Permission to Evolve

Brandon Thielk and Holly Deschenes
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We all want to grow, but sometimes we get stuck. On this podcast, we delve into the areas of our lives where we feel blocked, explore the limiting beliefs holding us back, and uncover the "old selves" we need to let go of to make way for our evolved future. Join us as we navigate the uncomfortable process of self-discovery, challenge our assumptions, and ultimately grant ourselves "permission to evolve" into the best versions of ourselves. Listen now and start your journey of personal and professional growth.

  1. 5 days ago

    Episode 70: Ask Me Anything: What’s Actually “Yours” in Conflict and Why Every Epiphany Creates a New Rut

    In episode 70 of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes do an Ask Me Anything where Brandon answers questions on ownership versus other people’s issues, explaining that triggers are “your work” and the goal is returning to neutral detachment, sometimes with space, inner processing, and occasional courageous conversations. He discusses how challenging relationships can reveal unresolved wounds linked to caregivers, how self-abandonment stems from seeking approval and avoiding guilt/shame, and why healthier dynamics require honoring yourself and letting others carry the weight of their expectations. Brandon unpacks the idea that each epiphany creates a new “rut” via expansion–contraction and mental reorganization, then explains non-duality as integrating opposites into heart-centered balance. He also shares travel plans to New York, evolving long-term plans, his favorite Miami restaurant, and how awakening felt like a gradual stripping away into presence and trust. 00:00 Welcome and AMA Setup 00:58 Owning Your Stuff 10:14 Epiphanies and Ruts 12:49 Non Duality Explained 18:57 Travel Plans New York 20:41 Living in New York 22:21 Why We Self Abandon 28:48 First Awakening Moments 41:17 Favorite Restaurant Story 43:24 Where to Find Brandon 45:06 Final Wrap Up 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://substack.com/@brandonthielk1 https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    46 min

  2. 22 Jun

    Episode 69: Permission to Be Happy Now

    Why the “Other Shoe” Fear Keeps You Stuck (and How to Break It) In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to be happy now,” especially for driven people who delay happiness until goals are achieved. Brandon explains how gratitude, presence, and process-oriented thinking reduce resistance and help reframe challenges as growth, while automatic protective “programs” and unresolved past wounds fuel negativity, inflated expectations, and the anxiety that “the other shoe will drop.” Holly asks about memento mori, and Brandon says remembering death can broaden perspective, build courage, and counter a “someday” mindset. They discuss emotional maturity as stable emotions (contentment rather than dramatic highs/lows), using setbacks as data, detaching worth from outcomes, and healing past experiences through perspective shifts. Brandon shares how to connect via brandonthielk.com for a free strategy session, his newsletter, and social channels. 00:00 Welcome and Hosts 00:10 Permission to Be Happy 02:24 Memento Mori Mindset 04:51 Gratitude and Alignment 08:34 Best Is Now 10:35 Desires and Wounds 12:29 Challenges as Growth 18:28 Other Shoe Anxiety 29:29 Expectations and Reality 38:49 Stable Happiness Defined 42:50 Healing Past Emotions 47:27 Key Takeaways 50:37 Where to Find Brandon 51:47 Closing Goodbye 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/ https://substack.com/@brandonthielk1

    52 min

  3. 15 Jun

    Episode 68: Permission to Make it Up

    Everyone’s Making It Up—So What’s Stopping You? Permission to Evolve on Creativity, Ego, and Confidence In this episode of Permission to Evolve, Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to make it up,” arguing that many societal norms and personal habits are inherited programming that can limit creativity and fulfillment. Using the “ham ends” story and examples like Bezos, Musk, and Apple’s “Think Different,” they discuss how innovation comes from seeing beyond the handbook, risking social judgment, and treating life as trial-and-error rather than identity-driven success or failure. Brandon connects creativity to solution-mindedness, mastery, and leadership, emphasizing deprogramming, surrendering ego, and holding space for others in coaching by staying present and adaptable. They highlight reconnecting with childlike play, remodeling values and structures, and pursuing aligned desires for inner peace, then share ways to connect with Brandon via a free strategy session, newsletter, social channels, and Substack. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:11 Deprogramming Old Norms 01:50 Courage to Stand Out 05:18 Innovation and Making It Up 11:59 Solution Mindset and Mastery 17:49 Getting Started Beyond the Lines 26:22 Ego Surrender and Presence 33:51 Client Breakthrough Stories 38:29 Key Takeaways and Remodeling Life 44:57 Where to Find Brandon 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://substack.com/@brandonthielk1?r=8jd80n&utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    47 min

