Men, This Way

Bryan Reeves & Tait Arend
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Men, This Way

Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.

  1. 134. Why Life Sucks For Successful Men and What To Do About It

    7 NOV

    134. Why Life Sucks For Successful Men and What To Do About It

    "I'm not against pornography; however, if you're using it to distract yourself or to numb the pain you're experiencing, it might be serving as an escape from having tough conversations" .- Bryan Reeves

    1h 9m
  2. 133. How To Stop Fighting and Create a Securely Attached Relationship Instead w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin

    24 OCT

    133. How To Stop Fighting and Create a Securely Attached Relationship Instead w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin

    "They have to organize. if we're organized where the kids come first, well, the couple is dead, long live the kids, they go away and bye. Because we lost that loving feeling, we never nurtured it. We weren't important enough to maintain." - Dr. Stan Tatkin Today on Men, This Way: 00:00 Introduction 01:48 PACT Method and Psychobiological Approach 02:22 Personal Reflections on Dr. Tatkin's Work 04:40 Setting Up the Discussion on Relationships 05:09 Defining Secure Functioning Relationships 05:44 Importance of Teamwork in Relationships 06:43 Challenges in Relationships and Power Dynamics 09:35 Explanation of Attachment Styles: Anchors, Waves, Islands 10:07 The Impact of Childhood on Relationship Dynamics 11:55 Clinging and Distancing in Relationships 13:16 Insights into Attachment from Studies 13:30 Personal Narratives and Their Impact on Perception 14:32 Neglect and Its Subtle Impact 15:32 Resentment from Childhood Expectations 16:04 The Metaphor of "The Bite that Fits the Wound" 17:04 The Role of Anger in Insecure Attachments 18:20 Strategies for Secure Functioning 19:20 Adapting to Partner's Needs and Insecurities 20:11 Understanding Attachment and Its Effects on Relationships 22:38 Responsibility in Relationship Dynamics 23:31 Importance of Understanding Danger and Care in Relationships 26:14 The Importance of Shared Vision in Maintaining Relationships 27:21 Designing Relationships Intentionally 28:21 Prioritizing Relationships Over Other Aspects of Life 31:04 Teamwork and Interdependency in Relationships 31:56 Role of Partners in Regulating Each Other's Nervous Systems 34:21 The Practical Application of Co-regulation Techniques 38:28 The Unreliability of Narratives in Understanding Relationships 40:05 The Flaws of Memory and Perception in Communication 41:03 The Challenge of Modeling Successful Relationships 43:02 Strategies for Better Relationship Dynamics 44:12 The Need for Intentionality in Relationships 46:05 The Impact of Stress on Relationship Dynamics 49:05 The Necessity of Protective Measures in Relationships 50:09 The Importance of Commitment and Intention in Relationships 52:22 The Timeframe for Developing Strong Relationship Skills 54:17 The Role of Purpose and Principle in Relationship Longevity 55:06 Establishing and Adhering to Relationship Principles 56:07 Vision and Future Planning in Relationships 57:19 Deciding When to Persist or Let Go in Relationships 59:21 The Social Contracts That Define Personal Relationships 61:02 The Mutual Benefits of a Committed Relationship 64:07 The Hopeful Aspect of Engaging in Relationship Work 66:30 Dr. Tatkin's New Publications and Future Projects 67:44 Closing Thoughts and Reflections on Relationship Dynamics Takeaways from this episode: The Importance of Secure Functioning in Relationships.The Impact of Attachment Styles.Role of Co-regulationCommunication Strategies Under StressThe Necessity of Intentionality and Planning in RelationshipsNavigating Relationship Challenges with Emotional IntelligenceThe Psychological Impact of NeglectThe Influence of Past Trauma on Current RelationshipsThe Concept of Mutual Support and TeamworkShared Vision and Purpose Transform Your Life – Join Elevate  Sign up here! Connect with Bryan & Tait: Website: bryanreeves.com Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com  Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin: Website: thepactinstitute.comBuy the book: In Each Other's CareTherapy with Dr.Tatkin: Couples therapySign up: RetreatInstagram: @drstantatkin  This show is produced by Synchro Social

    1h 8m
  3. 132. Emotional Regulation: The (Vital) Role of Parents w/ Brooke Weinstein - PART II

