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"Candid conversations with everyday heroes"Heroes don't always come regaled in capes or fly through the air.Sometimes you could (and quite likely have) walked past one on the street and not even known.We hear so many stories about men behaving badly, but what about the men being brilliant?Join Andrew Pain as he finds and chats to these "everyday heroes", ordinary men who have done, and are doing extraordinary things.

  1. 5 NOV

    S1 E53 | The Men's Therapy Hub Launch and why more male therapists helps men |Chris Hemmings

    Chris Hemmings returns for the second time to this podcast, the second of only 2 guests to do so! Chris Hemmings is a therapist and coach who specialises in working with men. He’s the founder of Men’s Therapy Hub, a directory of male therapists for male clients. Before training to be a therapist he was a BBC journalist, writing and making documentaries about men, masculinity and mental health. He’s also the founder of M-Path, who go in to schools across the UK speaking to students about what it means to be a man. Key points of the episode: Why there is still a lack of positive stories about men.The shift in the "Overton" window, from "Men are the problem" to "Men have problems"... but when do we celebrate men?Why we need to stop victim blaming.The Men's therapy hub - what is it?The previous faults of therapy.The faults of the medical profession.How more men will come to therapy if they see themselves represented in the therapeutic space.A brilliant "fish" analogy about men in therapy."Change the model to fit men, not change men to fit the model"Why many men relish a challenge and some don't and a theory of why.The most common issues for men in therapy.The ultimate act of violence on the self.The future plan for the Men's Therapy Hub."Call In Your Masculine" Reach out to Chris here: www.menstherapyhub.co.uk Men’s Therapy Hub is on Instagram @menstherapyhub We’re also on Linkedin is you search Men’s Therapy Hub you should find it. Here is YouTube, though nothing is on it at time of publishing (but do check back!) https://www.youtube.com/@MensTherapyHub If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    47 min

  2. 22 OCT

    S1 E52 - How to build dynamic communities for men and why they matter | Matt Grisedale

    Matt Grisedale is a community builder driven by one simple belief: people are better together. He’s spent his career bringing individuals, organizations, and ideas into harmony — creating spaces where collaboration feels natural and everyone has a voice. With a gift for connection and a heart for impact, Matt transforms gatherings into movements and conversations into lasting change. His work reminds us that strong communities don’t just happen — they’re built, one relationship at a time. Key points of the episode: The culture he was pulled into 4 years ago. (and why that was a great thing)"The way men are seen is the same, but the way they are has changed"How masculinity is likely more complex than we have been led to believe.How the community started and the massive team it serves.The commitment- never ask "Are you ok" unless you really mean it.The service he offers, and what goes on at these incredible groups.The simple and profound bottom line.His recommendations on community building.A pithy ending message.Reach out on www.mattgrisedale.com or Search "Matt Grisedale" on Linked In If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    37 min

  3. 8 OCT

    S1 E51 - Why acrimonious parental separation is bad for the kids and how to prevent it | James Hayhurst

    James is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of the Parents Promise.  Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation. In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations the Parents Promise was launched. Backed by over 20 organisations ranging from the likes of the children’s mental health charity Place2Be to Relate to Black Mums Upfront the aim of the Alliance is to effect important cultural change around separation in the UK and beyond. In January 2023 the Alliance launched a ground-breaking HR initiative encouraging a number of large UK corporations including Tesco, ASDA, Natwest and Unilever to sign up to recognise separation as a ‘life event’.  In 2025 he turned his focus to the subject of separation and schools and the Parents Promise Education Initiative launched in September. As for James’s ‘day job’ he has 20 years experience in marketing and PR and has worked ‘both sides of the fence’ as agency leader and client.  In his spare time James is a keen runner, bourgeoning autism awareness activist and usually wrapped tightly around the fingers of his three little girls. Key points of the episode: The Parents Promise. What is it?What happens when the relationship starts to slip.The damage that conflict between parents does to children.Family courts and their problems and biases.The problem with court orders.The "Mrs. Doubtfire" comparison.The complete blindspot in society about seperation and damage.Reach out for more info:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-hayhurst-59a5a15 https://theparentspromise.org.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    46 min

  4. 24 SEPT

    S1 E50 - How to have meaningful conversations with the men you're worried about | Ryan Parke

    Ryan Parke is The Men's Coach, a TEDx and international, award-winning public speaker. In 2019, the most successful man Ryan personally knew, died by suicide. Bewildered and devastated by his death, Ryan was sparked into undergoing detailed research on men’s health.   Ryan’s knowledge and ability, to present complexity in an accessible way, stands him out as a speaker and particularly on the subject of testosterone, Ryan is challenging outdated yet popular opinion. In so doing, he is opening up a whole new narrative in how we approach male mental and physical health. Ryan works with companies and charities that want to improve mental health for men by taking an evidence-based approach. His 90-day coaching programme helps men to overcome depression, beat procrastination and achieve their life goals.  Key points of the episode: Welcoming Ryan back for a second time - a first on Men on ShowWhat Andrew rates so highly about Mens work.The optimal environment to reach out to someone you are concerned about.The hormones that are key in male mental health.A three step framework for conversation.The empowering story that Andrew shares.How the framework works even on young boys.How his teachings became a book, and who, perhaps surprisingly it is aimed at.A fascinating and telling experiment.The most important factor in testosterone production.Healthy diet shifts.His new book coming out approx November 2025 Reach out to Ryan on www.themenscoach.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    51 min