  4. 8 Jun

    Episode 67: Permission to Actually Try

    On Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to actually try” through Holly’s recap of Unbound Gravel, a premier gravel event in Emporia, Kansas, where she and her husband Aaron completed the signature 200-mile route (about 207 miles, 11,000 feet of climbing) amid repeated severe storms, hail, lightning, heavy “peanut butter” mud conditions, steep technical descents, minimum-maintenance roads, strong headwinds, and a late-night finish just before 2:00 AM under a 3:00 AM finish-line shutdown. Holly describes staying present, doing “race math,” and never considering quitting, contrasting this calm mindset with past fear in races and a post-accident period. Brandon explains how unresolved past stress creates limiting beliefs that surface under pressure, why commitment without forcing builds self-trust, and how to distinguish intuition from escape by seeking a decision that brings peace. He shares examples from coaching a triathlete returning to racing and from his own baseball comeback attempt, and closes with where to find his coaching, newsletter, and social channels. 00:00 Podcast Introductions 00:18 Permission To Try 01:14 Unbound Gravel Overview 04:01 Training And Expectations 05:36 Stormy Start Chaos 08:10 Peanut Butter Mud Crossing 09:23 Aid Station And More Storms 11:10 Tailwind To Headwind Shift 12:40 Muddiest Middle Miles 14:35 Nightfall And Final Push 17:49 Shelter Warning And Open Range 20:12 Lights Crashes And Finish 24:02 Cutoffs and Finish Line 25:18 Staying Present to Finish 28:06 From Fear to Calm 29:14 Shadow Work for Athletes 33:51 Self Trust in Competition 37:16 Baseball Injury Wake Up 43:40 Knowing When to Stop 49:15 Greatness Needs an Event 50:48 Final Takeaways and Next Steps 53:47 Where to Find Brandon 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    55 min

  5. 25 May

    Episode 66: Permission to Stop Performing: Finding Your True Self and Real Confidence

    Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes explore “permission to stop performing” and how performative identities form around earning love, validation, safety, and belonging through achievement, image, or helping others. Responding to Holly’s question—sparked by Enneagram Type 3s who feel disconnected from their true self—Brandon describes finding the true self through stillness, self-awareness, and following genuine enjoyment, peace, and excitement rather than external approval. He contrasts ego-driven striving, imposter syndrome, and constant busyness with alignment, presence, and a non-resistant state where actions feel natural and flow. They discuss how family and societal expectations reinforce performance, how midlife questioning can prompt reconnection with younger parts of self via self-acceptance and forgiveness, and key takeaways for building an integrated, authentic life. Brandon invites listeners to book a free strategy session at brandonthielk.com and follow his content on social platforms. 00:00 Welcome and Theme 00:09 Why We Perform 02:00 Question of the Week 03:14 Finding True Self Clues 04:13 Performance Mindset Origins 24:00 Alignment and Flow State 26:54 Observer vs Ego 32:13 Inner Child and Midlife Shift 39:57 Quick Recap Takeaways 43:59 Work With Brandon 45:14 Closing Goodbye 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    45 min

  6. 18 May

    Episode 65: Permission to Not Care: Choosing What Deserves Your Energy

    On the Permission to Evolve podcast, performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to not care” as a way to manage energy in an overstimulated world. They explore how identity and safety needs can lock people into rigid routines and beliefs (“this is just what we do”), and how tools like the Enneagram can illuminate these patterns. Holly shares a pandemic exercise sorting “things I believe” versus beliefs from family or community, prompting a conversation about how inherited beliefs, wounds, and ego battles keep people emotionally hooked, often through conflict with the people who represent those ideas. Brandon emphasizes individuation, detachment, healing reactions, and forgiveness to free energy, build capacity, and focus on what is meaningful now, including grieving and releasing past identities like sports or other life chapters. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:13 Why We Overcare 03:33 Identity and Routine 06:55 Personality and Preferences 10:59 Permission to Not Care 15:34 Capacity and Focus 19:16 Beliefs and Conditioning 25:42 Ego and Detachment 29:51 Battles With People 39:09 Outgrowing Old Chapters 47:27 Key Takeaways 50:43 Where to Find Brandon 51:41 Closing Goodbye 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/ https://pin.it/2swlzU3f3

