Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence

Johnny Lawrence - The Self Development Coach
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Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence is a podcast about understanding yourself. Each week, Johnny explores the psychology, emotions and hidden patterns behind why we think, feel and behave the way we do, answering a listener's question on topics like people-pleasing, overthinking, anger, confidence, relationships and purpose. Once a month, he's joined by a special guest for deeper conversations and fresh perspectives. Because lasting change begins by understanding why you do what you do. New episodes every Wednesday.

  1. 5 days ago

    158. Why Do I Still Feel Empty After Success? | The Truth About Achievement & Fulfilment

    Have you achieved the goals you once dreamed of... only to realise you still don't feel fulfilled? In this episode, I explore why success doesn't always lead to happiness and why so many people feel empty despite ticking every box they thought would make life meaningful. I unpack the difference between achievement and fulfilment, how societal and parental expectations shape our definition of success, and why that lingering feeling of emptiness might actually be pointing you towards a more authentic life. I also share practical exercises to help you reconnect with your core values, discover what truly makes you feel alive, and build a life that's driven by purpose—not just achievement. Because success asks, "What have I achieved?" Fulfilment asks, "Who am I becoming?" Takeaways 👉Achievement and fulfilment are not the same. 👉Success is hollow without alignment to your values. 👉Emptiness can be an invitation to change. 👉Your definition of success doesn't have to be inherited. 👉Purpose is found in who you're becoming. 👉Values create a meaningful life—not just goals. SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  2. 19 Jul

    PODCAST ANNOUNCEMENT

    Welcome to Why Do I Do This? with me, Johnny Lawrence. A podcast about understanding yourself. Every week, I’ll answer a listener’s question and explore the psychology, emotions and hidden patterns behind why we think, feel and behave the way we do.  Once a month, I’ll also be joined by a special guest to bring new perspectives and practical insights to the conversation. We’ll explore questions like… 👉 Why do I overthink? 👉 Why do I people-please? 👉 Why do I get so angry? 👉 Why do I keep procrastinating? 👉 Why do I struggle with confidence? 👉 Why do I keep repeating the same patterns? 👉 Why do I push people away? 👉 Why do I care so much what other people think? Because the first step to changing your life is understanding why you do what you do. 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday. 💬 Have a question you’d like answered?  Leave it in the comments or send me a DM; it might be featured in a future episode. Johnny. 🙏🏽

  3. 15 Jul

    157. Why Can't I Feel Happy Anymore? | How to Rediscover Joy When Life Feels Numb

    Have you ever stopped and wondered... when was the last time I genuinely felt joy? In this episode, I explore why so many people struggle to experience happiness, even when life looks fine on the surface. I unpack how stress, emotional overload, and a constantly activated nervous system can disconnect us from joy, and why finding happiness isn't about chasing bigger moments, it's about learning to recognise the small ones we've stopped noticing. I also share practical ways to regulate your emotions, reconnect with yourself, and use curiosity as a tool for rediscovering what truly brings you to life. Because joy isn't something you find. It's something you create space for. Takeaways 👉Stress can disconnect you from joy. 👉Emotional regulation makes happiness more accessible. 👉Curiosity is the gateway to self-discovery. 👉You have to recognise joy before you can experience it. 👉Small moments often create the greatest happiness. 👉Joy grows when you give yourself permission to feel it. SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  4. 8 Jul

    156. Why Do I Keep Putting Everyone Else First? | How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Feeling Guilty

    Why do you always put everyone else's needs before your own… and then end up resenting them for it? In this episode, I answer a listener's question and explore why so many of us become people-pleasers, where it begins, and how it's often rooted in childhood conditioning rather than genuine kindness. I explain the difference between being kind and seeking approval, why resentment is usually a sign of an unmet need, and how setting healthy boundaries isn't selfish, it's an act of self-respect. If you've ever struggled to say no, feared disappointing others, or felt responsible for everyone else's happiness, this episode will help you understand why and what to do about it. Takeaways 👉People-pleasing is often self-protection, not kindness. 👉Resentment is a sign of an unmet need. 👉Boundaries protect relationships and self-respect. 👉Awareness is the first step to lasting change. 👉Small boundaries build lasting confidence. 👉You teach people how to treat you. MEN BEHAVING HONESTLY PODCAST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLz4Ezn0vQlS2DtoCHLmXSWokVnClYAzI5&si=J7P1n92whX-yIuC1 SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  5. 1 Jul

    155. Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? | How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally

    Why can one rejection stay with us for days, weeks, or even years? In this episode, I share a personal experience of rejection and explore why it affects us so deeply. I unpack what's happening in the brain, why rejection often feels personal, and how the stories we tell ourselves can make the pain even worse. I also explain rejection sensitivity, how to separate facts from assumptions, and share practical tools to help you respond to rejection with greater confidence, resilience, and self-awareness. Because rejection isn't proof that you're not enough. It's simply an event, not your identity. Takeaways 👉Rejection is an event, not your identity. 👉Rejection often triggers a survival response. 👉The story you tell yourself shapes the pain you feel. 👉Separate facts from assumptions. 👉Feedback isn't always a reflection of your worth. 👉Growth requires the courage to risk rejection. SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  6. 24 Jun

    154. Why Are So Many Men Unhappy? | Pete Taylor on Purpose & Becoming Who You Were Meant to Be

    In this episode, I sit down with men's coach Pete Taylor to discuss masculinity, resilience, self-awareness, and what it really means to become a man. We explore why so many men seek fulfilment through external success, the journey from boyhood to maturity, and how boundaries, accountability, and emotional awareness shape our relationships, business, and personal growth. This conversation challenges you to stop looking outside yourself for validation and start building the character, responsibility, and self-awareness that create a meaningful life. Takeaways 👉Resilience is built through challenge, not comfort. 👉Fulfilment comes from within, not external achievements. 👉Maturity is about responsibility, not age. 👉Strong boundaries create healthier relationships. 👉Accountability is the foundation of personal growth. 👉Self-awareness is the key to lasting change. Pete’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pete_taylor/?hl=en  Pete’s Website https://petetaylor.co.uk/  SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  7. 17 Jun

    153. Why Am I So Overwhelmed? | The Hidden Cause of Burnout

    Do you ever feel like everything has become too much, even when nothing is seriously wrong? The emails feel overwhelming.  The phone calls feel overwhelming.  Even simple tasks feel heavier than they should. In this episode, I explore the real cause of emotional exhaustion and why so many people are living with an overloaded, overstimulated nervous system. I break down how overwhelm develops, why modern life keeps us on high alert, and share practical strategies to help you reduce stress, regain calm, and reconnect with yourself. If you're feeling mentally drained, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode is for you. Because sometimes the answer isn't to push harder, it's to create enough safety for your nervous system to finally exhale. Takeaways 👉Emotional exhaustion is nervous system overload, not weakness. 👉Overwhelm happens when demands exceed capacity. 👉Small actions break the cycle of overwhelm. 👉Less stimulation creates more calm. 👉Naming emotions reduces their power. 👉Self-compassion lightens the emotional load. SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  *NEW* Anger Isn’t Your Problem Workshop https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/life-lessons-anger  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

  8. 10 Jun

    152. The Hidden Dangers of Self-Optimisation, Self-Development, Social Media & Success

    What if your obsession with becoming better is actually making your life worse? In this thought-provoking episode, I explore the hidden dangers of modern self-development culture, the endless pursuit of optimisation, and why so many people feel more anxious, inadequate, and dissatisfied despite consuming more personal growth content than ever before. From productivity hacks and morning routines to social media highlight reels and achievement chasing, we've been conditioned to believe that happiness lives somewhere in the future version of ourselves. But what happens when self-improvement becomes self-judgment? I dive into dopamine, the pressure to constantly achieve, and the growing impact of social media on self-worth and identity. I also discuss the rise of AI and why human qualities like self-awareness, emotional intelligence, empathy, and authentic connection are becoming more valuable, not less. This episode isn't anti-growth. It's about redefining growth. Because real personal development isn't about becoming someone else. It's about becoming more aligned with who you already are. Takeaways 👉The hidden pitfalls of obsessive self-optimisation 👉How self-development can turn into self-criticism 👉Why social media fuels insecurity and dissatisfaction 👉The role of dopamine in achievement and motivation 👉Why success doesn't automatically create happiness 👉How AI is changing the future of work and human value 👉The importance of self-awareness, acceptance, and emotional intelligence SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/newsletter  The Self M.A.D.E. Course https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/self-made-course   The Life Audit https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.com/free-life-audit  Website www.johnnylawrence.co.uk Johnny’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb  The Slavey of Addiction Documentary https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

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Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence is a podcast about understanding yourself. Each week, Johnny explores the psychology, emotions and hidden patterns behind why we think, feel and behave the way we do, answering a listener's question on topics like people-pleasing, overthinking, anger, confidence, relationships and purpose. Once a month, he's joined by a special guest for deeper conversations and fresh perspectives. Because lasting change begins by understanding why you do what you do. New episodes every Wednesday.

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  • Creator
    Johnny Lawrence - The Self Development Coach
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    160
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Johnny Lawrence - The Self Development Coach
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