Put Yourself First

Kat Horrocks
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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

  1. 3 DAYS AGO

    The Mental Load Is REAL - & It's Killing Your Spark

    Do you ever feel like your brain never fully switches off? You sit down to relax and suddenly you’re mentally replaying a work meeting, remembering you need to order your friend’s birthday gift, renew your passport, sort the holiday admin, clean the kitchen, reply to messages, organise plans, and somehow still be present, sexy, connected, calm and emotionally available for everyone around you 🤣 In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the REAL reason so many women feel disconnected from themselves lately. Not because you’re lazy.Not because you’re “bad at self-care”.Not because there’s something wrong with your relationship. But because the mental load women carry is HUGE. And over time, constantly holding everything together can quietly disconnect you from:• your joy• your softness• your libido• your confidence• your nervous system• your spark Inside this episode, we dive into:💗 what the mental load actually is (and why it’s deeper than a to-do list)💗 how women are socialised into over-functioning and hyper-independence💗 why “just ask for help” often doesn’t feel that simple💗 how survival mode impacts your relationship, libido, confidence and energy💗 the hidden cost of constantly being “the capable one”💗 why spaciousness is the medicine modern women need more of And if this episode really hits home for you, I’d absolutely love to invite you inside Lover Girl Era 💗 A free feminine embodiment experience designed to help you:• regulate your nervous system• release stress and tension• reconnect to yourself• feel more playful, confident and connected again• lighten the mental load and stop carrying everything alone ✨ JOIN LOVER GIRL ERA: https://www.khorrocks.com/reset ✨ FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ ✨ APPLY FOR 1:1 COACHING: https://forms.gle/5BoZfPaU5x1wSKYT6 ✨ JOIN THE SISTERHOOD: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood If you loved this episode, please make sure you’re following the podcast and leave a rating/review because it genuinely helps more women discover the show 💗

    24 min

  2. 11 MAY

    Are Ambitious Women Too Masculine? The truth about feminine energy, overfunctioning, and why labelling yourself isn't the answer

    Spend 10 Days with me! Lover Girl Era starts Monday the 18th: a free 10 day mini series inside The Sisterhood all about getting your spark back, putting yourself first, and feeling like you again. I have a handful of free guest passes left for non-members. Grab yours here - https://www.khorrocks.com/reset If you've ever been told you're "stuck in your masculine energy" - or quietly wondered it yourself — this episode is for you. There's a loud conversation happening right now about masculine and feminine energy. And a lot of it is reducing ambitious, driven, hardworking women to a label that doesn't serve them. In this episode I'm sharing why I've stopped telling women they're stuck in their masculine energy - and what I think is actually going on underneath the overfunctioning, the burnout, and the constant cycle of doing it all. Because here's the thing. The controlling, the over-organising, the struggle to switch off - those behaviours have a root. They're symptoms. And until we look at what's underneath, we're just mowing the lawn. We're covering: Why "you're in your masculine energy" is being used as a diagnostic tool when it's actually a symptomWhat's really underneath the patterns that get labelled too masculineWhy ambitious, driven women are not the problemWhat feminine energy actually looks like in its full expression - wildness, rage, softness, power, all of itWhy only YOU get to define what feminine energy means for youThis isn't about being softer, more submissive, or less of who you are. It's about understanding yourself at a deeper level - and honouring every part of what it means to be a woman.

    26 min

  3. 4 MAY

    Staying quiet isn't keeping the peace: avoiding hard conversations in your relationship

    If you've been holding something back from your partner - hoping it'll resolve itself, telling yourself you're overthinking it, or convincing yourself it's not that big a deal - this episode is for you. In this episode I'm talking about avoidance. Not just why it feels easier in the moment, but what it's actually costing you and your relationship over time. In this episode we cover: Why avoidance isn't neutral - it's slowly poisoning your relationshipThe moment avoidance becomes a red flag (and why you might be the one waving it)The feminine energy myth that keeps women stuck and silentWhy "I've already told him" is often not the full storyWhat's really underneath the avoidance - and what to do about itIf you're ready to stop carrying it all silently and start feeling actually supported in your relationship, this one is for you. LINKS Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ 1:1 Coaching (video invite with details) - https://www.khorrocks.com/private-invite Sisterhood - https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood Join the Email Newsletter (+ get a Put Yourself First meditation) - https://www.khorrocks.com/meditation

    28 min

  4. 27 APR

    How I Became the Queen of My Own Life (And How You Can Too)

    Why do some women seem to have it all together - consistent, disciplined, showing up for themselves - while you're stuck in that exhausting all-or-nothing cycle? I used to wonder the same thing. In my 20s, I was the ultimate pendulum swinger - smashing my goals one week, completely off the wagon the next. And I realised it wasn't about what I was doing wrong. It was about who was in the driver's seat. In this episode, I'm breaking down the real reason you struggle with consistency, discipline, and self-sabotage - and it has nothing to do with willpower or motivation. I'm talking about the emotionally immature part of you that's secretly running the show, why I was never going to fix this with a productivity hack, and what it actually looks like to step into your Queen energy and lead your own life. In this episode: Why the all-or-nothing cycle isn't a discipline problem - it's an identity problemThe maiden, mother, and queen archetypes and what they have to do with your goalsHow unconscious rebellion keeps you stuck (even when you know what to do)What it means to parent your inner child rather than let her run the showWhy embodiment work creates the lasting change that tips and tactics never willLinks mentioned: 1:1 Coaching - 12 Week Programme https://www.khorrocks.com/private-inviteThe Put Yourself First Sisterhood - join before the doors close in June https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodPut Yourself First LIVE Manchester - grab your early bird ticket and save £30 https://www.khorrocks.com/PYFlive