    52 min

  7. 11 May

    Episode 64: Permission to Stop Carrying Everybody: Limits, Leadership, and Letting People Grow

    On Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to stop carrying everybody,” building on last week’s theme of having limits. Holly shares her up-and-down training for an upcoming 200-mile gravel bike ride, including weather challenges, a recent accident, and the emotional swings of preparing for her longest solo event, while Brandon highlights commitment, focus, and detachment after doing the work. Brandon answers why stress feels easier than relaxation, explaining the survival-oriented nervous system, the role of mindset, past experiences, and using conscious awareness to rewire threat-based reactions. They unpack how overhelping can create dependency, resentment, and stunted growth in families, leadership, and relationships, including dynamics like parentification and “old soul” childhoods, and emphasize supporting people without rescuing them so they build competence and resilience. Brandon shares ways to connect with him via brandonthielk.com and social channels. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:57 Hollys 200 Mile Training 03:21 Why Say Yes 06:22 Question of the Week 07:18 Nervous System and Stress 11:13 Stop Carrying Everyone 12:36 Helping vs Enabling 15:43 Leadership and Delegation 20:09 Let People Struggle 23:18 Why We Overhelp 26:43 Parentification and Old Souls 33:04 Fame Early Specialization 40:22 Tough Love and Addiction 41:35 Where to Find Brandon 43:06 Closing Goodbye 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    43 min

  8. 4 May

    Episode 63: Permission to Have Limits: Boundaries, Burnout, and the Role of Empathy

    In this episode of Permission to Evolve, host performance and life coach Brandon and co-host/producer Holly Dechen discuss “permission to have limits,” focusing on overextending yourself, burnout, and using reality-based self check-ins (stress load, sleep, nervous system state) to understand day-to-day capacity. Holly asks how to balance assuming people are “doing their best” versus recognizing when they’re doing what’s easiest, and Brandon explores low self-standards, learned helplessness, entitlement, accountability, and adjusting expectations to others’ capacity and willingness. They also examine empathy’s limits, arguing that helping requires maintaining clarity, avoiding getting pulled into others’ emotions, and knowing when issues are beyond your scope. Brandon distinguishes limits from boundaries: limits inform boundaries, boundaries may be temporary, and healing can dissolve them as reactions change. Brandon closes with the idea that facing limits expands them, then shares ways to connect, including a 30-minute strategy session at brandonth.com and weekly “Lightning report” prompts. 00:00 Welcome and Hosts 00:11 Why Limits Matter 01:07 Question of the Week 01:43 Best Versus Easiest 04:34 Accountability and Expectations 07:11 Segue to Personal Limits 07:49 Stress Capacity Check In 09:49 Burnout and Recovery Cycles 12:06 Trauma Patterns in Relationships 12:47 Expanding Limits Through Awareness 14:20 Empathy Needs Boundaries 16:56 Helping Without Getting Pulled Under 21:04 Empathy at Scale 23:14 Protect Your Circle 24:19 Context Over Systems 25:04 Holding Space With Care 26:40 Limits Versus Boundaries 27:50 Saying No And Consequences 30:01 Boundaries As Temporary Space 32:11 Healing Dissolves The Boundary 34:39 Karma Judgment And Lessons 37:49 Challenging People As Teachers 40:40 Expanding Limits Takeaways 44:10 How To Connect And Next Steps 🔗 LINKS: Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/ Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-evolve/id1792609620 https://open.spotify.com/show/6HMWcqqroohupXCbf3CxOn https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/

    46 min
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We all want to grow, but sometimes we get stuck. On this podcast, we delve into the areas of our lives where we feel blocked, explore the limiting beliefs holding us back, and uncover the "old selves" we need to let go of to make way for our evolved future. Join us as we navigate the uncomfortable process of self-discovery, challenge our assumptions, and ultimately grant ourselves "permission to evolve" into the best versions of ourselves. Listen now and start your journey of personal and professional growth.

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  • Creator
    Brandon Thielk and Holly Deschenes
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
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    Permission to Evolve

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