How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok

Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Align with What They Need Before You Speak: RAISE Series Part 2

    Being right doesn’t make you influential. If you've ever walked away from a conversation wondering why your idea didn’t land, or worse, why someone went silent, you’re not alone. Today we’re talking about the A in RAISE: Align. This step is all about learning to shift your perspective before you speak so your message actually connects. This episode gets personal. I’ll share one moment I still cringe about years later and what I wish I’d done differently. If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone else’s reaction, this is for you. By the end, you’ll understand why 30 seconds of prep can change everything. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to align your message with what others actually care aboutWhat happens when you miss the moment to connectA simple mindset shift to avoid silence and create buy-in_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    14 min
  2. 10 FEB

    Recognize the Moment Before Silence Writes Your Story: RAISE Series Part 1

    People can't choose you if you're invisible. And when you're silent, people think you're satisfied. This is the first episode in my five-part RAISE framework series, and we’re starting with something most people completely overlook: the moment the stakes quietly shift. You can’t advocate for yourself if you don’t even recognize it’s time. I’ll share the exact moment I learned this the hard way and why recognizing these subtle shifts is the first step to building real influence at work. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize the moment when the stakes shiftWhy silence feels safer and how it sabotages youThe leadership habit that separates decision-makers from the rest_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    18 min
  3. 3 FEB

    Stop Waiting for Permission

    If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the next opportunity, this one’s for you. We don’t always realize how often we hold ourselves back, telling ourselves it’s not our role, we’re not ready, or we don’t want to look pushy. The problem? Silence gets mistaken for satisfaction. This episode is a wake-up call to notice the invisible rules you’ve absorbed and start challenging the ones that no longer serve you. I’m sharing how to move from observer to advocate, use curiosity as a powerful tool, and start showing up like someone who’s ready to lead. You don’t need a permission slip. You need a plan. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to spot the subtle ways you’re holding yourself backA reframing strategy to shift from polite silence to confident curiosityWhat to ask for in the next 72 hours to change how you’re seen_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min
  4. 27 JAN

    Rewriting Your Relationship with No

    Most of us hear no and take it personally. We shut down. We see it as the end of the road instead of the beginning of a conversation. But what if no could actually be a place to start? In this episode, I’m sharing how to shift the way you hear and respond to no so you can stop backing down and start getting curious. This shift will change how you negotiate, how you lead, and how you advocate for what you want. It’s time to get comfortable with resistance and reframe it as data, not defeat. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize the subtle forms of no and what to do nextQuestions to ask that keep the conversation going instead of shutting it downWhy curiosity is your best tool for navigating resistance_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min
  5. 20 JAN

    Are You Missing This Career Accelerator?

    You are not meant to do this alone. If you’ve been trying to grow your career by working harder, waiting your turn, or following the standard process, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. I’m sharing why the right people in your corner change everything, and how most of us wait too long or choose the wrong ones. It’s time to stop being passive and start building a career leverage sphere that helps you think bigger, see your blind spots, and move faster with clarity. This isn’t just mentorship. It’s strategy. And it’s up to you to make it happen. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to build your personal career leverage sphereThe real difference between a mentor, a coach, and a sponsorWhy choosing the right people (not just available ones) matters_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    23 min
  6. 13 JAN

    Confidence Isn’t the Starting Point; It’s the Outcome with Sarah Barnes-Humphrey

    You don’t need to feel ready to start. You just need to start. That’s exactly what Sarah Barnes-Humphrey did when her life and career imploded overnight. In this conversation, Sarah opens up about what it took to rebuild her confidence from scratch and how she used small steps, side hustles, and her own voice to get there. We talk about what it really means to be seen, and why self-worth isn’t something you wait to feel. It’s something you create. Today, Sarah is the host of the Blended podcast and the author of the #1 Amazon bestseller I Buried Her in a French Press. She’s built a platform rooted in advocacy, inclusion, and helping others feel seen, but none of it came easy. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to build self-worth when you don’t feel confident yetWhy you need more than one option and what it gives youHow to stop telling stories that dilute your valueConnect with Sarah: www.sarahbarneshumphrey.com www.linkedin.com/in/sarahbarneshumphrey _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    30 min
  7. 6 JAN

    How to Lead When Confidence Wanes

    If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need. In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more you understand that, the more prepared you’ll be to show up the way you want. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to separate confidence from competence when it matters mostWhat to do when your confidence dips mid-meetingA mindset shift that great negotiators use to stay grounded under pressure_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    24 min
  8. 30/12/2025

    Build Career Options Before You Need Them

    If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic?  Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next move but you. In this episode, I’m sharing a core negotiator mindset shift: build your BATNA before you need it. You’ll hear what a senior leader told me about how he evaluates his team’s preparedness, and why confidence doesn’t come from certainty. It comes from having real options. Your career isn't a job title. It’s a portfolio. Let’s talk about how to invest in it on purpose. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to build internal and external career options before you need themWhat it actually means to invest in your portfolioWhy options, not bluffing, are your source of true confidence_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min

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Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.