    25 min

  5. 20 APR

    The Good Girl Rebellion That's Healing Women Worldwide

    Have you ever felt resentful in your relationship but couldn't fully explain why? Felt proud of your career but quietly suffocated at the same time? Found yourself wondering what you actually want — versus what you've been told to want? You're not having a breakdown. You're having a rebellion. In this episode, Kat unpacks the Good Girl Rebellion — what's driving it, what's really underneath the resentment and frustration so many women are feeling right now, and the liberating truth that you get to write an entirely new template for your life, your relationship, your career, and your future. In this episode: Why high-achieving women are feeling resentful in their relationships — even when their partner is doing nothing wrongThe inherited template driving ancestral anger and how it shows up in modern relationshipsWhy the "independent woman armour" can secretly keep you from receiving the love and support you actually craveWhat grief has to do with the good girl rebellionThe two desires ambitious women carry that the world keeps telling them can't coexist — and why they're wrongWhy living your new template gives other women permission to do the sameThe liberating truth: you get to decide all of itLinks mentioned in this episode: 🎥 Watch Kat's 1:1 coaching video - https://www.khorrocks.com/private-invite — then DM coaching on Instagram to take the next step 🌹 Start your 14-day free trial of the Put Yourself First Sisterhood — https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood 📲 Follow Kat on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ If this episode spoke to you, share it with a girlfriend who needs to hear it. And if you haven't already — follow, subscribe, and leave a review. It means everything.

    27 min

  6. 13 APR

    I Didn’t Trust Men (The Part of My Story I’ve Never Shared)

    If you struggle to trust men in relationships, feel emotionally guarded, or find yourself over-functioning in love… this episode will hit. For years, I thought I was just independent.Self-sufficient. Capable. But the truth? I didn’t fully trust men. Even in a healthy, long-term relationship… I was still holding control, struggling to receive, and subconsciously protecting myself from being let down. And that impacted everything.My nervous system.My intimacy.My ability to feel truly safe and supported. In this episode, I’m sharing a part of my personal story I’ve never opened up about before… and the deeper relationship patterns that were quietly running the show. We’re talking about emotional safety, feminine energy in relationships, over-functioning, and what it actually takes to trust your partner without losing yourself. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why you might struggle to trust men, even in a good relationship• How emotional guarding and control show up in subtle ways• The link between over-functioning and feminine energy burnout• Why you don’t feel fully safe to relax, receive, or be supported• How this impacts intimacy, connection, and communication• The inner work that helps you feel safe in love again• How to shift from self-protection into softness, trust, and emotional safety APPLY FOR 1:1 COACHING If you’re done over-functioning in your relationship and you’re ready to feel safe, supported, and deeply connected… My 1:1 coaching is where we do this work together. This is for the woman who is successful in her life, but knows there’s another level of softness, intimacy, and trust available to her. DM me the word COACHING on Instagram to get the details https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

    30 min

  7. 6 APR

    The Hidden Pattern Keeping You Burnt Out at Work & Disconnected in Your Relationship

    Most women think burnout at work and disconnection in their relationship are two separate problems. They’re not. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden pattern I see in so many high-achieving women that’s quietly impacting both. If you feel like you’re always “on”, constantly thinking, organising, managing… and then wondering why you can’t fully relax, receive, or feel deeply connected in your relationship, this is for you. We’re talking about over-functioning. The pattern of being the one who handles everything, holds everything together, and quietly carries more than your fair share… at work, in your relationship, and in life. And the truth is, it’s probably the very thing that’s made you successful. But it’s also the thing that’s exhausting you. Inside this episode, I share: What over-functioning actually is (and how to spot it in your life) Why this pattern shows up in both your work and your relationship How over-functioning leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection The subtle ways you might be enabling others to under-function (without realising) Why nothing is “wrong” with you… and how to start shifting this This isn’t about doing less or lowering your standards. It’s about learning how to switch out of “handle everything” mode… so you can feel supported, connected, and actually enjoy the life you’ve built. Want support with this? I’m currently inviting 3 women into a 12-week 1:1 coaching experience. This is for high-achieving women who are ready to: stop over-functioning and carrying everything alone feel more supported in their life and relationship reconnect to their body, softness, and feminine energy shift relationship dynamics without forcing or over-managing If this is you, DM me COACHING on Instagram and we’ll chat 🤍 https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

    23 min

  8. 30 MAR

    The No-Pressure Wedding Prep That Has Me Feeling Hot, Happy & In Love

    We are officially on the wedding countdown… and I wanted to sit down and give you a proper life update. This whole experience has taught me so much about relationships, communication, pressure, and what it really means to feel your best as a woman. Inside this episode, I’m sharing: What wedding planning has actually been like for us as a coupleThe communication tools that have made this feel calm, collaborative, and genuinely funHow we’ve navigated decisions together without falling into resentment or controlWhy this isn’t just about weddings… it’s about how you do life togetherMy honest thoughts on bridal pressure, beauty standards, and “looking perfect”Why I’ve done barely anything for wedding prep… and feel better than everThe difference between doing things because you want to vs because you feel like you shouldHow to stop letting social media quietly dictate your decisionsWhether you’re planning a wedding, navigating a big life transition, or just feeling the pressure to have it all together… this episode will bring you back to yourself. ✨ Ways to Work With Me 1:1 Coaching (3 Months)A deep, personalised space for feminine embodiment, relationship work, and real-life transformation. → DM me “coaching” on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ The Sisterhood My monthly membership for ambitious women who want ongoing support, tools, and coaching in a space that actually feels good to be in. → Join here: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood

    32 min
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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

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  • Creator
    Kat Horrocks
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    521
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kat Horrocks
  • Show Website
    Put Yourself First

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