Put Yourself First

Kat Horrocks
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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

  1. 2 HR AGO

    Date Yourself First: The Feminine Energy Shift That Changes Everything

    JOIN CHERISHED >> https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished You cannot feel deeply cherished if you are constantly abandoning yourself. In this first episode of my three-part Cherished Woman Codes mini-series, we’re diving into Code One: Self-Devotion. If you’re the capable one.The organiser.The emotionally intelligent one.The woman who holds everything together. And yet… you crave more support, softness and queen treatment in your relationship - This episode is for you. Inside, we explore: The subtle micro-moments of self-abandonment that build resentment Why over-functioning blocks intimacy and desire How nervous system regulation changes the way you communicate What “dating yourself first” actually looks like in real life Why self-devotion makes you magnetic in love and life Self-Devotion is the foundation of becoming The Cherished Woman. When you stop outsourcing your needs and start meeting yourself first, everything shifts. ✨ Your energy softens.✨ Your communication becomes clearer.✨ Your confidence deepens.✨ Your relationship responds. 🌹 Doors To Cherished Are Open Cherished is a 12-week feminine embodiment experience for women in good relationships who want to: • Feel supported and emotionally met• Reignite intimacy and desire• Speak their needs without guilt or drama• Deepen connection in a grounded, grown-woman way Doors close Friday 13th MarchWe begin Monday 16th March There are only 8 spaces. You can join via the link below or DM me CHERISHED on Instagram for more details - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ Join here >> https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished If this episode resonates, that’s not an accident. Come join us inside.

    27 min

  2. 16 FEB

    Become the Cherished Woman: Ignite Desire + Live Full Embodied (Part 1)

    JOIN CHERISHED > 👉🏼 ⁠https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished⁠ In this episode, I’m introducing the identity shift that changes everything: Becoming the Cherished Woman. Not the woman who fixes. Not the woman who manages. Not the woman who becomes the CEO of her relationship. But the woman who dates herself first. Because here’s what I see again and again: Women who love their partner.Women who would say “we’re great.”Women posting the cute anniversary photos. And behind closed doors? “I miss feeling juicy.”“I miss that electric energy.”“I wish he’d make more effort.”“I feel like we’ve slipped into roommate energy.” You’re allowed to love your relationship and want it to evolve. You would never stop investing in your career.You would never say, “Well this is as fit as I’ll ever be.” So why do we accept stagnation in love? In this episode we talk about: • The over-functioning trap and how it quietly kills desire• Why becoming the coach, therapist or manager in your relationship backfires• The difference between calling your partner out vs calling them forward• Why dating yourself first changes the entire dynamic• What it actually means to be the muse, not the coach And I introduce the three Cherished Woman Codes 🔥 This is not couples coaching.This is feminine embodiment. You do this work for yourself first.And everything else responds. 💌 Ready to go deeper? If this episode lit something up in you, the doors to my 12-week group programme Cherished are officially open. This is an intimate container for women who are ready to: • Drop the mental load• Stop over-functioning• Feel sexy, soft, alive and embodied again• Speak from the heart instead of from resentment• Experience deeper intimacy and connection without forcing it You can read all the details and join here: 👉🏼 https://www.khorrocks.com/cherished Or come DM me the word CHERISHED on Instagram if you want to chat it through. - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

    35 min

  3. 9 FEB

    Is Feminine Energy Anti-Feminist? 3 Feminine Energy Myths That P*ss Me Off!