  5. 10 SEPT

    S1 E49- Boys don't need fixing, but a failing system does | James Searjeant- Head Teacher

    James Searjeant is an experienced educator and advocate for inclusive education, currently serving as a primary and nursery headteacher in South East London. James actively contributes to national discussions on SEND, curriculum, assessment and accountability, calling for systems that better reflect the progress and achievements of all pupils. He is dedicated to developing inclusive and equitable approaches that support every learner to thrive. Key points of the episode: Who inspired him on the way up.How he lived with anxiety all his life and how he developed a "quiet resilience"His thoughts on a difficult and key educational transition.How we are using tools of the last century and how it needs to change,His thoughts on phones and social media.The poor policies behind seeming good and excellent official reviews.A message of hope for men and boys. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    45 min

  6. 9 JUL

    S1 E48 - Shaun Flores - How Porn & Body Shame Are Destroying Young Men

    Shaun Flores is a mental health advocate, public speaker, and five-time TEDx speaker using his voice to challenge stigma around OCD, masculinity, and identity. After a late diagnosis of OCD at 27, Shaun rebuilt his life through therapy, storytelling, and advocacy sharing his journey to help others find clarity, language, and resilience. His talks go beyond awareness and offer real tools for navigating shame, neurodiversity, and emotional health especially for young men and marginalised communities. Shaun has delivered sessions with the NHS, Panasonic, Papa John’s, and schools across the UK. He’s the founder of The Flores Effect™ and Rejection Rehab™, programmes built to help people speak from the soul not the script. His story has been featured in BBC, Channel 4, Metro UK, and Men’s Health. Whether he’s leading a workshop, breaking down OCD myths, or unpacking the “performance of normal,” Shaun’s mission is simple: to leave the world better than he found it one conversation at a time. Key points of the episode: ** WELCOMING A 4 TIMES TED TALK SPEAKER**How porn and it's fallout negative body image are damaging society.His inspirations and influences growing up- a long list!How the death of his father deeply affected him.How he did not get the support he needed, and neither did his Mum....who had her own health issues as well.The values his Aunt taught him (as a man)How he got into the modelling industry.His thoughts on the modelling industry.The problem of "Money over Mental Health"The surprising percentage of men that have a negative body image, - not only women. The concept of "Comparisonitis"The surgery some men have had to look "good"His thoughts on online porn.The REAL average penis size.The false correlation between penis size and partner.How easy access to unrealistic porn is damaging.Towards the beginning of a possible solution.Reach out to Shaun on: seanflores1994@gmail.com Linked in and Insta @shaunflores If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    49 min

  7. 14 MAY

    S1 E47 Harun Rabbani -When Men Break Down: Why It’s the Beginning, Not the End

    Harun Rabbani is a serial entrepreneur, mentor, and retreat leader who has spent over two decades helping high-performing individuals recover from burnout, reconnect with purpose, and lead with renewed clarity. After navigating the emotional toll of building multiple businesses while hiding behind a mask of success, Harun experienced a personal breakdown that became the catalyst for profound transformation. Today, he works closely with leading experts — including embodiment teacher Nelia Freitas and forensic psychiatrist Dr Ali Ajaz — to create powerful healing spaces for men and women seeking a deep reset, especially those with ADHD and other forms of neurodiversity. Harun’s work blends science, spirituality, and leadership — with one clear message: Your breakdown isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your true leadership. Key Points of the Interview How burnout is misunderstood.His burnout experience and what he learned from it.Signs of burnout.Our "male intuition" and how we ignore it........and why we do it.Relationships, and how to save them!Nature or Nurture? The ongoing debate.His incredible retreats and what happens on them.How as human beings we hold onto emotions and we need to let them go.Reach out and get a free gift (navigating ADHD) on To contact him - www.harunrabbani.com If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    50 min

  8. 30 APR

    S1 E46 | How to nurture boys into healthy, young men, without banning social media!

    From his website: In 2013, following many years of working with local young people through martial arts Richard Pomfrett created ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’. His vision was to help educate and protect as many young people as possible on the subjects of bullying and staying safe in their community. It was by starting off working closely with a handful of local schools, that gave him the opportunity to develop and create such unique and effective programmes for both. Since 2013 Richard’s passion for his work as pushed him to continually evolve and shape ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’ to fit the needs of young people today. It is through these specialised and unique sessions, that we aim to educate as many young people as possible. Raising awareness and passing on vital skills and knowledge at key stages in their development and helping prevent them from becoming part of the future dire statistics. Reach out on thestaysafeinitiative.org.uk www.boyz-2-men.org.uk Key points of the episode: His growing up experiences and influences.How he loves what he does, working with young people in schools, and how contrasting his school experience was.How some school situations still to some degree affect him now.How martial arts became a part of his life.The anti-bullying and peer mentorship programmes he runs in schools.How Andrew Tate and so much more have influenced teenage boys.The age that boys begin to be influenced by social media.The biggest online influence problems.The impact of the 2025 series "Adolescence"How the "Incel" movement and Tate are not connected at all.The best time to chat with your kids about online influences/HIs thoughts on the Australian Social Media ban If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out... www.andrewpain.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

    55 min
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"Candid conversations with everyday heroes"Heroes don't always come regaled in capes or fly through the air.Sometimes you could (and quite likely have) walked past one on the street and not even known.We hear so many stories about men behaving badly, but what about the men being brilliant?Join Andrew Pain as he finds and chats to these "everyday heroes", ordinary men who have done, and are doing extraordinary things.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Pain
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    53
  • Rating
    Explicit
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