Win Book info http://garyparsons.uk/love-my-face - Love My Face (Channel 4) info https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyparsonsuk - LinkedIn URL

  2. 18 Aug

    Why People Keep Misunderstanding You (And How to Fix It)

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores one of the biggest reasons communication breaks down. It isn't always because people aren't listening. More often, it's because they interpret your words through their own experiences, personality and perspective. Inspired by a coaching conversation with a client, Vic explains why the gap between what we say and what someone else hears can create confusion, frustration and unnecessary mistakes. Whether you're leading a team, managing projects, parenting or simply trying to communicate more effectively, this episode shares a simple shift that can dramatically improve understanding. Rather than asking, "Do you understand?", Vic explains how taking responsibility for how your message lands creates psychological safety, encourages clarification and helps build stronger relationships.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  3. 4 Aug

    65. What Fuels You? The Missing Link Between Motivation, Wellbeing and Performance

    Why do some people thrive in a role while others feel drained, even when they're highly capable? In this episode of It Starts With You, Vic O'Farrell is joined by motivation specialist, keynote speaker and trainer Sarah Stones to explore what truly drives human behaviour, engagement and performance. Together they unpack the difference between skills and motivation, why understanding what fuels you is critical for wellbeing, and how leaders can create environments where people don't just perform, but flourish. Using the concept of Motivational Maps, Sarah explains how our motivators change throughout life, why people often lose energy in roles they once loved, and how leaders can better understand what their teams need to stay engaged.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Sarah Stones is a Motivation Specialist, coach and TEDx speaker who helps organisations understand what genuinely drives their people. After 20+ years in HR, she founded Plain Sailing Motivation to make motivation practical. She delivers keynotes, masterclasses and coaching for businesses including the NHS and AstraZeneca, improving engagement, wellbeing and performance. She is not a motivational speaker, she is firm about this, and she would far rather leave your team with tools they can use to motivate themselves long after they have heard her speak. Contact Details Email: sarah@plainsailingmotivation.co.uk Website: www.plainsailingmotivation.co.uk Social Media LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sarah-stones

  4. 29 Jul

    Why People Remember You (And It's Probably Not For The Reason You Think)

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell asks a simple question with a powerful answer: Who made the biggest impact on your life… and was it because of what they taught you, or who they were? Drawing on conversations from recent work in schools and leadership development, Vic explains why every one of us creates a ripple effect through our behaviour. Whether you're leading a team, raising children, teaching others or influencing people online, your personality, your energy and the way you make people feel will always outlast the words you say. This short but thought-provoking episode is a reminder that influence isn't about having a title. It's about the impact your behaviour has on the people around you. Because behaviour drives behaviour… and it all starts with you.    . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  5. 7 Jul

    63. The Leadership Skill Most Managers Are Missing - Jackie Handy

    In this episode of It Starts With You, Vicky O'Farrell is joined by leadership and workplace culture specialist Jackie Handy to explore one of the most overlooked drivers of engagement, performance, and wellbeing: the human need to matter. Together, Vicki and Jackie unpack why feeling valued often matters more than salary, how belonging and purpose shape workplace culture, and why emotional intelligence remains one of the most important leadership skills in today's increasingly complex world of work. They also explore how leaders can recognise when someone is struggling, the role of psychological safety in building trust, and the small "million-dollar moments" that can transform relationships and team performance.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Jackie is an engaging speaker, consultant, author and leading voice on workplace connection and culture. With a background in leadership development, she's seen first-hand how the quality of relationships shapes team success. She's the creator of The Matter Model, a powerful framework that helps leaders build cultures where people feel valued and deeply connected, both to their work and one another. Jackie supports organisations globally to build belonging, strengthen purpose and drive human engagement in an increasingly digital world.   Social Media LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiehandy/ Website: http://www.jackiehandy.com/ FlowFinder Quiz: https://quiz.jackiehandy.com/flow-finder Contact Email: hello@jackiehandy.com

  6. 23 Jun

    How Workplace Jargon Damages Trust

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores the surprising connection between trust and communication. We often think trust is built through big actions and broken by major events, but what if it can also be damaged by something much smaller? The words we don't use. From workplace jargon and acronyms to assumptions about what people already know, Vic explains how language can unintentionally exclude, confuse and alienate others. Whether you're leading a team, presenting to an audience or simply having everyday conversations, the way you communicate can either build trust or slowly erode it. Using relatable examples from business and everyday life, this short but thought-provoking episode is a reminder that clarity creates confidence, inclusion creates connection and trust grows when everyone feels part of the conversation.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  7. 9 Jun

    Introvert vs Extrovert: The Difference Most People Get Wrong

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of personality: the difference between introverts and extroverts. Drawing on the work of Carl Jung, Vic explains that being introverted or extroverted isn't about confidence, shyness or how much you enjoy people. It's about where you get your energy from and how you process your thoughts. Using simple, relatable examples, Vic unpacks why extroverts often think out loud while introverts prefer to reflect before they respond, and how misunderstanding these differences can create frustration in conversations, meetings and everyday life. Whether you're an introvert, an extrovert or somewhere in between, this episode will help you better understand yourself and the people around you. Because when we understand behaviour, we communicate better, build stronger relationships and create more positive outcomes for everyone.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  8. 26 May

    Becoming a Trusted Authority: Influence Without Drama with Julie Masters

    In Episode 60 of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Julie Masters for a powerful conversation on what it really means to have influence in today's world. With social media blurring the lines between popularity and authority, this episode cuts through the noise and brings the focus back to what actually drives behaviour. From fear-based influence to trusted authority, Julie shares the difference between getting attention and creating real impact. They explore the rise of the human brand, the power of intention, and how easily our behaviour is shaped by where we place our attention. This episode is a reminder that influence doesn't start with others; it starts with you, how you show up, the state you're in, and the intention you bring into every interaction.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Julie Masters has spent a career decoding influence. As a leading authority in the speaking world she has earned a reputation for launching and advising some of the worlds most respected speakers and thought leaders. Co-founder of ODE Management, the world's largest dedicated speaker management agency across the USA and Australia, she is now the Founder and CEO of Influence Nation, working with business leaders and organisations to become the voice of authority in their space. Clients include industry leading CEO's, entrepreneurs, speakers, best-selling authors and media personalities – the voices of which have reached millions of people globally through speaking, publishing and digital channels. Julie also hosts the iTunes Top 50 podcast Inside Influence, interviewing global thought leaders on the tools and mindsets to own your voice and then use it to drive an industry, a conversation, a movement or a nation. Having won numerous communications industry awards across the USA, Australia and Europe, as well as guest lecturing at universities including Oxford Brookes. Julie now regularly advises CEO's, entrepreneurs and executive teams on how to stand out in their marketplace by turning their expertise into influence. https://juliemasters.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jules.masters/ https://www.youtube.com/@juliemasterstv https://www.linkedin.com/in/julesmasters/ https://www.facebook.com/juliemastersofficial/

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What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.

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  • Creator
    Vic O'Farrell
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    69
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024
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    It Starts with YOU

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