Men, This Way

Bryan Reeves & Tait Arend
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Men, This Way

Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.

  1. 138. The Absent Father Wound w/ Dr. Warren Farrell

    2 DAYS AGO

    138. The Absent Father Wound w/ Dr. Warren Farrell

    "Historically speaking, when we heard criticism, it was from a potential enemy, so it was biologically natural to get up our defenses.That was really functional for survival. It's just dysfunctional for love”.- Dr. Warren Farrell

    1h 9m
  2. 137. The Manhood Crisis (Why So Many Men Feel Lost)

    12 DEC

    137. The Manhood Crisis (Why So Many Men Feel Lost)

    In this episode I explore the themes of manhood and the significance of rites of passage in a man's life. I reflect on my personal experiences and my own lack of intentional initiation into manhood, which continues to haunt many men today. I dive into the importance of having wise elders to guide men through their journeys and the impact of not having these figures in our lives. ELEVATE 2025: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate Takeaways Many men have never undergone a true rite of passage.The absence of initiation can lead to feelings of inadequacy.Rites of passage involve separation, threshold, and return.Men often seek validation from women, which is unsustainable.Elder support is crucial for personal growth and maturity.Pseudo initiations do not provide the same benefits as true rites of passage.Adolescence can persist into adulthood without proper guidance.Mature men take responsibility for their impact on others.Intimate relationships can become containers for ongoing initiation.The journey of manhood is often lonely without support. Chapters 00:00 The Journey of Manhood and Initiation 20:07 The Importance of Rites of Passage 26:01 Seeking Support and Guidance in Manhood

    30 min
  3. 136. The Myth of Polarization (We're All Living It) w/ Michael Meade

    5 DEC

    136. The Myth of Polarization (We're All Living It) w/ Michael Meade

    "Many of us spin our wheels, blame others because we can't find our way out. But the work-this soul work-is about digging deep, finding that genius within." - Michael Mead

    1h 15m
  4. 135. Healing The Mother Wound w/ John Lee

    21 NOV

    135. Healing The Mother Wound w/ John Lee

    The mother wound is wanting to be saved by someone, some thing, some process outside yourself, and it's not going to happen.” - John Lee

    47 min
  5. 134. Why Life Sucks For Successful Men and What To Do About It

    7 NOV

    134. Why Life Sucks For Successful Men and What To Do About It

    "I'm not against pornography; however, if you're using it to distract yourself or to numb the pain you're experiencing, it might be serving as an escape from having tough conversations" .- Bryan Reeves

    1h 8m
  6. 133. How To Stop Fighting and Create a Securely Attached Relationship Instead w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin

    24 OCT

    133. How To Stop Fighting and Create a Securely Attached Relationship Instead w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin

    "They have to organize. if we're organized where the kids come first, well, the couple is dead, long live the kids, they go away and bye. Because we lost that loving feeling, we never nurtured it. We weren't important enough to maintain." - Dr. Stan Tatkin Today on Men, This Way: 00:00 Introduction 01:48 PACT Method and Psychobiological Approach 02:22 Personal Reflections on Dr. Tatkin's Work 04:40 Setting Up the Discussion on Relationships 05:09 Defining Secure Functioning Relationships 05:44 Importance of Teamwork in Relationships 06:43 Challenges in Relationships and Power Dynamics 09:35 Explanation of Attachment Styles: Anchors, Waves, Islands 10:07 The Impact of Childhood on Relationship Dynamics 11:55 Clinging and Distancing in Relationships 13:16 Insights into Attachment from Studies 13:30 Personal Narratives and Their Impact on Perception 14:32 Neglect and Its Subtle Impact 15:32 Resentment from Childhood Expectations 16:04 The Metaphor of "The Bite that Fits the Wound" 17:04 The Role of Anger in Insecure Attachments 18:20 Strategies for Secure Functioning 19:20 Adapting to Partner's Needs and Insecurities 20:11 Understanding Attachment and Its Effects on Relationships 22:38 Responsibility in Relationship Dynamics 23:31 Importance of Understanding Danger and Care in Relationships 26:14 The Importance of Shared Vision in Maintaining Relationships 27:21 Designing Relationships Intentionally 28:21 Prioritizing Relationships Over Other Aspects of Life 31:04 Teamwork and Interdependency in Relationships 31:56 Role of Partners in Regulating Each Other's Nervous Systems 34:21 The Practical Application of Co-regulation Techniques 38:28 The Unreliability of Narratives in Understanding Relationships 40:05 The Flaws of Memory and Perception in Communication 41:03 The Challenge of Modeling Successful Relationships 43:02 Strategies for Better Relationship Dynamics 44:12 The Need for Intentionality in Relationships 46:05 The Impact of Stress on Relationship Dynamics 49:05 The Necessity of Protective Measures in Relationships 50:09 The Importance of Commitment and Intention in Relationships 52:22 The Timeframe for Developing Strong Relationship Skills 54:17 The Role of Purpose and Principle in Relationship Longevity 55:06 Establishing and Adhering to Relationship Principles 56:07 Vision and Future Planning in Relationships 57:19 Deciding When to Persist or Let Go in Relationships 59:21 The Social Contracts That Define Personal Relationships 61:02 The Mutual Benefits of a Committed Relationship 64:07 The Hopeful Aspect of Engaging in Relationship Work 66:30 Dr. Tatkin's New Publications and Future Projects 67:44 Closing Thoughts and Reflections on Relationship Dynamics Takeaways from this episode: The Importance of Secure Functioning in Relationships.The Impact of Attachment Styles.Role of Co-regulationCommunication Strategies Under StressThe Necessity of Intentionality and Planning in RelationshipsNavigating Relationship Challenges with Emotional IntelligenceThe Psychological Impact of NeglectThe Influence of Past Trauma on Current RelationshipsThe Concept of Mutual Support and TeamworkShared Vision and Purpose Transform Your Life – Join Elevate  Sign up here! Connect with Bryan & Tait: Website: bryanreeves.com Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com  Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin: Website: thepactinstitute.comBuy the book: In Each Other's CareTherapy with Dr.Tatkin: Couples therapySign up: RetreatInstagram: @drstantatkin  This show is produced by Synchro Social

