The CBT Dive Rahim Thawer, MSW

We’re all on our individual journeys. That’s what this guest strongly believes. Still, there’s legitimate resentment that comes up when you feel judged by people on dating apps who appear to be well sorted with their nice job titles and cushy bank accounts. In this episode, we conjure up Beyonce to help reframe the feelings of inadequacy that arise when capitalism and grind culture don’t fit for people who are working through trauma and managing symptoms of Adult ADHD–which, of course, are overlooked experiences of responsible adulting. 
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Friendships come easily to some of us while others struggle to be seen, understood, and affirmed. In this episode, we explore the story of someone who felt outcast by a group of peers who saw him as inconsistent around his values and behaviour. And, the skills to mend the ruptures were hard to conjure up on both sides of the divide. BrownGayRealness examines his subsequent fears about the possibility of maintaining long-term relationships with people.

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While gay men often toss out their straight-world rule book and start anew, queer women don't always have the same luxury. Women are socialized, encouraged, and pressured to be so many things, including maternal. In this episode, Telsa considers what it means to be with a partner who doesn't want children. As a queer woman in her mid-thirties, she's torn between choosing love and the finality of closing the door on having her own children, especially when all her peers are talking about diapers and strollers.
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What do your friends expect from you when you make plans together? Sometimes we might feel like we have to bring only positive energy or always be helpful in some way. In this episode, we gently shift away from assumptions about toxic friendships and begin to consider how low self-worth might contribute to our relationships going downhill.
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Do you ever have to avoid some of your colleagues at work because you're certain a short exchange will end up being something bigger, something unnecessarily draining? What does this mean if you're the boss and anticipating the drain from your employees? In this episode, we talk to Lori-the-manager who begins to anticipate staff anger and hostility any time she attempts to introduce new policies to keep pace with the needs of an environment that regularly endures client crises. We explore the dynamics of a workplace where a woman of colour is in the driver's seat and collective experiences of trauma can collide to knock everyone off their feet at times.
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Do you ever scold yourself for small mistakes? What's underneath that tendency to self-punish? In this episode, Dawn examines the time she cursed at herself for merely leaving a water bottle in her car. We did a deep dive to unearth a core belief around (in)competence and fears of future failures.
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