The Rewriters

Monique Shaw

Would you secretly love to create a new career, business or way of life, but think it’s too late, too difficult or too much of a risk? The Rewriters Podcast with Monique Shaw is a celebration of feeling fear and doing it anyway, packed with anecdotes, tools and tips to help you rewrite your story to create a create and life that actually works. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. S3, Ep 8: How to Stop Being A People Pleaser (Without Being A D!ck About It)

    3 DAYS AGO

    S3, Ep 8: How to Stop Being A People Pleaser (Without Being A D!ck About It)

    Welcome to How to Stop People Pleasing (Without Being A D!ck About It) In 2016 I was a happily-pregnant work-addicted people pleaser in a job I loved with pretty much exclusively externalised self-worth. I didn’t set out to get over my people pleasing tendencies and poor boundaries (although I was very aware they were an issue) – but I did need to deal with the logistics of my boundary-less, work-addicted life post-baby. What I set out to do then was get a handle on my time… where I ended up was letting go of my multi-decade tenure as a people pleaser and finally learning how to say NO.” Today’s episode outlines how I did it and how you can too. Along the way I delve into the psychology of the people pleaser and share some self-coaching questions to help you interrogate (and transcend) own relationship with people pleasing. The episode is broken down as follows: The psychology of people pleasingMy people pleasing recovery journey How you can quit people pleasing tooSelf-coaching questions for people pleasers  Resources & References:   ‘How To Maximise And Conserve Your Time’ with Monique Shaw on The Rewriters Pod: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/re-release-how-to-maximise-and-conserve-your-time/id1538589146?i=1000721478914 ‘Two Questions That Will Change Your Life’ with Monique Shaw on The Rewriters Pod: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/s2-ep-8-two-questions-that-will-change-your-life/id1538589146?i=1000561748881  ‘Make The Same Impact At Work In Half The Time’ by Monique Shaw on rewriterewrite.com: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/blog/make-the-same-impact-in-half-the-time 'Links between unmitigated communion, interpersonal behaviours and wellbeing’ by Helgeson et al on Research Gate: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/275058320_Links_between_unmitigated_communion_interpersonal_behaviors_and_well-being_A_daily_diary_approach 'Fawning as a trauma response’ by Grace Ogren on Recovery.com: https://recovery.com/resources/fawning-as-a-trauma-response/ 'Breaking the cycle of people pleasing’ by Michelle Quirk on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/your-emotional-meter/202401/breaking-the-cycle-of-people-pleasing ‘The Psychology Behind People Pleasing’ by Marissa Moore on PsychCentral:  https://psychcentral.com/health/the-need-to-please-the-psychology-of-people-pleasing The 24-hour rule from Boundary Theory (Ashforth, 2000) – no link Work with Monique: Join 'The Rewriters Community’. Explore here: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/becomeamemberSpeak to Monique about your next Workshop or Talk: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/workshops Visit: www.rewriterewrite.com For more tips, tools and stories subscribe to The Rewrite Newsletter: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/get-the-weekly-rewrite  Get in touch with Monique: Web: www.rewriterewrite.com/contactInstagram: @the_rewritersLinkedIn: Monique Shaw  The Rewriters is written, produced and presented by Monique Shaw. Original music by DJ Cinnamon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    32 min
  2. S3, Ep 5: How to Stop the Perfectionism-Procrastination Cycle

    1 FEB

    S3, Ep 5: How to Stop the Perfectionism-Procrastination Cycle

    In this episode I’m talking about perfectionism and it’s very cosy bedfellow procrastination. I work primarily with objectively successful professional women (I work with men too, but over 90% of my clients are women who hold senior positions in their company or run their own businesses – sometimes both) – and a trait that comes up time and time again for these women is perfectionism – their constant and relentless pursuit of perfection. It can be a loud and urgent pursuit, but it can also be a low and constant hum. So many incredible, talented and ambitious women are shackled by their perfectionism because more often than not, it’s not helping them to reach greater heights, it’s holding them back. It’s keeping them smaller and more muted than their talents, passions and skills deserve to be. So today I want to tackle it and provide some ways you can finally break free from the perfectionism/procrastination cycle. The episode is broken down as follows: The Perfectionism-Procrastination Cycle explained – what perfectionism is, what procrastination is and how the two are linked.We’ll unpack The myths, lies, harms and excuses of perfectionism We’ll get practical and explore how to move From perfectionism into action – including The Intentional Procrastination Method Self-Coaching Questions for you to interrogate your own relationship with perfectionism and procrastination  Resources referenced: ‘How the Modern Epidemic of Perfectionism is Impacting Our Health with Will Storr’ on The Feel Better, Live More podcast by Rangan Chaterjee: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/feel-better-live-more-with-dr-rangan-chatterjee/id1333552422?i=1000648081242‘Children with ADHD Avoid Failure and Punishment More Than Others, Study Says’ by Devon Frye on AttitudeMag: https://www.additudemag.com/children-with-adhd-avoid-failure-punishment/‘Why procrastination isn’t laziness – it’s rigid thinking that your brain can unlearn’ by Annemieke Apergis-Schoute on The Conversation: https://theconversation.com/why-procrastination-isnt-laziness-its-rigid-thinking-that-your-brain-can-unlearn-270838 'How to Befriend Your Inner Critic' by Monique Shaw on The Rewriters podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/s3-ep-4-how-to-befriend-your-inner-critic/id1538589146?i=1000743388781  Further Reading Perfectionism is adaptive and maladaptive, but what is the combined effect?' by Joachim Stober, Daniel J Madigan, Lazaros Gonidis on Science Direct: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/perfectionism ‘Perfectionism’ (no author) on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/basics/perfectionism#:~:text=Perfectionists%20set%20unrealistically%20high%20expectations,life%20for%20approval%20and%20validation.  Work with Monique: Join 'The Rewriters Community'. Explore here: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/becomeamember Visit: www.rewriterewrite.com For more tips, tools and stories, subscribe to The Rewrite Newsletter: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/get-the-weekly-rewrite  Get in touch with Monique Shaw: Web: www.rewriterewrite.com/contactInstagram: @the_rewritersLinkedIn: Monique Shaw  The Rewriters is written, researched, produced and presented by Monique Shaw. Original music by DJ Cinnamon.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    28 min
  3. S3, Ep 4: How to Befriend Your Inner Critic: Stop fighting your mind and start leading it