    1h 8m
  7. 132. Emotional Regulation: The (Vital) Role of Parents w/ Brooke Weinstein - PART II

    10 OCT

    132. Emotional Regulation: The (Vital) Role of Parents w/ Brooke Weinstein - PART II

    "I constantly remind parents to ask their children how they feel and to always respond with 'thank you for sharing.' This simple practice can transform relationships.” -Brooke Weinstein Today on Men, This Way: 02:02 Welcome & Introduction. 02:32 Acknowledging Past Discussions. 03:08 Expertise in Sensory and Emotional Regulation. 03:28 The Importance of Parental Emotional Regulation. 03:40Understanding Co-Regulation. 05:38 Influence of Parental Behavior on Children. 07:50 Addressing Challenges of Premature Birth. 10:17 Developmental Stages and Parenting Approaches. 18:16 Discussing Boundaries in Parenting. 19:28 Early Childhood Development and Setting Boundaries. 27:48 Challenges with Social Transitions and Sensory Overload. 31:35 Transition to Adolescence. 38:25 Medication and Support for Sensory Issues. 42:35 Adolescent Social Interactions and Emotional Regulation. 47:30 Preparing for the Social World in Adolescence. 53:50 Supporting Adolescents Through Challenges. 56:19 Addressing Anxiety and Depression in Young Adults. Takeaways from this episode: We're never truly ready for parenting.Co-regulation is essential for emotional health.Understanding developmental stages helps parents support their children.Birth experiences can significantly impact a child's development.Emotional regulation starts with the parents.Setting boundaries is crucial for children's growth.Children need to express their feelings openly.Independence is built through gradual support from parents.ADHD symptoms can overlap with sensory regulation issues.Open communication is vital for addressing anxiety and depression in teens. Transform Your Life – Join Elevate  Sign up here! Connect with Bryan & Tait: Website: bryanreeves.com Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com  Connect with Dr. Brooke: Website: drbrookeweinstein.comInstagram: @brookeweinstPodcast: Thrive Like a ParentYoutube: Dr. Brooke Weinstein This show is produced by Synchro Social

    1h 3m
  8. 131. Life Will Drag You To Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

    3 OCT

    131. Life Will Drag You To Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

    I’ve got a profound episode for you today. My guest is Bill Plotkin, one of the most genius and inspired visionaries of our time that you’ve likely never heard of. He’s the author of a few books that have rocked my world, most notably, Nature and The Human Soul. When I first read Nature and The Human Soul some years ago, I felt like I’d discovered a sacred tablet with the codes to living every stage of life well. Through his work spanning 5 decades as a depth psychologist, wilderness guide, and founder of western Colorado’s Animas Valley Institute, Bill has led thousands of women and men through nature-based initiatory rites-of-passage, and from his work he HAS brought back a vigorously detailed map of the stages of human development, from birth to death, including the specific tasks that are required for someone to complete if they are to psychologically progress from one developmental stage to the next, like from late adolescence to early adulthood. Building on Carl Jung’s work, and the work of countless other brilliant hearts and minds spanning a myriad of human cultures, when I read Bill’s work, I understand more clearly the adventure of my life, the story arcs that have played out, the excruciating bottoms I’ve hit at critical and pivotal moments of my life, and what the real tasks of the different stages of life are that, if I don’t accomplish those tasks, then I don’t truly grow or evolve, even though my body may age.  A major theme he explores in his work, which we talk about in this episode, is the overwhelming lack of true adults in the modern world, and the state of humanity as being currently made up largely of people stuck in adolescent ways of thinking, being, and doing.  We also talk about a critical phase of the life journey, The Journey of Soul Initiation, an experience undertaken between adolescence and adulthood, and a prerequisite for any human to step into true adulthood, and sadly a journey our culture does not support, and in fact actively discourages. Soooo much to explore here. Bill is one of my beloved elders and teachers, I encourage you to listen to this entire episode, get Bill’s books. If you have or want kids, Bill’s work can help you understand what your own children need to experience at different stages of development, if they are to become truly healthy adults. So let’s get going. I start off our conversation with a personal story of something that happened to me after I got out of the military, and we take off from there into a profound conversation, which is still but a short stroll on the tippy top of the massive iceberg that is his life’s work.  Near the end, before he gives us insight into how you can move further in the direction of your own journey of soul initiation, I ask Bill whether he has hope for humanity, given culture’s resistance to creating mature adults. His answer will surprise you, maybe frighten you. He does have hope, but not in the way you might think. So, definitely stay tuned all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way … 👉 https://www.animas.org

    1h 19m
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Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.

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  • Creator
    Bryan Reeves & Tait Arend
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2024
  • Episodes
    139
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Bryan Reeves
  • Show Website
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