    FREE TRAINING: https://www.khorrocks.com/reset If you’re an ambitious, high-achieving woman who’s ever felt conflicted, sceptical, or quietly resistant to the idea of “feminine energy”… this episode is for you. So much of what we’re taught about feminine energy online is outdated, oversimplified, or completely disconnected from the reality of being a woman in 2026. You’re told you have to choose: ambition or softness independence or being cherished power or receptivity And it leaves intelligent, capable women feeling confused, guilty, or like feminine energy “isn’t for them”. In this episode, I’m breaking down three of the biggest myths about feminine energy that keep women stuck in their head, disconnected from their body, and carrying far more than they need to in love and life. We’ll explore what feminine embodiment actually is, why it has nothing to do with giving up your edge, and how learning to receive more doesn’t weaken you, it strengthens you. In this episode, we cover Why feminine energy is not about doing less, being passive, or opting out of ambition How modern feminism has confused independence with emotional isolation The difference between independence and interdependence in relationships Why wanting to be cherished, supported, and provided for is not anti-feminist The truth about feminine energy being labelled “manipulative” or performative Why embodiment is about authenticity, not playing games or avoiding hard conversations How feminine energy is a relationship with your body, pleasure, needs, and capacity to receive What actually shifts intimacy, connection, and polarity in real relationships This conversation is for the woman who: loves her partner but feels mentally full and emotionally switched on all the time wants to soften without losing her strength wants to feel sexy, magnetic, and alive without becoming someone she’s not If this episode resonates, I’m hosting a brand new free live training. Your Feminine Energy ResetAn initiation into feeling magnetic, desired, and unapologetically alive Inside the training, you’ll experience feminine energy work in a grounded, embodied, real-life way and get a first look at my brand new 12-week group journey. 📅 Thursday 12th February at 7:30pm UK time🎥 Live training with replay available You’ll want a notebook, a drink, and space to really drop in. Sign up here > https://www.khorrocks.com/reset

    32 min

  4. 2 FEB

    Rest or Self-Sabotage? The Dark Side of the Soft Girl Era

    We need to talk about the darker side of slowing down, soft girl energy, and “just resting.”Because sometimes rest is nourishing… and sometimes it’s avoidance dressed up as self-care. In this episode, I’m diving into the nuance between honouring your capacity and quietly self-sabotaging the very life you say you want. This was sparked by a client message about gym consistency, but it applies to everything – your business, your relationship, your health, your goals, your life. This is a permission slip to stop outsourcing your intuition to the internet, stop looking for validation for every decision, and start building real self-trust. In this episode, we explore: The difference between true rest and avoidance Why “soft girl era” can become a sneaky form of self-sabotage How social media validates both burnout and avoidance Why fundamentals matter more than complicated hacks The truth about discipline, devotion, and feminine embodiment How flexibility and adaptability build sustainable success Why self-trust is built through action, not just reflection Re-parenting yourself with both softness and structure Real-life examples from fitness, business, and personal growth How to tell if you’re honouring your body or avoiding responsibility Work with me 1:1 If this episode made you realise you’re stuck in all-or-nothing cycles, avoidance, or burnout – this is exactly the work we do inside Magnetic Muse. In 1:1 coaching, we work on: Nervous system regulation Embodied discipline and devotion Self-trust and intuitive decision-making Boundaries, relationships, leadership, and self-leadership Building a life that feels aligned, pleasurable, and sustainable There are currently 3 spaces available. 👉 Apply here: https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching👉 Or DM me COACHING on Instagram to chat. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

    28 min

  5. 30 JAN

    [Bonus] NEW Free Training: Feminine Energy Reset

    Join the free live training If this episode resonated, I’d love to invite you to my free live training 👇🏼 Feminine Energy Reset - https://www.khorrocks.com/resetFrom over-functioning and resentful to cherished in love This training is for women who are ready to feel more confident, connected, and desired again without fixing or managing their partner. If you’re capable, loving, and devoted in your life, but you’ve noticed that your relationship feels heavier, flatter, or more draining than it used to, this is for you. See you there! x

    6 min

  6. 26 JAN

    Want Your Relationship to Survive? Put Yourself First.