    1 JAN

    S3, Ep 4: How to Befriend Your Inner Critic: Stop fighting your mind and start leading it

    In this episode, we’ll explore why the common advice to "silence" or "erase" your inner critic is destined to fail. Instead, we’ll dive into the transformative power of listening to, learning from, befriending – and ultimately transcending – that critical inner voice. Whether you're struggling with confidence, imposter syndrome or negative self-talk, this episode provides guidance and techniques to turn your harshest critic into your greatest ally. You'll learn: The psychology of the inner critic: What it actually is and why it’s trying to protect you.Identifying limiting beliefs: How to spot the hidden assumptions holding you back.Actionable tools & techniques: Methods for managing the inner critic in-the-moment and longer-term.A deep-dive case study: A real-life look at someone’s personal experience with their inner critic.Self-coaching framework: Questions to help you befriend and move beyond your critic, starting today. Stop fighting your mind and start leading it.   Resources referenced: ‘Decoding the inner critic’s origins and purpose’ by Dr. Nelda Andersone: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/human-inner-dynamics/202312/decoding-the-inner-critics-origins-and-purposeDr Kristin Neff’s exercise for changing your critical self-talk: https://self-compassion.org/exercises/exercise-5-changing-your-critical-self-talk/The Rewriters Podcast - 'Grow confidence and overcome imposter syndrome’: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/re-release-how-to-grow-confidence-and-overcome/id1538589146?i=1000720570445 Work with Monique: ·     Join 'The Rewriters Community'. Explore here: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/becomeamember ·     Visit: www.rewriterewrite.com  ·     For more tips, tools and stories, subscribe to The Rewrite Newsletter   Get in touch with Monique Shaw: ·     Web: www.rewriterewrite.com/contact ·     Instagram: @the_rewriters ·     LinkedIn: Monique Shaw   The Rewriters is written, produced and presented by Monique Shaw. Original music by DJ Cinnamon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min
  4. S3, Ep 3: How to Survive Redundancy: 4-Steps to Career Transformation

    01/11/2025

    S3, Ep 3: How to Survive Redundancy: 4-Steps to Career Transformation

    Welcome to HOW TO SURVIVE REDUNDANCY… Like any big career transition – redundancy may end up being the most transformative thing that has ever happened in your career. In this episode I aim to provide clarity and support for those experiencing redundancy. I share a 4-point framework for not just surviving redundancy but thriving after it. The episode is broken up into the 4 points of the framework: FORTIFYING – What does it mean to fortify during redundancy?CONTROL – Controlling the controllableCONNECT –The importance of sharing the loadACT – Taking some time to breath and then taking ACTION! Resources referenced: In the UK, seek support and legal advice from your local Citizen’s Advice Bureau as well as ACAS: https://www.acas.org.uk/If you’re pregnant or post-partum in the UK, you can seek support form https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/  Work with Monique: ·     Join 'The Rewriters Community'. Explore here: https://www.rewriterewrite.com/becomeamember ·     Visit: www.rewriterewrite.com  ·     For more tips, tools and stories, subscribe to The Rewrite Newsletter   Get in touch with Monique Shaw: ·     Web: www.rewriterewrite.com/contact ·     Instagram: @the_rewriters ·     LinkedIn: Monique Shaw   The Rewriters is written, produced and presented by Monique Shaw. Original music by DJ Cinnamon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Would you secretly love to create a new career, business or way of life, but think it’s too late, too difficult or too much of a risk? The Rewriters Podcast with Monique Shaw is a celebration of feeling fear and doing it anyway, packed with anecdotes, tools and tips to help you rewrite your story to create a create and life that actually works. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.