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Welcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast that helps you navigate the twists and turns of love and connection. 

In today's episode, "Expressing Emotions," hosts Tom and Angela delve into the intricacies of communicating feelings in relationships. Do you frequently express anger but struggle with letting your partner know that you love them? Or do you struggle to let your partner know that you are frustrated for fear of losing them?

We discuss the challenges of managing emotions in the heat of the moment, the importance of understanding and reflecting on strong emotional reactions, and the need for safe expression. 

From the impact of childhood experiences to societal messages on relationship expectations, we explore the complexities of emotional expression in relationships. Join us as we unpack the nuances of love, anger, and the powerful impact of verbalizing emotions in adult relationships. Whether you're navigating the joy of love or the turbulence of negative emotions, this episode will provide insights and strategies for safe, effective emotional expression. So sit back, relax, and let's navigate the maze of expressing emotions in relationships.

00:00 Exploring ways to express emotions in relationships.
06:02 Adult relationships require verbal clarifications and reciprocity.
08:08 Fear of expression and societal expectations discussed.
09:51 Suppressing anger leads to emotional suppression in adulthood.
14:36 Unaware replication of hurtful family behaviors continues.
18:51 Learning to identify and understand nuanced feelings.
21:42 Healthy love needs balance and understanding.
25:35 Reflect on emotions, repair, and understand triggers.
27:13 Expressing emotions can strengthen a relationship.

Welcome to today's episode of The Relationship Maze, where we delve into the intriguing concept of the shadow. Join Tom and Angela as they explore how our hidden, repressed aspects known as the shadow can impact our relationships. Drawing from the teachings of Carl Jung, they discuss how the persona we present to the world hides our shadow, which holds guilt, feelings of inferiority, and even dark desires. 
Discover how the shadow can manifest in your own relationship dynamics and learn techniques to uncover and integrate these hidden parts of yourself. Tune in and navigate the complexities of the shadow in today's episode.

01:26 Persona hides shadow; both define us.
03:51 Suppression of natural instincts can cause anger.
08:52 Personal shadow, shame, repressed qualities, push down.
11:14 Perception is projection, noticing our own projections.
15:44 Unwanted qualities in partner reveal inner fears.
18:39 "Shadow's connection to the concept of evil."
20:45 Exploring shadow aspects, finding useful qualities. Compassion.
23:23 Oversimplification of good and evil in media.


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Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! 
In today's episode Tom and Angela discuss the ever-popular world of dating apps and how attitudes towards them have evolved over the years. They delve into the reasons why dating apps can be both a blessing and a source of stress, as well as explore alternative ways to find fulfilling relationships. 
Whether you are a dating app enthusiast or feel overwhelmed by the online dating scene, this episode has insights and advice for everyone. So grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and join us in navigating the maze that is modern dating. 
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Enjoy the episode!

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast. In this episode, Tom and Angela explore the importance of acknowledging different perspectives in relationships. We discuss the challenges of taking on someone else's viewpoint and the significance of being able to listen and understand your partner even if there view of the world might be entirely different to yours. 

In this episode we share exercises and insights from our experience in couples therapy to help you gain a deeper understanding of your partner's perspectives. 
Tune in for practical tips on improving communication and creating stronger connections with your significant other.

00:57 Couples therapy focuses on understanding partner's perspective.
05:43 Acknowledging different perspectives fosters personal growth.
08:27 Recognizing others' struggles can lead to insight.
09:53 Understanding communication and introspection in relationships.
13:17 Couples therapy involves exercises to promote listening.
19:02 Be mindful of others' reactions and triggers.
20:33 Past wounds can create distrust in relationships.
22:51 Emphasize empathy to improve communication dynamics.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! In today's exploration, we delve into the  concept of interoception and its impact on our lives. Hosted by Tom and Angela, this episode explores our experiences of the world through our internal (biological) sensations and how these can affect us profoundly psychologically, often without conscious awareness. 
We perceive signals from our bodies that tell us something about our feeling states, our moods, our dispositions or our levels of stress. Interoception refers to our brain’s perception of our bodily state: our ability to sense and interpret what is happening internally, including our hunger levels, emotions, and bodily sensations. Why does interoception matter? Studies have shown that sensitivity to interoceptive signals in our body can determine our capacity to regulate our emotions. If we can regulate emotions better,  we struggle less with mental  health problems such as anxiety and depression.
Join us as we discuss the importance of improving our interoception and how higher levels of awareness can contribute to more balance in our life and ultimately to creating more fulfilling relationships. Plus, be sure to visit our website, therelationshipmaze.com, where you will find an abundance of free resources and our online course, The Relationship Maze. 
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[00:00:02] The importance of understanding interoception's impact.
[00:05:15] Interoception: distorted awareness, usefulness, and problems.
[00:09:46] Distinguishing thoughts and bodily sensations is important.
[00:11:57] Interoception aids in understanding internal experiences.
[00:13:52] Reacting to threats, triggers from past conditioning.
[00:17:12] Awareness of sensations helps step back from emotion.
[00:21:01] Unconscious tension builds throughout the day, but noticing can release it.
[00:23:22] Stress management courses show mind-body connection.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to a new episode of The Relationship Maze, where we delve into the complexities of human relationships. In this episode, we tackle the intriguing concept of limerence. We explore the intense and obsessive feelings of extreme infatuation that can arise for some people when feelings are not reciprocated by the other person. Limerence is the feeling of having a crush on someone multiplied by 10.

Limerence, a term coined by psychologist Dr. Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, describes the phenomenon of falling head over heels for someone in an obsessive and potentially unhealthy way.  Tenov discovered that there are two types of people when it comes to falling in love: those who do so passionately and uncontrollably, the limerents, and those who are less emotionally engaged, the remilents. 

Characteristics of limerence include for example intrusive thinking about the object of desire,  a constant preoccupation with the desired person, an inability to focus on anybody else as a potential love interest, an over sensibility and over interpretation as to the intentions of the desired person which  affects one’s mood, seeking proximity to the object of desire while simultaneously feeling shy and experiencing an intense fear of rejection or  having intense and soothing fantasies about reciprocal love. 

Join us as we look at the underlying attachment issues that manifest in the form of limerence. 

If you've ever experienced unrequited love, infatuation, or obsessive desires, this episode is for you.

Welcome to The Relationship Maze: Limerence.

[00:00:04] Limerence: Strong, one-sided infatuation 


[00:05:06] Chemical flooding creates obsessional thoughts of love.


[00:09:04] Love and limerence: caring or obsessing?


[00:12:24] Interesting perspective on seeking validation and relationships.


[00:16:06] Early attachment experiences impact key patterns.


[00:17:43] Magical experiences and connections that stay with us.


[00:21:00] Awareness of learned self-perception, love, and acceptance.


[00:23:35] Inner reflection, relationships, and positive self-perception.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.