    This episode is for the woman who loves her partner, cares deeply about her relationship, and yet feels exhausted, resentful, or disconnected far more often than she wants to admit. You don’t want to burn your life down.You don’t want to leave your relationship.You just want it to feel better. In this episode, I share a hard truth many couples need to hear: Your relationship cannot thrive if you are constantly self-sacrificing. When you are depleted, over-functioning, and living in survival mode, everyone feels it. Especially your partner. And the irony?The more you put yourself first, the stronger your relationship becomes. In this conversation, I unpack why women are the emotional and energetic centre of the lives they build, how over-functioning quietly kills intimacy, and why learning to receive support is not selfish, but essential. IN THIS EPISODE: Why women are the emotional and energetic nucleus of their relationships The lie we’ve been sold about self-sacrifice and love How over-functioning shows up in modern relationships Why doing more actually creates resentment and disconnection How short-term discomfort leads to long-term relationship fulfilment Why your partner wants you happier, calmer, and more relaxed The identity shift that happens when a woman stops holding it all together How putting yourself first changes intimacy, communication, and desire Why your partner doesn’t need to do the work for the relationship to benefit The subtle but powerful energetic shifts that change everything You don’t become a better partner by giving more of yourself away. You become a better partner when you are regulated, present, fulfilled, and connected to your own needs. When you stop surviving and start thriving, your relationship responds. APPLY FOR 1:1 COACHING Magnetic Muse is my private 1:1 coaching experience for high-achieving women who are ready to stop self-sacrificing and start living from presence, pleasure, and embodied confidence. This work is about: Releasing over-functioning and control Learning how to receive support without guilt Creating deeper intimacy and connection in relationships Setting boundaries at work so you can leave work at work Reconnecting with your body, desires, and feminine energy When you shift, every area of your life shifts. I’m currently opening a small number of private 1:1 spaces inside Magnetic Muse. You can: Apply directly here - https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching Or DM me COACHING on Instagram if you want to talk it through first - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

    27 min

  7. 19 JAN

    [NEW] Magnetic Muse: How to Create a Life That Turns You On

    APPLY for Magnetic Muse >> https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching DM me on Instagram >> https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ This episode is for the woman who has built a beautiful life on paper… but doesn’t always feel good inside it. You’re capable, intelligent, successful, and trusted by everyone around you. And yet, your nervous system rarely switches off. You overthink behind closed doors, hold yourself to impossibly high standards, and struggle to fully let go of control. In your relationship, things might feel loving but flat. More roommate energy than romance. More logistics than desire. You miss feeling pursued, chosen, and deeply connected, but you’re exhausted and rarely fully present. And underneath it all, you don’t want to burn your life down. You’re grateful for what you have. You just want to feel more alive inside it. In This Episode, We Explore: The signs you’re successful on paper but disconnected in your body Why so many high-achieving women live in constant overdrive How over-functioning, control, and people-pleasing show up in work and relationships The difference between understanding change and embodying it Why embodiment work creates shifts in love, leadership, and life The moment Kat knew she had to train in sex, love, and relationship coaching Why your intuition often speaks before your mind catches up How Magnetic Muse was shaped through real client work and lived experience

    34 min

  8. 12 JAN

    How I’m Making 2026 My Most Magnetic Year (You Can Too)

    I’m taking you behind the scenes of how I’m approaching my goals, my habits and my identity this year across business, relationships and my body, and what’s already supporting me to feel grounded, clear and excited for what’s ahead. Inside this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ Why 2026 is an outputs over outcomes year for me🌿 My word for the year and how devotion changes the way you show up🩶 Why motivation isn’t the problem and what actually creates consistency🔥 How simple systems and non negotiables remove overwhelm💗 The identity shifts that happen when you stop relying on willpower🏃‍♀️ How I’m approaching fitness, running and recovery this year without burnout💍 How I’m being intentional in my relationship as we head into our wedding year🌹 Why focus creates freedom rather than limitation This episode is for the woman who wants her next chapter to feel intentional, embodied and spacious, not rushed or exhausting. I also share what’s now live inside my business, including my brand new 1:1 coaching journey and what’s coming next in 2026. 🔥 Work with Me 1:1If you’re feeling the pull for deeper support, personalised coaching and real transformation this year, you can apply for my one to one coaching journey. https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching or DM me COACHING on Instagram and we’ll start the conversation. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ Come and tell me your biggest takeaway from this episode, either in my DMs or in the Spotify comments. I always love hearing from you.

    38 min
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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

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  • Creator
    Kat Horrocks
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    509
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kat Horrocks
  • Show Website
    Put Yourself First