    10 OCT

    132. Emotional Regulation: The (Vital) Role of Parents w/ Brooke Weinstein - PART II

    "I constantly remind parents to ask their children how they feel and to always respond with 'thank you for sharing.' This simple practice can transform relationships.” -Brooke Weinstein Today on Men, This Way: 02:02 Welcome & Introduction. 02:32 Acknowledging Past Discussions. 03:08 Expertise in Sensory and Emotional Regulation. 03:28 The Importance of Parental Emotional Regulation. 03:40Understanding Co-Regulation. 05:38 Influence of Parental Behavior on Children. 07:50 Addressing Challenges of Premature Birth. 10:17 Developmental Stages and Parenting Approaches. 18:16 Discussing Boundaries in Parenting. 19:28 Early Childhood Development and Setting Boundaries. 27:48 Challenges with Social Transitions and Sensory Overload. 31:35 Transition to Adolescence. 38:25 Medication and Support for Sensory Issues. 42:35 Adolescent Social Interactions and Emotional Regulation. 47:30 Preparing for the Social World in Adolescence. 53:50 Supporting Adolescents Through Challenges. 56:19 Addressing Anxiety and Depression in Young Adults. Takeaways from this episode: We're never truly ready for parenting.Co-regulation is essential for emotional health.Understanding developmental stages helps parents support their children.Birth experiences can significantly impact a child's development.Emotional regulation starts with the parents.Setting boundaries is crucial for children's growth.Children need to express their feelings openly.Independence is built through gradual support from parents.ADHD symptoms can overlap with sensory regulation issues.Open communication is vital for addressing anxiety and depression in teens. Transform Your Life – Join Elevate  Sign up here! Connect with Bryan & Tait: Website: bryanreeves.com Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com  Connect with Dr. Brooke: Website: drbrookeweinstein.comInstagram: @brookeweinstPodcast: Thrive Like a ParentYoutube: Dr. Brooke Weinstein This show is produced by Synchro Social

    1h 3m
  4. 131. Life Will Drag You To Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

    3 OCT

    131. Life Will Drag You To Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

    I’ve got a profound episode for you today. My guest is Bill Plotkin, one of the most genius and inspired visionaries of our time that you’ve likely never heard of. He’s the author of a few books that have rocked my world, most notably, Nature and The Human Soul. When I first read Nature and The Human Soul some years ago, I felt like I’d discovered a sacred tablet with the codes to living every stage of life well. Through his work spanning 5 decades as a depth psychologist, wilderness guide, and founder of western Colorado’s Animas Valley Institute, Bill has led thousands of women and men through nature-based initiatory rites-of-passage, and from his work he HAS brought back a vigorously detailed map of the stages of human development, from birth to death, including the specific tasks that are required for someone to complete if they are to psychologically progress from one developmental stage to the next, like from late adolescence to early adulthood. Building on Carl Jung’s work, and the work of countless other brilliant hearts and minds spanning a myriad of human cultures, when I read Bill’s work, I understand more clearly the adventure of my life, the story arcs that have played out, the excruciating bottoms I’ve hit at critical and pivotal moments of my life, and what the real tasks of the different stages of life are that, if I don’t accomplish those tasks, then I don’t truly grow or evolve, even though my body may age.  A major theme he explores in his work, which we talk about in this episode, is the overwhelming lack of true adults in the modern world, and the state of humanity as being currently made up largely of people stuck in adolescent ways of thinking, being, and doing.  We also talk about a critical phase of the life journey, The Journey of Soul Initiation, an experience undertaken between adolescence and adulthood, and a prerequisite for any human to step into true adulthood, and sadly a journey our culture does not support, and in fact actively discourages. Soooo much to explore here. Bill is one of my beloved elders and teachers, I encourage you to listen to this entire episode, get Bill’s books. If you have or want kids, Bill’s work can help you understand what your own children need to experience at different stages of development, if they are to become truly healthy adults. So let’s get going. I start off our conversation with a personal story of something that happened to me after I got out of the military, and we take off from there into a profound conversation, which is still but a short stroll on the tippy top of the massive iceberg that is his life’s work.  Near the end, before he gives us insight into how you can move further in the direction of your own journey of soul initiation, I ask Bill whether he has hope for humanity, given culture’s resistance to creating mature adults. His answer will surprise you, maybe frighten you. He does have hope, but not in the way you might think. So, definitely stay tuned all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 👉 https://www.animas.org

    1h 19m
  5. 130. The Power of Connection (Men Don’t Know What They’re Missing) w/ Owen Marcus

    26 SEPT

    130. The Power of Connection (Men Don’t Know What They’re Missing) w/ Owen Marcus

    "We're hardwired not just for survival but for connection. We need different types of bonds, like intimate ones with partners. Many of us struggle because we didn’t experience enough secure attachment as children." - Owen Marcus Today on Men, This Way: 00:00 Welcome & Introduction 01:07 Background and Everyman  02:20 Early Challenges with Dyslexia and Asperger's  03:25 Realizations and Growth  04:23 Motivation to Start Men's Work  05:00 The Importance of Feeling in Relationships  08:33 Introducing Somatics and Co-regulation  11:12 Discussing Safety and Vulnerability  13:16 Creating Safe Spaces in Men's Groups  14:11 Deepening Connections Through Vulnerability  16:17 The Rock Formula: Relax, Open, Connect  18:35 The Impact of Constant Stress on Relationships and Health  22:48 Proactive Approaches to Men's Mental Health  25:44 The Process of Embracing Change and New Practices 28:47 The Role of Community and Connection in Men's Work  33:15 Finding and Creating Men's Groups  37:22 Challenges of Emotional Expression in High-Stakes Professions  40:17 Somatic Practices and Mindfulness  43:14 Patterns in Men's Emotional Growth and Resistance 47:13 The Importance of Language in Expressing Emotions 50:23 Current Personal Challenges and Insights  52:54 The Future of Men's Work and Community Growth 55:49 Advice for Women Supporting Men's Emotional Growth  59:24 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation Connect with Bryan & Tait: Website: bryanreeves.com Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com  Join Elevate: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate  Connect with Owen Marcus: Website: owenmarcus.comInstagram: @owenmarcus This show is produced by Synchro Social

    1h 7m
  6. 129. The Present Man: Why Women Crave It w/ Allana Pratt

    19 SEPT

    129. The Present Man: Why Women Crave It w/ Allana Pratt

    I’m talking today with my dear friend, intimacy coach and expert, and just all around lovely human being, Allana Pratt. We’re talking about Presence … whatever does that mean! So many of us men may get that feedback from an intimate partner … “I just don’t feel your presence” …or “I don’t feel connected to you.” Or … “It’s like you’re not really here.” … and we have no idea what they’re talking about because ... "I’m right here!!!!" So, I invited Alanna on to explore presence … from a woman’s perspective. Allana's new online course for singles, “Becoming The One” in which she helps show you how to stop looking for the one and learn instead how to BECOME the one; BECOME the love you are looking for. 👉 Becoming The One Intro Course https://allanapratt.com/becomeintro Use discount code: BRYAN to get it FREE (100% discount) Allana drops all kinds of wisdom nuggets and insights in this episode so … Take a deep breath, and dive into presence with us, in this episode of Men, This Way … Alright … Let’s dive ...

    1h 9m
  7. 128. The Silent Struggles of Successful Men

    12 SEPT

    128. The Silent Struggles of Successful Men

    “I didn't believe my stories or experiences had value, so I lacked confidence. But being in this group, getting feedback, and realizing that what I share brings value, joy, and insight has filled me with confidence. - Jeff Wright -Elevate Program 2024 Participant. "My confidence comes from knowing I have a trustable brotherhood to rely on, something I never had before." - Scott Silvi - Elevate Program 2024 Participant. “You can bring anything—your suffering, questions, or sadness—and you'll get caring feedback without anyone trying to fix you.” - Jamie Bruffey - Elevate Program 2024 Participant.

    1h 14m
  8. 127. What Men Really Want (And What's in The Way)

    5 SEPT

    127. What Men Really Want (And What's in The Way)

    I’ve got a special episode for you today … if you’ve been listening this year, you know that after 4 years of doing this podcast I’ve invited my long-time childhood best-friend of 40 years, Tait, … to co-host the podcast with me. And the last 10 or so episodes we’ve been doing just that …  Tait is also my business partner and co-facilitator for the last 4 years in the men’s work we’ve been hosting for men all over the world. He and I together have stewarded around 70 men through our two immersive coaching programs, our year-long ELEVATE Men’s Coaching Adventure, and Elevate Your Relationship, our 6-month live relationship coaching program for men. Today, we take a step back, put him back in the guest role, and talk about the journey of our friendship, the ways men show up for each other, and the ways we often don’t know how … like accountability we tend to suck at really holding each other accountable … we also talk about what men really want in life, and what typically stands in our way of having it and fully experiencing the joy of it. We revisit the origins of our map, The 5 Pillars of a Thriving Man, … how that map came to us one fateful weekend after a life-changing decision we’d each made for ourselves … and we do a little dive into each pillar …  If you’re inspired or intrigued or this just stirs up something for you, consider joining us for our next ELEVATE men coaching adventure, where we work with men for an entire year to elevate their lives in the ways that are most meaningful to them … Learn more about that at https://bryanreeves.com/elevate This episode drops all kinds of wisdom nuggets and insights that could absolutely be life-changing for you, So, take a deep breath, and stay present with us, all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way … Alright … Let’s dive …

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Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.

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  • Creator
    Bryan Reeves & Tait Arend
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2024
  • Episodes
    135
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Bryan Reeves
  • Show Website
    Men, This Way

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